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Anonymous wrote:For the shoe-free-home people, are you OK with people bringing their own comfortable indoor-only slippers to wear, or are you suspicious that they aren’t clean? Because it wouldn’t bother me at all to change into my comfortable indoor shoes.

It wouldn't bother me at all. I wouldn't question that they were indoor shoes.

I also wouldn't request "no shoes" at a party like OP is describing, though.

+1. If people will be attending after work, they will not be expecting to remove their shoes.

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Anonymous wrote:For the shoe-free-home people, are you OK with people bringing their own comfortable indoor-only slippers to wear, or are you suspicious that they aren’t clean? Because it wouldn’t bother me at all to change into my comfortable indoor shoes.

It wouldn't bother me at all. I wouldn't question that they were indoor shoes.

I also wouldn't request "no shoes" at a party like OP is describing, though.

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Anonymous wrote:We are a shoe free home. When I throw adult parities, I never request attendees to take shoes off (unless if it’s raining or snowing outside). After adult parties just vacuum t mop the floors. I enjoy taking my shoes off at friends homes when on regular visits.

I went to a fancy catered Christmas party last year. I wore tights and heels. Big mistake! I had to take off my shoes. I was slipping all night in tights and there were drink spills I stepped in on the floor.

Kid parties? Oh man every kid is taking their nasty shoes off at my door.

Do people need to be told to do this? I am not a shoe-free house and I vacuum my rugs every night and mop/ swimmer wet jet a few times a week. I definitely mop and vacuum after every party. Do people who are this strict about not having shoes use that an an excuse to not clean their homes?!

I spot clean during the week and the cleaners clean all the floors once a week. I was a shoeless household before I had kids, but now that I have them, it also makes my life easier. I don't have to worry about vacuuming up sand or mulch from the playground other than in the mudroom. Maybe it does mean I have to clean less, but isn't that a good thing? I don't want to vacuum my rugs every night. Why not make my life easier?

Well, there are several people on this thread who have shoe-free houses who say that houses where people who wear shoes are dirty and gross. I am not saying you are one of them but it is a little disingenuous if someone thinks that it is gross to ear shoes is also a person who needs to be told to clean his/her floors after a party.

Stuff gets on my floors from other ways than people tracking dirt in; it takes less than ten minutes to vacuum the whole first floor as part of the end of night routine. Fine if you don't want to vacuum/ clean your house every night but hopefully you also aren't accusing others of having dirty homes just because they let guests wear shoes in them!

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Anonymous wrote:We are a shoe free home. When I throw adult parities, I never request attendees to take shoes off (unless if it’s raining or snowing outside). After adult parties just vacuum t mop the floors. I enjoy taking my shoes off at friends homes when on regular visits.

I went to a fancy catered Christmas party last year. I wore tights and heels. Big mistake! I had to take off my shoes. I was slipping all night in tights and there were drink spills I stepped in on the floor.

Kid parties? Oh man every kid is taking their nasty shoes off at my door.

Do people need to be told to do this? I am not a shoe-free house and I vacuum my rugs every night and mop/ swimmer wet jet a few times a week. I definitely mop and vacuum after every party. Do people who are this strict about not having shoes use that an an excuse to not clean their homes?!

I spot clean during the week and the cleaners clean all the floors once a week. I was a shoeless household before I had kids, but now that I have them, it also makes my life easier. I don't have to worry about vacuuming up sand or mulch from the playground other than in the mudroom. Maybe it does mean I have to clean less, but isn't that a good thing? I don't want to vacuum my rugs every night. Why not make my life easier?

Anonymous wrote:For the shoe-free-home people, are you OK with people bringing their own comfortable indoor-only slippers to wear, or are you suspicious that they aren’t clean? Because it wouldn’t bother me at all to change into my comfortable indoor shoes.

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Anonymous wrote:If I know I’m going to be at someone’s house for a while, I bring my indoor-only slippers. I get to be comfy and also respectful of their home!

I would never presume that it’s okay to leave my shoes on. I like things clean myself and it’s hard to imagine how often you’d have to clean floors if you were tracking in all the yuck from outside every day.

But it's not every day. It's one party.

No one is saying not to be shoes free most days. They are just saying that if you're hosting a large party, then loosen up the rules and clean up after.

No. Many people are saying they have rare foot problems and have medical grade shoes prescribed by a doctor that never come off their feet. That’s what’s uncommon. Not shoes off.

Plantar fasciitis, arthritis of the foot, and peripheral neuropathy are three common disorders that can make it hard or painful for people to walk without shoes.

Shoes off at an adult dinner party is uncommon enough that people don't plan for it, so you need to warn people in advance.

I will. I also know foot issues are as uncommon in the people I know as general shoes off is for others. So this isn’t an issue.

That is not OP’s situation. She is having strangers over.

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Anonymous wrote:If I know I’m going to be at someone’s house for a while, I bring my indoor-only slippers. I get to be comfy and also respectful of their home!

I would never presume that it’s okay to leave my shoes on. I like things clean myself and it’s hard to imagine how often you’d have to clean floors if you were tracking in all the yuck from outside every day.

But it's not every day. It's one party.

No one is saying not to be shoes free most days. They are just saying that if you're hosting a large party, then loosen up the rules and clean up after.

No. Many people are saying they have rare foot problems and have medical grade shoes prescribed by a doctor that never come off their feet. That’s what’s uncommon. Not shoes off.

Plantar fasciitis, arthritis of the foot, and peripheral neuropathy are three common disorders that can make it hard or painful for people to walk without shoes.

Shoes off at an adult dinner party is uncommon enough that people don't plan for it, so you need to warn people in advance.

I will. I also know foot issues are as uncommon in the people I know as general shoes off is for others. So this isn’t an issue.

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Anonymous wrote:We are a shoe free home. When I throw adult parities, I never request attendees to take shoes off (unless if it’s raining or snowing outside). After adult parties just vacuum t mop the floors. I enjoy taking my shoes off at friends homes when on regular visits.

I went to a fancy catered Christmas party last year. I wore tights and heels. Big mistake! I had to take off my shoes. I was slipping all night in tights and there were drink spills I stepped in on the floor.

Kid parties? Oh man every kid is taking their nasty shoes off at my door.

Do people need to be told to do this? I am not a shoe-free house and I vacuum my rugs every night and mop/ swimmer wet jet a few times a week. I definitely mop and vacuum after every party. Do people who are this strict about not having shoes use that an an excuse to not clean their homes?!

Anonymous wrote:We are a shoe free home. When I throw adult parities, I never request attendees to take shoes off (unless if it’s raining or snowing outside). After adult parties just vacuum t mop the floors. I enjoy taking my shoes off at friends homes when on regular visits.

I went to a fancy catered Christmas party last year. I wore tights and heels. Big mistake! I had to take off my shoes. I was slipping all night in tights and there were drink spills I stepped in on the floor.

Kid parties? Oh man every kid is taking their nasty shoes off at my door.

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Anonymous wrote:Host it at a party room. It doesn’t have to be your house.

+1 people who require guests to take their shoes off should have their parties in places other than their homes…. or just invite people from the same cultural background to their home where taking shoes off is typically done.

I don’t want to go to someone’s house with a formal cocktail dress and be barefoot.

And I don’t want to walk around in my dress while wearing random slippers that have been used by other people.

Do people a favor and not have them over to your house in the first place. It’s really not necessary.

I agree. We are strictly a no shoes house and I have absolutely no problem asking people to take their shoes off when they come in. I also don’t host large gatherings because as can be seen from the thread some people are uncomfortable about taking shoes off. But I don’t knew why these people are so offended by taking their shoes off. It’s not as if we are asking them to take off their clothes or a head covering!

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Anonymous wrote:I have spent my life in this area. We have a large circle of family and friends and professional acquaintances. We are both professionals with large well established firms. Our kids attend top private schools in the area.new belong to a country club. We are in our 50’s. I’ve only been to one event in all my years and all my socializing where shoes were requested off and it was awkward and weird. It was a dressy holiday party and the women in cocktail dresses and flat feet looked strange and uncomfortable and the men in suits with socks looked stupid. We still laugh about this event years later (the hosts were from another country - not Asian- and a little uptight ). It is not common in this area at all.

You mean the country club set all did things the exact same way and from there you decide ALL people in the area act like them? Yikes. Is your country club free and open to the public?

OP's school isn't free and open to the public either.