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Anonymous wrote:Rad is real but it is mostly blamed on the kids not attaching and it may be the parents who did not attach as if they bonded with this child they would not give him away. How can he bond when he is not getting his needs met and they are not bonding to him?

This is a good example of why kids should not be placed in large families who intend to have more bio kids. They don’t have the time and often resources.

I used to watch her YouTube videos weekly. I stopped just because I got bored of them but I feel like I remember he forming a super tight bond with the dad and when they first brought him home. He always seemed very attached to the father, at least that’s what it looked like from videos. Not blaming Myka at all for not bonding with him as I fully believe she did as well.

That common in children with RAD. The mom is the one who bears the brunt of the behaviors. She was unprepared, she didn’t want to do the hard work

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

A lot of moms complain when they have difficult babies....

A lot of moms don’t give their kids away....

He was not a baby. Most moms complain, but you don't complain on video/online where the child and your other kids and their friends and families can hear it all. Imagine what that would do to a child. This kid will go online one day and read all about this. Imagine how that will impact him after all the trauma he's had.

I’m sorry but no, he won’t go online one day and read all this. He has severe special needs and can’t even talk. He will never go and read about himself online.

He may be more there than people realize.

Ehhh, I don’t think so unfortunately. Never heard him talk in any videos on YouTube or IG. He’s four but seems to have the mindset of a 1 year old. I just don’t ever see him being a “normal kid”.

I know several kids including mine who did not talk till after four.

Did they have strokes in the womb and neuro specialists looking at their brain scans advising they would never take this on themselves and that issues would likely be lifelong? Because this child had that. Doesn't justify the parent's actions, but when you have specialists looking at neurological activity and saying, "I wouldn't..." that doesn't bode well normally.

What doctor is going to blab out to the parent of a child that they should give the child away rather than treat the child? It's not even a believable statement, it sounds like an excuse to support their choice to giving him away.

Not giving away a child, but that this was well known prior to adoption and the adoptive parents accepted this risk, against medical advice. And here they are...

Huh? They’ve said a million times how the adoption agency/care he was under in China highly downplayed his special needs. They were told he just had a brain tumor but was a normal kid and it wasn’t until the first day they had him that they realized that wasn’t true and once they were back in the US, they slowly found out how severe his issues were.

Yes, they have said that. They have also said, on video for all of us to see, that the previously optimistic doctor that they were consulting in the US BEFORE THEY ADOPTED HIM did a 180 when she saw the brain scans and told them in no uncertain terms that his special needs would probably be very daunting. In Myka’s own words, “I let that go in one ear and out the other.” Along with all sorts of empty talk about how none of that would matter, they loved him regardless, etc.

They had the information they needed to avoid this tragedy and made the choice to ignore it.

Anonymous wrote:Read the articles. She was told there was brain damage or a brain tumor, that looks like ASD but not although many call it ASD as they look at the behaviors only. She was told exactly what she was getting into.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniemcneal/myka-stauffer-huxley-announcement

They didn't even pay for the adoption and did a go fund me... wow...

She is claiming that they didn't tell her it was ASD. What did she think them saying brain damage was?

We will never know the truth. She said in this article he's great kid who doesn't need much care. He had a brain tumor or damage. Of course he needed much more care. He also needed significant therapies and support, which she choose not to do.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniemcneal/myka-stauffer-huxley-announcement

There is speculation, right or wrong, that she thought he had a brain tumor and, therefore, he wouldn't be around for the long haul or maybe the tumor could be potentially cured. That was later determined not to be the case and she realized that she would be dealing with his issues for life. I think she was hearing what she wanted to hear and somehow had it in her mind that caring for him would not be a big deal which seems crazy given the dire nature of his brain damage.

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Anonymous wrote:I really hope that child protective services get involved and they look into the new home, with a full background check. I don't know if it's possible, but I also hope the courts appoint a guardian to monitor and advocate for Huxley. As his legal parents, I also think the blogger family should be financially responsible for him and his therapies for life. They adopted him, taking him from his home country, and then monetized him. They should not be able to walk away. If you're a parent, you have a financial responsibility to pay child support. This family needs to continue to support financially Huxley. The appropriate level of financial support can be decided by a court.

What a weird post. He has legal parents. They aren’t this blogger family.

She used his adoption to get popular, that's actually what did it for her. Are you a fan of people exploiting their children?

So if I think a child’s legal parents are the people financially responsible for the child I’m a “fan of people exploiting children”? No I just have a functioning brain. Do you?

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Anonymous wrote:I really hope that child protective services get involved and they look into the new home, with a full background check. I don't know if it's possible, but I also hope the courts appoint a guardian to monitor and advocate for Huxley. As his legal parents, I also think the blogger family should be financially responsible for him and his therapies for life. They adopted him, taking him from his home country, and then monetized him. They should not be able to walk away. If you're a parent, you have a financial responsibility to pay child support. This family needs to continue to support financially Huxley. The appropriate level of financial support can be decided by a court.

What a weird post. He has legal parents. They aren’t this blogger family.

She used his adoption to get popular, that's actually what did it for her. Are you a fan of people exploiting their children?

Anonymous wrote:I really hope that child protective services get involved and they look into the new home, with a full background check. I don't know if it's possible, but I also hope the courts appoint a guardian to monitor and advocate for Huxley. As his legal parents, I also think the blogger family should be financially responsible for him and his therapies for life. They adopted him, taking him from his home country, and then monetized him. They should not be able to walk away. If you're a parent, you have a financial responsibility to pay child support. This family needs to continue to support financially Huxley. The appropriate level of financial support can be decided by a court.

What a weird post. He has legal parents. They aren’t this blogger family.

Are they not financially responsible for him any more? Wow. That's insane.

I really hope that child protective services get involved and they look into the new home, with a full background check. I don't know if it's possible, but I also hope the courts appoint a guardian to monitor and advocate for Huxley. As his legal parents, I also think the blogger family should be financially responsible for him and his therapies for life. They adopted him, taking him from his home country, and then monetized him. They should not be able to walk away. If you're a parent, you have a financial responsibility to pay child support. This family needs to continue to support financially Huxley. The appropriate level of financial support can be decided by a court.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

A lot of moms complain when they have difficult babies....

A lot of moms don’t give their kids away....

He was not a baby. Most moms complain, but you don't complain on video/online where the child and your other kids and their friends and families can hear it all. Imagine what that would do to a child. This kid will go online one day and read all about this. Imagine how that will impact him after all the trauma he's had.

I’m sorry but no, he won’t go online one day and read all this. He has severe special needs and can’t even talk. He will never go and read about himself online.

He may be more there than people realize.

Ehhh, I don’t think so unfortunately. Never heard him talk in any videos on YouTube or IG. He’s four but seems to have the mindset of a 1 year old. I just don’t ever see him being a “normal kid”.

I know several kids including mine who did not talk till after four.

Did they have strokes in the womb and neuro specialists looking at their brain scans advising they would never take this on themselves and that issues would likely be lifelong? Because this child had that. Doesn't justify the parent's actions, but when you have specialists looking at neurological activity and saying, "I wouldn't..." that doesn't bode well normally.

OMG. Why does any of that matter? Just because he (may or may not) ever be able to Google himself or watch the YouTube channel and has significant neurological issues/issues that don’t “bode well” does NOT make it OK for his mother (well, former mother :cry to share any of these very private, intimate details about him and his struggles for literally anyone in the world with an internet connection to read/watch. It’s gross. And exploitative. In fact, sharing all of these details about someone who has no concept of what is being shared about him to millions of peopl and never will have any concept of it is even more disturbing. Makes me sick to my stomach.

+10000

I watched some of the videos on her channel. There is zero reason, ZERO, for clips of this little boy to ever be on social media. None. Particularly not a social media that is viewed by millions.

And this woman? My total exposure to her has been seconds. She's beyond abhorrent. If you're kid's having a bad day, comfort him instead of pasting his difficult time all over social media.

My thoughts, as someone who used to unironically follow Myka since shortly before they went to go get Huxley. Something seemed a bit off from the beginning, but I figured it was just the persona that she puts on for videos not translating well to the situation. Then they brought him home and it became very clear how unprepared she was, despite all the videos she'd made about bonding and attachment and so on. Myka has a pattern of talking about things while not appearing to let them truly sink in.

Speaking of patterns, you know how YouTube (or any social media, for that matter), is usually carefully curated into a "highlight reel" of life? That makes it really telling when someone leaves something questionable in their content, because it means that they had to look at it during the hours they spent editing and say, "Yes, this is acceptable." and post it. Like there was a clip of Myka rejecting Huxley's hug, or even just dumb stuff she's said after years of being a public figure (like saying "decompose" when she means "decompress", or saying she *thinks* that "Kyoto" is a city in Japan but that it's definitely a nice name for a baby).

Another incident that comes to mind is when Myka decided to give Huxley an haircut very soon after bringing him home that wasn't totally necessary, and was sort of a "faux-hawk" style that involved buzzing the sides very short. Her husband had the camera and came upon her taking him out of the bathroom; Huxley was screaming, crying, and clearly very distressed, while Myka was smiling and beaming about how he looked "so much cuter". This was well before things started to go downhill with his potential diagnoses. (As I type this, I went back to find the video where this happened and it appears to have been deleted! So that's another one.)

I think Myka is a person who doesn't look at things the same way as everyone else. It explains why she manages her online presence the way she is, and why she manages to get so far into things like adoption without understanding them properly.

Even if it were imperative that Huxley be removed from the home for either his siblings' safety (if he was violent, etc.) or his own, Myka and and her husband (because he's just as responsible) are still NOT handling the situation properly. Myka shouldn't be showing her other kids at all right now, and her recent content about "being positive" and "ignoring trolls" rings hollow and is in extraordinarily bad taste. Having an adoption fail is a devastating thing to experience and she's making it seem like she's doing better than ever and is ready to get defensive over their choices.

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Anonymous wrote:Read the articles. She was told there was brain damage or a brain tumor, that looks like ASD but not although many call it ASD as they look at the behaviors only. She was told exactly what she was getting into.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniemcneal/myka-stauffer-huxley-announcement

They didn't even pay for the adoption and did a go fund me... wow...

She is claiming that they didn't tell her it was ASD. What did she think them saying brain damage was?

We will never know the truth. She said in this article he's great kid who doesn't need much care. He had a brain tumor or damage. Of course he needed much more care. He also needed significant therapies and support, which she choose not to do.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniemcneal/myka-stauffer-huxley-announcement

Where did you see that they didn't pay for the adoption? I didn't see any mention of that in the buzzfeed article.

In the first article:
“In some videos, Myka plugged a fundraiser she had organized for Huxley’s unspecified needs. She said every person who donated $5 would unlock a different piece of a 1,000-piece puzzle, which would, at the end, be a photo of Huxley that she would reveal to the world. She also said she would write the names of all donors in his baby book.”

Anonymous wrote:Read the articles. She was told there was brain damage or a brain tumor, that looks like ASD but not although many call it ASD as they look at the behaviors only. She was told exactly what she was getting into.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniemcneal/myka-stauffer-huxley-announcement

They didn't even pay for the adoption and did a go fund me... wow...

She is claiming that they didn't tell her it was ASD. What did she think them saying brain damage was?

We will never know the truth. She said in this article he's great kid who doesn't need much care. He had a brain tumor or damage. Of course he needed much more care. He also needed significant therapies and support, which she choose not to do.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniemcneal/myka-stauffer-huxley-announcement

Where did you see that they didn't pay for the adoption? I didn't see any mention of that in the buzzfeed article.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

A lot of moms complain when they have difficult babies....

A lot of moms don’t give their kids away....

He was not a baby. Most moms complain, but you don't complain on video/online where the child and your other kids and their friends and families can hear it all. Imagine what that would do to a child. This kid will go online one day and read all about this. Imagine how that will impact him after all the trauma he's had.

I’m sorry but no, he won’t go online one day and read all this. He has severe special needs and can’t even talk. He will never go and read about himself online.

He may be more there than people realize.

Ehhh, I don’t think so unfortunately. Never heard him talk in any videos on YouTube or IG. He’s four but seems to have the mindset of a 1 year old. I just don’t ever see him being a “normal kid”.

I know several kids including mine who did not talk till after four.

Did they have strokes in the womb and neuro specialists looking at their brain scans advising they would never take this on themselves and that issues would likely be lifelong? Because this child had that. Doesn't justify the parent's actions, but when you have specialists looking at neurological activity and saying, "I wouldn't..." that doesn't bode well normally.

OMG. Why does any of that matter? Just because he (may or may not) ever be able to Google himself or watch the YouTube channel and has significant neurological issues/issues that don’t “bode well” does NOT make it OK for his mother (well, former mother :cry to share any of these very private, intimate details about him and his struggles for literally anyone in the world with an internet connection to read/watch. It’s gross. And exploitative. In fact, sharing all of these details about someone who has no concept of what is being shared about him to millions of peopl and never will have any concept of it is even more disturbing. Makes me sick to my stomach.

It looks like they did use an adoption agency at least:

https://nypost.com/2020/05/27/youtuber-myka-stauffer-slammed-for-rehoming-adopted-autistic-son-huxley/

Read the articles. She was told there was brain damage or a brain tumor, that looks like ASD but not although many call it ASD as they look at the behaviors only. She was told exactly what she was getting into.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniemcneal/myka-stauffer-huxley-announcement

They didn't even pay for the adoption and did a go fund me... wow...

She is claiming that they didn't tell her it was ASD. What did she think them saying brain damage was?

We will never know the truth. She said in this article he's great kid who doesn't need much care. He had a brain tumor or damage. Of course he needed much more care. He also needed significant therapies and support, which she choose not to do.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniemcneal/myka-stauffer-huxley-announcement