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Anonymous wrote:My kid just got dropped from her top two choices. I think it is House Tours day today. She is not thrilled. I told her to go through the motions. She might end up clicking with another house. Personally, I would have preferred she never rush, yet here I am still encouraging her to continue with the process. I guess this will be one of many growing experiences in life, and it won’t be the end of she does not end up joining a sorority.

Please tell her to continue. Looking back the houses that seemed the closest were not the top few. Sometimes things work out when you least expect.

Just curious. Why do you care whether or not PPs daughter joins a sorority?

I’m beginning to think the whole thing is a big money scam, with some of these groups desperate for any members that can pay.

Not PP, but 100% as membership-based organizations, sororities rely on membership (and dues from its members) to sustain operations and growth.
The US is full of thousands and thousands of adult women who are alumnae of these various sororities, and who benefitted from collegiate membership (some socially…which is the part that non-Greeks focus on; some academically—Greeks in average have 10-20% higher GPA than non-Greeks, so they tend to be a peer group that cares about academic success; some philanthropically—most groups have signature philanthropy events that are completely student organized and run, so it teaches about importance of lifelong giving and community impact; some leadership-oriented—serving as a sorority officer is a solid leadership experience with budgeting ($20K-$100K budgets), management of people and committees, conducting meetings, etc.)

So the PP who encouraged that daughter to stay and see if there is a group she would feel comfortable joining likely just recognizes the value that her own sorority membership brought to her life and wants to see that continue to impact other’s lives in that way.
And she probably knows sororities can only continue through dues-paying memberships.

Sure, you can get campus involvement, social connection, philanthropy activity, and leadership from joining any other club—but sororities are women supporting other women in all of the above…and for life.
Truly as silly as it seems, sharing all that plus the initiation ceremony (that is over 100 years old at this point, for nearly every sorority group) during those 3-4 formative years of growth is meaningful for many women.

Correction: it’s women supporting certain women. Definitely not all women.

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Anonymous wrote:According to Tri Sigs insta, it looks like they only had 3 young women initiated in last year's pledge class. If they are happy being small, then what's the big deal?

Why do you comment on things you know nothing about? I don't even see there you see that on their Insta? My dd rushed in 2022 and she had Tri Sig pref day (but went another house) and they got a full pledge class of 52 - same as all the others except Gphi. They got a full class last year. She knows several girls there. They are not "happy being small" and no they did not want 3 pledges. If you are on their instagram, you can see that they have alot of girls and it's a chapter that has had a perfeclty fine reputation up until this year and an active social life.

The sorority that used to have these issues is Gamma Phi, who didn't even have enough girls to participate in formal rush this year. That is the one that "no one wants" usually. Now that Gphi didn't partocipate in rush, Tri Sig fell to that descriptor, which is so unfortunate.

Is this an actual parent writing this? I just find it so odd that you are so overly involved and knowledgeable about this.

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Anonymous wrote:According to Tri Sigs insta, it looks like they only had 3 young women initiated in last year's pledge class. If they are happy being small, then what's the big deal?

Why do you comment on things you know nothing about? I don't even see there you see that on their Insta? My dd rushed in 2022 and she had Tri Sig pref day (but went another house) and they got a full pledge class of 52 - same as all the others except Gphi. They got a full class last year. She knows several girls there. They are not "happy being small" and no they did not want 3 pledges. If you are on their instagram, you can see that they have alot of girls and it's a chapter that has had a perfeclty fine reputation up until this year and an active social life.

The sorority that used to have these issues is Gamma Phi, who didn't even have enough girls to participate in formal rush this year. That is the one that "no one wants" usually. Now that Gphi didn't partocipate in rush, Tri Sig fell to that descriptor, which is so unfortunate.

Who is smearing Tri Sig and what is even the point of that? Doesn't that mean that next year, they won't have the numbers to participate in rush and some other house will become the "no one wants" house, and so on?

Yes, and I think this is really illustrative of the diminishing appeal of sororities. If low-key, less-status-y sororities can't find a group of like-minded low-key women to continue their existence, only those who care about the more exclusive houses will participate. Then those groups will continue to eat their own until only the houses who can sustain themselves entirely on multi-generational legacies alone survive.

Np. Sororities are having something of a resurgence though. Yes there was diminishing appeal maybe 5 years ago.

But in recent years, teens, and even tweens know about sororities way earlier than any of us ever did. I think you don’t actually have a firm handle or grasp on social dynamics amongst women in the 16-24 year old range.

Weirdly (or not) sororities have the same really strong resurgent appeal that Taylor Swift does. I don’t see it dying out anytime soon even if you wish it would….

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Anonymous wrote:According to Tri Sigs insta, it looks like they only had 3 young women initiated in last year's pledge class. If they are happy being small, then what's the big deal?

Why do you comment on things you know nothing about? I don't even see there you see that on their Insta? My dd rushed in 2022 and she had Tri Sig pref day (but went another house) and they got a full pledge class of 52 - same as all the others except Gphi. They got a full class last year. She knows several girls there. They are not "happy being small" and no they did not want 3 pledges. If you are on their instagram, you can see that they have alot of girls and it's a chapter that has had a perfeclty fine reputation up until this year and an active social life.

The sorority that used to have these issues is Gamma Phi, who didn't even have enough girls to participate in formal rush this year. That is the one that "no one wants" usually. Now that Gphi didn't partocipate in rush, Tri Sig fell to that descriptor, which is so unfortunate.

Is this an actual parent writing this? I just find it so odd that you are so overly involved and knowledgeable about this.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:According to Tri Sigs insta, it looks like they only had 3 young women initiated in last year's pledge class. If they are happy being small, then what's the big deal?

Why do you comment on things you know nothing about? I don't even see there you see that on their Insta? My dd rushed in 2022 and she had Tri Sig pref day (but went another house) and they got a full pledge class of 52 - same as all the others except Gphi. They got a full class last year. She knows several girls there. They are not "happy being small" and no they did not want 3 pledges. If you are on their instagram, you can see that they have alot of girls and it's a chapter that has had a perfeclty fine reputation up until this year and an active social life.

The sorority that used to have these issues is Gamma Phi, who didn't even have enough girls to participate in formal rush this year. That is the one that "no one wants" usually. Now that Gphi didn't partocipate in rush, Tri Sig fell to that descriptor, which is so unfortunate.

Who is smearing Tri Sig and what is even the point of that? Doesn't that mean that next year, they won't have the numbers to participate in rush and some other house will become the "no one wants" house, and so on?

Yes, and I think this is really illustrative of the diminishing appeal of sororities. If low-key, less-status-y sororities can't find a group of like-minded low-key women to continue their existence, only those who care about the more exclusive houses will participate. Then those groups will continue to eat their own until only the houses who can sustain themselves entirely on multi-generational legacies alone survive.

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Anonymous wrote:According to Tri Sigs insta, it looks like they only had 3 young women initiated in last year's pledge class. If they are happy being small, then what's the big deal?

Why do you comment on things you know nothing about? I don't even see there you see that on their Insta? My dd rushed in 2022 and she had Tri Sig pref day (but went another house) and they got a full pledge class of 52 - same as all the others except Gphi. They got a full class last year. She knows several girls there. They are not "happy being small" and no they did not want 3 pledges. If you are on their instagram, you can see that they have alot of girls and it's a chapter that has had a perfeclty fine reputation up until this year and an active social life.

The sorority that used to have these issues is Gamma Phi, who didn't even have enough girls to participate in formal rush this year. That is the one that "no one wants" usually. Now that Gphi didn't partocipate in rush, Tri Sig fell to that descriptor, which is so unfortunate.

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Anonymous wrote:According to Tri Sigs insta, it looks like they only had 3 young women initiated in last year's pledge class. If they are happy being small, then what's the big deal?

Why do you comment on things you know nothing about? I don't even see there you see that on their Insta? My dd rushed in 2022 and she had Tri Sig pref day (but went another house) and they got a full pledge class of 52 - same as all the others except Gphi. They got a full class last year. She knows several girls there. They are not "happy being small" and no they did not want 3 pledges. If you are on their instagram, you can see that they have alot of girls and it's a chapter that has had a perfeclty fine reputation up until this year and an active social life.

The sorority that used to have these issues is Gamma Phi, who didn't even have enough girls to participate in formal rush this year. That is the one that "no one wants" usually. Now that Gphi didn't partocipate in rush, Tri Sig fell to that descriptor, which is so unfortunate.

Who is smearing Tri Sig and what is even the point of that? Doesn't that mean that next year, they won't have the numbers to participate in rush and some other house will become the "no one wants" house, and so on?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:According to Tri Sigs insta, it looks like they only had 3 young women initiated in last year's pledge class. If they are happy being small, then what's the big deal?

Why do you comment on things you know nothing about? I don't even see there you see that on their Insta? My dd rushed in 2022 and she had Tri Sig pref day (but went another house) and they got a full pledge class of 52 - same as all the others except Gphi. They got a full class last year. She knows several girls there. They are not "happy being small" and no they did not want 3 pledges. If you are on their instagram, you can see that they have alot of girls and it's a chapter that has had a perfeclty fine reputation up until this year and an active social life.

The sorority that used to have these issues is Gamma Phi, who didn't even have enough girls to participate in formal rush this year. That is the one that "no one wants" usually. Now that Gphi didn't partocipate in rush, Tri Sig fell to that descriptor, which is so unfortunate.

Who is smearing Tri Sig and what is even the point of that? Doesn't that mean that next year, they won't have the numbers to participate in rush and some other house will become the "no one wants" house, and so on?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:According to Tri Sigs insta, it looks like they only had 3 young women initiated in last year's pledge class. If they are happy being small, then what's the big deal?

Why do you comment on things you know nothing about? I don't even see there you see that on their Insta? My dd rushed in 2022 and she had Tri Sig pref day (but went another house) and they got a full pledge class of 52 - same as all the others except Gphi. They got a full class last year. She knows several girls there. They are not "happy being small" and no they did not want 3 pledges. If you are on their instagram, you can see that they have alot of girls and it's a chapter that has had a perfeclty fine reputation up until this year and an active social life.

The sorority that used to have these issues is Gamma Phi, who didn't even have enough girls to participate in formal rush this year. That is the one that "no one wants" usually. Now that Gphi didn't partocipate in rush, Tri Sig fell to that descriptor, which is so unfortunate.

Anonymous wrote:According to Tri Sigs insta, it looks like they only had 3 young women initiated in last year's pledge class. If they are happy being small, then what's the big deal?

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Anonymous wrote:My kid just got dropped from her top two choices. I think it is House Tours day today. She is not thrilled. I told her to go through the motions. She might end up clicking with another house. Personally, I would have preferred she never rush, yet here I am still encouraging her to continue with the process. I guess this will be one of many growing experiences in life, and it won’t be the end of she does not end up joining a sorority.

Please tell her to continue. Looking back the houses that seemed the closest were not the top few. Sometimes things work out when you least expect.

Just curious. Why do you care whether or not PPs daughter joins a sorority?

I’m beginning to think the whole thing is a big money scam, with some of these groups desperate for any members that can pay.

Not PP, but 100% as membership-based organizations, sororities rely on membership (and dues from its members) to sustain operations and growth.
The US is full of thousands and thousands of adult women who are alumnae of these various sororities, and who benefitted from collegiate membership (some socially…which is the part that non-Greeks focus on; some academically—Greeks in average have 10-20% higher GPA than non-Greeks, so they tend to be a peer group that cares about academic success; some philanthropically—most groups have signature philanthropy events that are completely student organized and run, so it teaches about importance of lifelong giving and community impact; some leadership-oriented—serving as a sorority officer is a solid leadership experience with budgeting ($20K-$100K budgets), management of people and committees, conducting meetings, etc.)

So the PP who encouraged that daughter to stay and see if there is a group she would feel comfortable joining likely just recognizes the value that her own sorority membership brought to her life and wants to see that continue to impact other’s lives in that way.
And she probably knows sororities can only continue through dues-paying memberships.

Sure, you can get campus involvement, social connection, philanthropy activity, and leadership from joining any other club—but sororities are women supporting other women in all of the above…and for life.
Truly as silly as it seems, sharing all that plus the initiation ceremony (that is over 100 years old at this point, for nearly every sorority group) during those 3-4 formative years of growth is meaningful for many women.

Anonymous wrote:According to Tri Sigs insta, it looks like they only had 3 young women initiated in last year's pledge class. If they are happy being small, then what's the big deal?

Anonymous wrote:According to Tri Sigs insta, it looks like they only had 3 young women initiated in last year's pledge class. If they are happy being small, then what's the big deal?

Anonymous wrote:According to Tri Sigs insta, it looks like they only had 3 young women initiated in last year's pledge class. If they are happy being small, then what's the big deal?