Anonymous wrote:Lost Love Update

Hello regretful friends. I mustered up my courage and talked to an old friend whose brother was the same year as my love. It’s a little a bit of a stretch for him to just say hi, but he had a sort of legitimate reason to call. I still think it was awkward, but he called and said that his MIL has a malady in my guy’s specialty [true], and he was wondering if he had an opinion about the many programs in Boston [this was kind of false- it obviously never occurred to him to ask].

Naturally the call started with some short chatter. Friend’s brother asked about the professorship and tried to casually see if he was bicoastal or moved. Answer was sort of evasive. He did talk about his kids but did not mention his wife at all. Friend’s brother asked “How’s Jane?” and the answer was fine with a subject change. Then they just talked about the MIL and options (thank you brother’s friend).

My cousin figured out that my lost love lives in a state with publicly accessible property records and court dockets (although if you have an uncontested divorce, which I think he would, nothing would show anyway). Right now, nothing shows in dockets and their properties are co-owned or trust owned. Nothing is for sale.

It definitely seems like something could be up. But it’s not definitive by any means. If I decide to contact him myself, or find out anything big, I will start a new thread.

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Anonymous wrote:Lost Love Update

Hello regretful friends. I mustered up my courage and talked to an old friend whose brother was the same year as my love. It’s a little a bit of a stretch for him to just say hi, but he had a sort of legitimate reason to call. I still think it was awkward, but he called and said that his MIL has a malady in my guy’s specialty [true], and he was wondering if he had an opinion about the many programs in Boston [this was kind of false- it obviously never occurred to him to ask].

Naturally the call started with some short chatter. Friend’s brother asked about the professorship and tried to casually see if he was bicoastal or moved. Answer was sort of evasive. He did talk about his kids but did not mention his wife at all. Friend’s brother asked “How’s Jane?” and the answer was fine with a subject change. Then they just talked about the MIL and options (thank you brother’s friend).

My cousin figured out that my lost love lives in a state with publicly accessible property records and court dockets (although if you have an uncontested divorce, which I think he would, nothing would show anyway). Right now, nothing shows in dockets and their properties are co-owned or trust owned. Nothing is for sale.

It definitely seems like something could be up. But it’s not definitive by any means. If I decide to contact him myself, or find out anything big, I will start a new thread.

I was the pp that suggested reaching out to a person you both knew for info. I'm glad you did it. The timing is probably not right for a connection since he is dealing with marital issues but there could be in the future.

Thank you for the update! I am crossing my fingers and toes for you! Please come back if you have set the universe in motion and there is an update!

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Anonymous wrote:I feel such disgust toward women who take their husband’s surname.

I took my wife’s surname (I’m a woman). Disgusted or nah?

Flex your thinking. I took my husband's Slavic last name because my maiden name reminded everyone of a doll..sort of like "Holly Hobbie". It was cute until I was about 12.

Who are you most likely to listen to without internally laughing---Holly Savchenkov or Holly Hobbie?

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Anonymous wrote:I feel such disgust toward women who take their husband’s surname.

I took my wife’s surname (I’m a woman). Disgusted or nah?

Anonymous wrote:I feel such disgust toward women who take their husband’s surname.

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Anonymous wrote:Lost Love Update

Hello regretful friends. I mustered up my courage and talked to an old friend whose brother was the same year as my love. It’s a little a bit of a stretch for him to just say hi, but he had a sort of legitimate reason to call. I still think it was awkward, but he called and said that his MIL has a malady in my guy’s specialty [true], and he was wondering if he had an opinion about the many programs in Boston [this was kind of false- it obviously never occurred to him to ask].

Naturally the call started with some short chatter. Friend’s brother asked about the professorship and tried to casually see if he was bicoastal or moved. Answer was sort of evasive. He did talk about his kids but did not mention his wife at all. Friend’s brother asked “How’s Jane?” and the answer was fine with a subject change. Then they just talked about the MIL and options (thank you brother’s friend).

My cousin figured out that my lost love lives in a state with publicly accessible property records and court dockets (although if you have an uncontested divorce, which I think he would, nothing would show anyway). Right now, nothing shows in dockets and their properties are co-owned or trust owned. Nothing is for sale.

It definitely seems like something could be up. But it’s not definitive by any means. If I decide to contact him myself, or find out anything big, I will start a new thread.

I was the pp that suggested reaching out to a person you both knew for info. I'm glad you did it. The timing is probably not right for a connection since he is dealing with marital issues but there could be in the future.

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Anonymous wrote:Lost Love Update

Hello regretful friends. I mustered up my courage and talked to an old friend whose brother was the same year as my love. It’s a little a bit of a stretch for him to just say hi, but he had a sort of legitimate reason to call. I still think it was awkward, but he called and said that his MIL has a malady in my guy’s specialty [true], and he was wondering if he had an opinion about the many programs in Boston [this was kind of false- it obviously never occurred to him to ask].

Naturally the call started with some short chatter. Friend’s brother asked about the professorship and tried to casually see if he was bicoastal or moved. Answer was sort of evasive. He did talk about his kids but did not mention his wife at all. Friend’s brother asked “How’s Jane?” and the answer was fine with a subject change. Then they just talked about the MIL and options (thank you brother’s friend).

My cousin figured out that my lost love lives in a state with publicly accessible property records and court dockets (although if you have an uncontested divorce, which I think he would, nothing would show anyway). Right now, nothing shows in dockets and their properties are co-owned or trust owned. Nothing is for sale.

It definitely seems like something could be up. But it’s not definitive by any means. If I decide to contact him myself, or find out anything big, I will start a new thread.

I was the pp that suggested reaching out to a person you both knew for info. I'm glad you did it. The timing is probably not right for a connection since he is dealing with marital issues but there could be in the future.

Thanks PP. IDK if anything will ever happen but I don’t regret taking a tiny step.

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Anonymous wrote:Lost Love Update

Hello regretful friends. I mustered up my courage and talked to an old friend whose brother was the same year as my love. It’s a little a bit of a stretch for him to just say hi, but he had a sort of legitimate reason to call. I still think it was awkward, but he called and said that his MIL has a malady in my guy’s specialty [true], and he was wondering if he had an opinion about the many programs in Boston [this was kind of false- it obviously never occurred to him to ask].

Naturally the call started with some short chatter. Friend’s brother asked about the professorship and tried to casually see if he was bicoastal or moved. Answer was sort of evasive. He did talk about his kids but did not mention his wife at all. Friend’s brother asked “How’s Jane?” and the answer was fine with a subject change. Then they just talked about the MIL and options (thank you brother’s friend).

My cousin figured out that my lost love lives in a state with publicly accessible property records and court dockets (although if you have an uncontested divorce, which I think he would, nothing would show anyway). Right now, nothing shows in dockets and their properties are co-owned or trust owned. Nothing is for sale.

It definitely seems like something could be up. But it’s not definitive by any means. If I decide to contact him myself, or find out anything big, I will start a new thread.

I was the pp that suggested reaching out to a person you both knew for info. I'm glad you did it. The timing is probably not right for a connection since he is dealing with marital issues but there could be in the future.

Anonymous wrote:Lost Love Update

Hello regretful friends. I mustered up my courage and talked to an old friend whose brother was the same year as my love. It’s a little a bit of a stretch for him to just say hi, but he had a sort of legitimate reason to call. I still think it was awkward, but he called and said that his MIL has a malady in my guy’s specialty [true], and he was wondering if he had an opinion about the many programs in Boston [this was kind of false- it obviously never occurred to him to ask].

Naturally the call started with some short chatter. Friend’s brother asked about the professorship and tried to casually see if he was bicoastal or moved. Answer was sort of evasive. He did talk about his kids but did not mention his wife at all. Friend’s brother asked “How’s Jane?” and the answer was fine with a subject change. Then they just talked about the MIL and options (thank you brother’s friend).

My cousin figured out that my lost love lives in a state with publicly accessible property records and court dockets (although if you have an uncontested divorce, which I think he would, nothing would show anyway). Right now, nothing shows in dockets and their properties are co-owned or trust owned. Nothing is for sale.

It definitely seems like something could be up. But it’s not definitive by any means. If I decide to contact him myself, or find out anything big, I will start a new thread.

Anonymous wrote:Law school.

Choosing to settle in an area with high costs of living instead of moving to a mid-size city earlier in life before having kids. Now moving is so much harder but the challenges of living in an expensive place have multiplied.