Anonymous wrote:DC is full of femcel cat ladies and IVF moms old enough to be pensioned grandmothers who seethe when they see happy young love birds. Sorry you were duped into making terrible life choices. Try to be happy for young people making better choices than you made.

The part about “seething when they see happy young lovebirds” is true of the Relationships forum here on DCUM.

The women who haunt this form hate happy couples and simply love to persuade women to divorce their husbands.

Anonymous wrote:DC is full of femcel cat ladies and IVF moms old enough to be pensioned grandmothers who seethe when they see happy young love birds. Sorry you were duped into making terrible life choices. Try to be happy for young people making better choices than you made.

This is sadly accurate. My first was born after I turned 40. Here inside the Beltway, most parents are my age. Rarely see any moms in their 20s here.

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Anonymous wrote:What about the other trend of not marrying at all?

I have coworkers with babies who are not married.

This is the actual trend. But it doesn't fit in with the current narrative being pushed

UMC/rich kids seem to be getting married younger. These kids likely have the support of the rich parents.

Poor and MC young adults may not have the money for a wedding or to buy a house. Our kids will have college, grad school, wedding and at least down payment from the parents. I would rather my kids marry relatively young in their twenties and have kids young.

I come from humble beginnings and traveled a ton in my twenties after I started working. My kids have been traveling internationally since they were young. My kids are still minors and been to Europe and Asia several times and the US/Caribbean countless times. It isn’t like they need to spend their twenties traveling and enjoying life. They have been doing this since being born.

Traveling with mama is not what people mean when they say "travel and see the world." That you would unironically write that tells me so much about you.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

LOL! These are kids who never have to worry about careers or money.

To say nothing of the fact that they likely will no longer be married within 10 years. Maybe 5?

I encourage you to look within and think about why your response to beautiful wedding photos and discussion of young love is to be nasty and predict divorces.

Celebrities are their own outliers but no, the data does not suggest these marriages are higher risk.

I’m 46 and most of my northern Va friends were married by 30, a lot of us around ages 25-28. All happily married 20 years later except 2 of the couples. Well 3 if you could one widow. I think this is the norm and it was the wave of late age marriages that followed my latter gen X that was the flash in the pan.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an elder millennial who married at 23. DH is 4 years older and is in finance so he had a well paid, stable job at the time. We bought a house right away and had 3 kids by the time I was 31. We both have grad degrees and are still happily married 20 years later.

I love being a 42 yo with a 16 yo rather than a 6 yo, if you know what I mean.

I don’t. 6 was a great age. 16 was also great for different reasons but the younger years were so special.

Where did I say they aren't? Personally, the fact that they are so special is why I loved experiencing them when I was younger and had more energy!

NP. I personally had no idea what you mean when you added the “if you know what I mean” part. But thought it was something negative since you didn’t spell it out.

This thread is wild. First of all the Joey King example is really depressing to me. She is 25 and he is 40, they met when she was 19 and he was 34. I don’t think it’s healthy for a 34 year old man to be interested in pursuing a19-year-old I think somethings going on there and it’s not great.

It’s interesting to me that there is one poster continually demonizes SATC. It’s true that two of the four women did not want to pursue motherhood. But the other two did and the depictions of motherhood in the show are quite wonderful. Miranda loved raising her child and they are very close in the new series, Charlotte desperately wanted children, but wasn’t able to find the right partner and ended up meeting a partner later in life and having 2 kids, Being a stay at home mom and then going back to pursue her career when her children are teens.

Nothing about that depiction seems particularly harmful or propaganda like to me.

Ballerina Farm is completely manufactured. That woman is not a stay at home mom, she is part of a huge team and a big corporate business. It’s all manufactured and to say that that is traditional motherhood is laughable. I just saw an anthropologist on reels talking about in the hunter gatherer days, no one had 8 kids. People tended to have four kids because of breast-feeding and nutrition patterns - they had them have on average every four years and on average 16 people were involved in raising of kids, it was very communal, and the mother did not sit around with her kids all day like is portrayed now.

Sitting around posting on an anonymous website that there is only one way to do things, is insane and not very productive or convincing.

Anonymous wrote:DC is full of femcel cat ladies and IVF moms old enough to be pensioned grandmothers who seethe when they see happy young love birds. Sorry you were duped into making terrible life choices. Try to be happy for young people making better choices than you made.

Yeah, I am the second wife to a guy whose first marriage was basically engineered by his parents to a family friend’s daughter when he was 25 and she was 22. Both sets of parents thought it would be good for the young people and would help them settle down. It lasted three years. We met when we were both thirty and had more of a sense of what we were getting into. Thankfully the first marriage didn’t produce any kids!

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Anonymous wrote:What about the other trend of not marrying at all?

I have coworkers with babies who are not married.

This is the actual trend. But it doesn't fit in with the current narrative being pushed

UMC/rich kids seem to be getting married younger. These kids likely have the support of the rich parents.

Poor and MC young adults may not have the money for a wedding or to buy a house. Our kids will have college, grad school, wedding and at least down payment from the parents. I would rather my kids marry relatively young in their twenties and have kids young.

I come from humble beginnings and traveled a ton in my twenties after I started working. My kids have been traveling internationally since they were young. My kids are still minors and been to Europe and Asia several times and the US/Caribbean countless times. It isn’t like they need to spend their twenties traveling and enjoying life. They have been doing this since being born.

Yeah, you gave them all the enjoyment of life they’ll ever need! Now they should settle down and stop having fun. Whatever mommy says.

Anonymous wrote:DC is full of femcel cat ladies and IVF moms old enough to be pensioned grandmothers who seethe when they see happy young love birds. Sorry you were duped into making terrible life choices. Try to be happy for young people making better choices than you made.

lol honey we have all been happy young love birds once. Some of us multiple times!

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Anonymous wrote:What about the other trend of not marrying at all?

I have coworkers with babies who are not married.

This is the actual trend. But it doesn't fit in with the current narrative being pushed

UMC/rich kids seem to be getting married younger. These kids likely have the support of the rich parents.

Poor and MC young adults may not have the money for a wedding or to buy a house. Our kids will have college, grad school, wedding and at least down payment from the parents. I would rather my kids marry relatively young in their twenties and have kids young.

I come from humble beginnings and traveled a ton in my twenties after I started working. My kids have been traveling internationally since they were young. My kids are still minors and been to Europe and Asia several times and the US/Caribbean countless times. It isn’t like they need to spend their twenties traveling and enjoying life. They have been doing this since being born.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems to be the same one or two people posting over and over again about how this “trend” is the only appropriate way to live one’s life and that people who marry young are the only happy ones. This has not been my experience. I know people in many types of relationships with different timelines to be happy and unhappy. I think this poster or posters need to take a step back and examine why they think there’s only one relationship timeline that leads to happiness.

I think this too. Someone gets so excited when they find something to prove people are getting married at a younger age and posts about it. Why is this important to anyone? I don't get it.

I think it's Brunch Granny.

It totally is, and for someone who thinks they have done everything right in life and is thrilled her daughter has managed to hook a man and have a baby by 21 to make her a grandma late 30's to early 40's, she seems MISERABLE on DCUM that this is her schtick to the point she's DCUM famous. It's a weirdly pathetic hobby for someone so supposedly secure in their choices. Also, extremely privileged that this daughter's husband and her daughter can be supported by parents throughout ALL of their 20s, as if this is a common thing. (He'll earn money starting around 30, daughter is in a minimum wage, pink collar job). She's rather die than admit it but this level of posting coupled with the "don't you want to be "hot mom!" reveals some level of insecurity and immaturity and is pretty unhinged behavior. The pure vitriol towards people who have made different life choices does not say, "happy" to me.

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Brunch granny is unhinged.

Anonymous wrote:DC is full of femcel cat ladies and IVF moms old enough to be pensioned grandmothers who seethe when they see happy young love birds. Sorry you were duped into making terrible life choices. Try to be happy for young people making better choices than you made.

I’m an IVF old mom and I’m happy for these people. OTOH I hope you stay pathetic and miserable forever and it looks like you will

All your examples are wealthy children of celebrities. How about the celeb parents married them off to get them out of their house?

My current partner married a college sweetheart. Marriage lasted about a decade and then they divorced. Never had kids.