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Anonymous wrote:Have at it, Gen Z and parents. Everything old is new again. They can know the "problem with no name" like my mom and other post-WWII era SAHMs did. Oh, and tell them to read Fascinating Womanhood, also on many mothers' bookshelves.

Same for the men. They can look forward to being tethered to someone for life who, most likely, will quickly lose interest in frequent sex, pester them about inane bullsht, and not let them do fun sht anymore.

I'd be shocked if the "high quality" men in major metro areas DCUM loves have changed so much in the past 10 years since I was dating that they're down with getting married at 22. I think even if a woman was hellbent on early marriage, but dating in NYC/DC/London etc. it would be nearly impossible unless they were part of some subgroup (probably religious) where early marriage was the norm OR they were ok with dating 10+ years older. All those finance/law/etc types were marrying from around 28-34.

Can someone respond to this? People (like OP) seem to think this is a woman issue of wanting to gain education, build a career, obtain financial stability and security before they settle down and this is viewed as a problem. Stats show more and more women taking on the breadwinner role. I am by no mean opposed to young marriage, but even in UMC circles this was not a thing. So how do we recoconcile our girls marrying early 20s with a pool of men who are ABSOLUTELY not ready for that? I think someone posted an example, but with a 17 year age difference. Ehhh....

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Anonymous wrote:Have at it, Gen Z and parents. Everything old is new again. They can know the "problem with no name" like my mom and other post-WWII era SAHMs did. Oh, and tell them to read Fascinating Womanhood, also on many mothers' bookshelves.

Same for the men. They can look forward to being tethered to someone for life who, most likely, will quickly lose interest in frequent sex, pester them about inane bullsht, and not let them do fun sht anymore.

I'd be shocked if the "high quality" men in major metro areas DCUM loves have changed so much in the past 10 years since I was dating that they're down with getting married at 22. I think even if a woman was hellbent on early marriage, but dating in NYC/DC/London etc. it would be nearly impossible unless they were part of some subgroup (probably religious) where early marriage was the norm OR they were ok with dating 10+ years older. All those finance/law/etc types were marrying from around 28-34.

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Anonymous wrote:I just read about Ballerina Farm and it is like Get Out but it's real life. She married at 22 within 3 months was pregnant and gave up a career as a dancer. Now she's playing Little House on the Prairie.

https://www.thetimes.com/magazines/the-sunday-times-magazine/article/meet-the-queen-of-the-trad-wives-and-her-eight-children-plfr50cgk

This is a reason why not to get married at 22!

Yeah and her name is not on the deed to the house. She is not on any of the business documents either even though she is the face of the brand. Very precarious position to be in and one that lots of women end up regretting eventually. The world is not ideal and men are not always good. Something my mom and grandma taught me that they learned through horrible experiences.

So she gave up a dead-end career as a dancer to be a married mom turned multi millionaire influencer. She clearly doesn’t regret that decision. And pray tell how is she a multi millionaire influencer if this young married mother aesthetic is so unappealing? It’s clearly not unappealing. This is an extreme example of the pendulum swinging to young weddings (and becoming a young mom) being cool again.

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Anonymous wrote:I just read about Ballerina Farm and it is like Get Out but it's real life. She married at 22 within 3 months was pregnant and gave up a career as a dancer. Now she's playing Little House on the Prairie.

https://www.thetimes.com/magazines/the-sunday-times-magazine/article/meet-the-queen-of-the-trad-wives-and-her-eight-children-plfr50cgk

This is a reason why not to get married at 22!

Yeah and her name is not on the deed to the house. She is not on any of the business documents either even though she is the face of the brand. Very precarious position to be in and one that lots of women end up regretting eventually. The world is not ideal and men are not always good. Something my mom and grandma taught me that they learned through horrible experiences.

So she gave up a dead-end career as a dancer to be a married mom turned multi millionaire influencer. She clearly doesn’t regret that decision. And pray tell how is she a multi millionaire influencer if this young married mother aesthetic is so unappealing? It’s clearly not unappealing. This is an extreme example of the pendulum swinging to young weddings (and becoming a young mom) being cool again.

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Anonymous wrote:I just read about Ballerina Farm and it is like Get Out but it's real life. She married at 22 within 3 months was pregnant and gave up a career as a dancer. Now she's playing Little House on the Prairie.

https://www.thetimes.com/magazines/the-sunday-times-magazine/article/meet-the-queen-of-the-trad-wives-and-her-eight-children-plfr50cgk

This is a reason why not to get married at 22!

Yeah and her name is not on the deed to the house. She is not on any of the business documents either even though she is the face of the brand. Very precarious position to be in and one that lots of women end up regretting eventually. The world is not ideal and men are not always good. Something my mom and grandma taught me that they learned through horrible experiences.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems to be the same one or two people posting over and over again about how this “trend” is the only appropriate way to live one’s life and that people who marry young are the only happy ones. This has not been my experience. I know people in many types of relationships with different timelines to be happy and unhappy. I think this poster or posters need to take a step back and examine why they think there’s only one relationship timeline that leads to happiness.

I think this too. Someone gets so excited when they find something to prove people are getting married at a younger age and posts about it. Why is this important to anyone? I don't get it.

I think it's Brunch Granny.

It totally is, and for someone who thinks they have done everything right in life and is thrilled her daughter has managed to hook a man and have a baby by 21 to make her a grandma late 30's to early 40's, she seems MISERABLE on DCUM that this is her schtick to the point she's DCUM famous. It's a weirdly pathetic hobby for someone so supposedly secure in their choices. Also, extremely privileged that this daughter's husband and her daughter can be supported by parents throughout ALL of their 20s, as if this is a common thing. (He'll earn money starting around 30, daughter is in a minimum wage, pink collar job). She's rather die than admit it but this level of posting coupled with the "don't you want to be "hot mom!" reveals some level of insecurity and immaturity and is pretty unhinged behavior. The pure vitriol towards people who have made different life choices does not say, "happy" to me.

Omg that would make so much sense. If you’re so happy with your choices, brunch grandma, why are you here obsessively defending them?

Anonymous wrote:Model/actress Joey King married last year when she was 23. She has 20M followers on instagram.



https://www.vogue.com/slideshow/joey-king-and-steven-piet-wedding

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Anonymous wrote:It seems to be the same one or two people posting over and over again about how this “trend” is the only appropriate way to live one’s life and that people who marry young are the only happy ones. This has not been my experience. I know people in many types of relationships with different timelines to be happy and unhappy. I think this poster or posters need to take a step back and examine why they think there’s only one relationship timeline that leads to happiness.

I think this too. Someone gets so excited when they find something to prove people are getting married at a younger age and posts about it. Why is this important to anyone? I don't get it.

I think it's Brunch Granny.

It totally is, and for someone who thinks they have done everything right in life and is thrilled her daughter has managed to hook a man and have a baby by 21 to make her a grandma late 30's to early 40's, she seems MISERABLE on DCUM that this is her schtick to the point she's DCUM famous. It's a weirdly pathetic hobby for someone so supposedly secure in their choices. Also, extremely privileged that this daughter's husband and her daughter can be supported by parents throughout ALL of their 20s, as if this is a common thing. (He'll earn money starting around 30, daughter is in a minimum wage, pink collar job). She's rather die than admit it but this level of posting coupled with the "don't you want to be "hot mom!" reveals some level of insecurity and immaturity and is pretty unhinged behavior. The pure vitriol towards people who have made different life choices does not say, "happy" to me.

Anonymous wrote:I just read about Ballerina Farm and it is like Get Out but it's real life. She married at 22 within 3 months was pregnant and gave up a career as a dancer. Now she's playing Little House on the Prairie.

https://www.thetimes.com/magazines/the-sunday-times-magazine/article/meet-the-queen-of-the-trad-wives-and-her-eight-children-plfr50cgk

This is a reason why not to get married at 22!

Anonymous wrote:Sophia looked stunning at her wedding last year.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet all these young folks divorce. No one has the tenacity for marriage anymore. People put their own “journey” before the hardcore commitment a marriage takes. Everyone is so opinionated and sure of themselves. Let’s see these marriages in a decade. There is no residency in this generation.

Only a damaged, bitter, and jaded person sees beautiful wedding photos of a gorgeous young couple and impulsively predicts (let’s be honest, you hope for) a divorce. I honestly feel sorry for you and anyone else spamming similar. You’re projecting your own baggage onto these madly in love and glowing young people.

What about tacky weddings for ugly, tepidly in love young people?

Anonymous wrote:Hilarious to see people write that "Gen Z wised up" and learned from millennial/GenX mistakes... but they're not even 30 LOL. Hard to say what trends are when not even 30.