Anonymous
Post 05/24/2025 13:13     Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:What does BV mean?


Bacterial vaginosis
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2025 11:49     Subject: Test results came back positive
What does BV mean?
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2025 11:06     Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is the std


Different poster. Why does it matter?


NP here,

There are STD's that can be dormant for long periods of time, and others where symptoms show up immediately. There are also STD's that can only be passed through sex, and others that can be transmitted other ways. So, knowing whether this STD means that he definitely had an affair, or that he might have had an affair, would make a difference in OP's response.


This. And, honestly, BV is different from HIV.


Does bv mean spouse had recent affair?
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2025 09:46     Subject: Test results came back positive
Just to let you know I tested positive for that when I was pregnant. Knew it was a mistake since neither of us had cheated. Tested again and it was negative. Never understood why. I read somewhere that this happpened to someone else so Re-test!! before jumping to conclusions.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2025 09:40     Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:True story here. My on-again off-again girlfriend and I were together for months. Neither of us had any symptoms. We broke up. I got tested before dating again. Negative results.

Then I had sex with other women.

A few months later I got back together with ex gf. A week later, she had symptoms (very painful). She got tested. She was positive for gonorrhea. She said she had no sex of any kind with anyone while we were broken up. I believe her.

We both assumed assumed I gave it to her. Then I tested negative.

So either she was a false positive (with a bad UTI) or I was a false negative (with no symptoms).

False results really happen!


You gave it to her. You cleared it first. This happens. Vaginal tissue is a better incubator for bacteria. Why you guys don't wear condoms is baffling. You know STDs run in groups/pairs. That includes HIV.


I'm the prior poster with an ex who thought I gave her ghonorea. I ended up reaching out to the other women I slept with while I was broken up with the woman who tested positive. They told me they also tested negative. So I still think the one positive test was a false positive.

I'm not saying OP's husband didn't cheat, but sometimes there are false positives (and negatives).
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 22:30     Subject: Re:Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here- already talked with my doctor. Talking to another doctor later this week. Only real probability was a recent partner. I don't know why the type of std matters.

It matters because HPV can be in your system for years and then reactivate.


The first outbreak is always the most noticeable. If OP noticed enough symptoms to get tested, it is a primary infection. That’s how viruses work.


HPV is not HSV. there’s no outbreak of HPV. 🙄
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 22:26     Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:OP here-:maybe this will suffice. I did a full std panel when I was pregnant 6 yrs ago


That’s irrelevant. Some STDs can lie dormant for even 20 years like HPV. And herpes.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 22:25     Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is the std


Different poster. Why does it matter?


Of course it matters what the STD is because many of them can lie dormant for many years and you don’t even know where you got it from. It’s not necessarily always that somebody cheated.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 21:14     Subject: Test results came back positive
I had BV, gardnerella. It was nonsexually transmitted. I was in cancervtreatment and we were not doing anything for quite a while before. Never got it since.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 21:03     Subject: Re:Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:OP here- already talked with my doctor. Talking to another doctor later this week. Only real probability was a recent partner. I don't know why the type of std matters.


Seriously??
There are various non-sexual methods to getting various STDs, so if you won't even tell what it is, then this is simply a troll thread.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2025 20:59     Subject: Test results came back positive
OP, can you give an update? I'm finding myself in this exact situation. My husband of 7 years swore on our 16 month old son's life that he would never hurt me like that. But I just can't think of any other logical explanation. I am still a new mother and I have always trusted my husband wholeheartedly. I was having symptoms, green discharge, and tested positive for BV and trichamonos. I was negative last year for my pap and negative while pregnant. Husband thinks I will be throwing away out marriage over a false positive. He is going to get tested next week so we shall see.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2024 20:15     Subject: Test results came back positive
It was not HPV or Herpes or anything that lies dormant. Can we drop those sidethreads? DH was cheating and now he's lying.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2024 20:12     Subject: Test results came back positive
OP, I'm thinking of you. I've been through the kind of gaslighting your DH is doing now. It's torture. I wish you peace and certainty. You deserve both.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2024 11:04     Subject: Test results came back positive
Anonymous wrote:HPV is everywhere. Can't avoid it. That's why women get Pap smears and why the HPV vaccine exists. One can be exposed to HPV if one has 1 sexual partner or if one has hundreds. Lots of HPV strains are just in the environment, and not necessarily spread via sexual contact. Geez. Can't live in a bubble.

Wut?
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2024 11:00     Subject: Test results came back positive
1-3% false positives means that there are going to be some guys with girlfriends and wives who test positive but didn't have the sexually transmitted disease. Obviously, 97-99% of the time, the test came back positive because she really was infected, but OP might be in the 1-3% and her husband could be telling the truth.

Think of it this way. If 1000 different married women wrote in to DCUM with this story, and all of them kicked out their husbands for their obvious cheating, 10-30 of them would have kicked out a guy who didn't actuall infect them.