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Anonymous wrote:I don't know of any interpretation of karma -- Buddhist, Hindu, or otherwise -- that would blame the person harmed by an evil deed. It is very much about the person choosing to do good deeds or ill and what type of fruit it will bear in their own lives. Karma is not about victim-blaming, and it's certainly not about schadenfreude, but rather about encouraging people to live moral lives.

If you believe in Karma, a victim of one evil deed may be a perpetrator of a previous one. So the subsequent evil deed may just be karma for the first.

Nope. I refuse to believe somebody that is raped or abused or a victim of a violent robbery or murdered or a betrayed spouse is getting karma served. I do believe the person committing those moral bad deeds and/or crimes is a bad seed/liar/morally corrupt/lacks empathy, etc. And, I do think a person that acts with such blatant disregard for others and is okay with lying, deceiving and causing harm will have it catch up to them. It's a rotten core.

And I do think there is a lot of mental gymnastics by cheaters all the time---even in : oh the betrayed deserved it because of something in their past. Give me a break.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know of any interpretation of karma -- Buddhist, Hindu, or otherwise -- that would blame the person harmed by an evil deed. It is very much about the person choosing to do good deeds or ill and what type of fruit it will bear in their own lives. Karma is not about victim-blaming, and it's certainly not about schadenfreude, but rather about encouraging people to live moral lives.

If you believe in Karma, a victim of one evil deed may be a perpetrator of a previous one. So the subsequent evil deed may just be karma for the first.

Nope. I refuse to believe somebody that is raped or abused or a victim of a violent robbery or murdered or a betrayed spouse is getting karma served. I do believe the person committing those moral bad deeds and/or crimes is a bad seed/liar/morally corrupt/lacks empathy, etc. And, I do think a person that acts with such blatant disregard for others and is okay with lying, deceiving and causing harm will have it catch up to them. It's a rotten core.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know of any interpretation of karma -- Buddhist, Hindu, or otherwise -- that would blame the person harmed by an evil deed. It is very much about the person choosing to do good deeds or ill and what type of fruit it will bear in their own lives. Karma is not about victim-blaming, and it's certainly not about schadenfreude, but rather about encouraging people to live moral lives.

If you believe in Karma, a victim of one evil deed may be a perpetrator of a previous one. So the subsequent evil deed may just be karma for the first.

Nope. I refuse to believe somebody that is raped or abused or a victim of a violent robbery or murdered or a betrayed spouse is getting karma served. I do believe the person committing those moral bad deeds and/or crimes is a bad seed/liar/morally corrupt/lacks empathy, etc. And, I do think a person that acts with such blatant disregard for others and is okay with lying, deceiving and causing harm will have it catch up to them. It's a rotten core.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know of any interpretation of karma -- Buddhist, Hindu, or otherwise -- that would blame the person harmed by an evil deed. It is very much about the person choosing to do good deeds or ill and what type of fruit it will bear in their own lives. Karma is not about victim-blaming, and it's certainly not about schadenfreude, but rather about encouraging people to live moral lives.

If you believe in Karma, a victim of one evil deed may be a perpetrator of a previous one. So the subsequent evil deed may just be karma for the first.

Anonymous wrote:I don't know of any interpretation of karma -- Buddhist, Hindu, or otherwise -- that would blame the person harmed by an evil deed. It is very much about the person choosing to do good deeds or ill and what type of fruit it will bear in their own lives. Karma is not about victim-blaming, and it's certainly not about schadenfreude, but rather about encouraging people to live moral lives.

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Anonymous wrote:So is this one of the threads Jeff was referring to that has been posted by the same woman in the last few days? Referenced in the post he just locked down about OP’s husband telling his AP that OP is revolting?

OP, if that is you, all I can say is there is no way out of this mess until you get tired enough of mistreatment and tired enough of feeling the way you feel now. Then and only then will you feel better. I really do wish you the best. It’s not fun being lost like this.

+1

I'd love for the OW to get hit by Karma, but in this case OP is trying to make herself feel better any way but the only way that would actually work: leaving her husband. Nothing else is going to scratch that itch, OP.

Bingo !!!!

Also Karma! But people don’t like to think about that. And plotting revenge never brings good karma.

I sometimes wonder ... so many folks suggest the that they expect the spouse's APs to get "hit with Karma" -- but have you considered that your spouse and their AP are YOUR Karma for something crappy you've done in the past?? Sometimes, most of the time, all of the time ... you aren't the innocent or pure one. Nobody is. "Karma" doesn't always work in the way you think it does.

Ouch!

Those who believe in Karma don't think this deeply about how it really works. Lol

Yeah. I've seen the betrayed spouse coming out the best in most of these situations. It's not a bad final outcome so I don't see it as karma working against him/her.

My neighbor has a wonderful new life partner and a second home, kids are all launched. She is having the time of her life. Spouse has newborn twins at age 51, OW 45...and they are miserable. He is cash-strapped now after the divorce settlement. The kids from his first marriage lost all respect for him and last I heard--strong rumors he's now cheating on the 2ndwife/OW.

Thank goodness these folks have you to keep tabs on and share all the "strong rumors" about them.

I wonder what the karma is for gossiping online about struggling people?

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Anonymous wrote:So is this one of the threads Jeff was referring to that has been posted by the same woman in the last few days? Referenced in the post he just locked down about OP’s husband telling his AP that OP is revolting?

OP, if that is you, all I can say is there is no way out of this mess until you get tired enough of mistreatment and tired enough of feeling the way you feel now. Then and only then will you feel better. I really do wish you the best. It’s not fun being lost like this.

+1

I'd love for the OW to get hit by Karma, but in this case OP is trying to make herself feel better any way but the only way that would actually work: leaving her husband. Nothing else is going to scratch that itch, OP.

Bingo !!!!

Also Karma! But people don’t like to think about that. And plotting revenge never brings good karma.

I sometimes wonder ... so many folks suggest the that they expect the spouse's APs to get "hit with Karma" -- but have you considered that your spouse and their AP are YOUR Karma for something crappy you've done in the past?? Sometimes, most of the time, all of the time ... you aren't the innocent or pure one. Nobody is. "Karma" doesn't always work in the way you think it does.

Ouch!

Those who believe in Karma don't think this deeply about how it really works. Lol

Yeah. I've seen the betrayed spouse coming out the best in most of these situations. It's not a bad final outcome so I don't see it as karma working against him/her.

My neighbor has a wonderful new life partner and a second home, kids are all launched. She is having the time of her life. Spouse has newborn twins at age 51, OW 45...and they are miserable. He is cash-strapped now after the divorce settlement. The kids from his first marriage lost all respect for him and last I heard--strong rumors he's now cheating on the 2ndwife/OW.

Thank goodness these folks have you to keep tabs on and share all the "strong rumors" about them.

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Anonymous wrote:So is this one of the threads Jeff was referring to that has been posted by the same woman in the last few days? Referenced in the post he just locked down about OP’s husband telling his AP that OP is revolting?

OP, if that is you, all I can say is there is no way out of this mess until you get tired enough of mistreatment and tired enough of feeling the way you feel now. Then and only then will you feel better. I really do wish you the best. It’s not fun being lost like this.

+1

I'd love for the OW to get hit by Karma, but in this case OP is trying to make herself feel better any way but the only way that would actually work: leaving her husband. Nothing else is going to scratch that itch, OP.

Bingo !!!!

Also Karma! But people don’t like to think about that. And plotting revenge never brings good karma.

I sometimes wonder ... so many folks suggest the that they expect the spouse's APs to get "hit with Karma" -- but have you considered that your spouse and their AP are YOUR Karma for something crappy you've done in the past?? Sometimes, most of the time, all of the time ... you aren't the innocent or pure one. Nobody is. "Karma" doesn't always work in the way you think it does.

Ouch!

Those who believe in Karma don't think this deeply about how it really works. Lol

Yeah. I've seen the betrayed spouse coming out the best in most of these situations. It's not a bad final outcome so I don't see it as karma working against him/her.

My neighbor has a wonderful new life partner and a second home, kids are all launched. She is having the time of her life. Spouse has newborn twins at age 51, OW 45...and they are miserable. He is cash-strapped now after the divorce settlement. The kids from his first marriage lost all respect for him and last I heard--strong rumors he's now cheating on the 2ndwife/OW.

Anonymous wrote:^ people that lie, cheat and betray will usually have it catch up with them over time. I don't see that as karma (though many like to say it is). It's just a person lacking empathy and character whose life actions catch up with them. The charade is hard to keep up after awhile. Trump, Giuliani, are examples on the big stage.

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Anonymous wrote:So is this one of the threads Jeff was referring to that has been posted by the same woman in the last few days? Referenced in the post he just locked down about OP’s husband telling his AP that OP is revolting?

OP, if that is you, all I can say is there is no way out of this mess until you get tired enough of mistreatment and tired enough of feeling the way you feel now. Then and only then will you feel better. I really do wish you the best. It’s not fun being lost like this.

+1

I'd love for the OW to get hit by Karma, but in this case OP is trying to make herself feel better any way but the only way that would actually work: leaving her husband. Nothing else is going to scratch that itch, OP.

Bingo !!!!

Also Karma! But people don’t like to think about that. And plotting revenge never brings good karma.

I sometimes wonder ... so many folks suggest the that they expect the spouse's APs to get "hit with Karma" -- but have you considered that your spouse and their AP are YOUR Karma for something crappy you've done in the past?? Sometimes, most of the time, all of the time ... you aren't the innocent or pure one. Nobody is. "Karma" doesn't always work in the way you think it does.

Ouch!

Those who believe in Karma don't think this deeply about how it really works. Lol

Yeah. I've seen the betrayed spouse coming out the best in most of these situations. It's not a bad final outcome so I don't see it as karma working against him/her.

My neighbor has a wonderful new life partner and a second home, kids are all launched. She is having the time of her life. Spouse has newborn twins at age 51, OW 45...and they are miserable. He is cash-strapped now after the divorce settlement. The kids from his first marriage lost all respect for him and last I heard--strong rumors he's now cheating on the 2ndwife/OW.

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Anonymous wrote:So is this one of the threads Jeff was referring to that has been posted by the same woman in the last few days? Referenced in the post he just locked down about OP’s husband telling his AP that OP is revolting?

OP, if that is you, all I can say is there is no way out of this mess until you get tired enough of mistreatment and tired enough of feeling the way you feel now. Then and only then will you feel better. I really do wish you the best. It’s not fun being lost like this.

+1

I'd love for the OW to get hit by Karma, but in this case OP is trying to make herself feel better any way but the only way that would actually work: leaving her husband. Nothing else is going to scratch that itch, OP.

Bingo !!!!

Also Karma! But people don’t like to think about that. And plotting revenge never brings good karma.

I sometimes wonder ... so many folks suggest the that they expect the spouse's APs to get "hit with Karma" -- but have you considered that your spouse and their AP are YOUR Karma for something crappy you've done in the past?? Sometimes, most of the time, all of the time ... you aren't the innocent or pure one. Nobody is. "Karma" doesn't always work in the way you think it does.

Ouch!

Those who believe in Karma don't think this deeply about how it really works. Lol

Yeah. I've seen the betrayed spouse coming out the best in most of these situations. It's not a bad final outcome so I don't see it as karma working against him/her.

My neighbor has a wonderful new life partner and a second home, kids are all launched. She is having the time of her life. Spouse has newborn twins at age 51, OW 45...and they are miserable. He is cash-strapped now after the divorce settlement. The kids from his first marriage lost all respect for him and last I heard--strong rumors he's now cheating on the 2ndwife/OW.

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Anonymous wrote:So is this one of the threads Jeff was referring to that has been posted by the same woman in the last few days? Referenced in the post he just locked down about OP’s husband telling his AP that OP is revolting?

OP, if that is you, all I can say is there is no way out of this mess until you get tired enough of mistreatment and tired enough of feeling the way you feel now. Then and only then will you feel better. I really do wish you the best. It’s not fun being lost like this.

+1

I'd love for the OW to get hit by Karma, but in this case OP is trying to make herself feel better any way but the only way that would actually work: leaving her husband. Nothing else is going to scratch that itch, OP.

Bingo !!!!

Also Karma! But people don’t like to think about that. And plotting revenge never brings good karma.

I sometimes wonder ... so many folks suggest the that they expect the spouse's APs to get "hit with Karma" -- but have you considered that your spouse and their AP are YOUR Karma for something crappy you've done in the past?? Sometimes, most of the time, all of the time ... you aren't the innocent or pure one. Nobody is. "Karma" doesn't always work in the way you think it does.

Ouch!

Those who believe in Karma don't think this deeply about how it really works. Lol