Anonymous wrote:Just because drink refills are free, only a savage requires a refill from the moment the get their drink and prior to the appetizer.

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up pretty sheltered in a very generically white part of the country. My parents did not swear, we didn’t have cable, and there really were no people of other races to interact with so racial epithets never surfaced even if a bigoted person might have been inclined to use them.

Even someone as unprepared for life in the big city as I was knew how offensive the n-word was, and through reading I had gleaned that there were also derogatory terms for other races, but it had escaped my notice that white people had bad words for other white people who weren’t WASPs. Imagine my mortification when a friend referred to “Mike,” and I innocently asked, “Do you mean (derogatory term for Irish) “Mike” or (derogatory term for Italian) Mike?” because I had heard some of the knuckleheaded boys in our dorm refer to the Mikes in question in that manner. Thirty years later I still cringe at that memory. Sorry Mikes!

LOL Mick Mike or Guido Mike? I married a polish mike who called himself Pollock Mike. Somehow it's ok when ur white. Like calling me a stuck up becky. Oh yes, I have heard that but I'm not going to go crying to Jeff about it.

I’m guessing it is not guido and that you didn’t grow up in a time when “Guinea” was used as a slur against Italian people. I only see it in books and really old movies these days haven’t heard it out loud since the late 90s in NYC and CT.

Ding ding ding. It was the latter. Late 80s, and used by boys from NYC.

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Anonymous wrote:Overhead lighting is tacky.

Darkness is tacky. My home is very large with tall ceilings, so lamps everywhere is just impractical. I suppose lamps work well in a small home with small rooms - maybe then it’s “cozy”.

Anonymous wrote:Overhead lighting is tacky.

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Anonymous wrote:When eating at a restaurant close your menu when you are ready to order

If you are finished with your plate, put your silverware to the side

Put your napkin in your lap when you sit down

Never ever be rude to your server

I'm not sure what you mean. When finished eating silverware should be lined up across the plate at the top. Do not put your silverware back on the table to the side. The rest are correct.

Anonymous wrote:As a designer I understand the overhead light thing and my mom usually didn't use them, but when overhead lights are on dimmers it's really all a wash re: the softness and color.

We never used pillow covers or mattress covers. My spouse is a maniac about bed making so we use them now and I get it.

My spouse also came from a wet wipes family: they're at every toilet. They insist they are necessary. Can't say I use them, but we have them.

We did use washclothes but I don't like them and don't use them as an adult. We do provide them for guests if they want them.

My family taught me nothing about nature or wildlife or how to enjoy it. I didn't know about how to dress for the cold or for the outdoors. Never understood outdoorsy stuff or saw a trail marker. Didn't know female cardinals weren't red. Thought deer were scary and dangerous. Thought there were two animals called a possum and an opossum.

Luckily, I can say we're raising our children with so much we didn't have and we had a lot!

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up in a household where nobody flossed. Ever. Like, it was my job to dust the house, and I literally dusted off dust from the same box of dental floss for over 15 years.

Our dog got groomed once a year. We never bathed her at home. We didn't really brush her. I was shocked as an adult to find out people get their dogs bathed every 2-6 weeks! And groomed several times a year.

Only poodles and doodles need regular grooming, because they don't shed but instead their fur grows. Other breeds don't. Ideally, some breeds should be bathed infrequently, or never, for skin health.

You're wrong. There are lots of other breeds that also don't shed, and we had one of those. I assure you, she needed grooming and bathing more than the once a year she got.

Anonymous wrote:When eating at a restaurant close your menu when you are ready to order

If you are finished with your plate, put your silverware to the side

Put your napkin in your lap when you sit down

Never ever be rude to your server

Anonymous wrote:You leave the porch light on at night. I’ve never seen a neighborhood that doesn’t do this. I can’t imagine a block of completely dark houses unless they were abandoned.

Anonymous wrote:When eating at a restaurant close your menu when you are ready to order

If you are finished with your plate, put your silverware to the side

Put your napkin in your lap when you sit down

Never ever be rude to your server

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up pretty sheltered in a very generically white part of the country. My parents did not swear, we didn’t have cable, and there really were no people of other races to interact with so racial epithets never surfaced even if a bigoted person might have been inclined to use them.

Even someone as unprepared for life in the big city as I was knew how offensive the n-word was, and through reading I had gleaned that there were also derogatory terms for other races, but it had escaped my notice that white people had bad words for other white people who weren’t WASPs. Imagine my mortification when a friend referred to “Mike,” and I innocently asked, “Do you mean (derogatory term for Irish) “Mike” or (derogatory term for Italian) Mike?” because I had heard some of the knuckleheaded boys in our dorm refer to the Mikes in question in that manner. Thirty years later I still cringe at that memory. Sorry Mikes!

LOL Mick Mike or Guido Mike? I married a polish mike who called himself Pollock Mike. Somehow it's ok when ur white. Like calling me a stuck up becky. Oh yes, I have heard that but I'm not going to go crying to Jeff about it.

I’m guessing it is not guido and that you didn’t grow up in a time when “Guinea” was used as a slur against Italian people. I only see it in books and really old movies these days haven’t heard it out loud since the late 90s in NYC and CT.