Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this a normal thing? I’ve never heard of it, but a friend posted their daughter’s online today asking for rec letters for rush.

Make sure the Social Resume includes details on Mommy. This is a BIG deal with Southern Sororities…
First we have to know how much of a superficial loser the mom is….
1) Did she marry her husband for money?
2) Are her nails always done?
3) Full make up anytime she leaves the house?
4) Clothing mirrors that of a wannabe socialite? Quiet Luxury is a foreign concept
5) despite never going to a TOP school, the prestige of DD college makes up a big part of her life?
6) Has some connections through daddy or husband and think she belongs

If 5 of those are CHECKS, then yes, you can move on to your own social resume and chances are you are closer to your (mom’s) dream of you making it into the sorority they didn’t….Then WELCOME to the “Find me a husband club”

There’s gotta be a reason this is only a thing at southern schools. My daughter’s in a sorority at a big state school outside the South, and to her, the idea that girls would put in the same time, money, and effort into getting into a sorority as they did into getting into college itself is completely wild. Are the boys putting in the same effort when rushing? I mean, are we not in 2025?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is a social resume and how does my DD build one? Current senior.

There are examples online. There are a lot of templates on Etsy that will show you exactly what you look like, so you can DIY it if you like.

Here's one: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1366570926/sorority-resume-template-with-photo-blue?gpla=1&gao=1&&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=shopping_us_b-paper_and_party_supplies&utm_custom1=_k_CjwKCAiAiOa9BhBqEiwABCdG8yAlB18eOLSPpPJVni5Q0IJKrRR14o9U4xpNeIuO08iSbxpl87RHdhoCvsoQAvD_BwE_k_&utm_content=go_22198874827_173148275494_731651203914_pla-314261241107_c__1366570926_12768591&utm_custom2=22198874827&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiAiOa9BhBqEiwABCdG8yAlB18eOLSPpPJVni5Q0IJKrRR14o9U4xpNeIuO08iSbxpl87RHdhoCvsoQAvD_BwE

Don’t forget to print it on scented paper like Elle Woods’s resume

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:any discussion of greek life always devolves into this type of argument on this board. the fact is that if you talk to the girls in sororities they are generally happy with the experience, and they are also welcome to drop out at any time if they are not. Its a social club, why do we have to assign any more meaning to it than that? If the girls find their "home" great, if its not for them,, great. Why grown women (and possibly men) on this board care one way or the other, I simply don't understand.

Yes, the girls who got in. I’d have loved to join, but I didn’t have $300/semester for the dues. Therefore, a whole segment of the college population was sequestered where I had a harder time meeting them. I’m very jealous of these “networks” that I didn’t have the money to buy. I networked on my own, but it’s an inherently smaller network as a lone person, making friends.

$300/semester for a $10K/semester college?

Being poor sucks, but it's not evil for people who aren't poor to spend a little money to have a bit of a life. If you can't afford $300/semester for social event you probably can't afford clothes and makeup for that kind of social life either. Luckily there are thousands of non Greek students at the school too.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this a normal thing? I’ve never heard of it, but a friend posted their daughter’s online today asking for rec letters for rush.

Make sure the Social Resume includes details on Mommy. This is a BIG deal with Southern Sororities…
First we have to know how much of a superficial loser the mom is….
1) Did she marry her husband for money?
2) Are her nails always done?
3) Full make up anytime she leaves the house?
4) Clothing mirrors that of a wannabe socialite? Quiet Luxury is a foreign concept
5) despite never going to a TOP school, the prestige of DD college makes up a big part of her life?
6) Has some connections through daddy or husband and think she belongs

If 5 of those are CHECKS, then yes, you can move on to your own social resume and chances are you are closer to your (mom’s) dream of you making it into the sorority they didn’t….Then WELCOME to the “Find me a husband club”

LOL….. I know this was supposed to be funny and mean at the same time….But I cant help but agree with the stereotype….

It’s sad in 2025, there are women who still strive for this.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this a normal thing? I’ve never heard of it, but a friend posted their daughter’s online today asking for rec letters for rush.

Make sure the Social Resume includes details on Mommy. This is a BIG deal with Southern Sororities…
First we have to know how much of a superficial loser the mom is….
1) Did she marry her husband for money?
2) Are her nails always done?
3) Full make up anytime she leaves the house?
4) Clothing mirrors that of a wannabe socialite? Quiet Luxury is a foreign concept
5) despite never going to a TOP school, the prestige of DD college makes up a big part of her life?
6) Has some connections through daddy or husband and think she belongs

If 5 of those are CHECKS, then yes, you can move on to your own social resume and chances are you are closer to your (mom’s) dream of you making it into the sorority they didn’t….Then WELCOME to the “Find me a husband club”

LOL….. I know this was supposed to be funny and mean at the same time….But I cant help but agree with the stereotype….

Anonymous wrote:So it’s all based on looks and who you know.

Are there any sororities that value intelligence and talents and character and do not give any weight to looks/wealth/connections?

It's chapter specific. The girls pick other girls they think will fit in. I spent a lot of time with my sorority sisters and know many still 40 years later.

I was not great looking. But I did happen to get rushed by someone who went to my high school though we had never met at our huge school. Other than that I had great grades and lots of extra curricular activities.

I ended up at one of the top national houses.

So it’s all based on looks and who you know.

Are there any sororities that value intelligence and talents and character and do not give any weight to looks/wealth/connections?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this a normal thing? I’ve never heard of it, but a friend posted their daughter’s online today asking for rec letters for rush.

Make sure the Social Resume includes details on Mommy. This is a BIG deal with Southern Sororities…
First we have to know how much of a superficial loser the mom is….
1) Did she marry her husband for money?
2) Are her nails always done?
3) Full make up anytime she leaves the house?
4) Clothing mirrors that of a wannabe socialite? Quiet Luxury is a foreign concept
5) despite never going to a TOP school, the prestige of DD college makes up a big part of her life?
6) Has some connections through daddy or husband and think she belongs

If 5 of those are CHECKS, then yes, you can move on to your own social resume and chances are you are closer to your (mom’s) dream of you making it into the sorority they didn’t….Then WELCOME to the “Find me a husband club”

Wow.
Bitter—party of one.

But I hope at least it was therapeutic for you to type that out, PP. it’s not good to hold the nastiness inside you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is a social resume and how does my DD build one? Current senior.

There are examples online. There are a lot of templates on Etsy that will show you exactly what you look like, so you can DIY it if you like.

Here's one: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1366570926/sorority-resume-template-with-photo-blue?gpla=1&gao=1&&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=shopping_us_b-paper_and_party_supplies&utm_custom1=_k_CjwKCAiAiOa9BhBqEiwABCdG8yAlB18eOLSPpPJVni5Q0IJKrRR14o9U4xpNeIuO08iSbxpl87RHdhoCvsoQAvD_BwE_k_&utm_content=go_22198874827_173148275494_731651203914_pla-314261241107_c__1366570926_12768591&utm_custom2=22198874827&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiAiOa9BhBqEiwABCdG8yAlB18eOLSPpPJVni5Q0IJKrRR14o9U4xpNeIuO08iSbxpl87RHdhoCvsoQAvD_BwE

what *they* look like

Anonymous wrote:What is a social resume and how does my DD build one? Current senior.

There are examples online. There are a lot of templates on Etsy that will show you exactly what you look like, so you can DIY it if you like.

Here's one: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1366570926/sorority-resume-template-with-photo-blue?gpla=1&gao=1&&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=shopping_us_b-paper_and_party_supplies&utm_custom1=_k_CjwKCAiAiOa9BhBqEiwABCdG8yAlB18eOLSPpPJVni5Q0IJKrRR14o9U4xpNeIuO08iSbxpl87RHdhoCvsoQAvD_BwE_k_&utm_content=go_22198874827_173148275494_731651203914_pla-314261241107_c__1366570926_12768591&utm_custom2=22198874827&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiAiOa9BhBqEiwABCdG8yAlB18eOLSPpPJVni5Q0IJKrRR14o9U4xpNeIuO08iSbxpl87RHdhoCvsoQAvD_BwE

Anonymous wrote:Is this a normal thing? I’ve never heard of it, but a friend posted their daughter’s online today asking for rec letters for rush.

Make sure the Social Resume includes details on Mommy. This is a BIG deal with Southern Sororities…
First we have to know how much of a superficial loser the mom is….
1) Did she marry her husband for money?
2) Are her nails always done?
3) Full make up anytime she leaves the house?
4) Clothing mirrors that of a wannabe socialite? Quiet Luxury is a foreign concept
5) despite never going to a TOP school, the prestige of DD college makes up a big part of her life?
6) Has some connections through daddy or husband and think she belongs

If 5 of those are CHECKS, then yes, you can move on to your own social resume and chances are you are closer to your (mom’s) dream of you making it into the sorority they didn’t….Then WELCOME to the “Find me a husband club”

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this a normal thing? I’ve never heard of it, but a friend posted their daughter’s online today asking for rec letters for rush.

Rec letters? What about first generation students?

You can ask friends/acquaintances/coworker/neighbor who are alums to write a reference on behalf of your DD. But you can also ask your city’s Panhellenic association to assist in getting a reference for your daughter to the houses that are represented on her campus. Many don’t require a reference but some SEC chapters still do.
It’s nice if the reference is written by someone who actually knows your kid but it isn’t necessary. Usually the person seeking a reference will supply a social resume to give the reference writer some idea of what to write about regarding her interests and achievements and why DD would be an asset to their sorority.

Anonymous wrote:What is a social resume and how does my DD build one? Current senior.

This is VERY school specific. You need to find a girl who went through rush at your school and ask to see hers - or ask your local panhellenic chapter. Some schools want a lot of detail, some want a one pager.

The truth is - the most important information will come from the girls in the chapter looking at your daughter's instagram page. Scrub it. Fill it with gorgeous picture of her and her friends looking cute. Sorry, this is the truth. If it's private, she'll likely get requests from sorority members over the summer. They scrub it on a number of levels. Who is she following at the college? Who is following her? Is she a blank slate they could rush and would join or is she likely going kappa kappa kappa because she has a ton of likes and comments from the kappa kappa kappas. Of course, they are going to judge on looks but it's not everything. If your daughter wants to do something proactive, get that instagram page looking good.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:any discussion of greek life always devolves into this type of argument on this board. the fact is that if you talk to the girls in sororities they are generally happy with the experience, and they are also welcome to drop out at any time if they are not. Its a social club, why do we have to assign any more meaning to it than that? If the girls find their "home" great, if its not for them,, great. Why grown women (and possibly men) on this board care one way or the other, I simply don't understand.

It’s a social club that - up front - excludes people based on background, connections and looks. Fold in the hidden classism, racism, ableism. Yes, this is human nature but not a particularly admirable side of human nature. Why would that be acceptable?

+1

As a society we try to change things that are wrong. We no longer have slavery; it's now illegal to discriminate based on race, sex, a whole list of things, when applying for a job. Women can vote; women can have their own credit cards and hold jobs. We try to make society a better place to live in (we still have a long way to go on most of these things).

but what if women who are in them (and even those who are not), don't consider them wrong and enjoy them? You speak for yourself when you say it's "wrong".

Well of course. The people benefitting from the system like the system. 🙄 They’re not the ones paying the social cost of being excluded.

Anonymous wrote:any discussion of greek life always devolves into this type of argument on this board. the fact is that if you talk to the girls in sororities they are generally happy with the experience, and they are also welcome to drop out at any time if they are not. Its a social club, why do we have to assign any more meaning to it than that? If the girls find their "home" great, if its not for them,, great. Why grown women (and possibly men) on this board care one way or the other, I simply don't understand.

Yes, the girls who got in. I’d have loved to join, but I didn’t have $300/semester for the dues. Therefore, a whole segment of the college population was sequestered where I had a harder time meeting them. I’m very jealous of these “networks” that I didn’t have the money to buy. I networked on my own, but it’s an inherently smaller network as a lone person, making friends.