Anonymous
Post 01/08/2025 17:59     Subject: Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here
Anonymous wrote:The only thing I can think of is that I put all my jeans in the dryer in college and couldn't understand why they came out wrinkled. My mom saw me do it and said, you need to let them fluff. So, less clothing in dryer.

My husband - grew up in a hoarding household and they all sat on their beds to eat. His table manners are atrocious. He wipes the plate with his finger and then licks his finger, among many other things.


I would lose my mind. I have a bit of misophonia and the other night my DH licked his fingers while eating chicken wings and I almost got up and walked out.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2025 02:19     Subject: Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here
Not necessarily civilizing but it took me a long time to learn to do my hair. My mom used to torment me about brushing and straightening and pinning down my hair and I was about 35 before I broke from that and realized that my curly thick hair should not be washed daily and should never be brushed!! (Washed cleaned styled and scrunched yes )
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2025 19:24     Subject: Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is helpful for people too rigid to reach around and wipe too. And the elderly!


So they just spray poopy water everywhere?? Gross.


Yes and then drip dry their butt for 10 mins
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2025 19:23     Subject: Re:Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I had a parakeet as a child and she was never let out of her cage. We just didn’t know any better. She was a sweet bird too, I still feel awful about sometimes.

I didn’t have a dog, but growing up NO ONE in my neighborhood walked their dog. People just let their dog run out to the front yard to do their business and then brought the dog back inside. I have a retired couple neighbor now with a fairly large dog that I never see being walked and I just shake my head.


You don’t have to let a parakeet out of their cage. Never heard of such a thing.


My friend had a parakeet as a teen and felt bad for it and let it out of its cage outside thinking it would hop around and hop back in once it had enjoyed the fresh air.

It flew away before even touching the grass. Don’t let a parakeet out of the cage.


Dude, you keep their wings clipped and let them fly and hope around parts of the house whenever you want.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2025 19:22     Subject: Re:Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I had a parakeet as a child and she was never let out of her cage. We just didn’t know any better. She was a sweet bird too, I still feel awful about sometimes.

I didn’t have a dog, but growing up NO ONE in my neighborhood walked their dog. People just let their dog run out to the front yard to do their business and then brought the dog back inside. I have a retired couple neighbor now with a fairly large dog that I never see being walked and I just shake my head.


You don’t have to let a parakeet out of their cage. Never heard of such a thing.


My friend had a parakeet as a teen and felt bad for it and let it out of its cage outside thinking it would hop around and hop back in once it had enjoyed the fresh air.

It flew away before even touching the grass. Don’t let a parakeet out of the cage.


My grandpa had a parakeet, He apparently used to let it out of the cage in his apartment and chase it around with a stick, to give it "exercise". Even as a four year old, I was like surely there must be a better way?
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2025 19:16     Subject: Re:Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I had a parakeet as a child and she was never let out of her cage. We just didn’t know any better. She was a sweet bird too, I still feel awful about sometimes.

I didn’t have a dog, but growing up NO ONE in my neighborhood walked their dog. People just let their dog run out to the front yard to do their business and then brought the dog back inside. I have a retired couple neighbor now with a fairly large dog that I never see being walked and I just shake my head.


You don’t have to let a parakeet out of their cage. Never heard of such a thing.


I think the issue is keeping a caged bird. It's awful.


+1
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2025 19:04     Subject: Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here
Anonymous wrote:I would have thought a dirty washcloth would be worse for breakouts? I have never used one and my skin has been fine

you get a new one each shower. Ew you guys.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2025 19:00     Subject: Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here
Anonymous wrote:Is helpful for people too rigid to reach around and wipe too. And the elderly!


So they just spray poopy water everywhere?? Gross.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2025 18:17     Subject: Re:Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I had a parakeet as a child and she was never let out of her cage. We just didn’t know any better. She was a sweet bird too, I still feel awful about sometimes.

I didn’t have a dog, but growing up NO ONE in my neighborhood walked their dog. People just let their dog run out to the front yard to do their business and then brought the dog back inside. I have a retired couple neighbor now with a fairly large dog that I never see being walked and I just shake my head.


You don’t have to let a parakeet out of their cage. Never heard of such a thing.


My friend had a parakeet as a teen and felt bad for it and let it out of its cage outside thinking it would hop around and hop back in once it had enjoyed the fresh air.

It flew away before even touching the grass. Don’t let a parakeet out of the cage.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2025 17:33     Subject: Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here
Is helpful for people too rigid to reach around and wipe too. And the elderly!
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2025 17:32     Subject: Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here
Regarding the bidet comment, I got my husband one for his bathroom (the den bathroom) a few years ago. IT's the first thing he misses when we travel. I bought him a traveling one for Christmas. I guess you get used to it.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2025 17:29     Subject: Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here
Anonymous wrote:Some of these are really lighthearted by my heart truly goes out to the young women who didn't have basic menstruation needs met.


I babysat to buy my own pads/tampons, worked at the DQ for two years to save enough money for braces, paid 100% of my college expenses. My mom was clueless.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2025 14:52     Subject: Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here
Anonymous wrote:I ate the shrimp cocktail for the first time on a first date. I ate the shells and claimed I like it.


Shrimp cocktail should not be in shells. Unless you just meant the tail bit
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2025 14:51     Subject: Re:Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I had a parakeet as a child and she was never let out of her cage. We just didn’t know any better. She was a sweet bird too, I still feel awful about sometimes.

I didn’t have a dog, but growing up NO ONE in my neighborhood walked their dog. People just let their dog run out to the front yard to do their business and then brought the dog back inside. I have a retired couple neighbor now with a fairly large dog that I never see being walked and I just shake my head.


You don’t have to let a parakeet out of their cage. Never heard of such a thing.


I think the issue is keeping a caged bird. It's awful.
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2025 14:46     Subject: Re:Civilizing details that you missed during childhood- share here
Anonymous wrote:I had a parakeet as a child and she was never let out of her cage. We just didn’t know any better. She was a sweet bird too, I still feel awful about sometimes.

I didn’t have a dog, but growing up NO ONE in my neighborhood walked their dog. People just let their dog run out to the front yard to do their business and then brought the dog back inside. I have a retired couple neighbor now with a fairly large dog that I never see being walked and I just shake my head.


You don’t have to let a parakeet out of their cage. Never heard of such a thing.