Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe we are on page 22 of this. Of course men prefer skinny women.

I’m a nanny in Beverly Hills and pretty much all the moms are skinny with fake boobs, fillers, and no job or life skills. I might just be a nanny, but at least I can support myself and don’t need a butt implant to do so. Seeing how these women have to live their lives is very sad. My boss doesn’t eat breakfast or lunch, only dinner, and has bad breath all day long from lack of food. Her computer history is on the kids iPads and sometimes I have to go in there to find old art projects the kids want to do, and I saw on Valentine’s Day she was googling vibrators. What a way to live. I’d rather be fat and have a man who loves me for who I am.

I'm sad for people who think there's something wrong with vibrators.

Nothing wrong with a vibrator but googling one at 9pm while your husband is at ‘work’ is kind of sad, but that’s the life you choose when you marry for money

My DH doesn't make a lot of money and still regularly work past 9pm. I think it's a personal actualization thing to have high sense of ownership in his chosen field (think Japanese work culture). While it's certainly not too ideal, but it's not the worst trait to have.

NP but I think the point from nanny's post is that these women in general have their life revolve around staying skinny and attractive, including getting surgeries and skipping meals, for a husband who is too busy to be at home by 9pm on Valentine's day (either because of too much work or other reasons). It's the whole context and I agree with the nanny. It's better to be financially independent and be with a man who will be somewhat considerate of you than be with a rich man who is too busy for you and has expectations that you are always striving to attain/keep. Obviously this is a choice. If the woman goes in to this knowing what she is going to get, good for her as long as her emotions don't get in the way.

+1000000000

Anonymous wrote:I am truly wondering where all these thin/fit rich women live? I have lived in NW DC and now Bethesda -- yes they are in the more affluent areas of both -- am what most people on here would consider rich, hang out with parents of children who go to many of the best private schools (child plays travel sport and 90% of the team goes to a DC or close in MD private school) and the vast majority of women look normal, not very thin or with with rock hard abs. I would say there are very few overweight women, but NWDC, Bethesda, Arlington, McLean, etc. doesn't have a lot of overweight people in general.

Agree. I also lived in Los Angeles, and granted it was west hollywood, not beverly hills, but still very wealthy. I was around a lot of instagram models and youtubers, and most of them were what I'd describe as "curvy" or "slim thick" but not skinny. Rarely did I see a truly skinny woman. Most of the time, they seemed like they wanted a good sized bum and hips compared to the waist. Granted, many of these were youtubers who made their own money or instagram models, so not necessarily married to rich men. But it didnt seem like they were lacking for male attention from wealthy men, that's for sure.

I am truly wondering where all these thin/fit rich women live? I have lived in NW DC and now Bethesda -- yes they are in the more affluent areas of both -- am what most people on here would consider rich, hang out with parents of children who go to many of the best private schools (child plays travel sport and 90% of the team goes to a DC or close in MD private school) and the vast majority of women look normal, not very thin or with with rock hard abs. I would say there are very few overweight women, but NWDC, Bethesda, Arlington, McLean, etc. doesn't have a lot of overweight people in general.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do people consider skinny? I’m curious. Skinny at 5’0”, 5’5” and 5’8” are not the same thing.

I would say a BMI under 19-21

Not under 19. Between 19-21 is the thin sweet spot. Not scary thin, but thin and heathy/fit

someone who works out seriously may have more leeway. Strong is good too.

Agree. But in general unless someone has well above average muscle mass, past the typical in good shape woman. Think doing a lot of intentional heavy weight training and protein loading

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do people consider skinny? I’m curious. Skinny at 5’0”, 5’5” and 5’8” are not the same thing.

I would say a BMI under 19-21

Not under 19. Between 19-21 is the thin sweet spot. Not scary thin, but thin and heathy/fit

someone who works out seriously may have more leeway. Strong is good too.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

NP but I think the point from nanny's post is that these women in general have their life revolve around staying skinny and attractive, including getting surgeries and skipping meals, for a husband who is too busy to be at home by 9pm on Valentine's day (either because of too much work or other reasons). It's the whole context and I agree with the nanny. It's better to be financially independent and be with a man who will be somewhat considerate of you than be with a rich man who is too busy for you and has expectations that you are always striving to attain/keep. Obviously this is a choice. If the woman goes in to this knowing what she is going to get, good for her as long as her emotions don't get in the way.

This makes sense only if you can choose between 1) wealthy man who is too busy for you 2) less wealthy but nice man. The reality from my limited sampling is that there are a ton of poor man who think they are to good for you (inflated self perception across men is another worthy topic), and I have see my girlfriends (early 30s with professions as college professors, lobbysts, lawyers, higher up in management) land boyfriends/husbands who are both too busy for them and have the women pay more than fair share of dating expenses (the man eats more and drinks more but split the bill 50/50 regularly). My point is that, if a woman starves herself to keep her livelihood, in this case it's a wealthy man instead of a modeling agency, it does not work less effectively compared to women who grind away spreadsheets for livelihood. As long as you tune up your skills, wether it be starve or pass CFA, contribute to retirement before your skill becomes outdated and laid off, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

I'm the pp you are referencing. I think we're on the same page in that if the woman gets in to this type of relationship knowing what she wants and knows exactly what those expectations mean for her, good for her as long as she can keep emotions out of it (not expect her husband to be there on valentine's day, maybe accept cheating as long as he's married to her etc.). I would also have a plan for when I get older and might get divorced. If you know you aren't that type of a person then it behooves you to make sure you can be financially independent and find someone who will be considerate of you. I'm not the type of person who can dissociate emotions like that in a marriage and so I realize I better make sure I can be OK with a man whose sole worth isn't his financial prospects. This means that I will need to be a contributor financially in our family as well which is fine with me. The problem is going in to a situation when you don't know the reality of either situation or not knowing yourself well enough to know what is truly acceptable to you.

I do agree that women need to know how to best maximize their potential in whatever way that's possible.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do people consider skinny? I’m curious. Skinny at 5’0”, 5’5” and 5’8” are not the same thing.

I would say a BMI under 19-21

Not under 19. Between 19-21 is the thin sweet spot. Not scary thin, but thin and heathy/fit

Anonymous wrote:What do people consider skinny? I’m curious. Skinny at 5’0”, 5’5” and 5’8” are not the same thing.

I would say a BMI under 19-21

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think rich men have wives who have the time and money to keep fit and groom themselves.

I met DH when I was 24. I was naturally thin. I am now 41, have 3 kids and the same weight as before having children. It took time and effort to be back to a size 4 and weigh 120 pounds.

The vast majority of the wives are thin. The one chubby wife I can think of is the wealthier one of the couple so they are rich from both sides.

Roger the Alien on American Dad was right. "Beauty comes in sizes 0, 2, and 4"

only if she's 5'3"

What do people consider skinny? I’m curious. Skinny at 5’0”, 5’5” and 5’8” are not the same thing.

Wealthy white men prefer skinny/fit women for sure, but maybe because they are also white in most cases. Not many white women are “thicc.” It just isn’t a common shape to have and you can’t gain it, you have to be born with it or injected with it. White women are usually thin or overweight all over

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^LOL. No one said ALL men want anything- that would be crazy, because there's a huge variation. Nothing has been

"debunked" because this is DCUM, and it's a board speculating about romantic preferences, and there's obviously a ton of difference in people's romantic preferences (and many obvious examples of some of the wealthiest men on the planet being married to women who aren't skinny).

But anyone... whatever you have to tell yourself to feel better or cope. Not sure why this has triggered you so hard but... I hope things get better for you!

I'm not the one looking from the outside in, I think its amusing what the other side thinks. But maybe someday you'll find your prince. The only one triggered is the one who starts thread after thread trying to make "thicc" a thing. Even poor Addison Rae herself is single.

Neither am I. Anyway... this is all laughably funny to me. You sound like you're on the outside looking in, or maybe just extremely nouveau riche and gauche. Who knows, but certainly a little embarrassingly status obsessed and hysterically unable to handle a difference of opinion. Anyway... as I said, I hope things improve mentally for you, and I mean that sincerely!

Sure, you got it all figured out. I'm set for life, no worries here

Not mentally, that's for sure. Good luck!

As a last resort, the ad hominem. Should have just stayed in school, then you wouldn't need someone to take care of you. Because another think about the "rich" men is that they also like women as educated and successful as they are. Not just having a big butt. It's not too late to make something of yourself.

What do you mean last resort? You're obviously a little off balance and triggered by people who dont think rich men only like skinny women. Is you (wrongly) assuming I'm not rich an ad hominem too, if we're trotting out the law terms? Because obviously you're grasping at straws to feel better that someone doesnt really think what you have going on is that great.

It's not too late to get therapy or find a way to get some real self confidence that's not dismantled by a random commentator on DCUM. Get some help girl- all the low fat yogurt in the world isn't going to soothe that pain.

Anonymous wrote:I think rich men have wives who have the time and money to keep fit and groom themselves.

I met DH when I was 24. I was naturally thin. I am now 41, have 3 kids and the same weight as before having children. It took time and effort to be back to a size 4 and weigh 120 pounds.

The vast majority of the wives are thin. The one chubby wife I can think of is the wealthier one of the couple so they are rich from both sides.

Roger the Alien on American Dad was right. "Beauty comes in sizes 0, 2, and 4"

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^LOL. No one said ALL men want anything- that would be crazy, because there's a huge variation. Nothing has been

"debunked" because this is DCUM, and it's a board speculating about romantic preferences, and there's obviously a ton of difference in people's romantic preferences (and many obvious examples of some of the wealthiest men on the planet being married to women who aren't skinny).

But anyone... whatever you have to tell yourself to feel better or cope. Not sure why this has triggered you so hard but... I hope things get better for you!

I'm not the one looking from the outside in, I think its amusing what the other side thinks. But maybe someday you'll find your prince. The only one triggered is the one who starts thread after thread trying to make "thicc" a thing. Even poor Addison Rae herself is single.

Neither am I. Anyway... this is all laughably funny to me. You sound like you're on the outside looking in, or maybe just extremely nouveau riche and gauche. Who knows, but certainly a little embarrassingly status obsessed and hysterically unable to handle a difference of opinion. Anyway... as I said, I hope things improve mentally for you, and I mean that sincerely!

Sure, you got it all figured out. I'm set for life, no worries here

Not mentally, that's for sure. Good luck!

As a last resort, the ad hominem. Should have just stayed in school, then you wouldn't need someone to take care of you. Because another think about the "rich" men is that they also like women as educated and successful as they are. Not just having a big butt. It's not too late to make something of yourself.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^LOL. No one said ALL men want anything- that would be crazy, because there's a huge variation. Nothing has been

"debunked" because this is DCUM, and it's a board speculating about romantic preferences, and there's obviously a ton of difference in people's romantic preferences (and many obvious examples of some of the wealthiest men on the planet being married to women who aren't skinny).

But anyone... whatever you have to tell yourself to feel better or cope. Not sure why this has triggered you so hard but... I hope things get better for you!

I'm not the one looking from the outside in, I think its amusing what the other side thinks. But maybe someday you'll find your prince. The only one triggered is the one who starts thread after thread trying to make "thicc" a thing. Even poor Addison Rae herself is single.

Neither am I. Anyway... this is all laughably funny to me. You sound like you're on the outside looking in, or maybe just extremely nouveau riche and gauche. Who knows, but certainly a little embarrassingly status obsessed and hysterically unable to handle a difference of opinion. Anyway... as I said, I hope things improve mentally for you, and I mean that sincerely!

Sure, you got it all figured out. I'm set for life, no worries here

Not mentally, that's for sure. Good luck!