Anonymous wrote:Second copying all the financial information. It's hard to get out of the hurt head space but you keep tipping him off that you're onto him without coming up with your own plan (you can bet he has his). Start protecting yourself NOW, especially if you have kids.

Anonymous wrote:Op, try a VAR (voice activated recorder) under the seat in his car or somewhere in the house he might go to talk alone. You can order on amazon. You need undeniable proof or he is going to keep lying. Cheaters lie.

Anonymous wrote:Op, try a VAR (voice activated recorder) under the seat in his car or somewhere in the house he might go to talk alone. You can order on amazon. You need undeniable proof or he is going to keep lying. Cheaters lie.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I have been tracking his phone quietly over the past few weeks. I saw tonight that he made multiple calls to a contact called “telemarketer” I also saw a text where he said. “Got home. Missing you”

I called this number and a female voice picked up.

I’ve been awake all night.

You don't need to torture yourself like this, the pics told you everything you need to know. Figure out what you are going to do. If you choose to stay stop snooping and forget about it. That road is just misery. If you are leaving, stop snooping and start marshalling resources for an exit.

Some betrayed spouses need to know the true extent of everything, and some don't. Some want to know exactly what happened, and some don't. It's not a one-size-fits-all type reaction. I agree with marshalling assets, but personally I would want to gather more infmation before confronting, starting with searching the phone number and figuring out who the texter is. As a PP said, if it's someone at work, it could have ramifications on his job and, in turn, her income/child support, etc. After you confront, your chances of finding out the truth become very slim.

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I have been awake all night being in investigative mode. I woke up DH this morning and asked him why he was out till 2 am last night. He said he was out with his boss. I said thats cool but was there someone else? He said what are you talking about? I asked how is your girlfriend? He says I am annoying him and I need to stop. I say well you stay out till 2 am so surely there is someone else. He says he is married and I should stop saying such disgusting things. I say I am not but I find it suspicious that he is out so late on a week night. He says I am psycho and that I should go to work and leave him alone!

I am now at work and feeling intolerably alone and devastated. I did not sleep a wink last night. I am exhausted and traumatized. My world and everything I knew is crashing around me. I know I must be stealthy and continue to get to the bottom of this as he will not become truthful. But I want to slap him and confront him today. How am I supposed to go to bed with him?