Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman. When I was 19-24 I dated significantly (10+ years) older. I had serious unaddressed and untreated trauma and was living hand to mouth.

In hindsight I recognize the profound power imbalance - I hardly knew anything about adult life and lacked savvy and sophistication in so many ways. There’s an “ick” factor when I consider what these men were attracted to in me. Why was a 36-year-old lawyer more interested in a 20-year-old cocktail waitress (me) than a professional woman closer to his age?

It’s exploitative and weird - I don’t care what any man says to justify it.

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Anonymous wrote:It gives me creepy 'daddy' vibes.

I remember my dad went with me to view apartments (I was 26 and he was 55 at the time) since he worked near me. I realized at some point we both realized the apartment reps thought we were a couple which instantly had us almost throw up and vehemently clarify I was his daughter. It never dawned on me somebody would ever think my dad was my boyfriend. Gross.

At 26 I was after guys my age or a few years either direction. I wanted someone with the same energy level, same cultural references and experiences and someone who wouldn't be an old fart much sooner than me. I also found youth and vigor and thick hair and muscles hot, not older men---the kind at work that were married and hitting on me---YUCK.

So for me--it looks really strange to see an old man or old woman dating someone 15+ years younger. I see often on the sports' sidelines the 'dad' is mistaken by everyone for grandpa.

After I graduated from college and before getting into a serious relationship my Dad and I would have a “date night” almost every month just for us to catch up and stay connected. I loved it! We’d go to really nice restaurants and often we’d notice people looking at us as though we were that sugar daddy couple. We’d roll our eyes and laugh. I’d love to do it now but with a husband and three little kids it’s not going to happen.

Anonymous wrote:It gives me creepy 'daddy' vibes.

I remember my dad went with me to view apartments (I was 26 and he was 55 at the time) since he worked near me. I realized at some point we both realized the apartment reps thought we were a couple which instantly had us almost throw up and vehemently clarify I was his daughter. It never dawned on me somebody would ever think my dad was my boyfriend. Gross.

At 26 I was after guys my age or a few years either direction. I wanted someone with the same energy level, same cultural references and experiences and someone who wouldn't be an old fart much sooner than me. I also found youth and vigor and thick hair and muscles hot, not older men---the kind at work that were married and hitting on me---YUCK.

So for me--it looks really strange to see an old man or old woman dating someone 15+ years younger. I see often on the sports' sidelines the 'dad' is mistaken by everyone for grandpa.

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Anonymous wrote:Why so much disgust and judgement? Isn't there also a significant number of women, especially in their 20's, who don't want to date men their age and prefer older guys? It takes two consenting adults for these relationships to happen.

Because older women see it as a rejection of them.

Anonymous wrote:Why so much disgust and judgement? Isn't there also a significant number of women, especially in their 20's, who don't want to date men their age and prefer older guys? It takes two consenting adults for these relationships to happen.

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Anonymous wrote:Why should I feel guilty about being in love with a woman 30 years younger than me? And if that's truly wrong, tell me how to stop being in love with my much younger girlfriend.

I agree. If loving younger women is wrong, I do t want to be right. Old man with a vasectomy, loving my life. Keep hating. None of us care.

Nothing more useless from a biological prospective. I hope that at least you have a generous and large bank account.

That's crazy talk. From a biological perspective, men work and protect until the day they die. Haven't you seen all the old men in Ukraine fighting for freedom?

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Anonymous wrote:Why should I feel guilty about being in love with a woman 30 years younger than me? And if that's truly wrong, tell me how to stop being in love with my much younger girlfriend.

I agree. If loving younger women is wrong, I do t want to be right. Old man with a vasectomy, loving my life. Keep hating. None of us care.

Nothing more useless from a biological prospective. I hope that at least you have a generous and large bank account.

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Anonymous wrote:Why should I feel guilty about being in love with a woman 30 years younger than me? And if that's truly wrong, tell me how to stop being in love with my much younger girlfriend.

I agree. If loving younger women is wrong, I do t want to be right. Old man with a vasectomy, loving my life. Keep hating. None of us care.

Nothing more useless from a biological prospective. I hope that at least you have a generous and large bank account.

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Anonymous wrote:Why should I feel guilty about being in love with a woman 30 years younger than me? And if that's truly wrong, tell me how to stop being in love with my much younger girlfriend.

I agree. If loving younger women is wrong, I do t want to be right. Old man with a vasectomy, loving my life. Keep hating. None of us care.

Nothing more useless from a biological prospective.

I hope that at least you have a generous and large bank account.

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Anonymous wrote:Why should I feel guilty about being in love with a woman 30 years younger than me? And if that's truly wrong, tell me how to stop being in love with my much younger girlfriend.

I agree. If loving younger women is wrong, I do t want to be right. Old man with a vasectomy, loving my life. Keep hating. None of us care.