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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid-40s female, so I read with curiosity. I must say though that whenever I go to the forum for 50 and over, all I read about is menopause and farts. Yes, these subjects are important, but I'm completely under the impression that too many women over 50 are not interested in anything but their (mostly) failing bodies. It makes me sad, because I know some awesome single men in their 50s and 60s who have a tough time being attracted to women their age. (Not that it's a hard rule or anything.)

You have no idea how offensive this post is. You will, one day.

+1. In a few yrs if she lives that long

It’s not offensive so much as it’s dumb in that she’s not understanding that menopause and farts is her future.

Well, she did say "Yes, these subjects are important" ... so I think she understands about menopause and farts being part of the future.

Let's be honest. Lots of men and lots of women let themselves go.

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Anonymous wrote:NP — I was just going to say, that wasn’t why that post by a woman was offensive. It was, and I am rarely offended.

Why was it offensive?

NP here I didn't find it offensive either. She stated what she actually reads in the over 50 forum. The truth is a lot of women and men let themselves go. Society is still more forgiving of men for this especially if they have money (eg, Donald Trump and Melania). its also an excuse that you have to be rich to look good. by 50 you should know how to dress in a way that flatters you and is age appropriate and stylish without costing a fortune. You can still exercise. I am mid 40s and do crossfit and OTF and yoga regularly and wok full time with a young child. I do spend money on skin care such as botox and laser treatments a couple times a year. This is not a herculean task ladies. Men don't change, whether they are 21 on tinder or 55 on Match, the first and probably only thing they pay attention to on online dating sights is the photo. and yes I met my husband online and he as progressive as they come and he admits that all he cared about were the photos.

Yes men change. Omg, the vast majority of men over 50 are not attractive due to not taking care of themselves over the years. The ones that are (I do know some from sports we play together ) freely admit that they have slowed down. Nature hits everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:40 year old man here and totally into some 50 year old colleagues and an older family friend in their 50s

Good shape , good clothes, and a good smile help a lot.

I'm 50; in decent shape. Keep my hair colored; eyebrows done; frequent manicures and teeth whitening. I recently got hit on by a late-30's co-worker.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid-40s female, so I read with curiosity. I must say though that whenever I go to the forum for 50 and over, all I read about is menopause and farts. Yes, these subjects are important, but I'm completely under the impression that too many women over 50 are not interested in anything but their (mostly) failing bodies. It makes me sad, because I know some awesome single men in their 50s and 60s who have a tough time being attracted to women their age. (Not that it's a hard rule or anything.)

You have no idea how offensive this post is. You will, one day.

+1. In a few yrs if she lives that long

It’s not offensive so much as it’s dumb in that she’s not understanding that menopause and farts is her future.

I’m an older woman, and I started looking at other women over 50 as a result of this thread, even in magazines, trying to decide if I would be attracted enough to sleep with them. For pure sex, the answer is no, but as part of a package, companionship, affection, shared interests, good attitude, fun....maybe. Old skin looks like old skin no matter how fit you are. But there’s a point where men get old skin too, and it’s not attractive. No face lift or fitness plan fixes old skin. But I could see a package deal being pleasant and fun. If you’ve both got old skin, and you’re not vain, you’re active, fun, loving life, not hung up or shallow, then I could see something working.

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Anonymous wrote:Wish I could post a pic of myself to prove this entire thread wrong. Not delusional, very sane promise!
I'm a NY woman who loves DCU forum. Brilliant and witty, keep it up!

~signed ± range
no plastic surgery
had a brownie/espresso for breakfast
everything in moderation...except sex should be all the way up
now water, bundle up and bike to beach

Have a lovely day!

The right attitude is more than half of it, and you have it!

Thank you, goodbadboy! Your name seems to indicate membership
in the everything in moderation club!
‘’

Anonymous wrote:40 year old man here and totally into some 50 year old colleagues and an older family friend in their 50s

Good shape , good clothes, and a good smile help a lot.

I'm 50; in decent shape. Keep my hair colored; eyebrows done; frequent manicures and teeth whitening. I recently got hit on by a late-30's co-worker.

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Anonymous wrote:NP — I was just going to say, that wasn’t why that post by a woman was offensive. It was, and I am rarely offended.

Why was it offensive?

NP here I didn't find it offensive either. She stated what she actually reads in the over 50 forum. The truth is a lot of women and men let themselves go. Society is still more forgiving of men for this especially if they have money (eg, Donald Trump and Melania). its also an excuse that you have to be rich to look good. by 50 you should know how to dress in a way that flatters you and is age appropriate and stylish without costing a fortune. You can still exercise. I am mid 40s and do crossfit and OTF and yoga regularly and wok full time with a young child. I do spend money on skin care such as botox and laser treatments a couple times a year. This is not a herculean task ladies. Men don't change, whether they are 21 on tinder or 55 on Match, the first and probably only thing they pay attention to on online dating sights is the photo. and yes I met my husband online and he as progressive as they come and he admits that all he cared about were the photos.

Wish I could post a pic of myself to prove this entire thread wrong. Not delusional, very sane promise!
I'm a NY woman who loves DCU forum. Brilliant and witty, keep it up!

~signed ± range
no plastic surgery
had a brownie/espresso for breakfast
everything in moderation...except sex should be all the way up
now water, bundle up and bike to beach

Have a lovely day!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid-40s female, so I read with curiosity. I must say though that whenever I go to the forum for 50 and over, all I read about is menopause and farts. Yes, these subjects are important, but I'm completely under the impression that too many women over 50 are not interested in anything but their (mostly) failing bodies. It makes me sad, because I know some awesome single men in their 50s and 60s who have a tough time being attracted to women their age. (Not that it's a hard rule or anything.)

You have no idea how offensive this post is. You will, one day.

+1. In a few yrs if she lives that long

I'm in my 60's and I'm spoiled in that my DW who is 63 looks 5-10 years younger due to great genes and that she really takes care of herself. Most of the 60 something women she associates with look much older and I'm not physically attracted to them although they are very nice. Yes, I am spoiled but at this point few women my age are a turn on.

Anonymous wrote:NP — I was just going to say, that wasn’t why that post by a woman was offensive. It was, and I am rarely offended.

Why was it offensive?

NP — I was just going to say, that wasn’t why that post by a woman was offensive. It was, and I am rarely offended.

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Short hair can be very feminine (eye roll).

You better poll heterosexual men on that score if you're trying to date one. Generally speaking, short hair to me adds 10 years to the woman's appearance.

That depends on your ethnic/racial group. Long hair is know to add age to a white woman's looks.

I look 10 years younger with a new pixie cut (I'm 40). I'm also short and long hair just weighs me down.

Did you ask non-gay men?

Yes, several who said I look a lot better with a short pixie cut.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid-40s female, so I read with curiosity. I must say though that whenever I go to the forum for 50 and over, all I read about is menopause and farts. Yes, these subjects are important, but I'm completely under the impression that too many women over 50 are not interested in anything but their (mostly) failing bodies. It makes me sad, because I know some awesome single men in their 50s and 60s who have a tough time being attracted to women their age. (Not that it's a hard rule or anything.)

You have no idea how offensive this post is. You will, one day.

What are you offended by? She commented on the lame nature of the over-50 forum, and she states a lot of older women look like hell. Which they do. They have stopped trying; they get passed over on dating sites.