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Anonymous wrote:If men really do mature later and marry women younger, I wish there were more opportunities for women to meet men who are older. I think part of the issue with dating in America is that you are mostly associating with people of your own age.

It seems in other countries there are these matchmakers that understand this age difference and cater dating accordingly.

In case this wasn't obvious, I'm saying that women should meet more 30's men in their 20's but that society does not give as many opportunities for this as it could.

I don't really understand what you're saying. What opportunities do you think are missing for men in their 30s and women in their 20s to find each other, if that's what they want?

I think all the years in school you are mainly associating with people your own age. I think even after school most of your friends are the same age. Work is the only place I associated with people older than me and that would have been weird to have had a relationship through work. I guess nowadays there are meetup groups, but before these didn't exist.

I am assuming you got married before apps became a big thing. I did too - but I don't think there's a lot of women wanting to meet older men, who are unable to do so anymore.

And frankly if an older guy tried to hook up with a woman a decade younger than he is before she graduated from college, he'd be called a groomer.

I also still don't really understand where you think you could have been introduced to older men but weren't. Like mixers for 20 something women and 30 something men, or something like that? Or an auntie who kept a binder of men in their 30s to set you up with?

Perhaps more high school and college classes could involve a varied age group.

I really don't know how young people meet up these days. I graduated college at the beginning of the internet.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If men really do mature later and marry women younger, I wish there were more opportunities for women to meet men who are older. I think part of the issue with dating in America is that you are mostly associating with people of your own age.

It seems in other countries there are these matchmakers that understand this age difference and cater dating accordingly.

In case this wasn't obvious, I'm saying that women should meet more 30's men in their 20's but that society does not give as many opportunities for this as it could.

I don't really understand what you're saying. What opportunities do you think are missing for men in their 30s and women in their 20s to find each other, if that's what they want?

I think all the years in school you are mainly associating with people your own age. I think even after school most of your friends are the same age. Work is the only place I associated with people older than me and that would have been weird to have had a relationship through work. I guess nowadays there are meetup groups, but before these didn't exist.

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Anonymous wrote:Studying non-marketable degrees.

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I don't know. I know a lot of lawyers who regret their career and are incredibly miserable. There's a balance there.

The typical lawyer’s undergrad degree is in marketable, and non-T14 law degrees are useless

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Anonymous wrote:If men really do mature later and marry women younger, I wish there were more opportunities for women to meet men who are older. I think part of the issue with dating in America is that you are mostly associating with people of your own age.

It seems in other countries there are these matchmakers that understand this age difference and cater dating accordingly.

In case this wasn't obvious, I'm saying that women should meet more 30's men in their 20's but that society does not give as many opportunities for this as it could.

I don't really understand what you're saying. What opportunities do you think are missing for men in their 30s and women in their 20s to find each other, if that's what they want?

I see 20 something women who are very overweight on metro everyday. I think they are wasting their twenties. There will never be a time in your life to meet so many potential partners as your twenties and being extremely heavy pretty much takes you out the game. Doomed to be the "fat friend" fun sidekick. Not fair but its a fact.

Listening to people who are often wrong but never in doubt.

Well, marrying older men has a whole different can of corms.

Anonymous wrote:If men really do mature later and marry women younger, I wish there were more opportunities for women to meet men who are older. I think part of the issue with dating in America is that you are mostly associating with people of your own age.

It seems in other countries there are these matchmakers that understand this age difference and cater dating accordingly.

In case this wasn't obvious, I'm saying that women should meet more 30's men in their 20's but that society does not give as many opportunities for this as it could.

If men really do mature later and marry women younger, I wish there were more opportunities for women to meet men who are older. I think part of the issue with dating in America is that you are mostly associating with people of your own age.

It seems in other countries there are these matchmakers that understand this age difference and cater dating accordingly.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Studying non-marketable degrees.

This

I don't know. I know a lot of lawyers who regret their career and are incredibly miserable. There's a balance there.

Understand that it’s ok to mess up. You aren’t washed up at 28 even if you haven’t reached your expected goals.

Anonymous wrote:I'm so happy I followed none of this advice. The best thing I ever did was not overthink the future and just be my authentic self. I happen to like who that is.

+1 but I wish I was even more laissez-faire about it, it took me some time to come to terms with some of the experiences, I should have been smarter and do none of the self-pity stuff I did … oh, well, learning is what makes us humans

that saying ‘what goes around comes around’ is so true, so always ‘do to others as you would have them do to you’

Anonymous wrote:Studying non-marketable degrees.

This

It is difficult to generalize the most common mistake that all women make in their 20s as individuals vary widely in terms of their experiences and choices. However, there are some common mistakes that women in their 20s tend to make:

Not prioritizing their personal and professional goals: Many women in their 20s focus too much on relationships and neglect their own personal and professional goals. It's important to strike a balance between personal relationships and career aspirations.

Neglecting their health: Women in their 20s may feel invincible and prioritize other things over their health. It's important to prioritize physical and mental health to prevent health issues down the line.

Overspending and not saving enough: It's easy to get caught up in the moment and overspend in your 20s. However, it's important to establish good financial habits early on, such as budgeting and saving for the future.

Settling for less than they deserve: Some women may settle for relationships or jobs that are not fulfilling or healthy because they feel they can't do better. It's important to know your worth and not settle for less than you deserve.

Not networking enough: Building a network of contacts can be crucial for career advancement and personal growth. Women in their 20s should not underestimate the value of networking and should make an effort to connect with others in their field or areas of interest.