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Anonymous wrote:Love these fake threads where "OP" swoops in every few pages with some tasty tidbits. Yeah.

Real or fake, I don't care. I like them.

Anonymous wrote:Love these fake threads where "OP" swoops in every few pages with some tasty tidbits. Yeah.

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Anonymous wrote:Heck, you know, it just started with an emotional affair because the husband who watched the kids and whose calls and texts I dodged wasn’t there for me.

If he goes to marriage counseling, he might hear this conclusion.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and please call the AP's wife, if he has one. When I went through this, it was nice to have a partner. I wouldn't expect the bond that me and his wife had, but I think that she will appreciate knowing.

+1000

This is a must. Expose all cheaters. Anonymously report them to their corporate Ethics office.

Stand up for what’s right!

Anonymous wrote:Heck, you know, it just started with an emotional affair because the husband who watched the kids and whose calls and texts I dodged wasn’t there for me.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

She lands at 3 at IAD. I'm going. I had to arrange for someone to pick the kids up at after care but it was under the guise of she's been away for two weeks and it's VD.

You'd be surprised to learn how many women think it's somehow a miracle that a dad can handle the kids by himself for two weeks. The response are always the same "Ohh, you are a saint! I hope you have some time off planned!" or " My husband would never do that. Would you teach him?" and then flirty eyes. I can tell you one thing, their husbands would not be happy with the way their wives look at me.

Anyway, last I heard from her was a text last night (her morning) saying: "leaving for airport, will text when changing planes in Tokyo. Tell kids happy Valentines Day"

That was it. No, "Thanks!" "Can't wait to see you!" "Looking forward to being home!" Nothing.

Something tells me I'm not going to like what I see at Dulles.

TROLL.

We each travel, no one is 1950'ing it with us like that. My dad would watch us two for 7-12 days when my Mom went to conferences in the 1980s. BFD.

The real issue is if you work at a place with such a bad culture that they won't stand for you dropping your kids off at 8am and being there to pick them up at 5-6pm. that's the real problem, plus men thinking it's the 1950s and they shouldn't be raising their children much, just playtime.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

She lands at 3 at IAD. I'm going. I had to arrange for someone to pick the kids up at after care but it was under the guise of she's been away for two weeks and it's VD.

You'd be surprised to learn how many women think it's somehow a miracle that a dad can handle the kids by himself for two weeks. The response are always the same "Ohh, you are a saint! I hope you have some time off planned!" or " My husband would never do that. Would you teach him?" and then flirty eyes. I can tell you one thing, their husbands would not be happy with the way their wives look at me.

Anyway, last I heard from her was a text last night (her morning) saying: "leaving for airport, will text when changing planes in Tokyo. Tell kids happy Valentines Day"

That was it. No, "Thanks!" "Can't wait to see you!" "Looking forward to being home!" Nothing.

Something tells me I'm not going to like what I see at Dulles.

TROLL.

We each travel, no one is 1950'ing it with us like that. My dad would watch us two for 7-12 days when my Mom went to conferences in the 1980s. BFD.

The real issue is if you work at a place with such a bad culture that they won't stand for you dropping your kids off at 8am and being there to pick them up at 5-6pm. that's the real problem, plus men thinking it's the 1950s and they shouldn't be raising their children much, just playtime.

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

She lands at 3 at IAD. I'm going. I had to arrange for someone to pick the kids up at after care but it was under the guise of she's been away for two weeks and it's VD.

You'd be surprised to learn how many women think it's somehow a miracle that a dad can handle the kids by himself for two weeks. The response are always the same "Ohh, you are a saint! I hope you have some time off planned!" or " My husband would never do that. Would you teach him?" and then flirty eyes. I can tell you one thing, their husbands would not be happy with the way their wives look at me.

Anyway, last I heard from her was a text last night (her morning) saying: "leaving for airport, will text when changing planes in Tokyo. Tell kids happy Valentines Day"

That was it. No, "Thanks!" "Can't wait to see you!" "Looking forward to being home!" Nothing.

Something tells me I'm not going to like what I see at Dulles.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

but mostly I'm seething that she thinks I'm some sort of support staff for her life.

I have to take offense at this concept. They are your kids just as much as they are hers. Tone down, to yourself, the sense of injustice at parenting, because, after all, you are a parent. The above-quoted sentiment betrays that maybe you aren't so progressive and maybe you still think it's a very big sacrifice for the father, bigger than it would be for the mother, to single-parent the kids when the mother is traveling.

I didn’t get that sentiment from OP at all. Two weeks is a long time to solo parent with little kids, and probably seems even longer and more difficult with a spouse whose communication style leaves a lot to be desired.

I completely agree that the OP's wife is treating him very badly.

I also agree that he is putting too much emphasis on how much child-related work he has to do. He seems very preoccupied with what other people think (e.g., his kid's kindergarten teacher flirting with him, walking around doing kid activities and thinking other people know that his wife is cheating, etc.). The OP seems like a person who is very concerned with appearances.

OP, when you divorce, which seems likely, you are still going to have to do these things. You will still be taking care of your children when your wife travels abroad, because she is almost certainly going to continue doing that. You may be able to do so with your head held high, but the realities of your life are not going to change when you are divorced.

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and please call the AP's wife, if he has one. When I went through this, it was nice to have a partner. I wouldn't expect the bond that me and his wife had, but I think that she will appreciate knowing.

Anonymous wrote:wives and work trips and “missed flights.” Been there, divorced that.