Anonymous
07/25/2025 07:53
Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks
Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine to have just water, but I do think your host should have offered it. But maybe they really just forgot.
Maybe they had already had a few tipples...
Anonymous
07/25/2025 00:39
Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks
Anonymous wrote:When I was pregnant, I didn’t drink soda or iced tea with meals. Most adults I know don’t, even if they don’t drink alcohol. I do serve mocktails when I do cocktails, but wouldn’t offer anything beings still or sparkling water at dinner unless there were kids. (I also think the prevalence of iced tea is kind of a regional thing; growing up in NYC no one would ever have had iced tea on hand.)
Fellow NYC lady here. Wine and flat and sparking water is perfectly appropriate for a dinner party in addition to the wine (and I keep some beers around though ffew would take them). Lemons and limes for the sparkling. An adult wanting an orange juice or an iced tea or a Dr. Pepper would be odd. I may have that for a BBQ in August but certainly not on hand for a 9pm adults only dinner party in February.
Anonymous
07/25/2025 00:23
Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks
They should have given everyone water but it's weird you say you can't eat unless you have something other than water to drink. That's really unhealthy. You shouldn't be drinking all those extra calories. Are you overweight?
Anonymous
07/25/2025 00:11
Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks
When I was pregnant, I didn’t drink soda or iced tea with meals. Most adults I know don’t, even if they don’t drink alcohol. I do serve mocktails when I do cocktails, but wouldn’t offer anything beings still or sparkling water at dinner unless there were kids. (I also think the prevalence of iced tea is kind of a regional thing; growing up in NYC no one would ever have had iced tea on hand.)
Anonymous
07/24/2025 23:57
Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For a dinner party, I’d certainly offer people water, beer, wine, or coffee/tea, but it’s unlikely that I’ll have something like lemonade on hand unless there are children.
Why not have other drinks? Many people don't drink beer/wine, coffee/tea and would like something more tasty than water.
I mean, if I’m going through the trouble off throwing a nice dinner party with beautiful food, I’m not expecting to have to serve people Code Red Mountain Dew, but there’s probably a 7 Eleven you could stop at on the way home
Or you'd realize that not everyone drinks and could be a thoughtful host. Sounds like that is not you - thoughtful or a host.
Most hosts serve beverages that compliment the food. Hence wine, water or seltzer. Truthfully I don’t know many people who drink soda, lemonade or iced tea at meals. Flavored drinks just aren’t meant for meals.
Anonymous
07/24/2025 23:52
Subject: Re:When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks
Anonymous wrote:They should've served water with the wine but you shouldn't expect soda or iced tea at a dinner party.
That’s bizzare. Not everyone drinks alcohol. A good host provides what the guest likes.
Anonymous
07/24/2025 12:02
Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For a dinner party, I’d certainly offer people water, beer, wine, or coffee/tea, but it’s unlikely that I’ll have something like lemonade on hand unless there are children.
Why not have other drinks? Many people don't drink beer/wine, coffee/tea and would like something more tasty than water.
Are most of these people children? If I am making dinner, you will likely get wine, beer, water, and sparkling water. I will not think to offer soda or any other soft drink. I will probably have some flavored sparkling water. If I am hosting a brunch, then I will likely have OJ and other drinks. BBQ you will get soda, ice tea etc.
No, I have liver issues and can't drink. I assume you don't want me at your party if I can't get drunk? Oh well.
she had plenty of choices for you. are you capable of reading? or is that caused by your liver issues too
Anonymous
07/24/2025 12:01
Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks
Anonymous wrote:Recently I was at a lovely dinner party where the host went to great lengths to provide lots of lovely food and wine.
But it's a huge pet peeve of mine when the host just has wine on the table and does not offer any other beverage for dinner (not even water). There were both wine and water glasses out but no water or other drink was ever offered.
I don't drink alcohol and had to ask the host for some water. But I wish there had been iced tea, lemonade or something other than boring water offered. I don't enjoy eating food when I have to wash it down with boring water. I do drink plenty of water but with meals I like something with some taste like iced tea. If I was eating dinner at a restaurant I would order iced tea or soda.
Everyone else just drank wine with no other beverage but even if you do drink alcohol I don't see how you can eat an entire meal and not have your thirst quenched. I need lots of liquid to wash down my food, water at least.
Anyone else have this same pet peeve? This happens nearly every time I'm invited to a dinner party. There is plenty of wine but non alcoholic beverages are always an afterthought and rarely, if ever, offered.
When I host a dinner party I provide wine but always have lemonade, cranberry juice, iced tea, water and sodas out as well on a separate table.
There should have been water offered but you specifically wanted ice tea? The host was supposed to know that?
Anonymous
07/24/2025 11:51
Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For a dinner party, I’d certainly offer people water, beer, wine, or coffee/tea, but it’s unlikely that I’ll have something like lemonade on hand unless there are children.
Why not have other drinks? Many people don't drink beer/wine, coffee/tea and would like something more tasty than water.
Are most of these people children? If I am making dinner, you will likely get wine, beer, water, and sparkling water. I will not think to offer soda or any other soft drink. I will probably have some flavored sparkling water. If I am hosting a brunch, then I will likely have OJ and other drinks. BBQ you will get soda, ice tea etc.
No, I have liver issues and can't drink. I assume you don't want me at your party if I can't get drunk? Oh well.
Anonymous
07/24/2025 11:43
Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For a dinner party, I’d certainly offer people water, beer, wine, or coffee/tea, but it’s unlikely that I’ll have something like lemonade on hand unless there are children.
Why not have other drinks? Many people don't drink beer/wine, coffee/tea and would like something more tasty than water.
I mean, if I’m going through the trouble off throwing a nice dinner party with beautiful food, I’m not expecting to have to serve people Code Red Mountain Dew, but there’s probably a 7 Eleven you could stop at on the way home
Or you'd realize that not everyone drinks and could be a thoughtful host. Sounds like that is not you - thoughtful or a host.
Anonymous
07/24/2025 11:34
Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For a dinner party, I’d certainly offer people water, beer, wine, or coffee/tea, but it’s unlikely that I’ll have something like lemonade on hand unless there are children.
Why not have other drinks? Many people don't drink beer/wine, coffee/tea and would like something more tasty than water.
Are most of these people children? If I am making dinner, you will likely get wine, beer, water, and sparkling water. I will not think to offer soda or any other soft drink. I will probably have some flavored sparkling water. If I am hosting a brunch, then I will likely have OJ and other drinks. BBQ you will get soda, ice tea etc.
Anonymous
07/24/2025 11:29
Subject: Re:When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks
If this is consistently happening, and something you now know to expect, maybe bring a "hostess" give of some flavored drink and have that to drink.
Anonymous
07/24/2025 11:22
Subject: Re:When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks
They should've served water with the wine but you shouldn't expect soda or iced tea at a dinner party.
Anonymous
07/24/2025 11:20
Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks
Anonymous wrote:Alcohol has been conclusively linked to cancer - going to a dinner party and the host putting out wine is like the host handing out packs of lucky strikes.
Are you popular at dinner parties?
Anonymous
07/24/2025 11:18
Subject: When you're at a dinner party and there's only wine, no other drinks
Anonymous wrote:Now that soda is pretty unpopular, I don’t stock it unless we’re having some kind of BBQ. For a dinner party, I’d certainly offer people water, beer, wine, or coffee/tea, but it’s unlikely that I’ll have something like lemonade on hand unless there are children.
I most readily have these options and maybe seltzer. Maybe iced tea in the summer.