Anonymous
08/12/2012 17:24
Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anyone who puts down SAHMs are just jealous. There is nothing difficult about what OPs problem is. If OP could stay home, she would. But she can't, nor will she ever, and she is pissed off about it and is trying to bully others into their explaining their stance to her; as if they owe her (of all people) an explanation. BS. If I could stay home, I would owe NO ONE an explanation!
I have neighbors like this who are nasty about SAHMs, especially if those SAHMs have a nice demeanor and/or have nicer houses. The jealousy oozes from the WM neighbors. You can almost smell it, it is so very obvious. Grow up, people.
If someone else is successful, it has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with you. Grow up.
I have neighbors like this who are nasty about SAHMs, especially if those SAHMs have a nice demeanor and/or have nicer houses. The jealousy oozes from the WM neighbors. You can almost smell it, it is so very obvious. Grow up, people.
If someone else is successful, it has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with you. Grow up.
Anonymous
08/12/2012 17:00
Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Oh geez people. If I won the lottery tomorrow, I would absolutely quit my job. I doubt most people want to work 40 plus hours a week just for fun. Why all the hate for people who can afford to do that?? To each their own.
Anonymous
08/12/2012 11:50
Subject: Re:women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Let me guess: You people also have "no respect" for moms who stay home after their children are in school? And obviously having a job is what "gives life purpose"? Please! If you feel THIS vocal about the issue, you clearly have some resentment.
In my case, DH owns his own company and loves what he does. He will never stop working. That is a choice, because we can financially both retire now and be very comfortable. I do not derive fulfillment from my former lobbying career. I feel fulfilled by volunteering, helping others, running our house and finances, and especially raising our child. But - my point is that it's not just my child that makes staying at home fulfilling - there are many, many other aspects of this life that I love. My goal is to become more involved with my charity when my child is in school. I like being able to make a difference and do what I really enjoy- rather than the daily grind from 9-6 every day.
I know there are people out there that are truly satisfied with and love their jobs - my husband is one, but frankly - I haven't met many women who truly feel this way.
Why would you stay home after your kids are in school?
You do know that the odds are in favor of your husband leaving you and you will no longer have this life you love, right? I know you think you are important and that you deserve the life you want, but as long as that life is predicated on someone else's earning potential, you have no security.
Over 50% of marriages in this country end in divorce.
I am not this PP, but where are you getting your information? The odds of a college-educated couple in a long-term marriage getting divorced is actually very low. 50% of all marriages end in divorce but not 50% of all people get divorced. Some people get married and divorced multiple times and marriages are much more likely to end in the first few years. Of course you can't know the future, but there is no reason to overestimate the chances of a bad outcome.
Anonymous
08/10/2012 19:47
Subject: Re:women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:
Let me guess: You people also have "no respect" for moms who stay home after their children are in school? And obviously having a job is what "gives life purpose"? Please! If you feel THIS vocal about the issue, you clearly have some resentment.
In my case, DH owns his own company and loves what he does. He will never stop working. That is a choice, because we can financially both retire now and be very comfortable. I do not derive fulfillment from my former lobbying career. I feel fulfilled by volunteering, helping others, running our house and finances, and especially raising our child. But - my point is that it's not just my child that makes staying at home fulfilling - there are many, many other aspects of this life that I love. My goal is to become more involved with my charity when my child is in school. I like being able to make a difference and do what I really enjoy- rather than the daily grind from 9-6 every day.
I know there are people out there that are truly satisfied with and love their jobs - my husband is one, but frankly - I haven't met many women who truly feel this way.
Why would you stay home after your kids are in school?
You do know that the odds are in favor of your husband leaving you and you will no longer have this life you love, right? I know you think you are important and that you deserve the life you want, but as long as that life is predicated on someone else's earning potential, you have no security.
Over 50% of marriages in this country end in divorce.
Anonymous
08/10/2012 16:29
Subject: Re:women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Let me guess: You people also have "no respect" for moms who stay home after their children are in school? And obviously having a job is what "gives life purpose"? Please! If you feel THIS vocal about the issue, you clearly have some resentment.
In my case, DH owns his own company and loves what he does. He will never stop working. That is a choice, because we can financially both retire now and be very comfortable. I do not derive fulfillment from my former lobbying career. I feel fulfilled by volunteering, helping others, running our house and finances, and especially raising our child. But - my point is that it's not just my child that makes staying at home fulfilling - there are many, many other aspects of this life that I love. My goal is to become more involved with my charity when my child is in school. I like being able to make a difference and do what I really enjoy- rather than the daily grind from 9-6 every day.
I know there are people out there that are truly satisfied with and love their jobs - my husband is one, but frankly - I haven't met many women who truly feel this way.
Why would you stay home after your kids are in school?
Because she may need to cart her child off to practice or other activities. She may want to help with homework. Also, schools let out pretty early. There are probably still a lot of things that need to be done to manage the house. This isn't for me but I can understand it and I think it's totally different from women who don't have kids yet stay at home.
Signed,
WOHM
Anonymous
08/10/2012 16:20
Subject: Re:women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:You have half a kid?
Yes.
Someone who has never been pregnant - wouldn't get that.
Umm, someone who's never had a brain wouldn't get that.
Am I missing my brain? Someone please explain to me this concept of telling people you have half a kid.
Seriously? You still don't understand?
NP to this discussion. I'm assuming the 2.5 kids poster is pregnant.
If that's the case, I think this terminology is stupid. I don't tell people I have 1.5 kids b/c I'm pregnant. Sorry I'm not up on all the juvenile shorthand.
NP (different one). THat is stupid--I assumed a half a kid meant a step child who is around only half the time--shared custody. Makes more sense than being pregnant.