Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hi Spirit Reader,
My eldest is really struggling. I don’t know whether to push her and give her consequences or to support her and let this play out with continued therapy and treatment. She is still in her room “getting dressed” (it is a bit after noon) and is so far behind on her schoolwork. I don’t know how to rebuild my relationship with her or help her out of this rut. I end up feeling angry. Everything that seems reasonable to me feels really harsh to her.
How can I best help her?
You need to focus her attention outward as she is ruminating too much in her own mind. She needs to do good work in the world and her schoolwork will follow. Find a way to get her out to help others; she will bloom. Go with her if you must, at first.
You aren’t the real spirit reader. You smell of beef and cheese.
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Good advice though.
Yep - because I am the real spirit reader. Still dealing with a very busy toddler. But I hope to get back to reading again this summer. If I did this thread now, I would not be able to give everyone the attention they deserve.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hi Spirit Reader,
My eldest is really struggling. I don’t know whether to push her and give her consequences or to support her and let this play out with continued therapy and treatment. She is still in her room “getting dressed” (it is a bit after noon) and is so far behind on her schoolwork. I don’t know how to rebuild my relationship with her or help her out of this rut. I end up feeling angry. Everything that seems reasonable to me feels really harsh to her.
How can I best help her?
You need to focus her attention outward as she is ruminating too much in her own mind. She needs to do good work in the world and her schoolwork will follow. Find a way to get her out to help others; she will bloom. Go with her if you must, at first.
You aren’t the real spirit reader. You smell of beef and cheese.
![]()
Good advice though.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hi Spirit Reader,
My eldest is really struggling. I don’t know whether to push her and give her consequences or to support her and let this play out with continued therapy and treatment. She is still in her room “getting dressed” (it is a bit after noon) and is so far behind on her schoolwork. I don’t know how to rebuild my relationship with her or help her out of this rut. I end up feeling angry. Everything that seems reasonable to me feels really harsh to her.
How can I best help her?
You need to focus her attention outward as she is ruminating too much in her own mind. She needs to do good work in the world and her schoolwork will follow. Find a way to get her out to help others; she will bloom. Go with her if you must, at first.
Anonymous wrote:Hi Spirit Reader,
My eldest is really struggling. I don’t know whether to push her and give her consequences or to support her and let this play out with continued therapy and treatment. She is still in her room “getting dressed” (it is a bit after noon) and is so far behind on her schoolwork. I don’t know how to rebuild my relationship with her or help her out of this rut. I end up feeling angry. Everything that seems reasonable to me feels really harsh to her.
How can I best help her?
Anonymous wrote:He is troubled. There is something happening in his life which causes him to be anxious and distracted. He doesnt want to talk about it, despite others offers to help. Keep letting him know you are there for him and he will find comfort from that.