Anonymous wrote:
You forget what the AP wants. They might want the child and they might want to break someone else's heart and get lots of attention. An abortion breaks the heart of the AP
LOL. MarriageBuilders poster, whether your position is "evil" or moral is academic. The bottom line is that the choice to have contact with the child is that the choice is ultimately his.
Men are naturally curious about their offspring. Many a man who has wanted his mistress to have an abortion loves the child on first sight. Of course, that's what you fear.
Eventually, he'll give in to his curiosity and meet the child.. Attempts to control his email and phone won't change that; in fact, the fact that the child is "forbidden fruit" will only make the meeting more dramatic and emotional.
Then what? Do yo follow through on your threat to divorce him? Doubtful. Do you apply an extra layer of control, making the mistress look even better.
If he's afraid of the financial fallout of divorce that he'll stick with you even after meeting the child. Based on what you posted, it sounds like you fear that's not the case.
If he wants to leave, he'll leave. You can make all the threats you want, but the courts will give him the kids every other weekend, same as every other father gets them. The best you can do is look as attractive as possible and make sure he gets laid as often as he wants and how he wants.