Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote: It was definitely very competitive this year...
You really are a poor listener & so divorced from reality. After all this feedback you go "it was very competitive this year!"
No. it is very competitive EVERY YEAR.
Your kid is an average kid for these schools. There are many other really good kids out there too, some even extraordinary. Versus it being in the bag, your child would have been very very lucky to get in, same for every other kid.
Lmao god you guys are so self-absorbed, OP is allowed to let out their (rightful) frustrations without being attacked left and right. If a perfect GPA, 1570 SAT, and 5s in 14 APs is "average" to you (yes, even in a more competitive area) then you need to get your head examined. I feel bad for some of your kids, this place can be such a toxic cesspool.
Frustration, yes. Disappointment, sure. Feelings are feelings.
But rightful? No one has a right to be disappointed or is entitled to be disappointed because they didn’t get into a particular school. Especially schools with extremely low admit rates. No doubt OP’s DD worked hard but so did a lot of other kids. Working hard and doing well does not guarantee anything. It doesn’t give anyone the right to anything.
Of course it doesn't, but some of you like PP acting like these are "average" stats (even for NoVa) are insane.
Anonymous wrote:It seems like OP had very weak college counseling, honestly. A lot of this could have been prevented.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote: It was definitely very competitive this year...
You really are a poor listener & so divorced from reality. After all this feedback you go "it was very competitive this year!"
No. it is very competitive EVERY YEAR.
Your kid is an average kid for these schools. There are many other really good kids out there too, some even extraordinary. Versus it being in the bag, your child would have been very very lucky to get in, same for every other kid.
Lmao god you guys are so self-absorbed, OP is allowed to let out their (rightful) frustrations without being attacked left and right. If a perfect GPA, 1570 SAT, and 5s in 14 APs is "average" to you (yes, even in a more competitive area) then you need to get your head examined. I feel bad for some of your kids, this place can be such a toxic cesspool.
Frustration, yes. Disappointment, sure. Feelings are feelings.
But rightful? No one has a right to be disappointed or is entitled to be disappointed because they didn’t get into a particular school. Especially schools with extremely low admit rates. No doubt OP’s DD worked hard but so did a lot of other kids. Working hard and doing well does not guarantee anything. It doesn’t give anyone the right to anything.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote: It was definitely very competitive this year...
You really are a poor listener & so divorced from reality. After all this feedback you go "it was very competitive this year!"
No. it is very competitive EVERY YEAR.
Your kid is an average kid for these schools. There are many other really good kids out there too, some even extraordinary. Versus it being in the bag, your child would have been very very lucky to get in, same for every other kid.
Lmao god you guys are so self-absorbed, OP is allowed to let out their (rightful) frustrations without being attacked left and right. If a perfect GPA, 1570 SAT, and 5s in 14 APs is "average" to you (yes, even in a more competitive area) then you need to get your head examined. I feel bad for some of your kids, this place can be such a toxic cesspool.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m so sorry. Her stats were incredible, and I understand the high expectations.
You mention being confused - I think many parents on this board either hired professional college counselors or did a lot of research themselves (many here listen to college podcasts or read College Confidential). Based on that knowledge, which we improperly assume everyone has, it sounds like you/she mis-categorized many schools. This is the reason for some of the snarkier feedback you are getting.
Also she got Monroe? And maybe Pitt Honors? Both of those shift the balance, and I’m surprised you didn’t put that in your first post.
A few other things - she’s pre-med, but I’m not seeing much activity other other people/other students? The people piece is important for pre-med. And you say she really liked CMU, but hadn’t actually been to Pittsburgh? How could she really like it? The rank? The web site?
I do wish her well, and I hope you can both come to acceptance soon.
Thank you! I definitely did research myself but we didn't feel the need to hire a professional college counselor - We thought it was a waste of money, and I'm now I'm really hoping that we made the right choice in regards to that. I forgot to mention a few things in the OP by accident (such as her being a National Merit Finalist, I guess that would fall under ECs/awards?). DD is pre-med (wants to go to med school but not entirely sure which pathway) and has always had a passion for engineering. DD really likes the double major option in CMU for BME that would allow her to also study more traditional forms of engineering.
It sounds like you/she were not realistic. These schools have only so many slots and there are many many kids similar to her.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:REACH
JHU, Princeton, Brown, Dartmouth, Columbia, Duke, CMU, Cornell, UNC (OOS)
TARGET
UVA, VT, WM, Lehigh
SAFETY
UPitt
UVA and VT would be REACH and not targets if applying for engineering schools.
Anonymous wrote:OP you don't need to keep putting up with people here being jackasses. College Confidential is actually filled with people willing to help, and with moderators that help keep people in line; you should go check it out if you're tired of people being weird here.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You said “it was more of a safety.”
Yes, I said it was more of a safety than a reach, which would make it a target. Sorry if that wasn't clear.
Did you find the entire college admissions process overwhelming? A lot of uncertainty in these posts. A college counselor probably would have helped.
We mainly relied on DD's own research and school counselor.
You cannot complain if you put little effort into it. She got into great schools. You are the problem.
You guys are piranhas. It is totally understandable for OP and her DD to be disappointed based on her stats and efforts. If we are at at the place now where you are saying what mom did is 'little effort' because they didn't spend on a college counselor, then this process is totally screwed and you are a contributor.
I am not saying anyone is entitled to a spot, but I am saying that this dd is entitled to be disappointed.
It takes 30 seconds to find out "If you want to attend UVA you don't apply RD, you must do EA or ED"
And nope, it's not understandable to be disappointed at getting Rej/WL at REACHES with sub 10% acceptance rates. You should expect that and instead be surprised if you win the lottery
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This has to be fake. People cannot be this naive.
+1
Why does this seem "fake" to you? The cycle was very harsh this year, and I think that my DD and I have every right to feel disappointed.
Anonymous wrote:I’m so sorry. Her stats were incredible, and I understand the high expectations.
You mention being confused - I think many parents on this board either hired professional college counselors or did a lot of research themselves (many here listen to college podcasts or read College Confidential). Based on that knowledge, which we improperly assume everyone has, it sounds like you/she mis-categorized many schools. This is the reason for some of the snarkier feedback you are getting.
Also she got Monroe? And maybe Pitt Honors? Both of those shift the balance, and I’m surprised you didn’t put that in your first post.
A few other things - she’s pre-med, but I’m not seeing much activity other other people/other students? The people piece is important for pre-med. And you say she really liked CMU, but hadn’t actually been to Pittsburgh? How could she really like it? The rank? The web site?
I do wish her well, and I hope you can both come to acceptance soon.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You said “it was more of a safety.”
Yes, I said it was more of a safety than a reach, which would make it a target. Sorry if that wasn't clear.
Did you find the entire college admissions process overwhelming? A lot of uncertainty in these posts. A college counselor probably would have helped.
We mainly relied on DD's own research and school counselor.
You cannot complain if you put little effort into it. She got into great schools. You are the problem.
You guys are piranhas. It is totally understandable for OP and her DD to be disappointed based on her stats and efforts. If we are at at the place now where you are saying what mom did is 'little effort' because they didn't spend on a college counselor, then this process is totally screwed and you are a contributor.
I am not saying anyone is entitled to a spot, but I am saying that this dd is entitled to be disappointed.