Anonymous
06/15/2016 06:32
Subject: SAH with Older Kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, it takes 5 minutes to load a dishwasher! I load everything and there are 5 of us!
It takes about 5 minutes to fold laundry - I do it daily for 5 of us. It's one load! EASY
10 minutes in the evening!!!
--------------------------------
It takes 2 minutes, if even, to load a washer
Yes, it takes about 5 minutes to unload my dishwasher in the AM. 5 minutes!!!
Total time is 7 minutes in the AM!!!
I think u have 17 minutes a day to make y our life easier. It's not a big deal. Just do it EVERY day so stuff doesn't pile up!
I'm a SAHM with a preschooler and elementary school aged child. Our cleaning lady comes every other week. I'm a SAHM and still my dishes and laundry pile up. It does not take 2 minutes to load the dishwasher. It takes me longer to clear the table, wipe table down, wipe down counters, get pots and pans into the sink. This does not include time to rinse and load the dishwasher.
Your kids are preschool / elementary and your dishes pile up? Have them help! Or is work as foreign to them as it is to you?
I admit I am a lousy housekeeper and cook. We had a PT housekeeper but she recently moved. We need to hire a new one. I am newly pregnant too so we need to fine more help anyways.
It is so hard to find good help these days, isn't it?
Are you newly rich?
No, I'm a new SAHM though. We had the PT housekeeper before I quit my job. I am one of those moms who quit after older child started elementary school. It was much more difficult for our family to juggle all the time off school and afternoon activities, which is exactly what this thread is about.
When I was a working mom, we outsourced most of our housework. I was a lousy housekeeper when I was a working mom and still am a lousy housekeeper now that I am a SAHM. I plan to hire a FT housekeeper/mother's helper when our new baby is born. This will allow me to spend time with the baby during the day and spend quality time with my older kids in the afternoon and take them to their activities, do homework, etc.
Still in the honeymoon phase. Check back in when you've been home for a year or two.
I've been home for about 1.5 yrs. I quit my job when my child was in the middle of kindergarten. He has just finished first grade.
Are you making this up as you go along? You just described yourself as a new sham.
Why would I make this stuff up? Fine, I'm a newer SAHM. I didn't just quit my job yesterday but I feel it is still new to me. We had our PT housekeeper when I was still working. She stopped working for us last month. That is true.
Right, we believe you.
What do you not believe? This thread is about whether it becomes more difficult for working parents when children start elementary school. I quit my job when my child was in kindergarten and he is now in first grade. Before I quit my job, we had a PT housekeeper/cook/nanny that many working parents on this thread seem to have. After I quit my job, we kept the PT housekeeper but cut her hours. Her mother became ill so she moved back to her home country to take care of her mom. I am also newly pregnant. When DH and I discussed having a third child, we said it would be doable if I have help so my older kids won't get shortchanged. DH earns a high income, which is why we can afford help and for me to stay home. Not sure why this is so unbelievable to you.
I believe you. You have so little time because you are obsessively posting online.
Anonymous
06/15/2016 02:50
Subject: Re:SAH with Older Kids?
OP, to answer your question, this isn't a generalizable thing. There are a million different individual circumstances that matter here. For some people, maybe with less flexible jobs and kids who do a lot of activities or who are sick often, it's harder in elementary school. Maybe they had easy babies and toddlers who slept through the night early on and were mellow little toddlers. Maybe your friends have long commutes or inflexible jobs. Maybe they have their mother nearby and she's helpful. Maybe one spouse has a very rigid schedule. Maybe they have one kid, maybe they have four. It's just there are so many different permutations.
Anonymous
06/14/2016 23:36
Subject: Re:SAH with Older Kids?
PP again. I don't know why I keep clicking on this thread.
To the OP, many of our friends have families where both parents work.
Many parents use SACC, Kindercare, tae kwon do places or other daycares that may do both before and after care. If you use SACC, your child can do after school programs at the school. Another option is the afternoon sitter. I actually used both aftercare and had the PT housekeeper.
Some parents have one or both parents with extremely flexible schedules. They flex and don't need care or they enjoy both flexibility and paid help.
Also know double doctor, double attorney, double banker families who have a full time nanny, au pair or live in housekeeper for school aged children.
Good luck.
To the OP, many of our friends have families where both parents work.
Many parents use SACC, Kindercare, tae kwon do places or other daycares that may do both before and after care. If you use SACC, your child can do after school programs at the school. Another option is the afternoon sitter. I actually used both aftercare and had the PT housekeeper.
Some parents have one or both parents with extremely flexible schedules. They flex and don't need care or they enjoy both flexibility and paid help.
Also know double doctor, double attorney, double banker families who have a full time nanny, au pair or live in housekeeper for school aged children.
Good luck.
Anonymous
06/14/2016 23:17
Subject: SAH with Older Kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, it takes 5 minutes to load a dishwasher! I load everything and there are 5 of us!
It takes about 5 minutes to fold laundry - I do it daily for 5 of us. It's one load! EASY
10 minutes in the evening!!!
--------------------------------
It takes 2 minutes, if even, to load a washer
Yes, it takes about 5 minutes to unload my dishwasher in the AM. 5 minutes!!!
Total time is 7 minutes in the AM!!!
I think u have 17 minutes a day to make y our life easier. It's not a big deal. Just do it EVERY day so stuff doesn't pile up!
I'm a SAHM with a preschooler and elementary school aged child. Our cleaning lady comes every other week. I'm a SAHM and still my dishes and laundry pile up. It does not take 2 minutes to load the dishwasher. It takes me longer to clear the table, wipe table down, wipe down counters, get pots and pans into the sink. This does not include time to rinse and load the dishwasher.
Your kids are preschool / elementary and your dishes pile up? Have them help! Or is work as foreign to them as it is to you?
I admit I am a lousy housekeeper and cook. We had a PT housekeeper but she recently moved. We need to hire a new one. I am newly pregnant too so we need to fine more help anyways.
It is so hard to find good help these days, isn't it?
Are you newly rich?
No, I'm a new SAHM though. We had the PT housekeeper before I quit my job. I am one of those moms who quit after older child started elementary school. It was much more difficult for our family to juggle all the time off school and afternoon activities, which is exactly what this thread is about.
When I was a working mom, we outsourced most of our housework. I was a lousy housekeeper when I was a working mom and still am a lousy housekeeper now that I am a SAHM. I plan to hire a FT housekeeper/mother's helper when our new baby is born. This will allow me to spend time with the baby during the day and spend quality time with my older kids in the afternoon and take them to their activities, do homework, etc.
Still in the honeymoon phase. Check back in when you've been home for a year or two.
I've been home for about 1.5 yrs. I quit my job when my child was in the middle of kindergarten. He has just finished first grade.
Are you making this up as you go along? You just described yourself as a new sham.
Why would I make this stuff up? Fine, I'm a newer SAHM. I didn't just quit my job yesterday but I feel it is still new to me. We had our PT housekeeper when I was still working. She stopped working for us last month. That is true.
Right, we believe you.
Or maybe you don't believe that I am a lousy housekeeper. Guess what? There are dirty dishes in my sink right now and I plan to do them tomorrow. I already did a load of dishes right before dinner and dinner dishes are still in the sink. The horror!!!
I am online looking for a new obgyn since I didn't deliver in this area. Also looking up camps for my kids since I have terrible morning sickness. Maybe you don't want to believe that either.
You protest too much. First you describe yourself as a new sahm , then you say you are not. Not really interested in playing catfish with you.
Maybe to you staying home for a year is not new. I always tell people that I just recently started staying home. Sorry if that offends you. I say this in real life. No one actually drills me on whether I stopped working a month ago or a year ago. It may actually be 1 year 4 months so not quite 1.5 yrs.
What ev, first you are, then you aren't, now you are trying to pretend you didn't say two contradictory things. It's hard to keep facts straight in the 7000 square foot fantasy house.
Not pretending. I consider myself a new SAHM because it still feels new to me. We have also been living in the DC area for almost 5 years. I often still say that we are new to the area. You know why? It still feels new!
Anonymous
06/14/2016 23:13
Subject: SAH with Older Kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, it takes 5 minutes to load a dishwasher! I load everything and there are 5 of us!
It takes about 5 minutes to fold laundry - I do it daily for 5 of us. It's one load! EASY
10 minutes in the evening!!!
--------------------------------
It takes 2 minutes, if even, to load a washer
Yes, it takes about 5 minutes to unload my dishwasher in the AM. 5 minutes!!!
Total time is 7 minutes in the AM!!!
I think u have 17 minutes a day to make y our life easier. It's not a big deal. Just do it EVERY day so stuff doesn't pile up!
I'm a SAHM with a preschooler and elementary school aged child. Our cleaning lady comes every other week. I'm a SAHM and still my dishes and laundry pile up. It does not take 2 minutes to load the dishwasher. It takes me longer to clear the table, wipe table down, wipe down counters, get pots and pans into the sink. This does not include time to rinse and load the dishwasher.
Your kids are preschool / elementary and your dishes pile up? Have them help! Or is work as foreign to them as it is to you?
I admit I am a lousy housekeeper and cook. We had a PT housekeeper but she recently moved. We need to hire a new one. I am newly pregnant too so we need to fine more help anyways.
It is so hard to find good help these days, isn't it?
Are you newly rich?
No, I'm a new SAHM though. We had the PT housekeeper before I quit my job. I am one of those moms who quit after older child started elementary school. It was much more difficult for our family to juggle all the time off school and afternoon activities, which is exactly what this thread is about.
When I was a working mom, we outsourced most of our housework. I was a lousy housekeeper when I was a working mom and still am a lousy housekeeper now that I am a SAHM. I plan to hire a FT housekeeper/mother's helper when our new baby is born. This will allow me to spend time with the baby during the day and spend quality time with my older kids in the afternoon and take them to their activities, do homework, etc.
Still in the honeymoon phase. Check back in when you've been home for a year or two.
I've been home for about 1.5 yrs. I quit my job when my child was in the middle of kindergarten. He has just finished first grade.
Are you making this up as you go along? You just described yourself as a new sham.
Why would I make this stuff up? Fine, I'm a newer SAHM. I didn't just quit my job yesterday but I feel it is still new to me. We had our PT housekeeper when I was still working. She stopped working for us last month. That is true.
Right, we believe you.
What do you not believe? This thread is about whether it becomes more difficult for working parents when children start elementary school. I quit my job when my child was in kindergarten and he is now in first grade. Before I quit my job, we had a PT housekeeper/cook/nanny that many working parents on this thread seem to have. After I quit my job, we kept the PT housekeeper but cut her hours. Her mother became ill so she moved back to her home country to take care of her mom. I am also newly pregnant. When DH and I discussed having a third child, we said it would be doable if I have help so my older kids won't get shortchanged. DH earns a high income, which is why we can afford help and for me to stay home. Not sure why this is so unbelievable to you.
I haven't been responding to you and I believe what you're saying because I think it's this weirdly prevalent way of thinking around here - this idea that you have to hire help if you have multiple children, even if SAH, in order not to "shortchange" your children. Great that you have the resources to do it, but don't make the mistake of thinking your children need you to be hyper-involved in every last detail of their lives. It's okay, and healthy, for children to have to entertain themselves sometimes, learn to do homework independently, etc. it's okay for them to sometimes play Legos and run around in the backyard while you deal with a baby or make dinner. I guess it just seems so foreign to me because I had my third when my older two were around the ages of yours, and it never would have crossed my mind to hire a nanny/full time housekeeper even if we could have easily afforded it. We do have a house cleaner every other week, but I can't imagine feeling like I needed more than that. I don't think any of my children have suffered or felt shortchanged; in fact, I think we are thriving! I don't begrudge you for wanting tons of help or for being able to afford it, but this idea that it's somehow required in order to have another child is really strange.
PP here. My DH did not want to have a third originally because he wanted to focus on our two children. He has a very demanding job and works 60+ hours per week. He said he didn't think he could do diapers and sleepless nights again. I actually don't mind the house being a bit messy. DH is the neat freak. Our family compromise was that the third child was doable if we got help. We have not worked out the logistics of who we will hire. I do know I want afternoon coverage plus some night coverage in addition to housekeeping/cooking. I want to be able to work out a few times a week. Preferably this person can be the same person so we could have one FT employee.
Anonymous
06/14/2016 23:06
Subject: SAH with Older Kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, it takes 5 minutes to load a dishwasher! I load everything and there are 5 of us!
It takes about 5 minutes to fold laundry - I do it daily for 5 of us. It's one load! EASY
10 minutes in the evening!!!
--------------------------------
It takes 2 minutes, if even, to load a washer
Yes, it takes about 5 minutes to unload my dishwasher in the AM. 5 minutes!!!
Total time is 7 minutes in the AM!!!
I think u have 17 minutes a day to make y our life easier. It's not a big deal. Just do it EVERY day so stuff doesn't pile up!
I'm a SAHM with a preschooler and elementary school aged child. Our cleaning lady comes every other week. I'm a SAHM and still my dishes and laundry pile up. It does not take 2 minutes to load the dishwasher. It takes me longer to clear the table, wipe table down, wipe down counters, get pots and pans into the sink. This does not include time to rinse and load the dishwasher.
Your kids are preschool / elementary and your dishes pile up? Have them help! Or is work as foreign to them as it is to you?
I admit I am a lousy housekeeper and cook. We had a PT housekeeper but she recently moved. We need to hire a new one. I am newly pregnant too so we need to fine more help anyways.
It is so hard to find good help these days, isn't it?
Are you newly rich?
No, I'm a new SAHM though. We had the PT housekeeper before I quit my job. I am one of those moms who quit after older child started elementary school. It was much more difficult for our family to juggle all the time off school and afternoon activities, which is exactly what this thread is about.
When I was a working mom, we outsourced most of our housework. I was a lousy housekeeper when I was a working mom and still am a lousy housekeeper now that I am a SAHM. I plan to hire a FT housekeeper/mother's helper when our new baby is born. This will allow me to spend time with the baby during the day and spend quality time with my older kids in the afternoon and take them to their activities, do homework, etc.
Still in the honeymoon phase. Check back in when you've been home for a year or two.
I've been home for about 1.5 yrs. I quit my job when my child was in the middle of kindergarten. He has just finished first grade.
Are you making this up as you go along? You just described yourself as a new sham.
Why would I make this stuff up? Fine, I'm a newer SAHM. I didn't just quit my job yesterday but I feel it is still new to me. We had our PT housekeeper when I was still working. She stopped working for us last month. That is true.
Right, we believe you.
Or maybe you don't believe that I am a lousy housekeeper. Guess what? There are dirty dishes in my sink right now and I plan to do them tomorrow. I already did a load of dishes right before dinner and dinner dishes are still in the sink. The horror!!!
I am online looking for a new obgyn since I didn't deliver in this area. Also looking up camps for my kids since I have terrible morning sickness. Maybe you don't want to believe that either.
You protest too much. First you describe yourself as a new sahm , then you say you are not. Not really interested in playing catfish with you.
Maybe to you staying home for a year is not new. I always tell people that I just recently started staying home. Sorry if that offends you. I say this in real life. No one actually drills me on whether I stopped working a month ago or a year ago. It may actually be 1 year 4 months so not quite 1.5 yrs.
What ev, first you are, then you aren't, now you are trying to pretend you didn't say two contradictory things. It's hard to keep facts straight in the 7000 square foot fantasy house.
Anonymous
06/14/2016 23:01
Subject: SAH with Older Kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, it takes 5 minutes to load a dishwasher! I load everything and there are 5 of us!
It takes about 5 minutes to fold laundry - I do it daily for 5 of us. It's one load! EASY
10 minutes in the evening!!!
--------------------------------
It takes 2 minutes, if even, to load a washer
Yes, it takes about 5 minutes to unload my dishwasher in the AM. 5 minutes!!!
Total time is 7 minutes in the AM!!!
I think u have 17 minutes a day to make y our life easier. It's not a big deal. Just do it EVERY day so stuff doesn't pile up!
I'm a SAHM with a preschooler and elementary school aged child. Our cleaning lady comes every other week. I'm a SAHM and still my dishes and laundry pile up. It does not take 2 minutes to load the dishwasher. It takes me longer to clear the table, wipe table down, wipe down counters, get pots and pans into the sink. This does not include time to rinse and load the dishwasher.
Your kids are preschool / elementary and your dishes pile up? Have them help! Or is work as foreign to them as it is to you?
I admit I am a lousy housekeeper and cook. We had a PT housekeeper but she recently moved. We need to hire a new one. I am newly pregnant too so we need to fine more help anyways.
It is so hard to find good help these days, isn't it?
Are you newly rich?
No, I'm a new SAHM though. We had the PT housekeeper before I quit my job. I am one of those moms who quit after older child started elementary school. It was much more difficult for our family to juggle all the time off school and afternoon activities, which is exactly what this thread is about.
When I was a working mom, we outsourced most of our housework. I was a lousy housekeeper when I was a working mom and still am a lousy housekeeper now that I am a SAHM. I plan to hire a FT housekeeper/mother's helper when our new baby is born. This will allow me to spend time with the baby during the day and spend quality time with my older kids in the afternoon and take them to their activities, do homework, etc.
Still in the honeymoon phase. Check back in when you've been home for a year or two.
I've been home for about 1.5 yrs. I quit my job when my child was in the middle of kindergarten. He has just finished first grade.
Are you making this up as you go along? You just described yourself as a new sham.
Why would I make this stuff up? Fine, I'm a newer SAHM. I didn't just quit my job yesterday but I feel it is still new to me. We had our PT housekeeper when I was still working. She stopped working for us last month. That is true.
Right, we believe you.
Or maybe you don't believe that I am a lousy housekeeper. Guess what? There are dirty dishes in my sink right now and I plan to do them tomorrow. I already did a load of dishes right before dinner and dinner dishes are still in the sink. The horror!!!
I am online looking for a new obgyn since I didn't deliver in this area. Also looking up camps for my kids since I have terrible morning sickness. Maybe you don't want to believe that either.
You protest too much. First you describe yourself as a new sahm , then you say you are not. Not really interested in playing catfish with you.
Maybe to you staying home for a year is not new. I always tell people that I just recently started staying home. Sorry if that offends you. I say this in real life. No one actually drills me on whether I stopped working a month ago or a year ago. It may actually be 1 year 4 months so not quite 1.5 yrs.
Anonymous
06/14/2016 22:59
Subject: SAH with Older Kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, it takes 5 minutes to load a dishwasher! I load everything and there are 5 of us!
It takes about 5 minutes to fold laundry - I do it daily for 5 of us. It's one load! EASY
10 minutes in the evening!!!
--------------------------------
It takes 2 minutes, if even, to load a washer
Yes, it takes about 5 minutes to unload my dishwasher in the AM. 5 minutes!!!
Total time is 7 minutes in the AM!!!
I think u have 17 minutes a day to make y our life easier. It's not a big deal. Just do it EVERY day so stuff doesn't pile up!
I'm a SAHM with a preschooler and elementary school aged child. Our cleaning lady comes every other week. I'm a SAHM and still my dishes and laundry pile up. It does not take 2 minutes to load the dishwasher. It takes me longer to clear the table, wipe table down, wipe down counters, get pots and pans into the sink. This does not include time to rinse and load the dishwasher.
Your kids are preschool / elementary and your dishes pile up? Have them help! Or is work as foreign to them as it is to you?
I admit I am a lousy housekeeper and cook. We had a PT housekeeper but she recently moved. We need to hire a new one. I am newly pregnant too so we need to fine more help anyways.
It is so hard to find good help these days, isn't it?
Are you newly rich?
No, I'm a new SAHM though. We had the PT housekeeper before I quit my job. I am one of those moms who quit after older child started elementary school. It was much more difficult for our family to juggle all the time off school and afternoon activities, which is exactly what this thread is about.
When I was a working mom, we outsourced most of our housework. I was a lousy housekeeper when I was a working mom and still am a lousy housekeeper now that I am a SAHM. I plan to hire a FT housekeeper/mother's helper when our new baby is born. This will allow me to spend time with the baby during the day and spend quality time with my older kids in the afternoon and take them to their activities, do homework, etc.
Still in the honeymoon phase. Check back in when you've been home for a year or two.
I've been home for about 1.5 yrs. I quit my job when my child was in the middle of kindergarten. He has just finished first grade.
Are you making this up as you go along? You just described yourself as a new sham.
Why would I make this stuff up? Fine, I'm a newer SAHM. I didn't just quit my job yesterday but I feel it is still new to me. We had our PT housekeeper when I was still working. She stopped working for us last month. That is true.
Right, we believe you.
What do you not believe? This thread is about whether it becomes more difficult for working parents when children start elementary school. I quit my job when my child was in kindergarten and he is now in first grade. Before I quit my job, we had a PT housekeeper/cook/nanny that many working parents on this thread seem to have. After I quit my job, we kept the PT housekeeper but cut her hours. Her mother became ill so she moved back to her home country to take care of her mom. I am also newly pregnant. When DH and I discussed having a third child, we said it would be doable if I have help so my older kids won't get shortchanged. DH earns a high income, which is why we can afford help and for me to stay home. Not sure why this is so unbelievable to you.
I haven't been responding to you and I believe what you're saying because I think it's this weirdly prevalent way of thinking around here - this idea that you have to hire help if you have multiple children, even if SAH, in order not to "shortchange" your children. Great that you have the resources to do it, but don't make the mistake of thinking your children need you to be hyper-involved in every last detail of their lives. It's okay, and healthy, for children to have to entertain themselves sometimes, learn to do homework independently, etc. it's okay for them to sometimes play Legos and run around in the backyard while you deal with a baby or make dinner. I guess it just seems so foreign to me because I had my third when my older two were around the ages of yours, and it never would have crossed my mind to hire a nanny/full time housekeeper even if we could have easily afforded it. We do have a house cleaner every other week, but I can't imagine feeling like I needed more than that. I don't think any of my children have suffered or felt shortchanged; in fact, I think we are thriving! I don't begrudge you for wanting tons of help or for being able to afford it, but this idea that it's somehow required in order to have another child is really strange.
Anonymous
06/14/2016 22:55
Subject: SAH with Older Kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, it takes 5 minutes to load a dishwasher! I load everything and there are 5 of us!
It takes about 5 minutes to fold laundry - I do it daily for 5 of us. It's one load! EASY
10 minutes in the evening!!!
--------------------------------
It takes 2 minutes, if even, to load a washer
Yes, it takes about 5 minutes to unload my dishwasher in the AM. 5 minutes!!!
Total time is 7 minutes in the AM!!!
I think u have 17 minutes a day to make y our life easier. It's not a big deal. Just do it EVERY day so stuff doesn't pile up!
I'm a SAHM with a preschooler and elementary school aged child. Our cleaning lady comes every other week. I'm a SAHM and still my dishes and laundry pile up. It does not take 2 minutes to load the dishwasher. It takes me longer to clear the table, wipe table down, wipe down counters, get pots and pans into the sink. This does not include time to rinse and load the dishwasher.
Your kids are preschool / elementary and your dishes pile up? Have them help! Or is work as foreign to them as it is to you?
I admit I am a lousy housekeeper and cook. We had a PT housekeeper but she recently moved. We need to hire a new one. I am newly pregnant too so we need to fine more help anyways.
It is so hard to find good help these days, isn't it?
Are you newly rich?
No, I'm a new SAHM though. We had the PT housekeeper before I quit my job. I am one of those moms who quit after older child started elementary school. It was much more difficult for our family to juggle all the time off school and afternoon activities, which is exactly what this thread is about.
When I was a working mom, we outsourced most of our housework. I was a lousy housekeeper when I was a working mom and still am a lousy housekeeper now that I am a SAHM. I plan to hire a FT housekeeper/mother's helper when our new baby is born. This will allow me to spend time with the baby during the day and spend quality time with my older kids in the afternoon and take them to their activities, do homework, etc.
Still in the honeymoon phase. Check back in when you've been home for a year or two.
I've been home for about 1.5 yrs. I quit my job when my child was in the middle of kindergarten. He has just finished first grade.
Are you making this up as you go along? You just described yourself as a new sham.
Why would I make this stuff up? Fine, I'm a newer SAHM. I didn't just quit my job yesterday but I feel it is still new to me. We had our PT housekeeper when I was still working. She stopped working for us last month. That is true.
Right, we believe you.
Or maybe you don't believe that I am a lousy housekeeper. Guess what? There are dirty dishes in my sink right now and I plan to do them tomorrow. I already did a load of dishes right before dinner and dinner dishes are still in the sink. The horror!!!
I am online looking for a new obgyn since I didn't deliver in this area. Also looking up camps for my kids since I have terrible morning sickness. Maybe you don't want to believe that either.
You protest too much. First you describe yourself as a new sahm , then you say you are not. Not really interested in playing catfish with you.
Anonymous
06/14/2016 22:38
Subject: Re:SAH with Older Kids?
You just sound awful 
Anonymous
06/14/2016 22:31
Subject: SAH with Older Kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, it takes 5 minutes to load a dishwasher! I load everything and there are 5 of us!
It takes about 5 minutes to fold laundry - I do it daily for 5 of us. It's one load! EASY
10 minutes in the evening!!!
--------------------------------
It takes 2 minutes, if even, to load a washer
Yes, it takes about 5 minutes to unload my dishwasher in the AM. 5 minutes!!!
Total time is 7 minutes in the AM!!!
I think u have 17 minutes a day to make y our life easier. It's not a big deal. Just do it EVERY day so stuff doesn't pile up!
I'm a SAHM with a preschooler and elementary school aged child. Our cleaning lady comes every other week. I'm a SAHM and still my dishes and laundry pile up. It does not take 2 minutes to load the dishwasher. It takes me longer to clear the table, wipe table down, wipe down counters, get pots and pans into the sink. This does not include time to rinse and load the dishwasher.
Your kids are preschool / elementary and your dishes pile up? Have them help! Or is work as foreign to them as it is to you?
I admit I am a lousy housekeeper and cook. We had a PT housekeeper but she recently moved. We need to hire a new one. I am newly pregnant too so we need to fine more help anyways.
It is so hard to find good help these days, isn't it?
Are you newly rich?
No, I'm a new SAHM though. We had the PT housekeeper before I quit my job. I am one of those moms who quit after older child started elementary school. It was much more difficult for our family to juggle all the time off school and afternoon activities, which is exactly what this thread is about.
When I was a working mom, we outsourced most of our housework. I was a lousy housekeeper when I was a working mom and still am a lousy housekeeper now that I am a SAHM. I plan to hire a FT housekeeper/mother's helper when our new baby is born. This will allow me to spend time with the baby during the day and spend quality time with my older kids in the afternoon and take them to their activities, do homework, etc.
Still in the honeymoon phase. Check back in when you've been home for a year or two.
I've been home for about 1.5 yrs. I quit my job when my child was in the middle of kindergarten. He has just finished first grade.
Are you making this up as you go along? You just described yourself as a new sham.
Why would I make this stuff up? Fine, I'm a newer SAHM. I didn't just quit my job yesterday but I feel it is still new to me. We had our PT housekeeper when I was still working. She stopped working for us last month. That is true.
Right, we believe you.
Or maybe you don't believe that I am a lousy housekeeper. Guess what? There are dirty dishes in my sink right now and I plan to do them tomorrow. I already did a load of dishes right before dinner and dinner dishes are still in the sink. The horror!!!
I am online looking for a new obgyn since I didn't deliver in this area. Also looking up camps for my kids since I have terrible morning sickness. Maybe you don't want to believe that either.
Anonymous
06/14/2016 22:25
Subject: SAH with Older Kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, it takes 5 minutes to load a dishwasher! I load everything and there are 5 of us!
It takes about 5 minutes to fold laundry - I do it daily for 5 of us. It's one load! EASY
10 minutes in the evening!!!
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It takes 2 minutes, if even, to load a washer
Yes, it takes about 5 minutes to unload my dishwasher in the AM. 5 minutes!!!
Total time is 7 minutes in the AM!!!
I think u have 17 minutes a day to make y our life easier. It's not a big deal. Just do it EVERY day so stuff doesn't pile up!
I'm a SAHM with a preschooler and elementary school aged child. Our cleaning lady comes every other week. I'm a SAHM and still my dishes and laundry pile up. It does not take 2 minutes to load the dishwasher. It takes me longer to clear the table, wipe table down, wipe down counters, get pots and pans into the sink. This does not include time to rinse and load the dishwasher.
Your kids are preschool / elementary and your dishes pile up? Have them help! Or is work as foreign to them as it is to you?
I admit I am a lousy housekeeper and cook. We had a PT housekeeper but she recently moved. We need to hire a new one. I am newly pregnant too so we need to fine more help anyways.
It is so hard to find good help these days, isn't it?
Are you newly rich?
No, I'm a new SAHM though. We had the PT housekeeper before I quit my job. I am one of those moms who quit after older child started elementary school. It was much more difficult for our family to juggle all the time off school and afternoon activities, which is exactly what this thread is about.
When I was a working mom, we outsourced most of our housework. I was a lousy housekeeper when I was a working mom and still am a lousy housekeeper now that I am a SAHM. I plan to hire a FT housekeeper/mother's helper when our new baby is born. This will allow me to spend time with the baby during the day and spend quality time with my older kids in the afternoon and take them to their activities, do homework, etc.
Still in the honeymoon phase. Check back in when you've been home for a year or two.
I've been home for about 1.5 yrs. I quit my job when my child was in the middle of kindergarten. He has just finished first grade.
Are you making this up as you go along? You just described yourself as a new sham.
Why would I make this stuff up? Fine, I'm a newer SAHM. I didn't just quit my job yesterday but I feel it is still new to me. We had our PT housekeeper when I was still working. She stopped working for us last month. That is true.
Right, we believe you.
What do you not believe? This thread is about whether it becomes more difficult for working parents when children start elementary school. I quit my job when my child was in kindergarten and he is now in first grade. Before I quit my job, we had a PT housekeeper/cook/nanny that many working parents on this thread seem to have. After I quit my job, we kept the PT housekeeper but cut her hours. Her mother became ill so she moved back to her home country to take care of her mom. I am also newly pregnant. When DH and I discussed having a third child, we said it would be doable if I have help so my older kids won't get shortchanged. DH earns a high income, which is why we can afford help and for me to stay home. Not sure why this is so unbelievable to you.
Anonymous
06/14/2016 22:15
Subject: SAH with Older Kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, it takes 5 minutes to load a dishwasher! I load everything and there are 5 of us!
It takes about 5 minutes to fold laundry - I do it daily for 5 of us. It's one load! EASY
10 minutes in the evening!!!
--------------------------------
It takes 2 minutes, if even, to load a washer
Yes, it takes about 5 minutes to unload my dishwasher in the AM. 5 minutes!!!
Total time is 7 minutes in the AM!!!
I think u have 17 minutes a day to make y our life easier. It's not a big deal. Just do it EVERY day so stuff doesn't pile up!
I'm a SAHM with a preschooler and elementary school aged child. Our cleaning lady comes every other week. I'm a SAHM and still my dishes and laundry pile up. It does not take 2 minutes to load the dishwasher. It takes me longer to clear the table, wipe table down, wipe down counters, get pots and pans into the sink. This does not include time to rinse and load the dishwasher.
Your kids are preschool / elementary and your dishes pile up? Have them help! Or is work as foreign to them as it is to you?
I admit I am a lousy housekeeper and cook. We had a PT housekeeper but she recently moved. We need to hire a new one. I am newly pregnant too so we need to fine more help anyways.
It is so hard to find good help these days, isn't it?
Are you newly rich?
No, I'm a new SAHM though. We had the PT housekeeper before I quit my job. I am one of those moms who quit after older child started elementary school. It was much more difficult for our family to juggle all the time off school and afternoon activities, which is exactly what this thread is about.
When I was a working mom, we outsourced most of our housework. I was a lousy housekeeper when I was a working mom and still am a lousy housekeeper now that I am a SAHM. I plan to hire a FT housekeeper/mother's helper when our new baby is born. This will allow me to spend time with the baby during the day and spend quality time with my older kids in the afternoon and take them to their activities, do homework, etc.
Still in the honeymoon phase. Check back in when you've been home for a year or two.
I've been home for about 1.5 yrs. I quit my job when my child was in the middle of kindergarten. He has just finished first grade.
Are you making this up as you go along? You just described yourself as a new sham.
Why would I make this stuff up? Fine, I'm a newer SAHM. I didn't just quit my job yesterday but I feel it is still new to me. We had our PT housekeeper when I was still working. She stopped working for us last month. That is true.
Right, we believe you.
Anonymous
06/14/2016 22:07
Subject: Re:SAH with Older Kids?
I think DCUM's is a great place to pretend to be someone your not 