Anonymous wrote:marist felt too homogeneous and she didn't like the housing system there

If your kid is considering this school PLEASE read about Priority Points system for upperclassman housing: https://www.marist.edu/student-life/campus/housing/faqs/priority-points

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Anonymous wrote:Lawrence because it was too remote and Clark because it was too “gritty.”
For second kid, Chicago and Northwestern because it was FREEZING the day we toured, Hopkins because it was too STEM/pre-med focused, Dartmouth and Amherst because, well, he didn’t really articulate. Then COVID shut all the touring down and he had to fly blind. Maybe a good thing given how easily turned off he was being.

You were wise, though, to tour Chicago and NU in the winter. If possible (pandemic aside) students should visit schools not just when it's pretty outside! That was my mom's thinking. We are from the south and when I wanted to apply to NU she said we would visit it in winter because I should see how the university handled snow etc. When we visited there was black snow everywhere from being plowed and compacted, and it was cold. I loved the school and went there, but was so grateful we visited at the worst point of the year, in weather terms. I knew what I was getting into. If your son was truly revulsed by the cold, he would not be happy at Chicago or NU, believe me, so that was a gut reaction on his part that was worth listening to!

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Anonymous wrote:STEM major.
No SLACs
No Florida and Texas (we had loved Rice. Loved it but alas can't send my only POC son into the state where deplorables live)
No majorly GOP and unvaccinated areas

Full pay student.

We're full pay, too, and we're running away from schools in red states. My kids know that a lot of people tend to settle in the region that their school is. They don't want to go to school in Texas or Florida or Arizona or the South, because they feel like they might get stuck there after graduation.

Anonymous wrote:STEM major.
No SLACs
No Florida and Texas (we had loved Rice. Loved it but alas can't send my only POC son into the state where deplorables live)
No majorly GOP and unvaccinated areas

Full pay student.

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I've got two straight white boys in NoVA public schools and this is not the case. Kids do debate in class and have differing opinions on things of course. But in my experience, what is more the case is that there are increasing social media accounts that are "grooming" nerdy young white boys to see the world this way (my kids have told me about it and have even shown me sample humor/gaming that drew them in initially and then started introducing more alt-right, white male grievance kind of content). If I were PP I would take a look, bc it can lead to some dark places (unless you're just trying to "stir the grievance pot" too.

This is interesting and scary. Thank you for sharing. I guess it's how those extremist groups recruit - convince these kids that they are being targeted and encourage them to find support in the group? I had no idea gaming was a tool in that.

I'm one of the people who said her son feels that way. I'm very aware of the online grooming and how scary it is. I have looked into it a TON and that's not the issue here. My son is actually quite meek and quiet, and the way he feels doesn't make him angry. It just makes him want to keep his head down and not express strong opinions about things.

Middle school girls have been targeted by far left groups into thinking gender dysmorphia is common and normal. It's all part of the plan to normalize a fringe group and build a big base of modern day hippes who are actually being used by the far left to advance their addenda that perpetuates wealth inequality that they claim to hate..

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I've got two straight white boys in NoVA public schools and this is not the case. Kids do debate in class and have differing opinions on things of course. But in my experience, what is more the case is that there are increasing social media accounts that are "grooming" nerdy young white boys to see the world this way (my kids have told me about it and have even shown me sample humor/gaming that drew them in initially and then started introducing more alt-right, white male grievance kind of content). If I were PP I would take a look, bc it can lead to some dark places (unless you're just trying to "stir the grievance pot" too.

This is interesting and scary. Thank you for sharing. I guess it's how those extremist groups recruit - convince these kids that they are being targeted and encourage them to find support in the group? I had no idea gaming was a tool in that.

I'm one of the people who said her son feels that way. I'm very aware of the online grooming and how scary it is. I have looked into it a TON and that's not the issue here. My son is actually quite meek and quiet, and the way he feels doesn't make him angry. It just makes him want to keep his head down and not express strong opinions about things.

Middle school girls have been targeted by far left groups into thinking gender dysmorphia is common and normal. It's all part of the plan to normalize a fringe group and build a big base of modern day hippes who are actually being used by the far left to advance their addenda that perpetuates wealth inequality that they claim to hate..

How the hell does body dysmorphia lead to income inequality?!

Transitioning gender requires expensive medical treatments and trans people are more likely to be unemployed or so it helps disenfranchise wealthy white kids!

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I've got two straight white boys in NoVA public schools and this is not the case. Kids do debate in class and have differing opinions on things of course. But in my experience, what is more the case is that there are increasing social media accounts that are "grooming" nerdy young white boys to see the world this way (my kids have told me about it and have even shown me sample humor/gaming that drew them in initially and then started introducing more alt-right, white male grievance kind of content). If I were PP I would take a look, bc it can lead to some dark places (unless you're just trying to "stir the grievance pot" too.

This is interesting and scary. Thank you for sharing. I guess it's how those extremist groups recruit - convince these kids that they are being targeted and encourage them to find support in the group? I had no idea gaming was a tool in that.

I'm one of the people who said her son feels that way. I'm very aware of the online grooming and how scary it is. I have looked into it a TON and that's not the issue here. My son is actually quite meek and quiet, and the way he feels doesn't make him angry. It just makes him want to keep his head down and not express strong opinions about things.

Middle school girls have been targeted by far left groups into thinking gender dysmorphia is common and normal. It's all part of the plan to normalize a fringe group and build a big base of modern day hippes who are actually being used by the far left to advance their addenda that perpetuates wealth inequality that they claim to hate..

How the hell does body dysmorphia lead to income inequality?!

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I've got two straight white boys in NoVA public schools and this is not the case. Kids do debate in class and have differing opinions on things of course. But in my experience, what is more the case is that there are increasing social media accounts that are "grooming" nerdy young white boys to see the world this way (my kids have told me about it and have even shown me sample humor/gaming that drew them in initially and then started introducing more alt-right, white male grievance kind of content). If I were PP I would take a look, bc it can lead to some dark places (unless you're just trying to "stir the grievance pot" too.

This is interesting and scary. Thank you for sharing. I guess it's how those extremist groups recruit - convince these kids that they are being targeted and encourage them to find support in the group? I had no idea gaming was a tool in that.

I'm one of the people who said her son feels that way. I'm very aware of the online grooming and how scary it is. I have looked into it a TON and that's not the issue here. My son is actually quite meek and quiet, and the way he feels doesn't make him angry. It just makes him want to keep his head down and not express strong opinions about things.

Middle school girls have been targeted by far left groups into thinking gender dysmorphia is common and normal. It's all part of the plan to normalize a fringe group and build a big base of modern day hippes who are actually being used by the far left to advance their addenda that perpetuates wealth inequality that they claim to hate..

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I've got two straight white boys in NoVA public schools and this is not the case. Kids do debate in class and have differing opinions on things of course. But in my experience, what is more the case is that there are increasing social media accounts that are "grooming" nerdy young white boys to see the world this way (my kids have told me about it and have even shown me sample humor/gaming that drew them in initially and then started introducing more alt-right, white male grievance kind of content). If I were PP I would take a look, bc it can lead to some dark places (unless you're just trying to "stir the grievance pot" too.

This is interesting and scary. Thank you for sharing. I guess it's how those extremist groups recruit - convince these kids that they are being targeted and encourage them to find support in the group? I had no idea gaming was a tool in that.

I'm one of the people who said her son feels that way. I'm very aware of the online grooming and how scary it is. I have looked into it a TON and that's not the issue here. My son is actually quite meek and quiet, and the way he feels doesn't make him angry. It just makes him want to keep his head down and not express strong opinions about things.

If he's meek and quiet just being in the world with its complexity and unsure makes him not want to express opinions. That's pretty normal. He doesn't want to be wrong, or look bad. This is why a lot of kids don't answer questions regardless of whether race or complex social issues are involved. I'd help him work on his confidence, on understanding his own thoughts, and not worry about whether he can express strong opinions yet on these issues. One of the consequences of privilege is that you don't spend as much time thinking the issues through as people who are marginalized because they aren't in your face all the time. So when the discussions come about your ideas aren't as well-formed. It's probably a good time just to encourage him to listen and think about what he thinks/feels rather than speak out quite yet.