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Post 09/21/2023 12:55     Subject: Re:Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas headed to divorce

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Anonymous wrote:The whole thing is a mess but I'm a mom and there are few things more cruel than trying to keep a mom of very young children separated from her children. I will fight pretty much anyone on that, whether we're talking about a woman in prison or a wealthy actress in a mansion in the UK countryside. The bond between moms and babies/small kids is sacrosanct to me and I think it should only be broken if the mom is unwilling or unable to parent. The idea of someone trying to separate me from my kids at that age makes me think very dark thoughts.

Joe Jonas is absolute garbage.


Is he trying to keep them apart, or is he trying to prevent her from attempting to establish the kids primary residence in the UK now that they’re divorcing? Because of those IS cruel and one is protecting his rights as a parent.


If he is withholding the kids passports, thus forcing Sophie to come to him if she wants to be with her kids, it's cruel. The legalities of a divorce between two people with different nationalities is not my concern -- they should both have thought of that before getting married and having kids. But I just think it's cruel to attempt to separate very young children from their mother. Even if he has a legal justification for it, it's immoral. Their youngest daughter is only like 14 months old. These are babies.

It makes me feel physically unwell to think of a mother of children that age being separated from her children, for any reason other than the idea that she is an unfit mother. It's the only reason. Very young children should be with their mother if at all possible.


Is it better to separate young kids from their father? Their reality is that they are from different countries. And if they’re divorced, they could be parenting on different continents. One of them is going to have more access than the other unless they agree to live in one spot.

It’s not crazy to me that if they’d lived on one location since the kids were born and suddenly moved to England as things were going south, that the US born spouse would want to move back where they and their kids had been living. She could just as easily have pressured Joe to move to the UK months ago knowing that they were headed for a divorce and wanting to establish their residence there.
That doesn't mean that he can just go ahead and do it without notifying the other parent. He is a shady, conniving, controlling SOB and there is more about him that's going to come out.


Yeah, it’s shady, but it’s a generally messy situation. And who knows what causes the dissolution of their marriage. What if she cheated on him? Is he supposed to just let her take the kids to London and uproot his life to follow them? If they had any established residence, it was in the US. I’m not sure who is legally right here but honestly they both seem like a-holes to me who aren’t putting their kids first. She wants to pull them from their home and father in the US, and he wants them here. The real losers are the kids.


First, you are inventing a reason for the divorce that puts her 100% at fault solely to argue in favor of his behavior. Think about that. His behavior is justified IF Sophie is a villain. Ask yourself why that is.

Second, they had no established residence but it appears they were beginning to establish a residence in the UK and that Joe participated in that choice by agreeing to sell the Miami house, rent the house in the UK, and bringing the kids there and living there for several months earlier this year. At the moment, that UK house likely is the most "home"-like place the kids have.

So Sophie is not pulling them from their home in the US. They don't have one. And since Joe is the one who withheld not only passports but also the fact that he'd filed for divorce, it really looks like he's the one trying to pull them from their mom.


I didn’t invent a reason where she was solely at fault. It was just an example to refute speculative reasons that he’s completely at fault/blindsided her with his filing. None of us know what happened but this thread is very sympathetic towards her based purely on speculation about him. His behavior is understandable in the context of a divorcing couple concerned that one parent is going to establish the kids primary residence in another country. One that they’d spent a few months towards the end of their four year marriage. That is not establishing a residence there. But the longer the kids are there, the better the odds would be.

I honestly couldn’t care less who was at fault here. To me they both seem irresponsible for getting themselves into this position where they have two kids, no established residence, each fighting to have their kids live far away from the other parent. That sucks for their kids, who should come first.



I disagree his behavior is understandable. This is why the thread (and I) are favoring Sophie:

- His weird behavior around his divorce filing, including wearing his wedding ring to a concert she was also at, days after filing for divorce. And now we find out he didn't even tell her he'd filed, she found out from the news. Shady AF.

- His PR team going into overdrive to try and portray Sophie as a party girl who was not family oriented after he went public with the divorce filing. Their evidence was thin from the get go (a few photos of Sophie looking happy but not even drunk at a wrap party for the show she was filming this year). It was incredibly obvious the items about Sophie partying were planted by Joe's team and many people rightly viewed this as a tasteless effort to smear the mother of his children in the press. Tacky AF.

- Then he made this big show of taking his daughters out for brunch in LA, either tipping of paps or going where he knew they'd be, seating himself outside in full view, and ensuring they got a good show of him goofing around with his kids. He could have eaten inside, he could have had brunch at home, he went out of his way to USE his very young kids as props to make himself look like a devoted family man in the midst of a divorce. And this is after Sophie and he spent years trying to keep these same kids out of the public eye, with minimal paparazzi photos, and not even disclosing their second daughter's name publicly. Gross AF.

I see one parent who is being messy and manipulative with the press and his kids, and one who is staying mum and letting the filings, and Joe's actions, speak for themselves.


She’s staying mum but she’s also looking to extradite the kids to the UK so she’s not innocent here either. Joes legal and PR team have definitely gone on the offensive but make no mistake that they are both being selfish
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2023 12:55     Subject: Re:Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas headed to divorce

Anonymous wrote:Under the UCCJEA the jurisdiction where the child has resided for the preceding six months is the home jurisdiction of the child except in rare instances. It doesn’t matter that the older kid has lived in more than one home since birth. It doesn’t matter than they’d been planning to move to the UK and establish roots there - that never happened, except for a brief visit this spring.

Florida has jurisdiction over those kids, period. It’s their home according to law.


Except the kids did not live in Florida for the six months preceding the divorce filing. They were staying in the UK with both parents for several months beginning in April 2023 (in a home procured by both Sophie and Joe), and then they bounced around the US to multiple locations, not just Florida, with Joe on tour.

This would make their home jurisdiction either the UK or nowhere, depending on how long they were in the UK. It definitely wouldn't make it Florida, as they weren't living in Florida for most of that 6 months. They sold their house there in 2022.
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Post 09/21/2023 12:52     Subject: Re:Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas headed to divorce

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Anonymous wrote:The whole thing is a mess but I'm a mom and there are few things more cruel than trying to keep a mom of very young children separated from her children. I will fight pretty much anyone on that, whether we're talking about a woman in prison or a wealthy actress in a mansion in the UK countryside. The bond between moms and babies/small kids is sacrosanct to me and I think it should only be broken if the mom is unwilling or unable to parent. The idea of someone trying to separate me from my kids at that age makes me think very dark thoughts.

Joe Jonas is absolute garbage.


Is he trying to keep them apart, or is he trying to prevent her from attempting to establish the kids primary residence in the UK now that they’re divorcing? Because of those IS cruel and one is protecting his rights as a parent.


If he is withholding the kids passports, thus forcing Sophie to come to him if she wants to be with her kids, it's cruel. The legalities of a divorce between two people with different nationalities is not my concern -- they should both have thought of that before getting married and having kids. But I just think it's cruel to attempt to separate very young children from their mother. Even if he has a legal justification for it, it's immoral. Their youngest daughter is only like 14 months old. These are babies.

It makes me feel physically unwell to think of a mother of children that age being separated from her children, for any reason other than the idea that she is an unfit mother. It's the only reason. Very young children should be with their mother if at all possible.


Is it better to separate young kids from their father? Their reality is that they are from different countries. And if they’re divorced, they could be parenting on different continents. One of them is going to have more access than the other unless they agree to live in one spot.

It’s not crazy to me that if they’d lived on one location since the kids were born and suddenly moved to England as things were going south, that the US born spouse would want to move back where they and their kids had been living. She could just as easily have pressured Joe to move to the UK months ago knowing that they were headed for a divorce and wanting to establish their residence there.
That doesn't mean that he can just go ahead and do it without notifying the other parent. He is a shady, conniving, controlling SOB and there is more about him that's going to come out.


Yeah, it’s shady, but it’s a generally messy situation. And who knows what causes the dissolution of their marriage. What if she cheated on him? Is he supposed to just let her take the kids to London and uproot his life to follow them? If they had any established residence, it was in the US. I’m not sure who is legally right here but honestly they both seem like a-holes to me who aren’t putting their kids first. She wants to pull them from their home and father in the US, and he wants them here. The real losers are the kids.


First, you are inventing a reason for the divorce that puts her 100% at fault solely to argue in favor of his behavior. Think about that. His behavior is justified IF Sophie is a villain. Ask yourself why that is.

Second, they had no established residence but it appears they were beginning to establish a residence in the UK and that Joe participated in that choice by agreeing to sell the Miami house, rent the house in the UK, and bringing the kids there and living there for several months earlier this year. At the moment, that UK house likely is the most "home"-like place the kids have.

So Sophie is not pulling them from their home in the US. They don't have one. And since Joe is the one who withheld not only passports but also the fact that he'd filed for divorce, it really looks like he's the one trying to pull them from their mom.


I didn’t invent a reason where she was solely at fault. It was just an example to refute speculative reasons that he’s completely at fault/blindsided her with his filing. None of us know what happened but this thread is very sympathetic towards her based purely on speculation about him. His behavior is understandable in the context of a divorcing couple concerned that one parent is going to establish the kids primary residence in another country. One that they’d spent a few months towards the end of their four year marriage. That is not establishing a residence there. But the longer the kids are there, the better the odds would be.

I honestly couldn’t care less who was at fault here. To me they both seem irresponsible for getting themselves into this position where they have two kids, no established residence, each fighting to have their kids live far away from the other parent. That sucks for their kids, who should come first.



I disagree his behavior is understandable. This is why the thread (and I) are favoring Sophie:

- His weird behavior around his divorce filing, including wearing his wedding ring to a concert she was also at, days after filing for divorce. And now we find out he didn't even tell her he'd filed, she found out from the news. Shady AF.

- His PR team going into overdrive to try and portray Sophie as a party girl who was not family oriented after he went public with the divorce filing. Their evidence was thin from the get go (a few photos of Sophie looking happy but not even drunk at a wrap party for the show she was filming this year). It was incredibly obvious the items about Sophie partying were planted by Joe's team and many people rightly viewed this as a tasteless effort to smear the mother of his children in the press. Tacky AF.

- Then he made this big show of taking his daughters out for brunch in LA, either tipping of paps or going where he knew they'd be, seating himself outside in full view, and ensuring they got a good show of him goofing around with his kids. He could have eaten inside, he could have had brunch at home, he went out of his way to USE his very young kids as props to make himself look like a devoted family man in the midst of a divorce. And this is after Sophie and he spent years trying to keep these same kids out of the public eye, with minimal paparazzi photos, and not even disclosing their second daughter's name publicly. Gross AF.

I see one parent who is being messy and manipulative with the press and his kids, and one who is staying mum and letting the filings, and Joe's actions, speak for themselves.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2023 12:50     Subject: Re:Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas headed to divorce

Anonymous wrote:Whatever happened in the marriage, I feel sorry for Sophie Turner. She probably was head over heels when she married him so ignored her unhappiness with living in the USA. But her kids are residents here and she won’t be moving them back to the UK, the law on relocation is very clear. She’s either going to have to be the parent who sees her kids only on holidays and summers, or she’s going to have to suck it up and live in the states.

Marry in haste, repent at leisure .


Yeah, I mean, I stopped dating a guy once because he told me he fully intended to move back to a state in the west coast where he was from. It was important to me to remain close to my family, especially once i had kids, so guess what? I married someone who also intended to stay in the home state we met in. Like this situation is so absurd. She got married to an American, lived here for years, and then just expects to establish her kids residence in England as her marriage is circling the drain? They both made dumb decisions but legally she doesn’t have much footing here.
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Post 09/21/2023 12:47     Subject: Re:Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas headed to divorce

Anonymous wrote:Whatever happened in the marriage, I feel sorry for Sophie Turner. She probably was head over heels when she married him so ignored her unhappiness with living in the USA. But her kids are residents here and she won’t be moving them back to the UK, the law on relocation is very clear. She’s either going to have to be the parent who sees her kids only on holidays and summers, or she’s going to have to suck it up and live in the states.

Marry in haste, repent at leisure .


Um no. Kelly Rutherford’s kids were also residents of the US and their father somehow got custody over in Monaco!
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2023 12:45     Subject: Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas headed to divorce

Yeah. There is an easy legal answer here. Kids stay in US. Absent agreement or absent some reason Joe cannot parent, that is just the way it will go even if they have joint custody. Could the kids visit UK? yes all the time. But law is clear that they are US residents.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2023 12:45     Subject: Re:Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas headed to divorce

Under the UCCJEA the jurisdiction where the child has resided for the preceding six months is the home jurisdiction of the child except in rare instances. It doesn’t matter that the older kid has lived in more than one home since birth. It doesn’t matter than they’d been planning to move to the UK and establish roots there - that never happened, except for a brief visit this spring.

Florida has jurisdiction over those kids, period. It’s their home according to law.
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Post 09/21/2023 12:41     Subject: Re:Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas headed to divorce

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Anonymous wrote:The whole thing is a mess but I'm a mom and there are few things more cruel than trying to keep a mom of very young children separated from her children. I will fight pretty much anyone on that, whether we're talking about a woman in prison or a wealthy actress in a mansion in the UK countryside. The bond between moms and babies/small kids is sacrosanct to me and I think it should only be broken if the mom is unwilling or unable to parent. The idea of someone trying to separate me from my kids at that age makes me think very dark thoughts.

Joe Jonas is absolute garbage.


Is he trying to keep them apart, or is he trying to prevent her from attempting to establish the kids primary residence in the UK now that they’re divorcing? Because of those IS cruel and one is protecting his rights as a parent.


If he is withholding the kids passports, thus forcing Sophie to come to him if she wants to be with her kids, it's cruel. The legalities of a divorce between two people with different nationalities is not my concern -- they should both have thought of that before getting married and having kids. But I just think it's cruel to attempt to separate very young children from their mother. Even if he has a legal justification for it, it's immoral. Their youngest daughter is only like 14 months old. These are babies.

It makes me feel physically unwell to think of a mother of children that age being separated from her children, for any reason other than the idea that she is an unfit mother. It's the only reason. Very young children should be with their mother if at all possible.


Is it better to separate young kids from their father? Their reality is that they are from different countries. And if they’re divorced, they could be parenting on different continents. One of them is going to have more access than the other unless they agree to live in one spot.

It’s not crazy to me that if they’d lived on one location since the kids were born and suddenly moved to England as things were going south, that the US born spouse would want to move back where they and their kids had been living. She could just as easily have pressured Joe to move to the UK months ago knowing that they were headed for a divorce and wanting to establish their residence there.
That doesn't mean that he can just go ahead and do it without notifying the other parent. He is a shady, conniving, controlling SOB and there is more about him that's going to come out.


Yeah, it’s shady, but it’s a generally messy situation. And who knows what causes the dissolution of their marriage. What if she cheated on him? Is he supposed to just let her take the kids to London and uproot his life to follow them? If they had any established residence, it was in the US. I’m not sure who is legally right here but honestly they both seem like a-holes to me who aren’t putting their kids first. She wants to pull them from their home and father in the US, and he wants them here. The real losers are the kids.


First, you are inventing a reason for the divorce that puts her 100% at fault solely to argue in favor of his behavior. Think about that. His behavior is justified IF Sophie is a villain. Ask yourself why that is.

Second, they had no established residence but it appears they were beginning to establish a residence in the UK and that Joe participated in that choice by agreeing to sell the Miami house, rent the house in the UK, and bringing the kids there and living there for several months earlier this year. At the moment, that UK house likely is the most "home"-like place the kids have.

So Sophie is not pulling them from their home in the US. They don't have one. And since Joe is the one who withheld not only passports but also the fact that he'd filed for divorce, it really looks like he's the one trying to pull them from their mom.


I didn’t invent a reason where she was solely at fault. It was just an example to refute speculative reasons that he’s completely at fault/blindsided her with his filing. None of us know what happened but this thread is very sympathetic towards her based purely on speculation about him. His behavior is understandable in the context of a divorcing couple concerned that one parent is going to establish the kids primary residence in another country. One that they’d spent a few months towards the end of their four year marriage. That is not establishing a residence there. But the longer the kids are there, the better the odds would be.

I honestly couldn’t care less who was at fault here. To me they both seem irresponsible for getting themselves into this position where they have two kids, no established residence, each fighting to have their kids live far away from the other parent. That sucks for their kids, who should come first.

Anonymous
Post 09/21/2023 12:37     Subject: Re:Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas headed to divorce

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Anonymous wrote:The whole thing is a mess but I'm a mom and there are few things more cruel than trying to keep a mom of very young children separated from her children. I will fight pretty much anyone on that, whether we're talking about a woman in prison or a wealthy actress in a mansion in the UK countryside. The bond between moms and babies/small kids is sacrosanct to me and I think it should only be broken if the mom is unwilling or unable to parent. The idea of someone trying to separate me from my kids at that age makes me think very dark thoughts.

Joe Jonas is absolute garbage.


Is he trying to keep them apart, or is he trying to prevent her from attempting to establish the kids primary residence in the UK now that they’re divorcing? Because of those IS cruel and one is protecting his rights as a parent.


If he is withholding the kids passports, thus forcing Sophie to come to him if she wants to be with her kids, it's cruel. The legalities of a divorce between two people with different nationalities is not my concern -- they should both have thought of that before getting married and having kids. But I just think it's cruel to attempt to separate very young children from their mother. Even if he has a legal justification for it, it's immoral. Their youngest daughter is only like 14 months old. These are babies.

It makes me feel physically unwell to think of a mother of children that age being separated from her children, for any reason other than the idea that she is an unfit mother. It's the only reason. Very young children should be with their mother if at all possible.


Is it better to separate young kids from their father? Their reality is that they are from different countries. And if they’re divorced, they could be parenting on different continents. One of them is going to have more access than the other unless they agree to live in one spot.

It’s not crazy to me that if they’d lived on one location since the kids were born and suddenly moved to England as things were going south, that the US born spouse would want to move back where they and their kids had been living. She could just as easily have pressured Joe to move to the UK months ago knowing that they were headed for a divorce and wanting to establish their residence there.


They were living in LA when their oldest was born and when Covid started. They sold their LA house and bought the Miami house in 2021. Then in 2022, their second daughter was born AND they put their Miami house on the market and sold it. Around the same time, the found a house rental in the UK near Sophie's family and Sophie took a job filming in the UK. Joe came to stay with Sophie in spring 2023.

Their older daughter has thus lived in at least three if not more houses, and as many cities, since she was born 3 years ago. Their youngest does not appear to have ever lived anywhere for more than a few months at a time. The family does not have a home base. However, it looks like they secured a house in the UK near Sophie's family, and Sophie took a job there, with the intention of putting down roots there.

If Joe wants to back out of that and divorce instead, that's his choice, but the idea that it means that the kids can't go to the UK with their mother because of their "connection" to the US is ludicrous. They have no more connection to the US than they do to the UK. Where even is there home in the US? LA? NY? Not Miami, that house is gone. Joe's been on tour this year and it's not clear where his home base is. Is his argument that it's better for these very young children to live out of hotels in random cities instead of in a permanent home near extended family with their mother?


I mean, they did live in the us for most of their marriage. I think they’re both being selfish. I don’t agree with the narrative that he’s a SOB and she’s not. Neither of them have made responsible decisions about having kids or where they should put down roots. Perhaps they should have had an important conversation like this one before they had kids at all.


Four year marriage. They lived in two cities on two coasts for three of those years. They got a house in the UK in late 2022 and lived there for much of 2023. I'm sorry, but the idea that they have this unseverable tie to the US and therefore Sophie should not be allowed to have her children with her in the UK, where she has a house and a job and is near family, so that the kids can travel around on tour in the US with their dad, is silly.

Sophie made choices to put down roots and create consistency and family of her kids. In the UK. Where is Joe even living right now? Likely out of hotels. Why would that be better for the kids? It makes no sense.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2023 12:34     Subject: Re:Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas headed to divorce

Whatever happened in the marriage, I feel sorry for Sophie Turner. She probably was head over heels when she married him so ignored her unhappiness with living in the USA. But her kids are residents here and she won’t be moving them back to the UK, the law on relocation is very clear. She’s either going to have to be the parent who sees her kids only on holidays and summers, or she’s going to have to suck it up and live in the states.

Marry in haste, repent at leisure .
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2023 12:34     Subject: Re:Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas headed to divorce

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Anonymous wrote:The whole thing is a mess but I'm a mom and there are few things more cruel than trying to keep a mom of very young children separated from her children. I will fight pretty much anyone on that, whether we're talking about a woman in prison or a wealthy actress in a mansion in the UK countryside. The bond between moms and babies/small kids is sacrosanct to me and I think it should only be broken if the mom is unwilling or unable to parent. The idea of someone trying to separate me from my kids at that age makes me think very dark thoughts.

Joe Jonas is absolute garbage.


Is he trying to keep them apart, or is he trying to prevent her from attempting to establish the kids primary residence in the UK now that they’re divorcing? Because of those IS cruel and one is protecting his rights as a parent.


If he is withholding the kids passports, thus forcing Sophie to come to him if she wants to be with her kids, it's cruel. The legalities of a divorce between two people with different nationalities is not my concern -- they should both have thought of that before getting married and having kids. But I just think it's cruel to attempt to separate very young children from their mother. Even if he has a legal justification for it, it's immoral. Their youngest daughter is only like 14 months old. These are babies.

It makes me feel physically unwell to think of a mother of children that age being separated from her children, for any reason other than the idea that she is an unfit mother. It's the only reason. Very young children should be with their mother if at all possible.


Is it better to separate young kids from their father? Their reality is that they are from different countries. And if they’re divorced, they could be parenting on different continents. One of them is going to have more access than the other unless they agree to live in one spot.

It’s not crazy to me that if they’d lived on one location since the kids were born and suddenly moved to England as things were going south, that the US born spouse would want to move back where they and their kids had been living. She could just as easily have pressured Joe to move to the UK months ago knowing that they were headed for a divorce and wanting to establish their residence there.
That doesn't mean that he can just go ahead and do it without notifying the other parent. He is a shady, conniving, controlling SOB and there is more about him that's going to come out.


Yeah, it’s shady, but it’s a generally messy situation. And who knows what causes the dissolution of their marriage. What if she cheated on him? Is he supposed to just let her take the kids to London and uproot his life to follow them? If they had any established residence, it was in the US. I’m not sure who is legally right here but honestly they both seem like a-holes to me who aren’t putting their kids first. She wants to pull them from their home and father in the US, and he wants them here. The real losers are the kids.


First, you are inventing a reason for the divorce that puts her 100% at fault solely to argue in favor of his behavior. Think about that. His behavior is justified IF Sophie is a villain. Ask yourself why that is.

Second, they had no established residence but it appears they were beginning to establish a residence in the UK and that Joe participated in that choice by agreeing to sell the Miami house, rent the house in the UK, and bringing the kids there and living there for several months earlier this year. At the moment, that UK house likely is the most "home"-like place the kids have.

So Sophie is not pulling them from their home in the US. They don't have one. And since Joe is the one who withheld not only passports but also the fact that he'd filed for divorce, it really looks like he's the one trying to pull them from their mom.
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Post 09/21/2023 12:34     Subject: Re:Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas headed to divorce

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Anonymous wrote:The whole thing is a mess but I'm a mom and there are few things more cruel than trying to keep a mom of very young children separated from her children. I will fight pretty much anyone on that, whether we're talking about a woman in prison or a wealthy actress in a mansion in the UK countryside. The bond between moms and babies/small kids is sacrosanct to me and I think it should only be broken if the mom is unwilling or unable to parent. The idea of someone trying to separate me from my kids at that age makes me think very dark thoughts.

Joe Jonas is absolute garbage.


Is he trying to keep them apart, or is he trying to prevent her from attempting to establish the kids primary residence in the UK now that they’re divorcing? Because of those IS cruel and one is protecting his rights as a parent.


If he is withholding the kids passports, thus forcing Sophie to come to him if she wants to be with her kids, it's cruel. The legalities of a divorce between two people with different nationalities is not my concern -- they should both have thought of that before getting married and having kids. But I just think it's cruel to attempt to separate very young children from their mother. Even if he has a legal justification for it, it's immoral. Their youngest daughter is only like 14 months old. These are babies.

It makes me feel physically unwell to think of a mother of children that age being separated from her children, for any reason other than the idea that she is an unfit mother. It's the only reason. Very young children should be with their mother if at all possible.


Is it better to separate young kids from their father? Their reality is that they are from different countries. And if they’re divorced, they could be parenting on different continents. One of them is going to have more access than the other unless they agree to live in one spot.

It’s not crazy to me that if they’d lived on one location since the kids were born and suddenly moved to England as things were going south, that the US born spouse would want to move back where they and their kids had been living. She could just as easily have pressured Joe to move to the UK months ago knowing that they were headed for a divorce and wanting to establish their residence there.
That doesn't mean that he can just go ahead and do it without notifying the other parent. He is a shady, conniving, controlling SOB and there is more about him that's going to come out.


Yeah, it’s shady, but it’s a generally messy situation. And who knows what causes the dissolution of their marriage. What if she cheated on him? Is he supposed to just let her take the kids to London and uproot his life to follow them? If they had any established residence, it was in the US. I’m not sure who is legally right here but honestly they both seem like a-holes to me who aren’t putting their kids first. She wants to pull them from their home and father in the US, and he wants them here. The real losers are the kids.


If Sophie was withholding their passports in the UK and not allowing them to travel to the US to visit Joe, I would say it was equally shady. He is not just "not consenting to them moving to the UK" (completely fine in my book; he wants to be in the US; let a judge sort it out), he is WITHHOLDING their passports. Absent any evidence that Sophie would not let them ever return to US, this is a horrible thing to do. The kids could definitely travel back and forth by a pre-determined arrangement while this is sorted out. He had already filed in the US & while the kids were present there, so he already had first mover advantage before stealing their passports. The fact she filed in NY and voluntarily submitted to the jurisdiction of US courts before filing in the UK makes it clear that she is not going to take the position that US courts have no jurisdiction at all. She basically can't because of her profession & the UK is a signatory to the Hague Convention anyway. This is not a situation where she's going to be able to kidnap her kids indefinitely nor is there ANY evidence that she intends to. On the contrary, that is essentially what Joe is doing by holding the passports hostage. The court will rule against him ASAP.
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Post 09/21/2023 12:30     Subject: Re:Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas headed to divorce

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Anonymous wrote:The whole thing is a mess but I'm a mom and there are few things more cruel than trying to keep a mom of very young children separated from her children. I will fight pretty much anyone on that, whether we're talking about a woman in prison or a wealthy actress in a mansion in the UK countryside. The bond between moms and babies/small kids is sacrosanct to me and I think it should only be broken if the mom is unwilling or unable to parent. The idea of someone trying to separate me from my kids at that age makes me think very dark thoughts.

Joe Jonas is absolute garbage.


Is he trying to keep them apart, or is he trying to prevent her from attempting to establish the kids primary residence in the UK now that they’re divorcing? Because of those IS cruel and one is protecting his rights as a parent.


If he is withholding the kids passports, thus forcing Sophie to come to him if she wants to be with her kids, it's cruel. The legalities of a divorce between two people with different nationalities is not my concern -- they should both have thought of that before getting married and having kids. But I just think it's cruel to attempt to separate very young children from their mother. Even if he has a legal justification for it, it's immoral. Their youngest daughter is only like 14 months old. These are babies.

It makes me feel physically unwell to think of a mother of children that age being separated from her children, for any reason other than the idea that she is an unfit mother. It's the only reason. Very young children should be with their mother if at all possible.


Is it better to separate young kids from their father? Their reality is that they are from different countries. And if they’re divorced, they could be parenting on different continents. One of them is going to have more access than the other unless they agree to live in one spot.

It’s not crazy to me that if they’d lived on one location since the kids were born and suddenly moved to England as things were going south, that the US born spouse would want to move back where they and their kids had been living. She could just as easily have pressured Joe to move to the UK months ago knowing that they were headed for a divorce and wanting to establish their residence there.


They were living in LA when their oldest was born and when Covid started. They sold their LA house and bought the Miami house in 2021. Then in 2022, their second daughter was born AND they put their Miami house on the market and sold it. Around the same time, the found a house rental in the UK near Sophie's family and Sophie took a job filming in the UK. Joe came to stay with Sophie in spring 2023.

Their older daughter has thus lived in at least three if not more houses, and as many cities, since she was born 3 years ago. Their youngest does not appear to have ever lived anywhere for more than a few months at a time. The family does not have a home base. However, it looks like they secured a house in the UK near Sophie's family, and Sophie took a job there, with the intention of putting down roots there.

If Joe wants to back out of that and divorce instead, that's his choice, but the idea that it means that the kids can't go to the UK with their mother because of their "connection" to the US is ludicrous. They have no more connection to the US than they do to the UK. Where even is there home in the US? LA? NY? Not Miami, that house is gone. Joe's been on tour this year and it's not clear where his home base is. Is his argument that it's better for these very young children to live out of hotels in random cities instead of in a permanent home near extended family with their mother?


I mean, they did live in the us for most of their marriage. I think they’re both being selfish. I don’t agree with the narrative that he’s a SOB and she’s not. Neither of them have made responsible decisions about having kids or where they should put down roots. Perhaps they should have had an important conversation like this one before they had kids at all.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2023 12:27     Subject: Re:Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas headed to divorce

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The whole thing is a mess but I'm a mom and there are few things more cruel than trying to keep a mom of very young children separated from her children. I will fight pretty much anyone on that, whether we're talking about a woman in prison or a wealthy actress in a mansion in the UK countryside. The bond between moms and babies/small kids is sacrosanct to me and I think it should only be broken if the mom is unwilling or unable to parent. The idea of someone trying to separate me from my kids at that age makes me think very dark thoughts.

Joe Jonas is absolute garbage.


Is he trying to keep them apart, or is he trying to prevent her from attempting to establish the kids primary residence in the UK now that they’re divorcing? Because of those IS cruel and one is protecting his rights as a parent.


If he is withholding the kids passports, thus forcing Sophie to come to him if she wants to be with her kids, it's cruel. The legalities of a divorce between two people with different nationalities is not my concern -- they should both have thought of that before getting married and having kids. But I just think it's cruel to attempt to separate very young children from their mother. Even if he has a legal justification for it, it's immoral. Their youngest daughter is only like 14 months old. These are babies.

It makes me feel physically unwell to think of a mother of children that age being separated from her children, for any reason other than the idea that she is an unfit mother. It's the only reason. Very young children should be with their mother if at all possible.


Is it better to separate young kids from their father? Their reality is that they are from different countries. And if they’re divorced, they could be parenting on different continents. One of them is going to have more access than the other unless they agree to live in one spot.

It’s not crazy to me that if they’d lived on one location since the kids were born and suddenly moved to England as things were going south, that the US born spouse would want to move back where they and their kids had been living. She could just as easily have pressured Joe to move to the UK months ago knowing that they were headed for a divorce and wanting to establish their residence there.


They were living in LA when their oldest was born and when Covid started. They sold their LA house and bought the Miami house in 2021. Then in 2022, their second daughter was born AND they put their Miami house on the market and sold it. Around the same time, the found a house rental in the UK near Sophie's family and Sophie took a job filming in the UK. Joe came to stay with Sophie in spring 2023.

Their older daughter has thus lived in at least three if not more houses, and as many cities, since she was born 3 years ago. Their youngest does not appear to have ever lived anywhere for more than a few months at a time. The family does not have a home base. However, it looks like they secured a house in the UK near Sophie's family, and Sophie took a job there, with the intention of putting down roots there.

If Joe wants to back out of that and divorce instead, that's his choice, but the idea that it means that the kids can't go to the UK with their mother because of their "connection" to the US is ludicrous. They have no more connection to the US than they do to the UK. Where even is there home in the US? LA? NY? Not Miami, that house is gone. Joe's been on tour this year and it's not clear where his home base is. Is his argument that it's better for these very young children to live out of hotels in random cities instead of in a permanent home near extended family with their mother?
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2023 12:21     Subject: Re:Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas headed to divorce

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The whole thing is a mess but I'm a mom and there are few things more cruel than trying to keep a mom of very young children separated from her children. I will fight pretty much anyone on that, whether we're talking about a woman in prison or a wealthy actress in a mansion in the UK countryside. The bond between moms and babies/small kids is sacrosanct to me and I think it should only be broken if the mom is unwilling or unable to parent. The idea of someone trying to separate me from my kids at that age makes me think very dark thoughts.

Joe Jonas is absolute garbage.


Is he trying to keep them apart, or is he trying to prevent her from attempting to establish the kids primary residence in the UK now that they’re divorcing? Because of those IS cruel and one is protecting his rights as a parent.


If he is withholding the kids passports, thus forcing Sophie to come to him if she wants to be with her kids, it's cruel. The legalities of a divorce between two people with different nationalities is not my concern -- they should both have thought of that before getting married and having kids. But I just think it's cruel to attempt to separate very young children from their mother. Even if he has a legal justification for it, it's immoral. Their youngest daughter is only like 14 months old. These are babies.

It makes me feel physically unwell to think of a mother of children that age being separated from her children, for any reason other than the idea that she is an unfit mother. It's the only reason. Very young children should be with their mother if at all possible.


Is it better to separate young kids from their father? Their reality is that they are from different countries. And if they’re divorced, they could be parenting on different continents. One of them is going to have more access than the other unless they agree to live in one spot.

It’s not crazy to me that if they’d lived on one location since the kids were born and suddenly moved to England as things were going south, that the US born spouse would want to move back where they and their kids had been living. She could just as easily have pressured Joe to move to the UK months ago knowing that they were headed for a divorce and wanting to establish their residence there.
That doesn't mean that he can just go ahead and do it without notifying the other parent. He is a shady, conniving, controlling SOB and there is more about him that's going to come out.


Yeah, it’s shady, but it’s a generally messy situation. And who knows what causes the dissolution of their marriage. What if she cheated on him? Is he supposed to just let her take the kids to London and uproot his life to follow them? If they had any established residence, it was in the US. I’m not sure who is legally right here but honestly they both seem like a-holes to me who aren’t putting their kids first. She wants to pull them from their home and father in the US, and he wants them here. The real losers are the kids.