Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Normal people split this up. So, you do a meal, another family does a meal, etc. Unless one person wants to handle everything. But if not, normal people divide things up.

But I don’t want to cook so many group meals. No, thank you.

Do you understand math?

Anonymous wrote:

Normal people split this up. So, you do a meal, another family does a meal, etc. Unless one person wants to handle everything. But if not, normal people divide things up.

But I don’t want to cook so many group meals. No, thank you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
We did a trip last year with 2 other families. The 2 other dads and I (mom) handled all meals because we like to cook. Breakfast is the easiest meal! Make some pancakes, scramble some eggs, toast some bread, cut up some fruit. Done. Another day, doughnuts. Another day cereal, fruit, yogurt. If you don’t want communal meals, you really shouldn’t share a house. That is just how it works.

Yeah, we don’t eat doughnuts as breakfast. Yikes. Might as well bring a case of Twinkies

So very odd. But this explains a lot.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I personally would be horrified if my DC gobbled up all the others’ food. It’s incredibly rude and from the age of 10 and up I would expect some manners and tact.

It’s strange that never came up in this thread, but this just shows the American attitude that their kids are entitled to everything they desire.

How can you not feed poor little 6 feet tall 13 year old Johny if he’s hungry? You’re so cruel. Wow.

OP, a box of pancake mix at Aldi's is under $2. Add syrup for another $2 or not. Or, a carton of eggs and a loaf of bread, same price. I cannot imagine have a kid in my home or in that situation and not feeding them. You can afford it if you can afford a trip like that. Its not about entitlement. Its about human decency and how to treat people. You are going to a shared house, you share meals. If you go for three days, you split up the meals by either day or by meal and each taking one except if someone is on a specific diet. We do big scout trips. We bring our own food because of food issues but always donate to the group stash and bring enough so when we make pancakes or eggs when kids come over, there is plenty. I cannot imagine turning down a child or making them watch us eat and not offering food. Who does that? Oh wait, you.

No, that is what YOU do. The OP said that the adults on the trip agreed that they would share responsibility for dinners, but each provide their own family's breakfast and lunch. Then they arrive and their kids become Oliver Twist, because not giving people who already have their own breakfast bacon is so "cruuuuuuel." Absurd.

It's super easy. Parent of begging child: "Hey, Braxleigh/Braylynne -- That is the So-and-So's family's food. You have your own food right here, which you have eaten already/are eating. Stop being rude."

Anonymous wrote:
We did a trip last year with 2 other families. The 2 other dads and I (mom) handled all meals because we like to cook. Breakfast is the easiest meal! Make some pancakes, scramble some eggs, toast some bread, cut up some fruit. Done. Another day, doughnuts. Another day cereal, fruit, yogurt. If you don’t want communal meals, you really shouldn’t share a house. That is just how it works.

Yeah, we don’t eat doughnuts as breakfast. Yikes. Might as well bring a case of Twinkies

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All I want is to do is bring my own groceries and eat my own meals. Yes, I’ll share at dinners and cook a dinner for everyone. But not every. Freaking. Meal. That’s not how I want to spend my vacation.

Why do you keep insisting that you would have to cook breakfast for other families? Are you chained to the stove every morning and only released - so you can hike in the forest - after you’ve cooked for everyone?

You keep saying that since we’re sharing the house we should be sharing all the meals, that I should be making extra for every meal.
That’s what I keep hearing.

Why not address the million posts that say rotate cooking for all meals. You may cook breakfast for everyone on day 1, but on days 2 and 3 another family then cooks breakfast for everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:answer this. You’re changing the facts from your original post. You never claimed you were being expected to cook for everyone. You talked about friends kids wanting to eat your food.

How hard is it really to haul 3 boxes of cereal instead of 2? How would that mean you can’t go hiking and swimming on your vacation?

How hard is it to make a few extra eggs or pancakes and leave them on the counter in case someone asks for some while you’re eating with your own family?

If you’re really so determined to maximize your vacay and do all the hiking and swimming, then why not get your own cabin?

1. If it was just cereal boxes, no. But since according to DCUM I have to share EVERYTHING don’t I have to bring three times more of all the food I’m bringing?

2. How hard it is to make eggs and pancakes for 10 people or should I just share with some and not the others? I make a plate and Johny eats it while others will say they want some too.

3. Individual cabins were all booked up.

This is obviously not true, since you did manage to book one. So you could you just not afford to pay for this whole place yourself? Or are you somehow bunking with three total stranger families that this shoddy campsite booked you up with?

This whole thing is so beyond bizarre that I cant even deal.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:answer this. You’re changing the facts from your original post. You never claimed you were being expected to cook for everyone. You talked about friends kids wanting to eat your food.

How hard is it really to haul 3 boxes of cereal instead of 2? How would that mean you can’t go hiking and swimming on your vacation?

How hard is it to make a few extra eggs or pancakes and leave them on the counter in case someone asks for some while you’re eating with your own family?

If you’re really so determined to maximize your vacay and do all the hiking and swimming, then why not get your own cabin?

1. If it was just cereal boxes, no. But since according to DCUM I have to share EVERYTHING don’t I have to bring three times more of all the food I’m bringing?

2. How hard it is to make eggs and pancakes for 10 people or should I just share with some and not the others? I make a plate and Johny eats it while others will say they want some too.

3. Individual cabins were all booked up.

You should bow out. You are not understanding how these things work. Sorry. Try again next time.

Anonymous wrote:answer this. You’re changing the facts from your original post. You never claimed you were being expected to cook for everyone. You talked about friends kids wanting to eat your food.

How hard is it really to haul 3 boxes of cereal instead of 2? How would that mean you can’t go hiking and swimming on your vacation?

How hard is it to make a few extra eggs or pancakes and leave them on the counter in case someone asks for some while you’re eating with your own family?

If you’re really so determined to maximize your vacay and do all the hiking and swimming, then why not get your own cabin?

1. If it was just cereal boxes, no. But since according to DCUM I have to share EVERYTHING don’t I have to bring three times more of all the food I’m bringing?

2. How hard it is to make eggs and pancakes for 10 people or should I just share with some and not the others? I make a plate and Johny eats it while others will say they want some too.

3. Individual cabins were all booked up.

Anonymous wrote:OMG - I haven't read all 11 pages of this thread, but I'm Italian American and my DH is from India, and we have traveled a ton with large groups and often have tons of family staying at each other's homes. Everyone pitches in buying groceries, everyone pitches in cooking, and everyone shares everything!

My Italian mother and Indian mother-in-law would keel over if they heard that someone didn't want to share their food with others - especially children!!! We always make much more than we need and feed everyone!!

Serious cultural differences here!

People always get crazy right around 11pgs.

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Anonymous wrote:Every time we’ve ever gone on a vacation like this, everyone brings waaaay too much food and we end up giving it away to the cleaning staff or neighbors. Our last camping trip every family brought their own s’more supplies and it was so overkill that we had tons of leftover graham crackers and chocolate.

I’m so perplexed by OP and her friend group.

Me, too!

I know who I'd rather go on vacation with! (And no OP, not to get free stuff- because it's nicer to be around generous, happy, friendly people! Maybe if you were this way you wouldnt have stingy friends either!)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All I want is to do is bring my own groceries and eat my own meals. Yes, I’ll share at dinners and cook a dinner for everyone. But not every. Freaking. Meal. That’s not how I want to spend my vacation.

Why do you keep insisting that you would have to cook breakfast for other families? Are you chained to the stove every morning and only released - so you can hike in the forest - after you’ve cooked for everyone?

You keep saying that since we’re sharing the house we should be sharing all the meals, that I should be making extra for every meal.
That’s what I keep hearing.

If everyone gets up at the same time, it makes sense to share breakfast and dinner. If everyone is making their own breakfast and people have to wait, then no one is getting out the door quickly. Easier if one person makes for everyone. You email the other adults, make a schedule of cooking and providing food, done. Three days, three families. Each family takes one dinner and one breakfast. Easy. Done.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All I want is to do is bring my own groceries and eat my own meals. Yes, I’ll share at dinners and cook a dinner for everyone. But not every. Freaking. Meal. That’s not how I want to spend my vacation.

Why do you keep insisting that you would have to cook breakfast for other families? Are you chained to the stove every morning and only released - so you can hike in the forest - after you’ve cooked for everyone?

You keep saying that since we’re sharing the house we should be sharing all the meals, that I should be making extra for every meal.
That’s what I keep hearing.

People are saying you make a little extra (say 25-30% more than your family needs), so If a kid
Asks for some you can share.

Nobody, not one person thinks you should cook for your group the whole vacation.

You keep changing facts, OP.

Anonymous wrote:Every time we’ve ever gone on a vacation like this, everyone brings waaaay too much food and we end up giving it away to the cleaning staff or neighbors. Our last camping trip every family brought their own s’more supplies and it was so overkill that we had tons of leftover graham crackers and chocolate.

I’m so perplexed by OP and her friend group.

Me, too!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All I want is to do is bring my own groceries and eat my own meals. Yes, I’ll share at dinners and cook a dinner for everyone. But not every. Freaking. Meal. That’s not how I want to spend my vacation.

Why do you keep insisting that you would have to cook breakfast for other families? Are you chained to the stove every morning and only released - so you can hike in the forest - after you’ve cooked for everyone?

How are you chained to the stove by making a quick breakfast or rotating who cooks? I cannot imagine having hungry kids and not feeding them. We had a family stay with us and the parents just cooked for themselves. Then, leave me the mess. It was really bizarre as the mom would take over the kitchen so we got carry out as she got annoyed and I had hungry kids. Finally I learned just start before she did but that caused a conflict as her kids like my cooking better. Cooking for everyone vs. several cooks with different meals works much better. Its impossible for 3 families to cook/clean up three meals and share pots/dishes, etc. You are going as a group. If you don't want to be with a group, go alone. In scouts, my husband gets up, makes a huge batch of pancakes and any kids who come over get fed. Usually they come over given how we make them. I don't see the issue. Sad you do and are selfish.