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Anonymous wrote:I've encountered the opposite -- families that are jealous that we aren't paying for private for 2 kids. Public is an amazing deal. Some of our friends have to spring for private due to special needs, like dyslexia.

I don't mean to be condescending but they are feigning jealousy. Also, I embellish my child's "issues" when talking to public school parents so they don't feel bad about not being able to afford private school. I'll say things like, "Wow, you are SO lucky that Little Larlo is so focused and can concentrate; my little Larly could NEVER do that!" I don't really mean any of it. Or I'll say, "I WISH I could put little Early in public but she just can't focus. It would save us so much money!" I don't mean any of it but I know it makes my public school friends feel better.

We do the same!!!

That's a really strange way to handle conversations no matter what one thinks of private, public, charter, homeschool, whatever. Very odd.

No, it’s not. It just helps us move the conversation along. Most private schools have better resources than public so everything, generally, is just . . . better. So to sit there and try and compare my experience and a public school parent’s experience will make it glaringly obvious that my kid is having a superior education experience. Note - I did not necessarily say better education - as that may be debatable. However the facilities, attention, trips, etc. are largely better than public.

It’s kind of like if we were to all fly to Hawaii and I flew first class but you flew coach. Sure, we would all get to our destination but my experience would be easier, more luxurious and more enjoyable. I wouldn’t get off of the plane and then ask you how your flight was. I already know, so let’s move on to another subject.

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Anonymous wrote:I've encountered the opposite -- families that are jealous that we aren't paying for private for 2 kids. Public is an amazing deal. Some of our friends have to spring for private due to special needs, like dyslexia.

I don't mean to be condescending but they are feigning jealousy. Also, I embellish my child's "issues" when talking to public school parents so they don't feel bad about not being able to afford private school. I'll say things like, "Wow, you are SO lucky that Little Larlo is so focused and can concentrate; my little Larly could NEVER do that!" I don't really mean any of it. Or I'll say, "I WISH I could put little Early in public but she just can't focus. It would save us so much money!" I don't mean any of it but I know it makes my public school friends feel better.

We do the same!!!

That's a really strange way to handle conversations no matter what one thinks of private, public, charter, homeschool, whatever. Very odd.

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Anonymous wrote:I've encountered the opposite -- families that are jealous that we aren't paying for private for 2 kids. Public is an amazing deal. Some of our friends have to spring for private due to special needs, like dyslexia.

I don't mean to be condescending but they are feigning jealousy. Also, I embellish my child's "issues" when talking to public school parents so they don't feel bad about not being able to afford private school. I'll say things like, "Wow, you are SO lucky that Little Larlo is so focused and can concentrate; my little Larly could NEVER do that!" I don't really mean any of it. Or I'll say, "I WISH I could put little Early in public but she just can't focus. It would save us so much money!" I don't mean any of it but I know it makes my public school friends feel better.

We do the same!!!

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Anonymous wrote:No one cares where your kids go to school.

Oh yes, the public school parents most definitely do. I think it is both jealousy and insecurity on their part. What baffles me is why they feel it is okay to be snarky.

Private school parents don’t care, it’s the public school parents that want to debate you.

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Anonymous wrote:No one cares where your kids go to school.

Oh yes, the public school parents most definitely do. I think it is both jealousy and insecurity on their part. What baffles me is why they feel it is okay to be snarky.

Private school parents don’t care, it’s the public school parents that want to debate you.

I'd also say there can be a philosophical divide that creates tension that isn't based in jealousy. My spouse's family has a long history of public school involvement and leadership. My spouse and spouse's sibling are both high earners with some generational wealth but neither considers private school and can be judgmental of those who do, seeing them as part of an elitist "problem." I'm fairly neutral (on my side we've had recent kids at Sidwell, GDS, and MD and VA publics schools) but have seen many people in this area with backgrounds and beliefs like my spouse's.

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Anonymous wrote:I've encountered the opposite -- families that are jealous that we aren't paying for private for 2 kids. Public is an amazing deal. Some of our friends have to spring for private due to special needs, like dyslexia.

I don't mean to be condescending but they are feigning jealousy. Also, I embellish my child's "issues" when talking to public school parents so they don't feel bad about not being able to afford private school. I'll say things like, "Wow, you are SO lucky that Little Larlo is so focused and can concentrate; my little Larly could NEVER do that!" I don't really mean any of it. Or I'll say, "I WISH I could put little Early in public but she just can't focus. It would save us so much money!" I don't mean any of it but I know it makes my public school friends feel better.

We do the same!!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've encountered the opposite -- families that are jealous that we aren't paying for private for 2 kids. Public is an amazing deal. Some of our friends have to spring for private due to special needs, like dyslexia.

I don't mean to be condescending but they are feigning jealousy. Also, I embellish my child's "issues" when talking to public school parents so they don't feel bad about not being able to afford private school. I'll say things like, "Wow, you are SO lucky that Little Larlo is so focused and can concentrate; my little Larly could NEVER do that!" I don't really mean any of it. Or I'll say, "I WISH I could put little Early in public but she just can't focus. It would save us so much money!" I don't mean any of it but I know it makes my public school friends feel better.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've encountered the opposite -- families that are jealous that we aren't paying for private for 2 kids. Public is an amazing deal. Some of our friends have to spring for private due to special needs, like dyslexia.

I don't mean to be condescending but they are feigning jealousy. Also, I embellish my child's "issues" when talking to public school parents so they don't feel bad about not being able to afford private school. I'll say things like, "Wow, you are SO lucky that Little Larlo is so focused and can concentrate; my little Larly could NEVER do that!" I don't really mean any of it. Or I'll say, "I WISH I could put little Early in public but she just can't focus. It would save us so much money!" I don't mean any of it but I know it makes my public school friends feel better.

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Anonymous wrote:Ever since my kids were recently admitted to private schools, many friends in my W cluster have been making snippy comments about me sending my kids to private school. Has anyone else faced a similar situation?

No I don't think our friends think about us as much as you think yours think about you. How strange.

Anonymous wrote:I've encountered the opposite -- families that are jealous that we aren't paying for private for 2 kids. Public is an amazing deal. Some of our friends have to spring for private due to special needs, like dyslexia.

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Anonymous wrote:No one cares where your kids go to school.

Oh yes, the public school parents most definitely do. I think it is both jealousy and insecurity on their part. What baffles me is why they feel it is okay to be snarky.

Private school parents don’t care, it’s the public school parents that want to debate you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one cares where your kids go to school.

Oh yes, the public school parents most definitely do. I think it is both jealousy and insecurity on their part. What baffles me is why they feel it is okay to be snarky.

Private school parents don’t care, it’s the public school parents that want to debate you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one cares where your kids go to school.

Oh yes, the public school parents most definitely do. I think it is both jealousy and insecurity on their part. What baffles me is why they feel it is okay to be snarky.

Anonymous wrote:Ever since my kids were recently admitted to private schools, many friends in my W cluster have been making snippy comments about me sending my kids to private school. Has anyone else faced a similar situation?