Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 15:33     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:
UVA grad making 130k ...

Must have undergrad and/or graduate degree
Height: 5’9 - 6’4
[age 37-50]
Open to children
Distance: 30 miles


Single white men 5'9"+ age 37-50 making $130k+ are only 1% of the population. This does not include a graduate degree or openness to kids.

https://igotstandardsbro.com/results?minAge=37&maxAge=50&excludeMarried=true&race=1&minHeight=175.26&excludeObese=false&minIncome=130000

If you would date a 50-year-old man then a man your age might date a woman in her twenties. By comparison, single not non-overweight white women under 5'9" age 27-40 are 9% of the population.

https://realitycalc.com/results/age1=27&age2=40&excludeMarried=true&excludeMothers=false&race=false,false,false,false,white&height1=48&height2=69&excludeObese=false&excludeOverweight=false&income=0&incomeType=false&

If you do not start trying for one or two years then you will have a child in your forties. A 38-year-old man would prefer a woman under 35 to avoid fertility problems.

Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 01:34     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Do you have that you are currently separated on your profile? Sometimes that is an issue for people, they want someone who is free of baggage - either single never married or divorced. Also, you should't put your eggs in one basket, try another dating site. Maybe there is something going on with the one you are currently on. One thing you can do is increase your geographic distance that you are willing to go.
I am also 5 feet tall so I feel you on wanting someone taller. Consider 5'7 as a starting point but you may want to lower that to 5'5.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 00:33     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think great core probably refers to six pack abs.


And short little legs?


I saw a 9.5 inch dick on a guy who was 5’9”. He was basically a human tripod.


Mom?
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 00:19     Subject: Re:38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Just go out in real life
Goodtime
Post 10/05/2025 17:39     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:I have been on the apps on and off since I separated from my STBXH. I am looking to gently dip a toe in dating and…it’s not going well!

My stats:

5’0 118lbs
Brunette with nice skin and classic style
UVA grad making 130k
I am told I am quite pretty and sweet. I have no idea why I’m receiving no matches!

It is very demoralizing.


You sound like you have a lot going for yourself. I’d love to have a conversation and get to know you. Possibly have dinner if that goes well.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2025 08:23     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have been on the apps on and off since I separated from my STBXH. I am looking to gently dip a toe in dating and…it’s not going well!

My stats:

5’0 118lbs
Brunette with nice skin and classic style
UVA grad making 130k
I am told I am quite pretty and sweet. I have no idea why I’m receiving no matches!

It is very demoralizing. [/quote
Wish I could learn more about you. 6'1", 200 lbs. white guy, in good shape, super clean, masculine and make 250K+. Funny, no ego but confident, and very very normal.


Whenever someone claims to have no ego I immediately know they’re delusional. EVERYONE has ego.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2025 08:06     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:I have been on the apps on and off since I separated from my STBXH. I am looking to gently dip a toe in dating and…it’s not going well!

My stats:

5’0 118lbs
Brunette with nice skin and classic style
UVA grad making 130k
I am told I am quite pretty and sweet. I have no idea why I’m receiving no matches!

It is very demoralizing. [/quote
Wish I could learn more about you. 6'1", 200 lbs. white guy, in good shape, super clean, masculine and make 250K+. Funny, no ego but confident, and very very normal.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2025 06:08     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
A 38 year old woman is not a prize
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2025 05:16     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
People are pretty ridiculous on here. 40f 5ft 2 attractive get a lot of super swipes and likes from tall men in their 20s to 40s. It's a full time job.
Anonymous
Post 10/04/2025 21:20     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You are asking way too much lady. You are old almost 40. You don't make enough money not even $150k (if you were a man every single woman here would say you were broke AF, so yeah it applies to women as well). And you are looking for a guy at least 5'9, please lower it to 5'6.

I'm sorry I come across as harsh. Read it every slowly. This is exactly how women here respond to men with a profile similar to yours.


Aren't women the prize? I don't think it matters how much they made, how old they are. Men are the ones who have to worry about that.


Yes, but you have to be a prize to be the prize. And most women aren't.
Anonymous
Post 10/04/2025 21:17     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm a 5'8" single guy and am laughing at how I don't meet OP's height requirement. I'm 160 lbs. I prefer women around my height/weight or slightly bigger or taller, but I'm open to dating the petite ladies, just not OP. LOL

Also, I have an MBA but I rarely talk about my college degree. I'm above average intelligence, like many people in the DMV area, but I prefer to live a simple life and not try to impress people with my brain. 🧠

I'm 46 and am noticing a ton of amazing women in the 45 to 55 age group, so that's where I'm focusing my efforts.


As a 5’8 white woman - my best relationship post divorce was with a 5’8 divorced Asian man. He had wide shoulders great core and medium D. Had multiple degrees and was just all around brilliant
Not sure how 5’8 is too short for OP


Oh and I’m 20 BMI , model looking. his exW was a gorgeous 5’10 former athlete they had gorgeous mixed race kids
Educated charming and successful men of any height can do so much better than desperate to marry ladies who judge them by the height !


Amazing how many modelesque women are on DCUM.


Yes, apparently complaining on the Internet draws the most beautiful women in the region.

Anonymous
Post 10/04/2025 20:39     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think great core probably refers to six pack abs.


And short little legs?


I saw a 9.5 inch dick on a guy who was 5’9”. He was basically a human tripod.
Anonymous
Post 10/04/2025 20:35     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are you not getting any hits on multiple apps? Because that’s uncommon. There must be a red flag on your profile, or your pics are bad. Most men don’t even read the profile when swiping.

Op here I don’t photograph well


Hire a professional photographer, OP. Men are visual creatures. Make sure that you’re putting your best foot forward.
Anonymous
Post 10/04/2025 17:58     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think great core probably refers to six pack abs.


And short little legs?


And massive calves
Anonymous
Post 10/04/2025 17:57     Subject: 38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dang what's wrong with men at least 5'5?

I'm taller than you at 5'3. And I would date a man that's 5'5 at least. My hubby is 5'8.


Same. My 5’7” DH is handsome, graduated from a top law school, makes high 6 figures and is an amazing dad.


I'm 6'2. I have a few friends under 5'10. They are all married while I am divorced.

I don't believe height is a handicap for men.