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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met my husband when he was 19 years old, 6'4" and 220 pounds. He's never, to my knowledge, eaten 2 meals at a fast food restaurant.

Because everyone’s metabolism is the same?

My DH is also 6’4”, 250 lbs and clear muscle definition. Doesn’t really workout. He could eat 9 meals a day for a week and look the same.

Of course he eats a lot. He is obese.

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I wonder if this is the case. Most young men have big appetites. When I great my nephews to food I'm always shocked by how much they eat compared to my girls. The boys aren't out of shape and are extremely fit.

Anonymous wrote:Crappy upbringing. A 12 year old should know that is rude.

I think it's upbringing, too. I grew up in a family with less money and hesitated well into my adulthood to even order a drink with dinner when others were treating. I think most people wouyld think that is weird and can easily see that someone who has grown up always ordering app/entree/dessert would think nothing of it -- unless they are taught to do so.

My child who is 13 actually eats two meals in one sitting a lot these days and he's very skinny. When we order there as a family he would want that much food.

He has enough sense to never do that on someone else's dime but really if his friends did that I would not even blink.

Anonymous wrote:It’s a but rude but he’s young. You shouldn’t be ordering takeout with a guest unless you can I begrudgingly let him order what he wants, though.

This.

Anonymous wrote:It’s a but rude but he’s young. You shouldn’t be ordering takeout with a guest unless you can I begrudgingly let him order what he wants, though.

This X 100.

If the dessert bothers you, just have some cookies on hand and say "tonight we have cookies for dessert."

I would keep things like cheese/crackers, bagged salad and ice cream/toppings on hand so that you could supplement with those - when they ask for apps, etc., just say “I’ve got those covered, what would you like as a main?” Or just order family style within your parameters as others have said.

But...to be honest OP, being annoyed about someone’s CFA or Taco Bell order makes me think you don’t care for the bf or are annoyed with him being around so often and if it wasn’t the meals, you’d find something else to pick on. Look for the true root of the problem and put up your boundaries.

Single mom here, not rich. My home is always open to my kids' friends. Usually, that means things like big pots of chili, pesto pasta, enchiladas, chicken on the grill with sides, and that type of thing. Help from participants is encouraged.
DS's best bud, both HS seniors have been hanging out in their pod this year. They shoot baskets and play ping pong, video games, and the like. I've happily fed this grateful young man more times than I can count, mostly at home. They eat a lot. This past weekend we ordered pizza and I handed DS my credit card to pay when they picked it up. DD2 and I made a salad when the boys returned, DS handed my CC back and said his bud treated us all.

I thought that was pretty classy for a 17 year old boy.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe his family is like ours...we order out maaaaybe four times a year, so when we do, we get apps, entrees, dessert...we try a lot and share and enjoy leftovers for lunch.

I can’t imagine ordering out as often as you do, so maybe this type of ordering really is “normal” to him.

Well, it sounds like OP orders at least 4 times a month, so maybe he should keep that in mind when ordering.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met my husband when he was 19 years old, 6'4" and 220 pounds. He's never, to my knowledge, eaten 2 meals at a fast food restaurant.

Because everyone’s metabolism is the same?

My DH is also 6’4”, 250 lbs and clear muscle definition. Doesn’t really workout. He could eat 9 meals a day for a week and look the same.

Of course he eats a lot. He is obese.

Anonymous wrote:I met my husband when he was 19 years old, 6'4" and 220 pounds. He's never, to my knowledge, eaten 2 meals at a fast food restaurant.

My much, much, smaller nephew eats more, on a routine basis. He would pretty consistently get himself multiple sandwiches or entrees, and he gets a 5 lbs. bucket of wings from some wings place near his college, and eats it himself. The difference here is that he pays for it himself.

When we go out (we order food to share), we adjust our order accordingly; as in, if it's just the three of us, two entrees will suffice (DD doesn't eat much), but if he's with us, we'll order four.

Just stop ordering out so often. And when you do, say no apps/no desserts. Or ask DD to pay for once.

DUH.

The above or just make pasta so he can eat as much as he likes. Do you like the kid otherwise, that makes all the difference

Yep, it's rude. But if you let this go all this time then you enabled it. Darnit. So, here's what I would do: don't order takeout when he's over. If he/they ask say "You know, the take out bills got out of control so we are going to cook more at home. Can you two please make us a (pasta lunch? sandwiches? healthy dinner?) becaus I have a really important call right now. We're all iin this together, so thanks so much for pitching in!".

Maybe his family is like ours...we order out maaaaybe four times a year, so when we do, we get apps, entrees, dessert...we try a lot and share and enjoy leftovers for lunch.

I can’t imagine ordering out as often as you do, so maybe this type of ordering really is “normal” to him.