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Anonymous wrote:OP, thank you for taking the time to post this Q&A, it has been extremely informative. I'm wondering what advice would you give to the parents of a kid who has extremely strong academic credentials, but does not show a demonstrated passion? My daughter is in 7th grade, and from how she is doing so far, I would expect she would be near valedictorian and have very high SAT scores. However, she is interested in everything. She is equally strong in STEM as she is in humanities/social sciences. When asked what she wants to do as a career, she'll say she doesn't know, so many things are interesting to her. Her activities are all over the place - soccer, theater, art, computers. I can easily see where she will be the dreaded "well-rounded" applicant who doesn't stand out to admission offers. And we can't be comforted by the notion that she will be accepted to a strong school somewhere as long as she casts her net wide enough. Our budget only allows for instate colleges. So basically if she doesn't get into the two top schools, she will have to settle for a school that is academically far beneath what she theoretically "should" be able to attend. From a purely strategic perspective, should we try to encourage her to "specialize" in a certain area, so she will stand a greater chance of standing out to the admission officers?
My honest advice for you is to to close the college and university forum and not open it again until your DD is midway through freshman year. Bye.
Says the person whose budget probably doesn't limit them to only in state publics.
Or says the person who knows
many graduates of VA universities other than UVA and W&M who are thriving. The Harvard PhD economist in the office next to mine got his undergrad degree at JMU. My neighbor's kid who just graduated from UVA law got her undergrad degree from Mary Washington. Our successful business owner friend went to GMU. I don't think all will be lost if PP's DD doesn't get in to UVA and had to "squander" her talents at a lesser state school.
Of course it's possible to thrive if one does not attend a top college. But seriously, if college status didn't matter at all, why would anyone even care? Why do so many families strain their budgets to pay for elite colleges instead of choosing from the plethora of schools that are more affordable? Obviously, all else being equal most kids would prefer to attend the highest ranking school they are capable of getting in to. Is it really so unreasonable that the parents of a high achieving kid, are dismayed to know that there is a very good chance that their child might attend Average State U, because of finances that extremely limit their options?
Yes it is so unreasonable. Colleges are not chosen based on the " highest ranking school they are capable of getting in to". People who do that likely do the same with buying a car or house, without regard to their needs and requirements. A university rank is a composite, just like the DOW jones or the S&P500. You should not care about the rank/composite. What you should care about is the individual program or school that your child is interested in at the university. That is where education occurs. For example, if you are interested in nursing, it matters not to your kids future how the architecture school is doing. The thought that "average" colleges cannot educate or do not turn out mullionaires is ludicrous. When I went to law school, I saw no correlation between the elite prep school or the elite undergrad and the lawyers performance in school and their eventual performance in life. They all had a shot at being successful and it was more a personal trait than a cause of the high school or undergrad. Moreover, one must understand that if/when a high school or undergrad turns out a lot of winners, it is not just because of them--- they preselected for winners, people who already had the personal traits of being winners and who could self-educate and self-direct so that the institution's success with the student is closer to guaranteed. Lastly, any 7th grade mom who is already predicting valedictorian already has a self-directed child and shouldn't care about average university. PP, you have terribly faulty logic thinking that because most people do it, it must be right-- that thinking pattern will keep you 'average', not your university choice.