Anonymous wrote:Not having any children. I'm 55 now, so it's not going to happen.

Would you consider a teen? There are so many waiting.

Lost Love Update

Hello regretful friends. I mustered up my courage and talked to an old friend whose brother was the same year as my love. It’s a little a bit of a stretch for him to just say hi, but he had a sort of legitimate reason to call. I still think it was awkward, but he called and said that his MIL has a malady in my guy’s specialty [true], and he was wondering if he had an opinion about the many programs in Boston [this was kind of false- it obviously never occurred to him to ask].

Naturally the call started with some short chatter. Friend’s brother asked about the professorship and tried to casually see if he was bicoastal or moved. Answer was sort of evasive. He did talk about his kids but did not mention his wife at all. Friend’s brother asked “How’s Jane?” and the answer was fine with a subject change. Then they just talked about the MIL and options (thank you brother’s friend).

My cousin figured out that my lost love lives in a state with publicly accessible property records and court dockets (although if you have an uncontested divorce, which I think he would, nothing would show anyway). Right now, nothing shows in dockets and their properties are co-owned or trust owned. Nothing is for sale.

It definitely seems like something could be up. But it’s not definitive by any means. If I decide to contact him myself, or find out anything big, I will start a new thread.

Anonymous wrote:I had a pretty abusive BF in high school. My best friend was a really nice, smart kind guy who was actually my soulmate. I should have had the strength to dump the abuser when the friend confessed his love for me.

I didn't have the abusive BF, but I have the exact thoughts about dumping my then BF and being with best friend.

That I ever spoke to one Catholic person ever. Maga ugh

Anonymous wrote:Not having any children. I'm 55 now, so it's not going to happen.

Adopt

Anonymous wrote:What is yours?

Who I married. I had a lot of options. Thought I picked a great human. Not so much. But we have a beautiful child, so there's that.

Anonymous wrote:Not having any children. I'm 55 now, so it's not going to happen.

You could still adopt.

Not having any children. I'm 55 now, so it's not going to happen.

Lesson from this thread: you are not alone!

Anonymous wrote:Focusing on my parent's care instead of my son, my family. So regret this.

This is me too. Specially with dad gone, I regret a whole lot of things. Every single day.

Anonymous wrote:Not wearing sunscreen when I was younger, not realizing how beautiful I was in my teens and 20's, and 30s.

+ A lot

Not wearing sunscreen when I was younger, not realizing how beautiful I was in my teens and 20's, and 30s.

I had a pretty abusive BF in high school. My best friend was a really nice, smart kind guy who was actually my soulmate. I should have had the strength to dump the abuser when the friend confessed his love for me.

I regret not majoring in Environmental Science which I really love!

I regret not really hustling before I had my kids. They are expensive and while I planned for basic life, the extras I want cost a pretty penny.