Anonymous
Post 11/21/2025 12:43     Subject: is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would be worried if my kid were attending a school in a red state. Don't want to end up with MAGA in-laws.

I hope my kids find great life-long friends in college. If one becomes a spouse, then great, but no pressure at all to find someone when they're so young.



This is why ivy/t15 private is so important! Quality friends with the right intelligence level and great spouse potential


Ivies these days are 50% kids on full aid and 50% Asian (with some overlap between the two). Frankly, that dating pool isn't highly desirable at all for those looking to "marry well."



I blame Trump for letting all these Asians flood HYPSM. This horrible situation only happened because Trump appointed a conservative majority to the supreme court.

These conservatives held we cannot selectively lower admissions standards for certain under-represented minorities / BIPOCS , based on their skin color.

Result: far too many Asians getting into HYPSM on their merit, intelligence, and achievements alone.

Can’t wait until Trump is gone and we can begin to fix this situation.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2025 11:50     Subject: is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

Found my future surgeon wife during college. Good long term investment after 13 years of post graduate education (/s).

So happy we met 20+ years ago, but you cannot engineer this! She actually went to a different school and we met through a mutual friend on a random weekend visit.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2025 11:39     Subject: is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would be worried if my kid were attending a school in a red state. Don't want to end up with MAGA in-laws.

I hope my kids find great life-long friends in college. If one becomes a spouse, then great, but no pressure at all to find someone when they're so young.



This is why ivy/t15 private is so important! Quality friends with the right intelligence level and great spouse potential


Ivies these days are 50% kids on full aid and 50% Asian (with some overlap between the two). Frankly, that dating pool isn't highly desirable at all for those looking to "marry well."


Unfortunately, this is the situation in which our daughters find themselves presently.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2025 11:35     Subject: is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would be worried if my kid were attending a school in a red state. Don't want to end up with MAGA in-laws.

I hope my kids find great life-long friends in college. If one becomes a spouse, then great, but no pressure at all to find someone when they're so young.



This is why ivy/t15 private is so important! Quality friends with the right intelligence level and great spouse potential


Ivies these days are 50% kids on full aid and 50% Asian (with some overlap between the two). Frankly, that dating pool isn't highly desirable at all for those looking to "marry well."


So Asians aren't/or can't be part of a dating pool for those who want to "marry well?"


That’s OK; their parents likely don’t consider your kids to be part of the pool to “marry well” either.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2025 10:29     Subject: is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

To answer the OP’s question: No, I’m not worried about my kid going to a frat party & running into my wife doing shots in the basement.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2025 10:17     Subject: is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

^some truth to this, but for my DC at HYP, there still is a pretty good pool of options. I am including wasians and asians, of course.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2025 08:54     Subject: is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would be worried if my kid were attending a school in a red state. Don't want to end up with MAGA in-laws.

I hope my kids find great life-long friends in college. If one becomes a spouse, then great, but no pressure at all to find someone when they're so young.



This is why ivy/t15 private is so important! Quality friends with the right intelligence level and great spouse potential


“Great spouse potential”


Sure - if you don’t mind a robotic, emotionless son-in-law who’s intelligence is limited to book-smarts only, and does not have a creative thought in his head.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2025 08:37     Subject: is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would be worried if my kid were attending a school in a red state. Don't want to end up with MAGA in-laws.

I hope my kids find great life-long friends in college. If one becomes a spouse, then great, but no pressure at all to find someone when they're so young.



This is why ivy/t15 private is so important! Quality friends with the right intelligence level and great spouse potential


Ivies these days are 50% kids on full aid and 50% Asian (with some overlap between the two). Frankly, that dating pool isn't highly desirable at all for those looking to "marry well."


So Asians aren't/or can't be part of a dating pool for those who want to "marry well?"
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2025 08:30     Subject: is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would be worried if my kid were attending a school in a red state. Don't want to end up with MAGA in-laws.

I hope my kids find great life-long friends in college. If one becomes a spouse, then great, but no pressure at all to find someone when they're so young.



This is why ivy/t15 private is so important! Quality friends with the right intelligence level and great spouse potential


Ivies these days are 50% kids on full aid and 50% Asian (with some overlap between the two). Frankly, that dating pool isn't highly desirable at all for those looking to "marry well."
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2025 08:27     Subject: is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

Anonymous wrote:I hope my kids don’t get married until they’re in their 30s.


+1

It worked out well for me and DH and so many of our friends!
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2025 07:14     Subject: is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

How about just dating in college? Doesn’t seem like any of that happening and it saddens my DD who would like to date.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2025 04:04     Subject: is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

My kid just graduated and I never
had a thought about this.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2025 03:02     Subject: is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

Anonymous wrote:I hope my kids don’t get married until they’re in their 30s.


Have them start saving for IVF now.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 23:49     Subject: is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would be worried if my kid were attending a school in a red state. Don't want to end up with MAGA in-laws.

I hope my kids find great life-long friends in college. If one becomes a spouse, then great, but no pressure at all to find someone when they're so young.



This is why ivy/t15 private is so important! Quality friends with the right intelligence level and great spouse potential


You clearly haven’t spent much time at Ivy’s recently. The only thing they’re likely to find there is an SSRI addiction and some unfortunate political proclivities.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 23:17     Subject: is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

Anonymous wrote:I would be worried if my kid were attending a school in a red state. Don't want to end up with MAGA in-laws.

I hope my kids find great life-long friends in college. If one becomes a spouse, then great, but no pressure at all to find someone when they're so young.



This is why ivy/t15 private is so important! Quality friends with the right intelligence level and great spouse potential