Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 23:40     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022
Anonymous wrote:DH and I made a big, lovely dinner. We spent hundreds on groceries.

ILs are now in the kitchen dividing it all up to take home. Whatever, I’m letting DH handle his people, or not. But I did take over the turkey distribution because I want some to freeze for tetrazzini.

In my family, no one would dream of taking leftovers unless they were offered. It is so freaking rude.


Ugh. So incredibly tacky.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 23:40     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022
Well we just wrapped a couple of hours ago. My mother left mad because I turned off the gas fireplace before dinner (it was almost 80 degrees in the house). She wouldn’t even come to to the table. She ate by the fireplace. My MIL is mad because we do secret Santa and she wants to give everyone a gift. My husband tried to explain that we do it to take the burden off of people having to buy gifts for 10+ people and take the focus off gift giving. She wasn’t buying it. I had two octogenarians throwing temper tantrums.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 23:37     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022
Anonymous wrote:My kids love my mac and cheese so I made it for Christmas Eve. I accidentally made it with ground ginger instead of ground mustard.

It was not good.


My DH made cinnamon rolls last night and confused the California dried garlic powder with the cinnamon. Sugary garlic rolls for breakfast, anyone?
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 23:34     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DH and I made a big, lovely dinner. We spent hundreds on groceries.

ILs are now in the kitchen dividing it all up to take home. Whatever, I’m letting DH handle his people, or not. But I did take over the turkey distribution because I want some to freeze for tetrazzini.

In my family, no one would dream of taking leftovers unless they were offered. It is so freaking rude.


Yeah, my petty-self would have containers ready for those leftovers as soon as they leave the table and before dessert is served. I’d have a secret cooler in the garage or porch to store that. In-laws would come into the kitchen to find a bunch of dirty, empty serving dishes.


+1
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 23:22     Subject: Re:Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022
Anonymous wrote:I made Xmas breakfast for the family, and a full Xmas dinner.
Not a thank you from dh.
Not a “yum, that was good”
Not an offer to clean a plate or wipe a table.
I’m not saying I need a medal, but I feel like the help.
Hell, a paid chef would’ve probably gotten a thank you and compliments.
It makes me feel very sad to feel so unseen and unappreciated by my spouse.



This is the petty thread. You’ve mistaken for the martyr thread. Use your words: “I worked really hard at this. I’d appreciate a thank you. Cleaning the table and dishes would go a long way towards showing that. I’ll be upstairs reading.”
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 23:17     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022
Anonymous wrote:DH and I made a big, lovely dinner. We spent hundreds on groceries.

ILs are now in the kitchen dividing it all up to take home. Whatever, I’m letting DH handle his people, or not. But I did take over the turkey distribution because I want some to freeze for tetrazzini.

In my family, no one would dream of taking leftovers unless they were offered. It is so freaking rude.


Our family, leftovers are given to guests to take. Heck, I also buy take out containers by the hundreds because we make a lot of food and want people to take it.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 23:06     Subject: Re:Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022
In law gave DD a 6 month supply of candy (with food dye of course). DD didn't eat Christmas dinner (gee, I wonder why?), throws candy wrappers on floor. I want to throw candy in trash, otherwise it will get eaten in a week. Sick of people giving my kids garbage. Why do they think this is a good gift? Just because a child asks for something doesn't mean you should give it.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 22:49     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022
Anonymous wrote:Dying at the food vents. My own aunt brought a third of a Domino's pizza, frozen God knows how long ago. Container of cottage cheese that is nearly empty. Half sleeve of saltine crackers. Tiny amount of milk " for my coffee". Several hard boiled eggs. We would be happy to provide this stuff!!


Leftover pizza that she froze? What the heck?
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 22:41     Subject: Re:Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022
I made Xmas breakfast for the family, and a full Xmas dinner.
Not a thank you from dh.
Not a “yum, that was good”
Not an offer to clean a plate or wipe a table.
I’m not saying I need a medal, but I feel like the help.
Hell, a paid chef would’ve probably gotten a thank you and compliments.
It makes me feel very sad to feel so unseen and unappreciated by my spouse.

Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 22:21     Subject: Re:Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We drove 12 hours to my parents house for Christmas. Our oldest dd will not be spending Christmas with us because she is doing an international trip with her college. But awesome dd that she is mailed gifts to my parents house. She addressed them to me. We have done this for 20 years so that we could save space in the car. My parents know not to open these packages and never have. Until this year. This year my mom opened the boxes. Then she calls to let me know she did so and apologized for ruining the suprise because she saw the x, y and z we got her for Christmas. I told her none of the gifts were for her. She argued with me and claims they are obviously for her. Who else could they be for!! ME. They were for me. From my daughter. Addressed to ME! We have gifts for her. Lots of them. It is going to be a long 5 days.


What a lovely daughter you raised!


OP with the great daughter here. Thank you! She is great. It was a comical morning opening gifts. Many of them had the names wrong on the tags that my mom wrapped. So it was a bit like a game. DS1 opens a gift that he has zero use for, looks around the room and DS3 makes eye contact and does hand gestures that he likes it. So it is quietly passed over. DS2 opens a gift that is obviously for his dad.
Unfortunately, I think a pp is correct and grandma needs a cognitive evaluation.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 22:11     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022
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Anonymous wrote:I’m not spending the holidays this year with my large, very loud, and very argumentative family (that I love but drive me crazy) this year due to DH work conflicts, and was really looking forward to a nice chill nuclear family Christmas with my DH and teens but all my siblings are calling and texting me incessantly to share THEIR petty vents about the other siblings, their spouses, and our parents. So I’m getting second hand drama from 2000 miles away when all I want to do is watch tv and drink cocoa in peace.


I don’t know if your phone works the same way mine does, but I have to press the green button to talk to people who call. Like if I’m in the middle of my Law & Order marathon of shows that I can practically recite by heart, I just don’t hit that button. Then I call back later, if I want. Try it. See if it works on your phone that way.


This is peak snark. Love it. PP with the uncreative advice, "stay home" this is how it's done.


Nope. Predictable, not creative, not funny. Welcome to the Everybody Loves Raymond fan club.


You’ve been outvoted every time. It’s funny and pure DCUM snark. Go play with your electric mixer that your kids bought you and have a totes awesome holiday. 😘


Nope. It was stupid and to try-hard. But the simple people “LOL”ed.

not PP


*too


Nice that you corrected yourself, but *we’re* “simple.”
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 22:05     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022
Anonymous wrote:We were told we were eating at 3 PM. its 5:15 and we haven’t eaten. There are snacks, but I’m as hungry as a bear.

Don’t tell me to go to a hotel. Lol


Same here, PP. Was told by my MIL we were eating at 1. DH, the kids and I slept in, opened stockings with just the 4 of us (stockings are part of ny MIL's traditions but are very much part of mine), and joined MIL and her husband around 10. I kinda sorta am doing intermittent fasting, and we ate dinner late the night before, so I figured I'd be hungry by 1 but I should just wait it out. It was after 3:30 before we sat down to eat, and, yes, I could have found a snack, but I kept being given the impression that we were almost ready to eat.

My kids ended up with only two meals today and were so gracious about it. Usually my younger kid is complaining constantly about being hungry. I ended up with one meal and am now starving at 10 pm.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 21:50     Subject: Re:Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022
My mom, who always makes a big deal about missing our kids, wishing she was with us for the holidays, etc, completely forgot to send them anything for Christmas. I texted her this morning to see if I’d missed a package or something and you could basically read the “oh shit” in the silence before her response.
This was after she insisted the kids give her specific requests about a month ago.

That woman is nothing if not unreliable in a completely flaky and lame way.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 21:10     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022
Anonymous wrote:My in laws insist every year on using 40 year old stretched out and threadbare Star Wars and Sesame Street sheets on the 24” tall air mattresses they bought for our kids and they always end up all bunched up by morning. We’ve tried buying them new sheets before we arrive and they always return them before we arrive. Last year we bought and pre-washed two sets of new sheets made for deep mattresses and brought them with us in a checked bag. We made the beds ourselves before my father in law had a chance to do it himself so they had to keep the sheets.

This year? The beds were pre-made with the Star Wars and Sesame Street sheets and the new sheets are nowhere to be found. WTAF???


OMG
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 21:06     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I’m not spending the holidays this year with my large, very loud, and very argumentative family (that I love but drive me crazy) this year due to DH work conflicts, and was really looking forward to a nice chill nuclear family Christmas with my DH and teens but all my siblings are calling and texting me incessantly to share THEIR petty vents about the other siblings, their spouses, and our parents. So I’m getting second hand drama from 2000 miles away when all I want to do is watch tv and drink cocoa in peace.


I don’t know if your phone works the same way mine does, but I have to press the green button to talk to people who call. Like if I’m in the middle of my Law & Order marathon of shows that I can practically recite by heart, I just don’t hit that button. Then I call back later, if I want. Try it. See if it works on your phone that way.


This is peak snark. Love it. PP with the uncreative advice, "stay home" this is how it's done.


Nope. Predictable, not creative, not funny. Welcome to the Everybody Loves Raymond fan club.


You’ve been outvoted every time. It’s funny and pure DCUM snark. Go play with your electric mixer that your kids bought you and have a totes awesome holiday. 😘


Nope. It was stupid and to try-hard. But the simple people “LOL”ed.

not PP


*too