Anonymous wrote:18:48, Your same "stress" and "workaholic" concern can just as easily be suggested of many of the privates, public magnets and charters. And, as they go into adult life pressures only continue in much of the working world.
So, what's the conclusion here - just blissful denial and cheerfully think it can just be avoided altogether, maybe our kids can just go to a non-demanding school that never gets beyond basic math, and get a job flipping burgers and kicking back on the beach, never having to work hard, or accept the reality of modern life and work on developing and instilling coping mechanisms and life skills for dealing with it?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:18:48, Your same "stress" and "workaholic" concern can just as easily be suggested of many of the privates, public magnets and charters. And, as they go into adult life pressures only continue in much of the working world.
So, what's the conclusion here - just blissful denial and cheerfully think it can just be avoided altogether, maybe our kids can just go to a non-demanding school that never gets beyond basic math, and get a job flipping burgers and kicking back on the beach, never having to work hard, or accept the reality of modern life and work on developing and instilling coping mechanisms and life skills for dealing with it?
If "it" is workaholism" then yes, I'd say it can and should be avoided altogether! Every school will have its own level of rigor, and every student will have their own limits as to what they can handle, but no other school I am aware of (except perhaps military academies) explicitly adopts "workaholism" as the guiding philosophy. And I think for good reason.
More generally, I'd say the conclusion here is that each family, considering the totality of the circumstances, needs to make the best choice they can regarding education among some pretty slim pickings in the public school aisle. All the views expressed in this thread I believe and hope will help families in their decision-making process. My reservations about the BASIS Tucson model for all but the most unusually (and perhaps even unhealthily) test-driven kids are based on comparison with my own experience at a private high school, an ivy league college, and top 15 law school, my casual acquaintance with Olga Block and her modus operandi, and my conversations with a number of teachers and parents at the Tucson campus with whom I am friends and students (past and present) I have met through their parents.
Anonymous wrote:18:48, Your same "stress" and "workaholic" concern can just as easily be suggested of many of the privates, public magnets and charters. And, as they go into adult life pressures only continue in much of the working world.
So, what's the conclusion here - just blissful denial and cheerfully think it can just be avoided altogether, maybe our kids can just go to a non-demanding school that never gets beyond basic math, and get a job flipping burgers and kicking back on the beach, never having to work hard, or accept the reality of modern life and work on developing and instilling coping mechanisms and life skills for dealing with it?
Anonymous wrote:^^ As a mental health professional working out of NIH, I've treated more than a few dangerously stressed out adolescents who appear to be thriving at high octane area high schools. I find that parents and educators have a strong tendency to assume that doing well in school and college equates to good mental health. You see kids and 20-somethings who soar academically yet suffer emotionally.
The recent documentary Race to Nowhere is an eye-opener on the subject.
Does anybody know what sort of counseling and mental health support Basis DC is providing to kids who need it?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:21:17 / 21:31And again, as a reminder, the Basis grad who posted here got into a best-of-breed group at Stanford. There is something to be said for that- he probably would have been far less prepared and far less likely to have had that opportunity had he gone through the regular public school system.
So all's well that ends well because the guy was admitted to Stanford? I was disabused of the notion that attending a blue chip college at any cost pays off long ago, when a sibling died of a drug overdose at any Ivy. Moreover, I have a spouse who barely speaks to his father a quarter-century after graduating from MIT because his immigrant dad subjected him to extreme academic pressure throughout his childhood. And I haven't forgotten how two Brown classmates took their own lives on campus (class of '90 for those needing to verify). My Ivy PhD program was largely populated by happy seeming non-Ivy grads. If the Stanford Basis Tuscon guy feels that he would've been better off elsewhere in secondary school, his prerogative. In MoCo, the "regular public school system" includes full-time programs for highly gifted 4th and 5th graders and middle schoolers where, as I understand it, creativity is not in short supply. Those are the sort of enrichment programs I'd like to see emerge in DC, whatever happens at Basis.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Are you kidding me? The kids were stressed initially because they finally had high standards to live up to! Please excuse me for not being worried yet about my 10 year old who has time for creative and emotionally enriching activities after school hours. The last thing I would want is some therapist in school tracking my DC.
I attended Bronx Science where top students, particularly stressed out Asian kids with insane Tiger Parents, were known to attempt suicide. If BASIS DC really is going to accelerate like crazy from a young age, I hope that they will watch for danger signs, however that works. Sure, most of you have 11 year olds at Basis now, but kids grow up fast and some are going to come under crazy pressure to perform in a few years, given that parents who can't afford privates have so few options beyond moving and the curriculum won't be a great fit for many.
I went to Stuy as did my siblings and cousins. We are Asian with Tiger Parents. The only one who attempted suicide (and eventually succeeded) was a cousin and it was b/c he had schizophrenia. If a child attempts suicide, it's b/c of underlying mental illness and while a high pressure environment may contribute somewhat, it isn't the cause. My cousin would have tried to kill himself if he went to another H.S. and he loved being at Stuy despite his illness. Your argument against Basis is ridiculous.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Are you kidding me? The kids were stressed initially because they finally had high standards to live up to! Please excuse me for not being worried yet about my 10 year old who has time for creative and emotionally enriching activities after school hours. The last thing I would want is some therapist in school tracking my DC.
I attended Bronx Science where top students, particularly stressed out Asian kids with insane Tiger Parents, were known to attempt suicide. If BASIS DC really is going to accelerate like crazy from a young age, I hope that they will watch for danger signs, however that works. Sure, most of you have 11 year olds at Basis now, but kids grow up fast and some are going to come under crazy pressure to perform in a few years, given that parents who can't afford privates have so few options beyond moving and the curriculum won't be a great fit for many.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Are you kidding me? The kids were stressed initially because they finally had high standards to live up to! Please excuse me for not being worried yet about my 10 year old who has time for creative and emotionally enriching activities after school hours. The last thing I would want is some therapist in school tracking my DC.
I attended Bronx Science where top students, particularly stressed out Asian kids with insane Tiger Parents, were known to attempt suicide. If BASIS DC really is going to accelerate like crazy from a young age, I hope that they will watch for danger signs, however that works. Sure, most of you have 11 year olds at Basis now, but kids grow up fast and some are going to come under crazy pressure to perform in a few years, given that parents who can't afford privates have so few options beyond moving and the curriculum won't be a great fit for many.
Anonymous wrote:^^ As a mental health professional working out of NIH, I've treated more than a few dangerously stressed out adolescents who appear to be thriving at high octane area high schools. I find that parents and educators have a strong tendency to assume that doing well in school and college equates to good mental health. You see kids and 20-somethings who soar academically yet suffer emotionally.
The recent documentary Race to Nowhere is an eye-opener on the subject.
Does anybody know what sort of counseling and mental health support Basis DC is providing to kids who need it?
Are you kidding me? The kids were stressed initially because they finally had high standards to live up to! Please excuse me for not being worried yet about my 10 year old who has time for creative and emotionally enriching activities after school hours. The last thing I would want is some therapist in school tracking my DC.
\Anonymous wrote:I suspect the reason for the strong language in this Basis debate is the worry about our kids, not so much antipathy toward those who disagree. It's so hard to divine what's the best way to parent. Even the dad whose son won't speak to him because he was pushed too hard...of course that dad thought he was doing the right thing. Likewise the parents who let the child take full ownership whose kid just skips homework. And put all those parents in the same school and you get some serious defensiveness and smugness. But in fact we just don't know. And, as if academic philosophies weren't enough, there's the social stuff.
That's why it's tough to get a calm discussion going here. I've tried, with innocuous posts seeking views about teachers, the picnic, the AP's, homework load, classroom behavior and other topics that go to 'how's Basis going so far?'. These posts fell flat, because they didn't tap into the fundamental question, is basis the 'answer' for my kid. For me the jury is out and that stresses me out a lot.