Anonymous wrote:All her videos with the adopted child should be removed from YouTube!

Odd that she has over 700k Subscribers, but her view counts are very low.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

A lot of moms complain when they have difficult babies....

A lot of moms don’t give their kids away....

He was not a baby. Most moms complain, but you don't complain on video/online where the child and your other kids and their friends and families can hear it all. Imagine what that would do to a child. This kid will go online one day and read all about this. Imagine how that will impact him after all the trauma he's had.

I’m sorry but no, he won’t go online one day and read all this. He has severe special needs and can’t even talk. He will never go and read about himself online.

He may be more there than people realize.

Ehhh, I don’t think so unfortunately. Never heard him talk in any videos on YouTube or IG. He’s four but seems to have the mindset of a 1 year old. I just don’t ever see him being a “normal kid”.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

A lot of moms complain when they have difficult babies....

A lot of moms don’t give their kids away....

He was not a baby. Most moms complain, but you don't complain on video/online where the child and your other kids and their friends and families can hear it all. Imagine what that would do to a child. This kid will go online one day and read all about this. Imagine how that will impact him after all the trauma he's had.

I’m sorry but no, he won’t go online one day and read all this. He has severe special needs and can’t even talk. He will never go and read about himself online.

He may be more there than people realize.

Anonymous wrote:Rad is real but it is mostly blamed on the kids not attaching and it may be the parents who did not attach as if they bonded with this child they would not give him away. How can he bond when he is not getting his needs met and they are not bonding to him?

This is a good example of why kids should not be placed in large families who intend to have more bio kids. They don’t have the time and often resources.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

A lot of moms complain when they have difficult babies....

A lot of moms don’t give their kids away....

He was not a baby. Most moms complain, but you don't complain on video/online where the child and your other kids and their friends and families can hear it all. Imagine what that would do to a child. This kid will go online one day and read all about this. Imagine how that will impact him after all the trauma he's had.

I’m sorry but no, he won’t go online one day and read all this. He has severe special needs and can’t even talk. He will never go and read about himself online.

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Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what is going on with him. I think these parents never should have used him in the way they did, or violated his privacy the way they did. I think they made some big mistakes attachment wise in the beginning, based on the few videos I watched, but I can't say how or whether those things contributed.

But I will also say, as someone who has taught preschoolers and early elementary school aged students with severe emotional disturbance, the kids judged as too violent and unsafe for public schools at 4 or 5, and placed in therapeutic placements, that kids with an attachment component to their emotional disability can look very regulated and connected in some situations, in a way that kids with other mental health diagnoses usually don't. So, the fact that sometimes he was calm on camera, doesn't predict how he behaved in other situations. If anything, the fact that they didn't put footage of violent or disregulated behavior on the internet is to their credit, assuming that such footage exists.

I am not an expert, but there have been several international adoptions in my family of fairly disturbed special needs children, and it was at least always guessed that this was basically trained by the agencies from very, very young ages in order for them to appeal to potential adoptive parents. You get a lot of "cute" videos for a long time and the situation changes rapidly once they are in the adoptive home. I can see this mom filming the "good and cute" but wouldn't assume that means the behind the scenes isn't a different story.

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what is going on with him. I think these parents never should have used him in the way they did, or violated his privacy the way they did. I think they made some big mistakes attachment wise in the beginning, based on the few videos I watched, but I can't say how or whether those things contributed.

But I will also say, as someone who has taught preschoolers and early elementary school aged students with severe emotional disturbance, the kids judged as too violent and unsafe for public schools at 4 or 5, and placed in therapeutic placements, that kids with an attachment component to their emotional disability can look very regulated and connected in some situations, in a way that kids with other mental health diagnoses usually don't. So, the fact that sometimes he was calm on camera, doesn't predict how he behaved in other situations. If anything, the fact that they didn't put footage of violent or disregulated behavior on the internet is to their credit, assuming that such footage exists.

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Anonymous wrote:Was Huxley verbal?

No

Yes. Huxley reportedly had at least 40 signs (that video was old, so maybe he has more now, or uses another form of AAC), signs absolutely count as verbal language.

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what is going on with him. I think these parents never should have used him in the way they did, or violated his privacy the way they did. I think they made some big mistakes attachment wise in the beginning, based on the few videos I watched, but I can't say how or whether those things contributed.

But I will also say, as someone who has taught preschoolers and early elementary school aged students with severe emotional disturbance, the kids judged as too violent and unsafe for public schools at 4 or 5, and placed in therapeutic placements, that kids with an attachment component to their emotional disability can look very regulated and connected in some situations, in a way that kids with other mental health diagnoses usually don't. So, the fact that sometimes he was calm on camera, doesn't predict how he behaved in other situations. If anything, the fact that they didn't put footage of violent or disregulated behavior on the internet is to their credit, assuming that such footage exists.

SaltySal wrote:I dislike that they’re pretending he was a profoundly special needs, violent and dangerous boy. That kid is calm and nicely behaved in the videos I saw. He doesn’t look super problematic or disengaged. He looks very sweet. Poorly behaved kids don’t hide it. I don’t believe he is actually a knife wielding monster, or whatever it is they’re implying. Can you imagine your parents getting rid of the kid/sibling they don’t like? The bio kids really got a lesson. Toe the line! Yikes. The parents look guilty as hell on their video, as they should.