I grew up in the area and NCS and Visi were always very well known for bullying. My teammate on various sports teams attended those schools and validated that. A lot may have changed in the interim but those schools are know among Washingtonians for have a long standing culture of some pretty unkind behavior.

NP here. Is the culture getting better or worse since what's-her-name went to Langley?

My daughter graduated last year and I haven't moved on either. The good news is that I haven't seen my DD this happy in just over four years when she started NCS. She's a new person now that she's no longer at NCS. She's back to her self confident, happy self. I haven't checked this board in ages, but had to comment on my personal experience. Yes, the place is toxic. Wish some of the new parents of this years' freshman class would realize this. They seem to think their daughters will be fine. They won't. There is no girl who is right for this place. I don't know of a single girl who says she's glad she went there once she's graduated. Not one.

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Anonymous wrote:Nor do the parents apparently. Social climbing BS is taught at home.

+1. Jackpot!

Anyone else get the feeling that this thread is dominated by 13-year-old mean girls and social network manipulators who are trying to trash the school to pump up other schools? I'm not saying everyone is happy at NCS. It's just the style and feel of some of these posts is not something you'd ever expect from a parent.

I'm the bingo parent. definitely a parent of an NCS girl. I am not trying to pump up any other schools though I do think NCS stands alone in the toxicity of the environment. Again, not bullies or mean girls, but the culture of the school.

yeah, some of us sound awfully angry. I know I am. The school did some serious damage to my DD and by the time I caught on the damage was done. She has moved on and is fine. I'm the Mom and I haven't moved on.

No, I'd just like a better idea of the SLAC enviornment. I guess I should start a new thread.

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Anonymous wrote:My niece is here for the holidays, and I asked her about bullying in college. She replied it is non-existent at her college and mostly a high school thing. The wanna be Queen Bees are laughed about at best. There's no time for 'high school stuff' per my reliable source.

Of course, there will always be groups in college with particular interest but you can pick and choose without repercussions. Computer geeks, said without malice, can find their own comfortable niche with the same.

Your DD probably doesn't attend a SLAC.

9:58, could you please explain what you mean? Are you saying SLACs are like that? I went to a big state school but DCs are considering SLACs. Thank you.

I hope you and DD aren't basing your decision on a DCUM poster.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nor do the parents apparently. Social climbing BS is taught at home.

+1. Jackpot!

Anyone else get the feeling that this thread is dominated by 13-year-old mean girls and social network manipulators who are trying to trash the school to pump up other schools? I'm not saying everyone is happy at NCS. It's just the style and feel of some of these posts is not something you'd ever expect from a parent.

I think you're being a bit paranoid. These bullying references apply to All schools that have females and not just NCS or privates. NCS doesn't have a monopoly on bitchy behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:My niece is here for the holidays, and I asked her about bullying in college. She replied it is non-existent at her college and mostly a high school thing. The wanna be Queen Bees are laughed about at best. There's no time for 'high school stuff' per my reliable source.

Of course, there will always be groups in college with particular interest but you can pick and choose without repercussions. Computer geeks, said without malice, can find their own comfortable niche with the same.

Your DD probably doesn't attend a SLAC.

9:58, could you please explain what you mean? Are you saying SLACs are like that? I went to a big state school but DCs are considering SLACs. Thank you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nor do the parents apparently. Social climbing BS is taught at home.

+1. Jackpot!

Anyone else get the feeling that this thread is dominated by 13-year-old mean girls and social network manipulators who are trying to trash the school to pump up other schools? I'm not saying everyone is happy at NCS. It's just the style and feel of some of these posts is not something you'd ever expect from a parent.

Anonymous wrote:My niece is here for the holidays, and I asked her about bullying in college. She replied it is non-existent at her college and mostly a high school thing. The wanna be Queen Bees are laughed about at best. There's no time for 'high school stuff' per my reliable source.

Of course, there will always be groups in college with particular interest but you can pick and choose without repercussions. Computer geeks, said without malice, can find their own comfortable niche with the same.

Your DD probably doesn't attend a SLAC.

My niece is here for the holidays, and I asked her about bullying in college. She replied it is non-existent at her college and mostly a high school thing. The wanna be Queen Bees are laughed about at best. There's no time for 'high school stuff' per my reliable source.

Of course, there will always be groups in college with particular interest but you can pick and choose without repercussions. Computer geeks, said without malice, can find their own comfortable niche with the same.

Anonymous wrote:Nor do the parents apparently. Social climbing BS is taught at home.

+1. Jackpot!

Nor do the parents apparently. Social climbing BS is taught at home.

Anonymous wrote:I think most people aren't talking about bullying at all anymore, but about the environment once the college pressures get extreme. The school apparently isn't good at helping the girls deal with the pressure cooker atmosphere.

Here is the takeaway I've gotten from this thread. There are mean girls everywhere. There is academic pressure everywhere. But other schools are not solely occupied by perfectionist girls with overachieving parents. They need more support at school than they get from the uncaring administration.

+1 Bingo.

Its not about bullying or mean girls. Its about an environment that pits girls against each other, rather than having them support each other and an administration that doesn't care about the emotional health of the students.

I think most people aren't talking about bullying at all anymore, but about the environment once the college pressures get extreme. The school apparently isn't good at helping the girls deal with the pressure cooker atmosphere.

Here is the takeaway I've gotten from this thread. There are mean girls everywhere. There is academic pressure everywhere. But other schools are not solely occupied by perfectionist girls with overachieving parents. They need more support at school than they get from the uncaring administration.