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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 2 year old went through a short phase where she did this. Nothing would stop it so I decided ignoring it was best. I got dirty looks which is fine, but I would have had a MAJOR problem with you talking to my kid directly.

So what? Did you care that shoppers had a major problem with your kid shrieking? You would just seethe in silence and the kid would stop shrieking.

Stop sock puppeting. It’s not normal what OP did

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 2 year old went through a short phase where she did this. Nothing would stop it so I decided ignoring it was best. I got dirty looks which is fine, but I would have had a MAJOR problem with you talking to my kid directly.

So what? Did you care that shoppers had a major problem with your kid shrieking? You would just seethe in silence and the kid would stop shrieking.

Anonymous wrote:My 2 year old went through a short phase where she did this. Nothing would stop it so I decided ignoring it was best. I got dirty looks which is fine, but I would have had a MAJOR problem with you talking to my kid directly.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is autistic. People intervene when she's melting down in public ALL THE TIME. They think they are being helpful, either to me, or to themselves, as you thought. They are not. People need to mind their own business.

You tried to parent another person's child. A stranger's child. Without knowing what was going on. You felt entitled because you were uncomfortable. You were very much in the wrong.

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OP you were completely out of line not to approach the parent first if you really thought you had to intervene. My child has apraxia and will often shriek and squeal. She also has huge anxiety. I try to never bring her to places where judgey people like you will make the situation worse, but sometimes it’s unavoidable (cancelled sitters, etc). If that had been my dd you would have missed the 30 minute prep in the car before she’d even enter the store, the hour we would have spent on a social story with photos and videos before getting in the car, and then what would look like me turning a blind eye to her shrieks bc that’s the only way she could get through it. You also wouldn’t know that this was remarkably better than the last visit and each one was an improvement, and that we had a plan with her ABA and OT therapists to desensitize her to everyday things such as a store that should be no big deal but are to her. Guess what, if you had gotten in her face and corrected her like that, it would have set her back months and reinforced everything she was anxious about, so you bet I would have sworn at you. To the other judgey people, this isn’t a result of bad parenting or junk food or anything else. Her siblings are not like this and she was born this way. Everyday tasks are hard enough without encountering know it alls like you.

Anonymous wrote:That child’s future kindergarten teacher thanks you. There are way too many kids in elementary school who have parents that actually don’t really “parent. They let their kids do whatever they want and they just ignore it and think everyone else just needs to be inconvenienced. It used to be if your kid was screaming you left the store or other people helped convince the child not to scream.

Something happened between covid and screens that people are now living in bubbles where they don’t consider how their actions and the actions of others affect those around them. And at the same time it became unacceptable to point this out.

This is why so many teachers quit and why so many kids aren’t learning at school. There is a subset of 10-20% of students who are incorrigible. They have never been corrected.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t believe OP for the simple fact that there is no one, and I mean NO ONE, more bothered by a child’s screams than the MOTHER. It’s biologically wired into us to respond to our children screaming. Zero chance in hell the mom was laughing at the screaming. That’s the tell that this is made up or exaggerated.

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Anonymous wrote:I will be honest and sound crazy but if you mess with my kid- especially in that pseudo condescending Karen way you did- I would consider clocking you. I wouldn’t do it, but it evokes an extremely strong response in many women. You were wrong.

She spoke to a child. You should be prepared for people to address your child each and every time you leave the house with them. Your child is just a person; they are not off-limits. Sometimes they will say nice things, other times not, based on your child’s behavior. Train them accordingly.