Anonymous
09/03/2024 13:13
Subject: Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship
I weight 120 but I hate my body. I can't have sex without loving how I look and I don't want to have sex without having feelings for that person.
Anonymous
09/02/2024 18:40
Subject: Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship
Recently came into contact with the woman who got into her first relationship at 38 and is still a virgin but now she's trying to decide when she's ready for sex
Anonymous
08/28/2024 15:28
Subject: Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Reasons why they could be single:
-fat -men generally hate fat women
-asexual or closeted lesbians
- autistic-there’s lot of high functioning masked autistic women who just never got diagnosed out there and this makes them have difficult social relationships
-overly picky
-doesn’t leave the house because they wfh and won’t use dating apps
-undiagnosed mental health issues that make dating for them difficult
This might be me.
-Not really asexual but I don’t like penetration which is what most men tend to like
-I definitely have some kind of neurodivergence. Extremely high functioning: I have lots of friends and a six-figure job, but there’s something about me that people just don’t want to be my partner and live with me. I’m very set in my ways about a lot of things. “Lovable and eccentric” is how my friends would describe me.
- Of the men who have shown interest in me, too many of them just gave me the ick. Or something was just off about them. Whatever it was, it wasn’t going to work. Not hoping for a 6’4 handsome doctor. I just have to LIKE the guy and there’s so few guys that I LIKE.
- Mental health, I have trust issues and I’m overly cynical. While my friends think I’m fun and outgoing, I am just not “fun” and light and flirty when dating. I take myself too seriously sometimes.
Years of therapy and I figure this is why I’m single. Meanwhile here on the internet, people are like “maybe it’s cuz you’re fat, just don’t be fat hurr hurr” I’m literally 115 lbs.
115lbs most of us men would love to have sex with you cause we are stuck with a bunch of fat and overweight women. Even the ones who think they are slim have fat in a bunch of random places yikes
Anonymous
08/28/2024 13:00
Subject: Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship
The only women in know who are 35+ and never dated have issues. Either really overweight or has some sexual hang up.
Anonymous
08/28/2024 12:23
Subject: Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship
Friend of mine whose cousin is a woman didn't meet her future husband until she was either 38 or 39 and I don't think she ever had a boyfriend before him
Anonymous
08/19/2024 10:39
Subject: Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship
Anonymous wrote:Reasons why they could be single:
-fat -men generally hate fat women
-asexual or closeted lesbians
- autistic-there’s lot of high functioning masked autistic women who just never got diagnosed out there and this makes them have difficult social relationships
-overly picky
-doesn’t leave the house because they wfh and won’t use dating apps
-undiagnosed mental health issues that make dating for them difficult
This might be me.
-Not really asexual but I don’t like penetration which is what most men tend to like
-I definitely have some kind of neurodivergence. Extremely high functioning: I have lots of friends and a six-figure job, but there’s something about me that people just don’t want to be my partner and live with me. I’m very set in my ways about a lot of things. “Lovable and eccentric” is how my friends would describe me.
- Of the men who have shown interest in me, too many of them just gave me the ick. Or something was just off about them. Whatever it was, it wasn’t going to work. Not hoping for a 6’4 handsome doctor. I just have to LIKE the guy and there’s so few guys that I LIKE.
- Mental health, I have trust issues and I’m overly cynical. While my friends think I’m fun and outgoing, I am just not “fun” and light and flirty when dating. I take myself too seriously sometimes.
Years of therapy and I figure this is why I’m single. Meanwhile here on the internet, people are like “maybe it’s cuz you’re fat, just don’t be fat hurr hurr” I’m literally 115 lbs.
Anonymous
08/19/2024 10:10
Subject: Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship
Anonymous wrote:I’ve dated a lot and have had some short term relationships, but at 49 the longest exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend type relationship I ever had was about eight months when I was 19.
I think it’s a combination of wanting a very specific type of person, being very comfortable remaining single, and, what I’m only now beginning to realize, lacking some specific dating skills.
For the first time in my life, I have a group of wonderful female friends and apparently all this time I’ve had no idea how to recognize a man’s interest or show mine. They’re teaching me things that they’ve just naturally known since they were teens. It’s been so shocking, I wondered if I might be on the autism spectrum or something, but that doesn’t seem to be it.
I can’t explain it, and I’m really not sure I care anymore, but a year of female friends independently sitting me down and explaining things I’d been oblivious to for thirty years has been illuminating.
Can you give examples? What kind of things?
Anonymous
08/19/2024 09:58
Subject: Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship
Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a hypothetical problem I use to teach statistics. With a normal distribution, 95% of women without "issues" have a relationship by the time they reach 35. Mary is 40 years old and never had a relationship. What is the probability that Mary doesn't have issues? Would you date Mary? LOL!
interesting unexpected
Anonymous
08/18/2024 17:10
Subject: Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship
This is pretty meaningless without a definition of “relationship”.
Are we talking about women who’ve never been out on a date? Women who’ve never been in a committed long term relationship?
There are a lot of different scenarios, and probably different reasons for each of them.
There are women who go on three first dates a week for a decade and never get past a third date. There are women who’ve never been on a date at all. There are women who always have a man around but have never had something committed/serious.
What metric are we using?
Are we talking about women who’ve never been out on a date? Women who’ve never been in a committed long term relationship?
There are a lot of different scenarios, and probably different reasons for each of them.
There are women who go on three first dates a week for a decade and never get past a third date. There are women who’ve never been on a date at all. There are women who always have a man around but have never had something committed/serious.
What metric are we using?
Anonymous
08/18/2024 16:58
Subject: Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship
This sounds like a hypothetical problem I use to teach statistics. With a normal distribution, 95% of women without "issues" have a relationship by the time they reach 35. Mary is 40 years old and never had a relationship. What is the probability that Mary doesn't have issues? Would you date Mary? LOL!
Anonymous
08/18/2024 16:55
Subject: Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship
I’ve dated a lot and have had some short term relationships, but at 49 the longest exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend type relationship I ever had was about eight months when I was 19.
I think it’s a combination of wanting a very specific type of person, being very comfortable remaining single, and, what I’m only now beginning to realize, lacking some specific dating skills.
For the first time in my life, I have a group of wonderful female friends and apparently all this time I’ve had no idea how to recognize a man’s interest or show mine. They’re teaching me things that they’ve just naturally known since they were teens. It’s been so shocking, I wondered if I might be on the autism spectrum or something, but that doesn’t seem to be it.
I can’t explain it, and I’m really not sure I care anymore, but a year of female friends independently sitting me down and explaining things I’d been oblivious to for thirty years has been illuminating.
I think it’s a combination of wanting a very specific type of person, being very comfortable remaining single, and, what I’m only now beginning to realize, lacking some specific dating skills.
For the first time in my life, I have a group of wonderful female friends and apparently all this time I’ve had no idea how to recognize a man’s interest or show mine. They’re teaching me things that they’ve just naturally known since they were teens. It’s been so shocking, I wondered if I might be on the autism spectrum or something, but that doesn’t seem to be it.
I can’t explain it, and I’m really not sure I care anymore, but a year of female friends independently sitting me down and explaining things I’d been oblivious to for thirty years has been illuminating.
Anonymous
08/18/2024 16:31
Subject: Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship
Anonymous wrote:Reasons why they could be single:
-fat -men generally hate fat women
-asexual or closeted lesbians
- autistic-there’s lot of high functioning masked autistic women who just never got diagnosed out there and this makes them have difficult social relationships
-overly picky
-doesn’t leave the house because they wfh and won’t use dating apps
-undiagnosed mental health issues that make dating for them difficult
This woman recently started a podcast and she claims she's 31 and never dated or never had a boyfriend before:
https://youtu.be/VO8r29M_9NI?si=KU8BRtMkpSi3Auvk
Yes I know under 35 but outside of the norm and the societal Norm for having your first relationship is either your teenage years or the very beginning of your twenties
Anonymous
08/08/2024 06:11
Subject: Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship
Reasons why they could be single:
-fat -men generally hate fat women
-asexual or closeted lesbians
- autistic-there’s lot of high functioning masked autistic women who just never got diagnosed out there and this makes them have difficult social relationships
-overly picky
-doesn’t leave the house because they wfh and won’t use dating apps
-undiagnosed mental health issues that make dating for them difficult
-fat -men generally hate fat women
-asexual or closeted lesbians
- autistic-there’s lot of high functioning masked autistic women who just never got diagnosed out there and this makes them have difficult social relationships
-overly picky
-doesn’t leave the house because they wfh and won’t use dating apps
-undiagnosed mental health issues that make dating for them difficult
Anonymous
08/05/2024 15:22
Subject: Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship
Sometimes you can just flick your own bean and that's plenty.
Anonymous
08/05/2024 14:36
Subject: Women 35+ who have never been in a relationship
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