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Anonymous wrote:US scouts have had the chance to see all players that Arlington sent and they think this player is the best fit for what they're looking for. Doesn't mean the other player are not good or that the coaches are favoring her. No need for negativity, just be happy our area is getting more players noticed since the Northeast was quite underrepresented in this fall's 2011 USYNT Camp roster.

Probably because the right talented players have not gotten the opportunities and they keep sending the same players over and over again.

Arlington has had 3 coaches over the past 3 years. When different coaches are identifying the same group/player as their strongest, then it seems like the “club” has spoken.
Not saying the non selected players aren’t really good. Just on that team they are rated lower than others.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!

That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)

Honest question. How does the club only focus on developing a few players? Do they not have the players participate in the same drills?

There are many ways that players are favored even during drills. Coaches choose which players are neutrals, who rotates where, and who gets most reps in drills. When there is a demonstration which players are chosen to do it? Which players are given encouraging positive feedback vs which are always negative. We’ve all seen coaches who are constantly calling out bad plays by some players but never when the bad play is from their favorites. The rest of the team sees it and grows to resent it.

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I’m at a u13 GA Club and this is already becoming apparent. 2nd year with club, same coach…. This kind of thing develops a few players over the other players. These small coaching biases absolutely add up over time. Seen this exact thing first hand. Without a doubt, the coach has already picked 3 players to nominate for next year and is developing them more now in multiple small ways… play the neutral, used repeatedly for examples, lots of praise, allowed them to re-try dribbling attempts in ‘scrimmages’, picked to guest play up more, invited to skills clinics, paying for lots of private training, coaches giving obviously more feedback before/ after practice. All these things add up.

Most parents have stopped watching practice, but it’s noticeable if you do watch and pay attention.

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!

That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)

Most players are genuinely supportive of one another. Unfortunately, it’s often the parents who unintentionally harm team morale. It's important to understand that when selections are made, it's not about saying one child isn’t talented—it’s often that another child was simply the better fit at that moment. These decisions are rarely easy for coaches, and most take them very seriously.

When parents speak negatively, it can influence their children, who then bring that energy into the team environment. If a player continues to be selected despite this, the situation becomes difficult to manage and often beyond the coach’s control. It’s essential to trust the process and remember that we’re all here to support every child’s development—not just our own.

The parents on the ARLs 2011 may be part of the problem, but the club continuing to send the same player over and over again is bound to cause issues on a powerhouse team with a number of deserving players. Particularly one who now sees herself as better than the rest.

I’m pretty close to this situation. PP is right. The resentment and frustration continue to grow within the team. Parents are worried about favoritism in college recruiting right around the corner.

It could be nice either way the coaches and club could provide some feedback.

Sounds like you are talking about BP.

Not only BP. Sounds like this phenomenon is in every club LOL.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!

That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)

Honest question. How does the club only focus on developing a few players? Do they not have the players participate in the same drills?

There are many ways that players are favored even during drills. Coaches choose which players are neutrals, who rotates where, and who gets most reps in drills. When there is a demonstration which players are chosen to do it? Which players are given encouraging positive feedback vs which are always negative. We’ve all seen coaches who are constantly calling out bad plays by some players but never when the bad play is from their favorites. The rest of the team sees it and grows to resent it.

100% true. This is happening in our club where the favorites will never get called out for bad plays. You can literally make a 10 minutes reel of These bad plays easily. Yet the coach is 🤐🤐. Then any other player makes one bad play and hell breaks loose. Makes you wonder if this is what soccer is about.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!

That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)

Honest question. How does the club only focus on developing a few players? Do they not have the players participate in the same drills?

There are many ways that players are favored even during drills. Coaches choose which players are neutrals, who rotates where, and who gets most reps in drills. When there is a demonstration which players are chosen to do it? Which players are given encouraging positive feedback vs which are always negative. We’ve all seen coaches who are constantly calling out bad plays by some players but never when the bad play is from their favorites. The rest of the team sees it and grows to resent it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:US scouts have had the chance to see all players that Arlington sent and they think this player is the best fit for what they're looking for. Doesn't mean the other player are not good or that the coaches are favoring her. No need for negativity, just be happy our area is getting more players noticed since the Northeast was quite underrepresented in this fall's 2011 USYNT Camp roster.

Probably because the right talented players have not gotten the opportunities and they keep sending the same players over and over again.

Anonymous wrote:It’s a numbers game also; positionally she fits a need higher in the order of the rest. US soccer isn’t going to be force fed the same player this deep into the pool and scouting.

Also why would these parents be worried about college recruiting? They have USYNT experience. The club isn’t going to put all their resources into one player. That doesn’t remotely benefit the program.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!

That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)

Honest question. How does the club only focus on developing a few players? Do they not have the players participate in the same drills?

There are many ways that players are favored even during drills. Coaches choose which players are neutrals, who rotates where, and who gets most reps in drills. When there is a demonstration which players are chosen to do it? Which players are given encouraging positive feedback vs which are always negative. We’ve all seen coaches who are constantly calling out bad plays by some players but never when the bad play is from their favorites. The rest of the team sees it and grows to resent it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!

That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)

Most players are genuinely supportive of one another. Unfortunately, it’s often the parents who unintentionally harm team morale. It's important to understand that when selections are made, it's not about saying one child isn’t talented—it’s often that another child was simply the better fit at that moment. These decisions are rarely easy for coaches, and most take them very seriously.

When parents speak negatively, it can influence their children, who then bring that energy into the team environment. If a player continues to be selected despite this, the situation becomes difficult to manage and often beyond the coach’s control. It’s essential to trust the process and remember that we’re all here to support every child’s development—not just our own.

The parents on the ARLs 2011 may be part of the problem, but the club continuing to send the same player over and over again is bound to cause issues on a powerhouse team with a number of deserving players. Particularly one who now sees herself as better than the rest.

I’m pretty close to this situation. PP is right. The resentment and frustration continue to grow within the team. Parents are worried about favoritism in college recruiting right around the corner.

It could be nice either way the coaches and club could provide some feedback.

Sounds like you are talking about BP.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!

That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)

Honest question. How does the club only focus on developing a few players? Do they not have the players participate in the same drills?

There are many ways that players are favored even during drills. Coaches choose which players are neutrals, who rotates where, and who gets most reps in drills. When there is a demonstration which players are chosen to do it? Which players are given encouraging positive feedback vs which are always negative. We’ve all seen coaches who are constantly calling out bad plays by some players but never when the bad play is from their favorites. The rest of the team sees it and grows to resent it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!

That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)

Honest question. How does the club only focus on developing a few players? Do they not have the players participate in the same drills?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!

That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why the same kid got invited again and again, Those same face get invited for everything!

That sucks for the morale of the team. What events were they selected for?

(It is a pet peeve when the Coach or Club, concentrates on developing just a few players at the expense of the rest of the players and keeps re-selecting the same players for event. Parents notice right away and it is irritating. It kills morale. A lot of people feel like the rest of the team is just the practice squad for the chosen players.)

Most players are genuinely supportive of one another. Unfortunately, it’s often the parents who unintentionally harm team morale. It's important to understand that when selections are made, it's not about saying one child isn’t talented—it’s often that another child was simply the better fit at that moment. These decisions are rarely easy for coaches, and most take them very seriously.

When parents speak negatively, it can influence their children, who then bring that energy into the team environment. If a player continues to be selected despite this, the situation becomes difficult to manage and often beyond the coach’s control. It’s essential to trust the process and remember that we’re all here to support every child’s development—not just our own.

The parents on the ARLs 2011 may be part of the problem, but the club continuing to send the same player over and over again is bound to cause issues on a powerhouse team with a number of deserving players. Particularly one who now sees herself as better than the rest.

I’m pretty close to this situation. PP is right. The resentment and frustration continue to grow within the team. Parents are worried about favoritism in college recruiting right around the corner.

It could be nice either way the coaches and club could provide some feedback.

Anonymous wrote:US scouts have had the chance to see all players that Arlington sent and they think this player is the best fit for what they're looking for. Doesn't mean the other player are not good or that the coaches are favoring her. No need for negativity, just be happy our area is getting more players noticed since the Northeast was quite underrepresented in this fall's 2011 USYNT Camp roster.