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Post 04/23/2013 16:38     Subject: Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:
Anonymous wrote:You guys are missing the point. No one *says* these things to anyone. What's wrong with having an opinion about something that is different from yours? As long as it's not expressed, where's the harm?


Because people like the bigot who thinks interracial marriage is diluting culture says that she would still be friends with someone in an interracial marriage, she'd just be opposed to that marriage. I, like many of the PPs, would rather that my friends be actually supportive of my lifestyle. If they are not supportive, though, I'd rather they tell me that they are opposed to my lifestyle so I can stop being friends with them.

I'm not in an interracial marriage, fwiw, but I'd still actually rather know if my friends are opposed to that sort of thing so I can find new friends. Don't give me this crap about how it's okay to have a different opinion than your friends. Having a bigoted opinion (which the interracial and/or gay marriage and immigrant opposers qualify for) isn't okay.
Anonymous
Post 04/23/2013 16:31     Subject: Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:
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Also, SAHMs who say things like "our income" - it's not yours, it's your husband's.





You are an idiot. This is what is wrong with modern feminism. I will take 1920's feminism any day.


Um, if you are staying home doing all of the childcare and homemaking as your end of the deal and your husband is making the money as his end of the deal then saying "our income" is totally correct. And I'm a working mom who contributes 50% to our income but still recognize that being a SAHM is a job.


No, it's not. So when DH gets a raise or bonus for finishing a difficult project or solving a difficult problem at work, does the SAHM get to say, "Wow. we got a raise because we thought of a really great solution to that problem/difficult project." No, she does not. And for those of you that'll come back here saying that by her taking care of all the household things she gave him the ability to get that project done. You need to compare whether he would have completed that project if he were a single man living alone. He thought up whatever that project entailed - he was the creative or trained or talented mind that did it. That's why she doesn't earn that income.

she has every right to share ownership of the bank account where that icome was deposited (OUR money, OUR accounts) and share ownership of the assets (OUR house, OUR cars) because she does work as a SAHM and contributes equally to the household. But it's definitely NOT correct that it's equally her income.


That is idiotic. If you think there should be a "MINE!" attitude in marriage as opposed to we are working collectively to raise our family, you should not be married.
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Post 04/23/2013 16:31     Subject: Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:
I haven't read the whole thread. On the whole, I'm quite liberal. But I'm a teacher of low income children, and if I hear one more child say, "My mommy is gonna have another baby"...

Jesus Christ. You can't feed the ones you have. You're setting yourself and your children up for failure. Go to Planned Parenthood on your day off. Get the pill. Take it.
Anonymous
Post 04/23/2013 16:29     Subject: Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:
You guys are missing the point. No one *says* these things to anyone. What's wrong with having an opinion about something that is different from yours? As long as it's not expressed, where's the harm?
Anonymous
Post 04/23/2013 16:29     Subject: Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:
Florida.
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Post 04/23/2013 16:27     Subject: Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:
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Anonymous wrote:Okay! So far I've learned that, simply by working full time, not being a good cook, and having a special needs child who has an IEP, I'm apparently pissing people off. Wow.


No, no....you are just selecting a few self-centered bitches on here. Normal people think a lot differently. This thread is gross.


It is so gross, yet I can't stop reading!

Anonymous
Post 04/23/2013 16:24     Subject: Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:
Anonymous wrote:Okay! So far I've learned that, simply by working full time, not being a good cook, and having a special needs child who has an IEP, I'm apparently pissing people off. Wow.


No, no....you are just selecting a few self-centered bitches on here. Normal people think a lot differently. This thread is gross.
Anonymous
Post 04/23/2013 16:23     Subject: Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:
Anonymous wrote:Okay! So far I've learned that, simply by working full time, not being a good cook, and having a special needs child who has an IEP, I'm apparently pissing people off. Wow.


I'm ok with the working full time part.....
Anonymous
Post 04/23/2013 16:23     Subject: Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:
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Anonymous wrote:OP here again. Forgot: Immigration (illegal or otherwise).


are you native american??? Because if you aren't, then you are pretty damned hypocritical.


+1


Try a new line. This one is waaaaaaaay played out.


May be played out, but it's true.

I hate illegal immigration. HATE! But my parents were legal immigrants, my father worked in an industry in the 70s where they needed educated people, he has paid taxes for over 40 years, raised children, contributed to society, and is the epitome of an "American".

So while this is a forum for "shameful" oppositions, this is just a stupid one.


To make my statement more accurate: I'm against it NOW. We don't need more immigrants. In a bustling economy, sure. But not now; we need to focus on those who are here (and remove the ones who are here illegally).


The last quoted PP here:

I can understand that. Actually, after clarification, I don't disagree.
Anonymous
Post 04/23/2013 16:22     Subject: Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:
Anonymous wrote:Okay! So far I've learned that, simply by working full time, not being a good cook, and having a special needs child who has an IEP, I'm apparently pissing people off. Wow.


LOL. YOU CAN'T FOLLOW A DAMN RECIPE!!! WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU!??! lol
Anonymous
Post 04/23/2013 16:19     Subject: Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:
Okay! So far I've learned that, simply by working full time, not being a good cook, and having a special needs child who has an IEP, I'm apparently pissing people off. Wow.
Anonymous
Post 04/23/2013 16:18     Subject: Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:
Pets
Bridal showers
Men who wear ball caps all the time
Baby sign language
Eating animal products
The Pledge of Allegiance
Lazy people
Learned helplessness
Anonymous
Post 04/23/2013 16:18     Subject: Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:
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Anonymous wrote:OP here again. Forgot: Immigration (illegal or otherwise).


are you native american??? Because if you aren't, then you are pretty damned hypocritical.


+1


Try a new line. This one is waaaaaaaay played out.


May be played out, but it's true.

I hate illegal immigration. HATE! But my parents were legal immigrants, my father worked in an industry in the 70s where they needed educated people, he has paid taxes for over 40 years, raised children, contributed to society, and is the epitome of an "American".

So while this is a forum for "shameful" oppositions, this is just a stupid one.


To make my statement more accurate: I'm against it NOW. We don't need more immigrants. In a bustling economy, sure. But not now; we need to focus on those who are here (and remove the ones who are here illegally).
Anonymous
Post 04/23/2013 16:16     Subject: Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:
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Anonymous wrote:Moms who work FT "by choice", gay marriage, any sort of weird diet that is not related to food allergy/intolerance (vegan, vegetarian, gluten free, etc.), people who drive cars that are disproportionately nice compared to their house.

I could go on and on. I'm quite judgy, but know better than to tell people!


Ooh ooh, I am a mom who's always worked full time by choice. Do you think it's not really my choice, or that all women should SAH or WOH PT once they become parents? How totally weird.


I know it's totally your choice, that you could easily afford to stay home with your children and don't. That is why I judge. Women who truly must work to cover basic bills, I feel sorry for.


I'm not the above poster, but I actually completely understand this, because I have the opposite view: I am completely disdainful of women who are well-educated and come from impressive professions who give that up to stay at home with their kids. Why would an one choose to give up a fabulous career to stay at home? Women who didn't make much money or had crappy jobs, "I feel sorry for." So I guess it's not surprising that there are SAHMs that feel the same way about us "by choice" working women!


I oppose SAHMs that judge WOHMs, but suck at being SAHM. Some SAHMs are super interactive with their kids, come up with great activities, and were born to SAH. Some just phone it in, yell at their kids, plant them in front of the TV, take them to the playground and surf the web on their phone, and seem pretty miserable. If you are advocating that kind of child-rearing for everyone, then we are going to have a sorry bunch of kids.

Some SAHMs are killing it, doing an excellent job. Those are the ones that should SAH. The others that would rather work should hire someone that will stimuate their kids on a day to day basis, someone that will teach their kids, and that will help them become better humans. The SAHMs that are phoning it in and then judging WOHMs should just shut up. You guys are not doing your kids any favors by staying at home, so don't impose your stupid beliefs on others!
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Post 04/23/2013 16:16     Subject: Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:
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Anonymous wrote:I oppose Gay Marriage.


Go in the other room, honey. The grown-ups are talking.