Anonymous
Post 09/03/2019 16:11     Subject: The St James FC Virginia vs Richmond United Scrimmages

Anonymous wrote:Not the PP, but at FCV's senior day, the announcer read off each player's favorite quote from a coach and almost all of them were insulting (eg, "that's why you're going to WV, you can't count to 2" or "my grandmother runs faster than you and she's dead") It's an accepted part of the culture at FCV. And obviously there are many parents willing to subject their kids to that kind of abuse because they think the benefits of being part of a winning program are worth it.


I was there for that and it was an embarrassment- for the club, for the girls, for the parents, for the opposing team.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2019 15:32     Subject: The St James FC Virginia vs Richmond United Scrimmages

Anonymous wrote:Spring 2019
2004 age group
FCV vs Spirit VA DA
Between minute marks 25 -35
Spirit DA makes several penetrating attacks into FCVs defensive third.

The backline was being compromised by a perceived inferior team. That's what it was all about.

#ego





Oh, so a similar thing happened in another game?
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2019 15:21     Subject: The St James FC Virginia vs Richmond United Scrimmages

Spring 2019
2004 age group
FCV vs Spirit VA DA
Between minute marks 25 -35
Spirit DA makes several penetrating attacks into FCVs defensive third.

The backline was being compromised by a perceived inferior team. That's what it was all about.

#ego



Anonymous
Post 09/03/2019 15:21     Subject: Re:The St James FC Virginia vs Richmond United Scrimmages

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Take your snowflake to another team. Player can disappoint Coaches. Coaches can say they are disappointed. Big deal.

Your child will live - even with negative criticism thrust upon her occasionally.


#family



#delusional
#unrealisticexpectations
#dramastarter
#gossip


Perhaps you should really listen to what the coaches actually say at practice to get a real feel. But then again you would have to be allowed within earshot of the field to actually know what goes on at practice.



More things that are not true. Obviously someone out to slander the club. Have your kid keep working. Soccer is a long journey. She may make the team next year.



Got it, to scared to ask for yourself.

Answer this though, if intimidation isn't a method of coercion or motivation then why are grown adults to afraid to ask a coach a question? A coach that they are paying over 3K to the club as a customer? That is how they treat you, a paying customer, imagine how they treat kids.


I'm not sure where you got where I am afraid. I'd happily ask a coach as they are very open and easy to talk with.

But in the end, I just don't care. My kid tells me what is said. I pay for coaches, not hugs.

Keep on trying out Dad. Keep on keepin on!


So, if the coach called your daughter an embarrassment at halftime in front of her team and the other team could also hear it you are ok with it.


Do you really think anyone is going to leave FCV because of this or any other comment that has not already done so?


Nope, not at all. It is the culture of the club and FOMO and the myth of being elite is what keeps the behavior ingrained. Parents are afraid that FCV is their only ticket to D1 and as long as the team is playing well then it is ok to overlook some name calling of kids.

Anonymous
Post 09/03/2019 15:15     Subject: Re:The St James FC Virginia vs Richmond United Scrimmages

Anonymous wrote:Take your snowflake to another team. Player can disappoint Coaches. Coaches can say they are disappointed. Big deal.

Your child will live - even with negative criticism thrust upon her occasionally.


And the above post encapsulates why folks call FCV Fight Club Virginia and mocks it for having toxic environment.

If parents don't like the idea of a kid being called an embarrassment well that makes them and their kids snowflakes.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2019 15:13     Subject: Re:The St James FC Virginia vs Richmond United Scrimmages

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Take your snowflake to another team. Player can disappoint Coaches. Coaches can say they are disappointed. Big deal.

Your child will live - even with negative criticism thrust upon her occasionally.


#family



#delusional
#unrealisticexpectations
#dramastarter
#gossip


Perhaps you should really listen to what the coaches actually say at practice to get a real feel. But then again you would have to be allowed within earshot of the field to actually know what goes on at practice.



More things that are not true. Obviously someone out to slander the club. Have your kid keep working. Soccer is a long journey. She may make the team next year.



Got it, to scared to ask for yourself.

Answer this though, if intimidation isn't a method of coercion or motivation then why are grown adults to afraid to ask a coach a question? A coach that they are paying over 3K to the club as a customer? That is how they treat you, a paying customer, imagine how they treat kids.


I'm not sure where you got where I am afraid. I'd happily ask a coach as they are very open and easy to talk with.

But in the end, I just don't care. My kid tells me what is said. I pay for coaches, not hugs.

Keep on trying out Dad. Keep on keepin on!


So, if the coach called your daughter an embarrassment at halftime in front of her team and the other team could also hear it you are ok with it.


Do you really think anyone is going to leave FCV because of this or any other comment that has not already done so?
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2019 14:51     Subject: Re:The St James FC Virginia vs Richmond United Scrimmages

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is not a rumor and it's not slander. Best way to handle something like this getting out is just to say it happened and we have worked past it. Maybe they can't say that because it's just how business is done.


Says the anonymous poster without evidence.

More slander and just another way to keep it going.


Just go and ask the coach yourself.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2019 14:48     Subject: Re:The St James FC Virginia vs Richmond United Scrimmages

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Take your snowflake to another team. Player can disappoint Coaches. Coaches can say they are disappointed. Big deal.

Your child will live - even with negative criticism thrust upon her occasionally.


#family



#delusional
#unrealisticexpectations
#dramastarter
#gossip


Perhaps you should really listen to what the coaches actually say at practice to get a real feel. But then again you would have to be allowed within earshot of the field to actually know what goes on at practice.



More things that are not true. Obviously someone out to slander the club. Have your kid keep working. Soccer is a long journey. She may make the team next year.



Got it, to scared to ask for yourself.

Answer this though, if intimidation isn't a method of coercion or motivation then why are grown adults to afraid to ask a coach a question? A coach that they are paying over 3K to the club as a customer? That is how they treat you, a paying customer, imagine how they treat kids.


I'm not sure where you got where I am afraid. I'd happily ask a coach as they are very open and easy to talk with.

But in the end, I just don't care. My kid tells me what is said. I pay for coaches, not hugs.

Keep on trying out Dad. Keep on keepin on!


So, if the coach called your daughter an embarrassment at halftime in front of her team and the other team could also hear it you are ok with it.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2019 14:47     Subject: Re:The St James FC Virginia vs Richmond United Scrimmages

Anonymous wrote:This is not a rumor and it's not slander. Best way to handle something like this getting out is just to say it happened and we have worked past it. Maybe they can't say that because it's just how business is done.


Says the anonymous poster without evidence.

More slander and just another way to keep it going.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2019 14:46     Subject: Re:The St James FC Virginia vs Richmond United Scrimmages

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Take your snowflake to another team. Player can disappoint Coaches. Coaches can say they are disappointed. Big deal.

Your child will live - even with negative criticism thrust upon her occasionally.


#family



#delusional
#unrealisticexpectations
#dramastarter
#gossip


Perhaps you should really listen to what the coaches actually say at practice to get a real feel. But then again you would have to be allowed within earshot of the field to actually know what goes on at practice.



More things that are not true. Obviously someone out to slander the club. Have your kid keep working. Soccer is a long journey. She may make the team next year.



Got it, to scared to ask for yourself.

Answer this though, if intimidation isn't a method of coercion or motivation then why are grown adults to afraid to ask a coach a question? A coach that they are paying over 3K to the club as a customer? That is how they treat you, a paying customer, imagine how they treat kids.


I'm not sure where you got where I am afraid. I'd happily ask a coach as they are very open and easy to talk with.

But in the end, I just don't care. My kid tells me what is said. I pay for coaches, not hugs.

Keep on trying out Dad. Keep on keepin on!
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2019 14:31     Subject: Re:The St James FC Virginia vs Richmond United Scrimmages

This is not a rumor and it's not slander. Best way to handle something like this getting out is just to say it happened and we have worked past it. Maybe they can't say that because it's just how business is done.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2019 14:26     Subject: Re:The St James FC Virginia vs Richmond United Scrimmages

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Take your snowflake to another team. Player can disappoint Coaches. Coaches can say they are disappointed. Big deal.

Your child will live - even with negative criticism thrust upon her occasionally.


#family



#delusional
#unrealisticexpectations
#dramastarter
#gossip


Perhaps you should really listen to what the coaches actually say at practice to get a real feel. But then again you would have to be allowed within earshot of the field to actually know what goes on at practice.



More things that are not true. Obviously someone out to slander the club. Have your kid keep working. Soccer is a long journey. She may make the team next year.



Got it, to scared to ask for yourself.

Answer this though, if intimidation isn't a method of coercion or motivation then why are grown adults to afraid to ask a coach a question? A coach that they are paying over 3K to the club as a customer? That is how they treat you, a paying customer, imagine how they treat kids.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2019 14:20     Subject: Re:The St James FC Virginia vs Richmond United Scrimmages

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Take your snowflake to another team. Player can disappoint Coaches. Coaches can say they are disappointed. Big deal.

Your child will live - even with negative criticism thrust upon her occasionally.


#family



#delusional
#unrealisticexpectations
#dramastarter
#gossip


Perhaps you should really listen to what the coaches actually say at practice to get a real feel. But then again you would have to be allowed within earshot of the field to actually know what goes on at practice.



More things that are not true. Obviously someone out to slander the club. Have your kid keep working. Soccer is a long journey. She may make the team next year.

Anonymous
Post 09/03/2019 14:16     Subject: Re:The St James FC Virginia vs Richmond United Scrimmages

#thefutureisfcv
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2019 13:59     Subject: The St James FC Virginia vs Richmond United Scrimmages

#embarrassmenttotheDA