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Anonymous wrote:My DH's family has a really special, small beach house on the coast of North Carolina. It's old, small (3 beds, 1.5 baths), on a beautiful piece of property and just something you dream of owning. It's been in his family for three generations.

This summer our college-age DS and two of his male cousins are going to live and work at the beach. They will live in the house.

There is an extremely basic 'outbuilding' on the property. Think glorified shed. It has no bathroom, running water or kitchen. It's basically a simple bunk room with lights and a window AC that we have used as overflow bedrooms during family vacations.

One of many of DS's DC friends wants to live there for the summer. My BILs signed off on it but want to charge a nominal $333 a month rent ($1000 for the summer) and limit it to one kid because they will all being using one septic tank. They also want the chosen kid to sign a basic lease to cover damages.

So, I brought this up to the chosen boy's mom- who I'm very friendly with but not close close.

I thought she was going to faint. Her reaction was one of disgust. She actually thought her son was going to live rent free at out family beach house for three months.

Today I heard she was bad mouthing me to other friends, calling me a cheap skate, etc.

Do I go ballistic and dis-invite the kid?

Really special? GMAF break.

You sound like a complete piece work. Your son must be (should be) mortified that you're trying to charge a friend he invited rent to live in a shack. I probably wouldn't have bothered sh!t talking behind your back, I would have just told you to shove it.

Good grief.

OP here. Found the scum. Sorry you can't appreciate gorgeous acreage and historic property on the coast of NC. Too bad so sad you were raised broke (and probably in a trailer.)

This is absolutely classic because it's not even your house, it's your husband's family's house. I am dying at you trying to act to the manor born over marrying someone with a 1/12th ownership interest in a 3/1.5 with an air conditioned shed.

This. From OP’s description, it’s tiny and run down. But in the vicinity of wealthy people, which is enough for OP.

Wrong. The OP described a lovely beach house that is the thing that people dream of owning. Did you even read the thread?

The only updates in the thread are that the house is poorly maintained and the septic tank is at its absolute limit with 4 occupants. The fact that it sits on acreage is the only thing she's said that sounds nice about it.

"My DH's family has a really special, small beach house on the coast of North Carolina. It's old, small (3 beds, 1.5 baths), on a beautiful piece of property and just something you dream of owning"

What part told you it was run down? The "really special" part or the "something you dream of owning" part? You stink of jealousy.

And for anybody prattling on about the septic tank you obviously don't know sh*t (pun intended) about them. They are rated on the number of bedrooms a home has and they have to perc (or slowly drain) at a certain rate. This is difficult to balance in low lying, sandy soil so it is an issue whether the house is a 5 million dollar mansion or a one room shack. Really, your ignorance is embarrassing.

What you've just quoted wasn't an update. That was from the first post. OP has come back several times to say that the reason they're charging this kid is because the house needs maintenance, they believe having a fourth person might overload the septic tank, etc. She said very recently that she was pushing to add additional renters this summer and use the income for deferred maintenance. Again, all of this is in updates in the thread. She called it small but special in the OP. The only update that she has posted since the OP that sounded remotely nice is that she added there is acreage. Acreage on the coast is worth something. The house doesn't sound special or nice at all.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH's family has a really special, small beach house on the coast of North Carolina. It's old, small (3 beds, 1.5 baths), on a beautiful piece of property and just something you dream of owning. It's been in his family for three generations.

This summer our college-age DS and two of his male cousins are going to live and work at the beach. They will live in the house.

There is an extremely basic 'outbuilding' on the property. Think glorified shed. It has no bathroom, running water or kitchen. It's basically a simple bunk room with lights and a window AC that we have used as overflow bedrooms during family vacations.

One of many of DS's DC friends wants to live there for the summer. My BILs signed off on it but want to charge a nominal $333 a month rent ($1000 for the summer) and limit it to one kid because they will all being using one septic tank. They also want the chosen kid to sign a basic lease to cover damages.

So, I brought this up to the chosen boy's mom- who I'm very friendly with but not close close.

I thought she was going to faint. Her reaction was one of disgust. She actually thought her son was going to live rent free at out family beach house for three months.

Today I heard she was bad mouthing me to other friends, calling me a cheap skate, etc.

Do I go ballistic and dis-invite the kid?

Really special? GMAF break.

You sound like a complete piece work. Your son must be (should be) mortified that you're trying to charge a friend he invited rent to live in a shack. I probably wouldn't have bothered sh!t talking behind your back, I would have just told you to shove it.

Good grief.

OP here. Found the scum. Sorry you can't appreciate gorgeous acreage and historic property on the coast of NC. Too bad so sad you were raised broke (and probably in a trailer.)

This is absolutely classic because it's not even your house, it's your husband's family's house. I am dying at you trying to act to the manor born over marrying someone with a 1/12th ownership interest in a 3/1.5 with an air conditioned shed.

This. From OP’s description, it’s tiny and run down. But in the vicinity of wealthy people, which is enough for OP.

Wrong. The OP described a lovely beach house that is the thing that people dream of owning. Did you even read the thread?

The only updates in the thread are that the house is poorly maintained and the septic tank is at its absolute limit with 4 occupants. The fact that it sits on acreage is the only thing she's said that sounds nice about it.

"My DH's family has a really special, small beach house on the coast of North Carolina. It's old, small (3 beds, 1.5 baths), on a beautiful piece of property and just something you dream of owning"

What part told you it was run down? The "really special" part or the "something you dream of owning" part? You stink of jealousy.

And for anybody prattling on about the septic tank you obviously don't know sh*t (pun intended) about them. They are rated on the number of bedrooms a home has and they have to perc (or slowly drain) at a certain rate. This is difficult to balance in low lying, sandy soil so it is an issue whether the house is a 5 million dollar mansion or a one room shack. Really, your ignorance is embarrassing.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH's family has a really special, small beach house on the coast of North Carolina. It's old, small (3 beds, 1.5 baths), on a beautiful piece of property and just something you dream of owning. It's been in his family for three generations.

This summer our college-age DS and two of his male cousins are going to live and work at the beach. They will live in the house.

There is an extremely basic 'outbuilding' on the property. Think glorified shed. It has no bathroom, running water or kitchen. It's basically a simple bunk room with lights and a window AC that we have used as overflow bedrooms during family vacations.

One of many of DS's DC friends wants to live there for the summer. My BILs signed off on it but want to charge a nominal $333 a month rent ($1000 for the summer) and limit it to one kid because they will all being using one septic tank. They also want the chosen kid to sign a basic lease to cover damages.

So, I brought this up to the chosen boy's mom- who I'm very friendly with but not close close.

I thought she was going to faint. Her reaction was one of disgust. She actually thought her son was going to live rent free at out family beach house for three months.

Today I heard she was bad mouthing me to other friends, calling me a cheap skate, etc.

Do I go ballistic and dis-invite the kid?

Really special? GMAF break.

You sound like a complete piece work. Your son must be (should be) mortified that you're trying to charge a friend he invited rent to live in a shack. I probably wouldn't have bothered sh!t talking behind your back, I would have just told you to shove it.

Good grief.

OP here. Found the scum. Sorry you can't appreciate gorgeous acreage and historic property on the coast of NC. Too bad so sad you were raised broke (and probably in a trailer.)

This is absolutely classic because it's not even your house, it's your husband's family's house. I am dying at you trying to act to the manor born over marrying someone with a 1/12th ownership interest in a 3/1.5 with an air conditioned shed.

This. From OP’s description, it’s tiny and run down. But in the vicinity of wealthy people, which is enough for OP.

Wrong. The OP described a lovely beach house that is the thing that people dream of owning. Did you even read the thread?

The only updates in the thread are that the house is poorly maintained and the septic tank is at its absolute limit with 4 occupants. The fact that it sits on acreage is the only thing she's said that sounds nice about it.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't get the hang up about sleeping in an AC'd shed with electricity and bunk beds. Is it really that different at the end of the night to walk to that instead of a room down the hall? All the boys will use the same bathrooms and kitchen so their experiences are identical except for the walk to their bed. What's the problem?

A shed doesn’t have isolation nor the same building standards of an inhabitable space. It’s a storage shed rugged with some wiring for an overhead lightbulb and they threw in a window unit to make it seem fancy. It’s not a tiny home. They are expecting the shed kid to pay the utilities for the entire household, and that’s not ok.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't get the hang up about sleeping in an AC'd shed with electricity and bunk beds. Is it really that different at the end of the night to walk to that instead of a room down the hall? All the boys will use the same bathrooms and kitchen so their experiences are identical except for the walk to their bed. What's the problem?

A shed doesn’t have isolation nor the same building standards of an inhabitable space. It’s a storage shed rugged with some wiring for an overhead lightbulb and they threw in a window unit to make it seem fancy. It’s not a tiny home. They are expecting the shed kid to pay the utilities for the entire household, and that’s not ok.

Anonymous wrote:I don't get the hang up about sleeping in an AC'd shed with electricity and bunk beds. Is it really that different at the end of the night to walk to that instead of a room down the hall? All the boys will use the same bathrooms and kitchen so their experiences are identical except for the walk to their bed. What's the problem?

Anonymous wrote:Three college aged boys are going to live for free for the summer and your son invited a friend to join them. Of course the implication is that it's free.

Also calling $333/month for a glorified shed with no running water or kitchen "nominal rent" is hilarious. That's highway robbery.

Anonymous wrote:My kids always pay their way. Some of their friend's parents own beach houses and my kids pay, even when not asked, whatever their share would be if they had rented it from a stranger.

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OP here.

So many angry people. Maybe you wouldn't be so angry if you had a beach house?

Anyway, update.

First kids mom has come grovelling back asking over the course of three emails if her kid could please join the beach house. She apologized profusely and claimed she'd been emotional when she sent the email. Answer was "Too bad, so sad"

Three other boys have since come forward asking if they could rent the other bunks in the bunk house and they got into a bidding war- offering $2000 each. DH and BILs said no because of the septic system. I thought they were foolish because for 7k you could almost replace the system which is nearing its end of life anyway.

So- here's the takeaway if you're a mom. Keep your gossipy mouth shut and play nice. Because it will cost your kid socially big time.

This is so funny. The BILs are being silly, I'd certainly take the additional kids and replace the septic system, because this house will be a party house whether or not 2 extra boys are living there over the summer.

My family has a generational lake cottage and if one of the in-laws started wheeling and dealing, angling with the blood relatives to rent it out to college kids so we could use their money to replace the septic, that in-law would be positioning herself within the family as a rather opportunistic individual.