Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Start preparing for rush spring of senior year if you want a top-tier bid. Connect with fraternities/sororities on Instagram, figure out who the top dogs in the house are, and start engaging with them. Don't be the rando rolling in during formal rush thinking your Sperrys and Southern Tide will push you to the top of the list. Build that network early!

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Anonymous wrote:Start preparing for rush spring of senior year if you want a top-tier bid. Connect with fraternities/sororities on Instagram, figure out who the top dogs in the house are, and start engaging with them. Don't be the rando rolling in during formal rush thinking your Sperrys and Southern Tide will push you to the top of the list. Build that network early!

Anonymous wrote:Start preparing for rush spring of senior year if you want a top-tier bid. Connect with fraternities/sororities on Instagram, figure out who the top dogs in the house are, and start engaging with them. Don't be the rando rolling in during formal rush thinking your Sperrys and Southern Tide will push you to the top of the list. Build that network early!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with earlier commentators that underline how much planning goes into top 20 (or really, top 15) acceptance. For us this meant applying to selective programs for the summers between 10/11 and 11/12 grades, including an extensive application for a very selective summer science program. I put it in much more time than my son did mapping all of this out, which required a great deal of research in addition to keeping track of deadlines, recs, essays, etc. Indeed, I would say that with the essays in particular my role in shepherding all of this gave rise to real tension between my son and me, to the point where I wondered if the effort I was putting in to all of this was really worth it. I am still a bit bruised by the experience but the outcome was what we were looking for, ultimately, and it is my hope that at some point sooner rather than later my kid will understand why things had to go the way they went. It is not for the faint of heart. As a parent, I decided it was in fact worth it to do what I thought was right for my child even if our relations were, in the present, strained. There are some events in a person's life where you just have to buckle up and take responsibility for the process in spite of the bruised feelings that result, including one's own.

umm ... yikes.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with earlier commentators that underline how much planning goes into top 20 (or really, top 15) acceptance. For us this meant applying to selective programs for the summers between 10/11 and 11/12 grades, including an extensive application for a very selective summer science program. I put it in much more time than my son did mapping all of this out, which required a great deal of research in addition to keeping track of deadlines, recs, essays, etc. Indeed, I would say that with the essays in particular my role in shepherding all of this gave rise to real tension between my son and me, to the point where I wondered if the effort I was putting in to all of this was really worth it. I am still a bit bruised by the experience but the outcome was what we were looking for, ultimately, and it is my hope that at some point sooner rather than later my kid will understand why things had to go the way they went. It is not for the faint of heart. As a parent, I decided it was in fact worth it to do what I thought was right for my child even if our relations were, in the present, strained. There are some events in a person's life where you just have to buckle up and take responsibility for the process in spite of the bruised feelings that result, including one's own.

umm ... yikes.

Anonymous wrote:Agree with earlier commentators that underline how much planning goes into top 20 (or really, top 15) acceptance. For us this meant applying to selective programs for the summers between 10/11 and 11/12 grades, including an extensive application for a very selective summer science program. I put it in much more time than my son did mapping all of this out, which required a great deal of research in addition to keeping track of deadlines, recs, essays, etc. Indeed, I would say that with the essays in particular my role in shepherding all of this gave rise to real tension between my son and me, to the point where I wondered if the effort I was putting in to all of this was really worth it. I am still a bit bruised by the experience but the outcome was what we were looking for, ultimately, and it is my hope that at some point sooner rather than later my kid will understand why things had to go the way they went. It is not for the faint of heart. As a parent, I decided it was in fact worth it to do what I thought was right for my child even if our relations were, in the present, strained. There are some events in a person's life where you just have to buckle up and take responsibility for the process in spite of the bruised feelings that result, including one's own.

Anonymous wrote:Agree with earlier commentators that underline how much planning goes into top 20 (or really, top 15) acceptance. For us this meant applying to selective programs for the summers between 10/11 and 11/12 grades, including an extensive application for a very selective summer science program. I put it in much more time than my son did mapping all of this out, which required a great deal of research in addition to keeping track of deadlines, recs, essays, etc. Indeed, I would say that with the essays in particular my role in shepherding all of this gave rise to real tension between my son and me, to the point where I wondered if the effort I was putting in to all of this was really worth it. I am still a bit bruised by the experience but the outcome was what we were looking for, ultimately, and it is my hope that at some point sooner rather than later my kid will understand why things had to go the way they went. It is not for the faint of heart. As a parent, I decided it was in fact worth it to do what I thought was right for my child even if our relations were, in the present, strained. There are some events in a person's life where you just have to buckle up and take responsibility for the process in spite of the bruised feelings that result, including one's own.

Anonymous wrote:- your school’s data or history is probably more important than you think.

- your kid needs to be memorable, especially at selective schools and the application should have a theme or narrative so that an AO can refer to you by a short phrase or tagline.

- watching results come in at our HS….major makes a HUGE difference. Example: UT OOS acceptance to Film school while all others deferred.

- start the essays as soon as school ends junior year. The best essays took months of editing and refining. And better new ideas emerged from all that writing.

- use the search function here. I found good tips and links to help my kid with the activities list.

- be prepared for deferral and WL with draft LOCI

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it’s just my kids, but it was way more parental support than I expected. Between remembering deadlines, helping with all the admissions ways each school does things, managing visits and talking through all the highs and lows of the range of emotions, it’s just an exhausting process. I know it doesn’t have to be that way but it was for us. So glad we’re just about done.

+1 lots of support and guidance...very stressful! So glad to be almost done here too.

Anonymous wrote:I think whether he needed that science program has been, in part, answered: he was admitted ED to the school he wanted to go to. But yeah, we'll see. There's a reason why people shell out 30k for a private counselor. It's not just for their knowledge of the process, but to mediate between kids and parents. Or so I am told.