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Anonymous wrote:My DH has an old college room mate named Dave that is a bit of a wild card. Dave struggled with alcohol and substance abuse his whole life despite being incredibly successful professionally. I have suspected for two decades that he is undiagnosed BPD.

Anyway, this was graduation weekend and I posted some celebratory pics of my DD ("Audrey") and her friends. In one of the pics he comments:

"Congrats! Audrey is going to USC in the Fall, righ? Looks like she'll enjoy the food there!"

My DD is not fat but she is still carrying a little baby weight around her hips and she is naturally large chested. To say this was out of bounds is putting it mildly.

However, my DH went into a blind rage and replied with:

"Hey Dave, has Susan (Dave's wife) found out about your affair with Nicole (Dave's ex gf) that weekend you went to Chicago yet?"

The setting on the post were public so his wife saw all this. She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her.

I know my DH was wrong to stir the post but wasn't it fair game given Dave's intial insult?

No. Your husband should have taken the high road. If someone stabs you you don't get to stab them back "for free" because it's fair game. You both go to jail.

Anonymous wrote:My DH has an old college room mate named Dave that is a bit of a wild card. Dave struggled with alcohol and substance abuse his whole life despite being incredibly successful professionally. I have suspected for two decades that he is undiagnosed BPD.

Anyway, this was graduation weekend and I posted some celebratory pics of my DD ("Audrey") and her friends. In one of the pics he comments:

"Congrats! Audrey is going to USC in the Fall, righ? Looks like she'll enjoy the food there!"

My DD is not fat but she is still carrying a little baby weight around her hips and she is naturally large chested. To say this was out of bounds is putting it mildly.

However, my DH went into a blind rage and replied with:

"Hey Dave, has Susan (Dave's wife) found out about your affair with Nicole (Dave's ex gf) that weekend you went to Chicago yet?"

The setting on the post were public so his wife saw all this. She has called my a dozen times and left horribly unkind VMs accusing me of 'sabotaging' her marriage. I replied with a text once stating take it up with Dave and do not contact me again. Then I blocked her.

I know my DH was wrong to stir the post but wasn't it fair game given Dave's intial insult?

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Anonymous wrote:So one guy insults family and fair game is to humiliate the other family?

Who raised you people?

People who don't humiliate other people's kids ...to ad insult, in a very public manner!

And frankly, when you go that low to publicly humiliating someone's kid, all bets are off.

So, publicly humiliate Dave's wife and kids to retaliate? What did they do to deserve that?

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Anonymous wrote:FYI troll.

No wife in that situation would speed dial YOU, of all people.

Do better Trolls.

This makes more sense as to why wife was calling OP. I literally can't think of another reason that she'd think OP is "sabotaging" her marriage just simply for existing. Thanks for finally giving a legit explanation, not sure why that was so hard for pps.

My gosh this site is full of such annoying people.

You LITERALLY can't think of another reason?

No? I can't? OP didnt put dave on blast. Op isnt sabotaging wife/daves marriage at all. She's just pissed at the wrong person.

This^^^^^^

Dave is a body shamer
Dave is the cheater

It's always the messenger that gets blasted by the wife.

You're acting like the wife yelled at only OP and not Dave. What do you think the chances of that are?

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Anonymous wrote:So one guy insults family and fair game is to humiliate the other family?

Who raised you people?

People who don't humiliate other people's kids ...to ad insult, in a very public manner!

And frankly, when you go that low to publicly humiliating someone's kid, all bets are off.

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Anonymous wrote:FYI troll.

No wife in that situation would speed dial YOU, of all people.

Do better Trolls.

This makes more sense as to why wife was calling OP. I literally can't think of another reason that she'd think OP is "sabotaging" her marriage just simply for existing. Thanks for finally giving a legit explanation, not sure why that was so hard for pps.

My gosh this site is full of such annoying people.

You LITERALLY can't think of another reason?

No? I can't? OP didnt put dave on blast. Op isnt sabotaging wife/daves marriage at all. She's just pissed at the wrong person.

This^^^^^^

Dave is a body shamer
Dave is the cheater

It's always the messenger that gets blasted by the wife.

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Anonymous wrote:"his vicious temper"
Omg lol. Outing a cheater is now a vicious temper. Anything to deflect blame off the cheater himself!! Amazing!

Ask OP how nice of a guy her DH is. This can't be the first time he's gone ballistic. If he cared about the right thing he would have dumped Dave and told his wife all about him. He's not that guy.

Nice guy? Who cares?

I want a guy who stands up against bullies not a “nice guy”.

Maybe you think lemmings are better but I don’t. I want somebody who is strong and doesn’t standby. Abuse.

Ha so you're ok with a an aggressive loser who treats you like garbage as long as he's ready to fight with bullies? Gee, what standards you have.

Nobody would ever treat me like garbage because I would leave them in the desk and I would blow them up on the way out the way DH Did with Dave.

I will love forever, a person that stands up against hatred. Just like that show What would you do?

I love the people that stand up to hateful people, but I can’t stand the people that just let it happen

That you can't see your hypocrisy is shocking.

Again you’re a person who blamed the wife for asking for a divorce when a H cheats.

It’s the cheaters fault they divorce even if he says he doesn’t want to divorce.

Dave blew up his family all by himself, nobody else, DH is not to blame, he is not hateful, he is not the villain. Dave is.

I am the immediate PP to whom you are responding but I didn't write any of the other responses in this particular part of the thread. I would never blame a wife for leaving her loser husband who cheated on her. I'd applaud her.

But you're saying you would "blow up" someone who did you wrong but also that you stand up against hatred. But whatever. You can't be reasoned with so I don't care anymore.

You are blaming DH for ruining a family. He did not do that Dave did.

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Anonymous wrote:So one guy insults family and fair game is to humiliate the other family?

Who raised you people?

People who don't humiliate other people's kids ...to ad insult, in a very public manner!

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Anonymous wrote:Bottom Line: If you are going to throw stones, be prepared for a response.

Only way to avoid backlash is to not chuck stones.

I hope you're saying this is a lesson for OP's DH as well as for Dave.

Of course DH was prepared to never be friends with Dave et.al. Again. No sh!t Chet! That was the point

Anonymous wrote:So one guy insults family and fair game is to humiliate the other family?

Who raised you people?

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Anonymous wrote:FYI troll.

No wife in that situation would speed dial YOU, of all people.

Do better Trolls.

This makes more sense as to why wife was calling OP. I literally can't think of another reason that she'd think OP is "sabotaging" her marriage just simply for existing. Thanks for finally giving a legit explanation, not sure why that was so hard for pps.

My gosh this site is full of such annoying people.

You LITERALLY can't think of another reason?

No? I can't? OP didnt put dave on blast. Op isnt sabotaging wife/daves marriage at all. She's just pissed at the wrong person.

Unless OP can come back and say she never knew about this, she can be targeted because she didn't stand up for her friend, given the logic in this thread. She knew and said nothing for years, most likely. But OP was a troll who posted and ran so we'll never know in this fictional drama.

If OP knew and didn't say anythng, how TF is that sabotaging anything? That seems to be what everyone on here would have preferred, just to humiliate the wife without her knowing.

But yes, I too called a troll a while back.

A friend might have given her a heads up.

That would apparently be sabotaging the marriage. "How dare you tell me my piece of sh!t husband cheated on me! That will blow up my marriage!"

It's always the messenger who takes the brunt.

That said, I would 100% tell my friend if I knew she was being cheated on.

Takes the brunt? So not the wife and kids who now have a broken home? Just the messenger who can block the victim and move on with their life? Ok.

I mean the DH didn't do the cheating. And no one goes 0-60, or really like 0-100 like this. Dave clearly has a pattern of behavior here and the DH snapped. I feel bad for Dave's family but I mean, eff around and find out you know. Don't openly taunt and insult the family of someone who knows where all your bodies are buried.

Anonymous wrote:So one guy insults family and fair game is to humiliate the other family?

Who raised you people?

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Anonymous wrote:FYI troll.

No wife in that situation would speed dial YOU, of all people.

Do better Trolls.

This makes more sense as to why wife was calling OP. I literally can't think of another reason that she'd think OP is "sabotaging" her marriage just simply for existing. Thanks for finally giving a legit explanation, not sure why that was so hard for pps.

My gosh this site is full of such annoying people.

You LITERALLY can't think of another reason?

No? I can't? OP didnt put dave on blast. Op isnt sabotaging wife/daves marriage at all. She's just pissed at the wrong person.

Unless OP can come back and say she never knew about this, she can be targeted because she didn't stand up for her friend, given the logic in this thread. She knew and said nothing for years, most likely. But OP was a troll who posted and ran so we'll never know in this fictional drama.

If OP knew and didn't say anythng, how TF is that sabotaging anything? That seems to be what everyone on here would have preferred, just to humiliate the wife without her knowing.

But yes, I too called a troll a while back.

A friend might have given her a heads up.

That would apparently be sabotaging the marriage. "How dare you tell me my piece of sh!t husband cheated on me! That will blow up my marriage!"

It's always the messenger who takes the brunt.

That said, I would 100% tell my friend if I knew she was being cheated on.

Takes the brunt? So not the wife and kids who now have a broken home? Just the messenger who can block the victim and move on with their life? Ok.