Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop acting like SEX is a given no matter what.
Sex no matter how you treat your wife
Sex no matter how little you do around the house
Sex no matter how little you help with the kids
Sex no matter how many hours she works
Sex no matter how she is feeling physically
Sex no matter what.

Sorry to tell you guys but sex is not some God given right you have inherited. We don't owe you our bodies for the mere pleasure of you gracing us with your presence.
You think so damn highly of yourselves? Treat ANY woman the way you treat your wife currently and see if she is wanting some sexy time with you.

How about you treat your wife as the partner she is and pull your weight. How about you bring her flowers, wine or whatever you would bring your lover. How about you spring for a nice dinner or hotel room for your wife or carve out an hour for HER and HER alone like you would your lover.

How about that.


How you would bitch and moan if your wife gained a ton of weight and you were no longer wanting to have sex with her. How dare she right?
What a double standard when the men turn into useless pieces of flesh we must still find them attractive and want to bone them at all costs.

My wife DID gain a ton of weight. I still bang her because I like sex and banging domeone else will cost me a shit ton of money if I get caught.

Anonymous wrote:Stop acting like SEX is a given no matter what.
Sex no matter how you treat your wife
Sex no matter how little you do around the house
Sex no matter how little you help with the kids
Sex no matter how many hours she works
Sex no matter how she is feeling physically
Sex no matter what.

Sorry to tell you guys but sex is not some God given right you have inherited. We don't owe you our bodies for the mere pleasure of you gracing us with your presence.
You think so damn highly of yourselves? Treat ANY woman the way you treat your wife currently and see if she is wanting some sexy time with you.

How about you treat your wife as the partner she is and pull your weight. How about you bring her flowers, wine or whatever you would bring your lover. How about you spring for a nice dinner or hotel room for your wife or carve out an hour for HER and HER alone like you would your lover.

How about that.


How you would bitch and moan if your wife gained a ton of weight and you were no longer wanting to have sex with her. How dare she right?
What a double standard when the men turn into useless pieces of flesh we must still find them attractive and want to bone them at all costs.

Anonymous wrote:
That's really not true. When women of any age avoid the sex part it's more often to do with unresolved issues, and resentments.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And this thread is a good example of why I’m drifting away from DCUM.

All these aging men on viagra (see the recent thread on that, where numerous male posters called it a “game changer” and so on) insisting that frequent enthusiastic sex with their peri menopausal wives is their “right.” Even as they downplay or ignore any need to make an effort themselves. Like sharing kid or house responsibilities, personal hygiene, weight loss, etc.... Hey, any wife who insists on that stuff is an hysterical shrew, right?

Honestly, just imagining all these horny, lazy, clueless older guys on viagra really turns me off.

Signed, thin and hot woman

Signed,

Why are you still married to a horny, lazy, clueless order guy who turns you off? Divorce! Problem solved.
But do NOT stay married, complain that he wants sex with you, or complain that he's going elsewhere.

Anonymous wrote:Stop acting like SEX is a given no matter what.
Sex no matter how you treat your wife
Sex no matter how little you do around the house
Sex no matter how little you help with the kids
Sex no matter how many hours she works
Sex no matter how she is feeling physically
Sex no matter what.

Sorry to tell you guys but sex is not some God given right you have inherited. We don't owe you our bodies for the mere pleasure of you gracing us with your presence.
You think so damn highly of yourselves? Treat ANY woman the way you treat your wife currently and see if she is wanting some sexy time with you.

How about you treat your wife as the partner she is and pull your weight. How about you bring her flowers, wine or whatever you would bring your lover. How about you spring for a nice dinner or hotel room for your wife or carve out an hour for HER and HER alone like you would your lover.

How about that.


How you would bitch and moan if your wife gained a ton of weight and you were no longer wanting to have sex with her. How dare she right?
What a double standard when the men turn into useless pieces of flesh we must still find them attractive and want to bone them at all costs.

Anonymous wrote:And this thread is a good example of why I’m drifting away from DCUM.

All these aging men on viagra (see the recent thread on that, where numerous male posters called it a “game changer” and so on) insisting that frequent enthusiastic sex with their peri menopausal wives is their “right.” Even as they downplay or ignore any need to make an effort themselves. Like sharing kid or house responsibilities, personal hygiene, weight loss, etc.... Hey, any wife who insists on that stuff is an hysterical shrew, right?

Honestly, just imagining all these horny, lazy, clueless older guys on viagra really turns me off.

Signed, thin and hot woman

Signed,

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it that sex seems to be a right of marriage, but actual EQUAL partnership seems negotiable and not worth it to men.
I am not too tired for sex. I am too tired for sex with my DH after I work 45 hours a week at work, do carpooling for the kids both ways, all of the school related stuff, all of the grocery shopping, clothes shopping, cooking and vehicle maintenance (he rides public transport). He gets 60 minutes alone in the AM after the kids and I leave and gets to come home to a cooked meal every night there is not a kid activity.

I get the house vacumed 1x per week and the lawn mowed 1x per month.
WOW! Thanks, awesome.
Even when i ask for more help you would think i am asking him to cut off his penis and feed it to the dog.
But, when he crawls into bed at night and has sexual energy I should just jump up and down and do all i can to please him? Yeah, not really feeling that.

This is where he needs to cook and clean up a few nights of the week. Why should you have 2 jobs? He also needs to watch the kids so you get a night out to yourself. This is what we did and have been marriage long term. Some of my friends divorced for this very reason.

Have you talked to him about the division of household chores and kids?

See, you can’t even correctly read a post for 30 seconds.

Calm down. I read it but didn't sound like has really voiced what a big problem it is. Why is she mowing the lawn? Asking for more help, and putting your foot down are two different things. I want to know how it's gotten this far.

Some of the things are logistics since he takes public transport and I drive, it makes sense for me to get the kids to/from school. It makes sense for me to order groceries and pick them up since i cook becuase i am home 30 minutes earlier than him (because i go in earlier). It makes sense i do the clothing shopping because the times he had done it he gets the incorrect sizes and we have to return things or he gets things the kids don't like.
The thing is ALL of these things add up slowly over time until you are burried under a mountain of shit and when you ask for help to get out of it the status quo must remain. I have talked until i am blue in the face and after each talk he will do 1 or 2 extra things. LIke throwing in laundry before he leaves for work but that lasts exactly ONE time and then we have to discuss again. It is exhausting.
I don't expect Choreplay, but if he expects routine and willing sex, he needs to put in routine effort into our partnership and not just enjoy the benefits of it and expect all of the rewards because he has a penis that needs to get attention.

The more men understand that their own actions likely contribute to the way their wives feel about them and the lust they feel toward them, the sooner marriages and sex lives can be turned around.

Anonymous wrote:The more men understand that their own actions likely contribute to the way their wives feel about them and the lust they feel toward them, the sooner marriages and sex lives can be turned around.

Anonymous wrote:In the DC area for 32 years and I have never seen a woman mow the grass. None of may many female friends (ages 35-55) mows their own lawn.