Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well... what do you do all day when they are in school? They are teens - go back to work.

This is very insulting. Let me enlighten you:
My kids (one elementary and one middle school) have different school start and end times so it ends up they are both gone 6 hours on school days. Here is what I “do all day” as you so condescendingly put it:
Hour 1: clean up kitchen, do dishes, start first of many loads of laundry, tidy house (I clean my own house so every day I do a deep clean in one room/bathroom)
Hour 2: walk dog, switch out laundry, continue any unfinished cleaning
Hour 3: grocery store (one of 4 places I shop)
Hoot 4: put groceries away, start prepping dinner, switch out laundry
Hour 5: make appointments for family, respond to all kid-related emails (sports, bday invites, doc appointments)
Hour 6: prep sports bags/clothes/car snacks/ water bottles for kids afternoon activities

Then I go pick up my kids and my SECOND SHIFT of parenting begins. This lasts about 6-7 hours, driving them to activities, walking dog again at those locations, then at home making dinner, feeding everyone, cleaning up kitchen, helping with homework, overseeing bedtime routine, doing the social-emotional bonding they both want every night, until actual bedtime.

So this is how I look at it, and it’s how my husband describes my life: I basically have 2 part time jobs, totaling 14 hours of total work. The first is running the household and the second is the hands-on parenting.

Hope this helps everyone reading this thread to understand that SAHPs deserve respect. This is one of the hardest jobs in the world. What other job can you think of that comes with no training, very little resources or support, no sick days, no days off, no pay, and very little appreciation?

Is this satire? What you described is simply being an adult and having kids.

The fact you think this one of the hardest jobs in the world is comical.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a stay at home mom, I definitely have downtime every day. But I choose to fill it with things that enrich my family‘s life, like making wholesome nutritious meals from scratch, including making my own bread. I don’t take shortcuts and go through drive-thrus when we are short on time. I make a point to always have healthy food in the house so I can pack nutritious food for car rides, snacks, lunches, etc…this takes an extraordinary amount of time. There is rarely a day that I don’t go to the grocery store. It’s actually very time-consuming to eat healthy and feed your entire family nutritiously all the time. But this is my choice and I think it’s a better use of my time than working outside of the home. Much of my motivation is preventing disease for our family, rather than dealing with disease later. My kids will never appreciate this as much as I would like them to because they don’t know any different.

Single mom from a few pages ago. I feel I am screaming into the void at this point but you don’t have to quit your job to feel your family a healthy diet. I feel my kid homemade meals every meal. I make bread. I ALSO HAVE A JOB.

No one cares what you think because you failed spectacularly at your first and most important responsibility. The fact that you insist on inserting yourself into a conversation that isn’t about you (obviously single moms aren’t generally going to be SAHMs), and claiming that people are saying things that haven’t been said in order to fit your narrative (newsflash: someone saying they spend their days cleaning their house, doing laundry, and grocery shopping doesn’t mean they think they wouldn’t do those things in the evening hours if they worked), tells me everything I need to know about why you couldn’t manage to make an adult relationship work.

Folks we have found a triggered sahm. Come back to us in a few years when your husband leaves you can you can’t find a decent job because of your lack of work history.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a stay at home mom, I definitely have downtime every day. But I choose to fill it with things that enrich my family‘s life, like making wholesome nutritious meals from scratch, including making my own bread. I don’t take shortcuts and go through drive-thrus when we are short on time. I make a point to always have healthy food in the house so I can pack nutritious food for car rides, snacks, lunches, etc…this takes an extraordinary amount of time. There is rarely a day that I don’t go to the grocery store. It’s actually very time-consuming to eat healthy and feed your entire family nutritiously all the time. But this is my choice and I think it’s a better use of my time than working outside of the home. Much of my motivation is preventing disease for our family, rather than dealing with disease later. My kids will never appreciate this as much as I would like them to because they don’t know any different.

Single mom from a few pages ago. I feel I am screaming into the void at this point but you don’t have to quit your job to feel your family a healthy diet. I feel my kid homemade meals every meal. I make bread. I ALSO HAVE A JOB.

No one cares what you think because you failed spectacularly at your first and most important responsibility. The fact that you insist on inserting yourself into a conversation that isn’t about you (obviously single moms aren’t generally going to be SAHMs), and claiming that people are saying things that haven’t been said in order to fit your narrative (newsflash: someone saying they spend their days cleaning their house, doing laundry, and grocery shopping doesn’t mean they think they wouldn’t do those things in the evening hours if they worked), tells me everything I need to know about why you couldn’t manage to make an adult relationship work.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a stay at home mom, I definitely have downtime every day. But I choose to fill it with things that enrich my family‘s life, like making wholesome nutritious meals from scratch, including making my own bread. I don’t take shortcuts and go through drive-thrus when we are short on time. I make a point to always have healthy food in the house so I can pack nutritious food for car rides, snacks, lunches, etc…this takes an extraordinary amount of time. There is rarely a day that I don’t go to the grocery store. It’s actually very time-consuming to eat healthy and feed your entire family nutritiously all the time. But this is my choice and I think it’s a better use of my time than working outside of the home. Much of my motivation is preventing disease for our family, rather than dealing with disease later. My kids will never appreciate this as much as I would like them to because they don’t know any different.

Single mom from a few pages ago. I feel I am screaming into the void at this point but you don’t have to quit your job to feel your family a healthy diet. I feel my kid homemade meals every meal. I make bread. I ALSO HAVE A JOB.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well... what do you do all day when they are in school? They are teens - go back to work.

This is very insulting. Let me enlighten you:
My kids (one elementary and one middle school) have different school start and end times so it ends up they are both gone 6 hours on school days. Here is what I “do all day” as you so condescendingly put it:
Hour 1: clean up kitchen, do dishes, start first of many loads of laundry, tidy house (I clean my own house so every day I do a deep clean in one room/bathroom)
Hour 2: walk dog, switch out laundry, continue any unfinished cleaning
Hour 3: grocery store (one of 4 places I shop)
Hoot 4: put groceries away, start prepping dinner, switch out laundry
Hour 5: make appointments for family, respond to all kid-related emails (sports, bday invites, doc appointments)
Hour 6: prep sports bags/clothes/car snacks/ water bottles for kids afternoon activities

Then I go pick up my kids and my SECOND SHIFT of parenting begins. This lasts about 6-7 hours, driving them to activities, walking dog again at those locations, then at home making dinner, feeding everyone, cleaning up kitchen, helping with homework, overseeing bedtime routine, doing the social-emotional bonding they both want every night, until actual bedtime.

So this is how I look at it, and it’s how my husband describes my life: I basically have 2 part time jobs, totaling 14 hours of total work. The first is running the household and the second is the hands-on parenting.

Hope this helps everyone reading this thread to understand that SAHPs deserve respect. This is one of the hardest jobs in the world. What other job can you think of that comes with no training, very little resources or support, no sick days, no days off, no pay, and very little appreciation?

Is this serious though? You go to the grocery store every day for an hour? You prep sports equipment every day for an hour? Every day for an hour you set up appointments and respond to family emails??

I don’t see why it’s so terrible for a stay at home parent to admit they have some down time in their day. Of course you do. Great for you. Enjoy it! If you are truly busy all day every day doing what you claim above, it’s just baffling how slow and inefficient you are. Who needs to spend 4-5 hours per week grocery shopping??

These stay at home moms stretch tasks that should take 5 minutes out for hours and then don’t believe anyone could work and have a clean house.

It doesn’t even make any sense. You couldn’t stretch these tasks out enough to fill the time.

It reminds me when I started working I worked with this older woman who would hand write out her reply to an email first and then type it in, pecking at the keyboard. In doing this it would take her an actual hour to respond to an email that should have taken 5-10 minutes. I wouldn’t have believed it I’d didn’t see her doing it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well... what do you do all day when they are in school? They are teens - go back to work.

This is very insulting. Let me enlighten you:
My kids (one elementary and one middle school) have different school start and end times so it ends up they are both gone 6 hours on school days. Here is what I “do all day” as you so condescendingly put it:
Hour 1: clean up kitchen, do dishes, start first of many loads of laundry, tidy house (I clean my own house so every day I do a deep clean in one room/bathroom)
Hour 2: walk dog, switch out laundry, continue any unfinished cleaning
Hour 3: grocery store (one of 4 places I shop)
Hoot 4: put groceries away, start prepping dinner, switch out laundry
Hour 5: make appointments for family, respond to all kid-related emails (sports, bday invites, doc appointments)
Hour 6: prep sports bags/clothes/car snacks/ water bottles for kids afternoon activities

Then I go pick up my kids and my SECOND SHIFT of parenting begins. This lasts about 6-7 hours, driving them to activities, walking dog again at those locations, then at home making dinner, feeding everyone, cleaning up kitchen, helping with homework, overseeing bedtime routine, doing the social-emotional bonding they both want every night, until actual bedtime.

So this is how I look at it, and it’s how my husband describes my life: I basically have 2 part time jobs, totaling 14 hours of total work. The first is running the household and the second is the hands-on parenting.

Hope this helps everyone reading this thread to understand that SAHPs deserve respect. This is one of the hardest jobs in the world. What other job can you think of that comes with no training, very little resources or support, no sick days, no days off, no pay, and very little appreciation?

Is this satire? What you described is simply being an adult and having kids.

The fact you think this one of the hardest jobs in the world is comical.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well... what do you do all day when they are in school? They are teens - go back to work.

This is very insulting. Let me enlighten you:
My kids (one elementary and one middle school) have different school start and end times so it ends up they are both gone 6 hours on school days. Here is what I “do all day” as you so condescendingly put it:
Hour 1: clean up kitchen, do dishes, start first of many loads of laundry, tidy house (I clean my own house so every day I do a deep clean in one room/bathroom)
Hour 2: walk dog, switch out laundry, continue any unfinished cleaning
Hour 3: grocery store (one of 4 places I shop)
Hoot 4: put groceries away, start prepping dinner, switch out laundry
Hour 5: make appointments for family, respond to all kid-related emails (sports, bday invites, doc appointments)
Hour 6: prep sports bags/clothes/car snacks/ water bottles for kids afternoon activities

Then I go pick up my kids and my SECOND SHIFT of parenting begins. This lasts about 6-7 hours, driving them to activities, walking dog again at those locations, then at home making dinner, feeding everyone, cleaning up kitchen, helping with homework, overseeing bedtime routine, doing the social-emotional bonding they both want every night, until actual bedtime.

So this is how I look at it, and it’s how my husband describes my life: I basically have 2 part time jobs, totaling 14 hours of total work. The first is running the household and the second is the hands-on parenting.

Hope this helps everyone reading this thread to understand that SAHPs deserve respect. This is one of the hardest jobs in the world. What other job can you think of that comes with no training, very little resources or support, no sick days, no days off, no pay, and very little appreciation?

Is this satire? What you described is simply being an adult and having kids.

The fact you think this one of the hardest jobs in the world is comical.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well... what do you do all day when they are in school? They are teens - go back to work.

This is very insulting. Let me enlighten you:
My kids (one elementary and one middle school) have different school start and end times so it ends up they are both gone 6 hours on school days. Here is what I “do all day” as you so condescendingly put it:
Hour 1: clean up kitchen, do dishes, start first of many loads of laundry, tidy house (I clean my own house so every day I do a deep clean in one room/bathroom)
Hour 2: walk dog, switch out laundry, continue any unfinished cleaning
Hour 3: grocery store (one of 4 places I shop)
Hoot 4: put groceries away, start prepping dinner, switch out laundry
Hour 5: make appointments for family, respond to all kid-related emails (sports, bday invites, doc appointments)
Hour 6: prep sports bags/clothes/car snacks/ water bottles for kids afternoon activities

Then I go pick up my kids and my SECOND SHIFT of parenting begins. This lasts about 6-7 hours, driving them to activities, walking dog again at those locations, then at home making dinner, feeding everyone, cleaning up kitchen, helping with homework, overseeing bedtime routine, doing the social-emotional bonding they both want every night, until actual bedtime.

So this is how I look at it, and it’s how my husband describes my life: I basically have 2 part time jobs, totaling 14 hours of total work. The first is running the household and the second is the hands-on parenting.

Hope this helps everyone reading this thread to understand that SAHPs deserve respect. This is one of the hardest jobs in the world. What other job can you think of that comes with no training, very little resources or support, no sick days, no days off, no pay, and very little appreciation?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a stay at home mom, I definitely have downtime every day. But I choose to fill it with things that enrich my family‘s life, like making wholesome nutritious meals from scratch, including making my own bread. I don’t take shortcuts and go through drive-thrus when we are short on time. I make a point to always have healthy food in the house so I can pack nutritious food for car rides, snacks, lunches, etc…this takes an extraordinary amount of time. There is rarely a day that I don’t go to the grocery store. It’s actually very time-consuming to eat healthy and feed your entire family nutritiously all the time. But this is my choice and I think it’s a better use of my time than working outside of the home. Much of my motivation is preventing disease for our family, rather than dealing with disease later. My kids will never appreciate this as much as I would like them to because they don’t know any different.

Single mom from a few pages ago. I feel I am screaming into the void at this point but you don’t have to quit your job to feel your family a healthy diet. I feel my kid homemade meals every meal. I make bread. I ALSO HAVE A JOB.

Anonymous wrote:As a stay at home mom, I definitely have downtime every day. But I choose to fill it with things that enrich my family‘s life, like making wholesome nutritious meals from scratch, including making my own bread. I don’t take shortcuts and go through drive-thrus when we are short on time. I make a point to always have healthy food in the house so I can pack nutritious food for car rides, snacks, lunches, etc…this takes an extraordinary amount of time. There is rarely a day that I don’t go to the grocery store. It’s actually very time-consuming to eat healthy and feed your entire family nutritiously all the time. But this is my choice and I think it’s a better use of my time than working outside of the home. Much of my motivation is preventing disease for our family, rather than dealing with disease later. My kids will never appreciate this as much as I would like them to because they don’t know any different.

Anonymous wrote:As a stay at home mom, I definitely have downtime every day. But I choose to fill it with things that enrich my family‘s life, like making wholesome nutritious meals from scratch, including making my own bread. I don’t take shortcuts and go through drive-thrus when we are short on time. I make a point to always have healthy food in the house so I can pack nutritious food for car rides, snacks, lunches, etc…this takes an extraordinary amount of time. There is rarely a day that I don’t go to the grocery store. It’s actually very time-consuming to eat healthy and feed your entire family nutritiously all the time. But this is my choice and I think it’s a better use of my time than working outside of the home. Much of my motivation is preventing disease for our family, rather than dealing with disease later. My kids will never appreciate this as much as I would like them to because they don’t know any different.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well... what do you do all day when they are in school? They are teens - go back to work.

This is very insulting. Let me enlighten you:
My kids (one elementary and one middle school) have different school start and end times so it ends up they are both gone 6 hours on school days. Here is what I “do all day” as you so condescendingly put it:
Hour 1: clean up kitchen, do dishes, start first of many loads of laundry, tidy house (I clean my own house so every day I do a deep clean in one room/bathroom)
Hour 2: walk dog, switch out laundry, continue any unfinished cleaning
Hour 3: grocery store (one of 4 places I shop)
Hoot 4: put groceries away, start prepping dinner, switch out laundry
Hour 5: make appointments for family, respond to all kid-related emails (sports, bday invites, doc appointments)
Hour 6: prep sports bags/clothes/car snacks/ water bottles for kids afternoon activities

Then I go pick up my kids and my SECOND SHIFT of parenting begins. This lasts about 6-7 hours, driving them to activities, walking dog again at those locations, then at home making dinner, feeding everyone, cleaning up kitchen, helping with homework, overseeing bedtime routine, doing the social-emotional bonding they both want every night, until actual bedtime.

So this is how I look at it, and it’s how my husband describes my life: I basically have 2 part time jobs, totaling 14 hours of total work. The first is running the household and the second is the hands-on parenting.

Hope this helps everyone reading this thread to understand that SAHPs deserve respect. This is one of the hardest jobs in the world. What other job can you think of that comes with no training, very little resources or support, no sick days, no days off, no pay, and very little appreciation?

Is this serious though? You go to the grocery store every day for an hour? You prep sports equipment every day for an hour? Every day for an hour you set up appointments and respond to family emails??

I don’t see why it’s so terrible for a stay at home parent to admit they have some down time in their day. Of course you do. Great for you. Enjoy it! If you are truly busy all day every day doing what you claim above, it’s just baffling how slow and inefficient you are. Who needs to spend 4-5 hours per week grocery shopping??

These stay at home moms stretch tasks that should take 5 minutes out for hours and then don’t believe anyone could work and have a clean house.

Anonymous wrote:I’m another single mom and while I don’t have time to make my own crackers, I do work a second job and an occasional third job. Why? It’s the same reason most people work second jobs. Job #1 doesn’t pay all of the bills. Do I have the energy for it? Hell no! I’m 49 years old and spend my days in a overstimulating school that expects me to be everything to everybody. I’m not on drugs to do all of this. I do a lot of dropping off and picking up of my kids in between the two jobs. The house gets cleaned on weekends by all of us. My son will go to the grocery store today (he just got his license) and my DD and I will clean and cook. People do this all of the time because they don’t have a choice.