Anonymous wrote:I'm willing to bet there's history between the men that had simmered in a longstanding fashion. It boiled over when Dave had the temerity to insult the DH's child on a public SM forum. You really do have to ask yourself what kind of grown man takes glee in body-shaming a teen girl. On its face it seems tone-deaf and innocuous; it's actually a casual form of cruelty that's fairly stunning in its banal evil. If that seems like an overreaction, consider the association between online bullying and suicidal gestures/completed suicides that research is now highlighting. It wasn't something to walk away from.

I do agree with pp's that Dave's wife is also now an unwitting victim in all of this, with her now-public humiliation and potentially imploded marriage.

Interesting, and sad, how women are the victim's of both men's reckless behavior.

They both suck.

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Anonymous wrote:"his vicious temper"
Omg lol. Outing a cheater is now a vicious temper. Anything to deflect blame off the cheater himself!! Amazing!

Cheaters are wild.

And here’s the thing about cheaters their mind is so effing demented. They actually don’t see how messed up they are

And yet the DH was friends with him for years and years. He was obviously ok with it.

Nice try cheater.

Many of us know cheaters we can’t just push them all out of our lives. Neighbors, friends, husbands, friends, wives, brother-in-law’s.., We can’t dump every single solitary cheater out there

So you choose to be complicit in their behavior because you need them in your life. But somehow have the never to come here and call everyone who disagrees with you a cheater. Why can’t you push cheaters out? Is it because you are ok with their behavior?

Because some of them are related to me. Because some of them are having mental health breakdowns, and I’m trying to help them through it. Because I’m a compassionate person. I’m friends with addicts too. I’m friends with with somebody who has been in jail.

Your friends with people that commit crimes you just don’t know it. They’re probably probably white collar crimes.

Then what are you even blabbering about? How can you possibly be ok with his wife and kids being the collateral in all of this. You are contradicting yourself big time.

Dave through a grenade and I got thrown back at him. It’s his fault and his fault only.

It’s like when my friend used me as an alibi for her affair and I told her has been the truth. I have Compassion for what she was going through, but I’m also not gonna lie for her.

No, Dave threw a water balloon and DH responded with a grenade. His response went too far. I'm not saying you just ignore the comment but driving to Dave's house and punching him in the face would have been more appropriate than what DH did.

Really, still trying to keep the cheater's secret huh? Gross.

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Anonymous wrote:"his vicious temper"
Omg lol. Outing a cheater is now a vicious temper. Anything to deflect blame off the cheater himself!! Amazing!

Cheaters are wild.

And here’s the thing about cheaters their mind is so effing demented. They actually don’t see how messed up they are

And yet the DH was friends with him for years and years. He was obviously ok with it.

Nice try cheater.

Many of us know cheaters we can’t just push them all out of our lives. Neighbors, friends, husbands, friends, wives, brother-in-law’s.., We can’t dump every single solitary cheater out there

So you choose to be complicit in their behavior because you need them in your life. But somehow have the never to come here and call everyone who disagrees with you a cheater. Why can’t you push cheaters out? Is it because you are ok with their behavior?

Because some of them are related to me. Because some of them are having mental health breakdowns, and I’m trying to help them through it. Because I’m a compassionate person. I’m friends with addicts too. I’m friends with with somebody who has been in jail.

Your friends with people that commit crimes you just don’t know it. They’re probably probably white collar crimes.

Then what are you even blabbering about? How can you possibly be ok with his wife and kids being the collateral in all of this. You are contradicting yourself big time.

Dave through a grenade and I got thrown back at him. It’s his fault and his fault only.

It’s like when my friend used me as an alibi for her affair and I told her has been the truth. I have Compassion for what she was going through, but I’m also not gonna lie for her.

No, Dave threw a water balloon and DH responded with a grenade. His response went too far. I'm not saying you just ignore the comment but driving to Dave's house and punching him in the face would have been more appropriate than what DH did.

Anonymous wrote:As the kids say, he effed around and found out. I bet Dave is sorry he posted.

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Anonymous wrote:FYI troll.

No wife in that situation would speed dial YOU, of all people.

Do better Trolls.

This makes more sense as to why wife was calling OP. I literally can't think of another reason that she'd think OP is "sabotaging" her marriage just simply for existing. Thanks for finally giving a legit explanation, not sure why that was so hard for pps.

My gosh this site is full of such annoying people.

She’s be speed dialing lawyers, local besties and taking the kids to a resort to hunker down, or her parents house.

Not some woman far away whose husband posted something. Call the damn discloser if that’s really your priority, not getting some space from your std cheating spouse.

For all you know, she already knew. But she didn't prefer her private life aired for all to see. Maybe they've already had counseling and worked thru it. Now to bring it all up again is pretty low from some so-called friends.

It was already public.

How so?

If anyone other than crazy Dave and his whore knows it’s public

That's not what public means.

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Anonymous wrote:"his vicious temper"
Omg lol. Outing a cheater is now a vicious temper. Anything to deflect blame off the cheater himself!! Amazing!

Cheaters are wild.

And here’s the thing about cheaters their mind is so effing demented. They actually don’t see how messed up they are

And yet the DH was friends with him for years and years. He was obviously ok with it.

Nice try cheater.

Many of us know cheaters we can’t just push them all out of our lives. Neighbors, friends, husbands, friends, wives, brother-in-law’s.., We can’t dump every single solitary cheater out there

So you choose to be complicit in their behavior because you need them in your life. But somehow have the never to come here and call everyone who disagrees with you a cheater. Why can’t you push cheaters out? Is it because you are ok with their behavior?

Because some of them are related to me. Because some of them are having mental health breakdowns, and I’m trying to help them through it. Because I’m a compassionate person. I’m friends with addicts too. I’m friends with with somebody who has been in jail.

Your friends with people that commit crimes you just don’t know it. They’re probably probably white collar crimes.

Then what are you even blabbering about? How can you possibly be ok with his wife and kids being the collateral in all of this. You are contradicting yourself big time.

Dave through a grenade and I got thrown back at him. It’s his fault and his fault only.

It’s like when my friend used me as an alibi for her affair and I told her has been the truth. I have Compassion for what she was going through, but I’m also not gonna lie for her.

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Anonymous wrote:FYI troll.

No wife in that situation would speed dial YOU, of all people.

Do better Trolls.

This makes more sense as to why wife was calling OP. I literally can't think of another reason that she'd think OP is "sabotaging" her marriage just simply for existing. Thanks for finally giving a legit explanation, not sure why that was so hard for pps.

My gosh this site is full of such annoying people.

She’s be speed dialing lawyers, local besties and taking the kids to a resort to hunker down, or her parents house.

Not some woman far away whose husband posted something. Call the damn discloser if that’s really your priority, not getting some space from your std cheating spouse.

For all you know, she already knew. But she didn't prefer her private life aired for all to see. Maybe they've already had counseling and worked thru it. Now to bring it all up again is pretty low from some so-called friends.

It was already public.

How so?

If anyone other than crazy Dave and his whore knows it’s public

That's not what public means.

Yes it is.

It's not, but carry on.

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Anonymous wrote:FYI troll.

No wife in that situation would speed dial YOU, of all people.

Do better Trolls.

This makes more sense as to why wife was calling OP. I literally can't think of another reason that she'd think OP is "sabotaging" her marriage just simply for existing. Thanks for finally giving a legit explanation, not sure why that was so hard for pps.

My gosh this site is full of such annoying people.

She’s be speed dialing lawyers, local besties and taking the kids to a resort to hunker down, or her parents house.

Not some woman far away whose husband posted something. Call the damn discloser if that’s really your priority, not getting some space from your std cheating spouse.

For all you know, she already knew. But she didn't prefer her private life aired for all to see. Maybe they've already had counseling and worked thru it. Now to bring it all up again is pretty low from some so-called friends.

It was already public.

How so?

If anyone other than crazy Dave and his whore knows it’s public

That's not what public means.

Yes it is.

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

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The point is that now EVERYONE knows about Dave's cheating. It's not like the message was sent only to his wife. It was posted on a Facebook post. That is so gross. OP should be mortified by her husband.

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Anonymous wrote:FYI troll.

No wife in that situation would speed dial YOU, of all people.

Do better Trolls.

This makes more sense as to why wife was calling OP. I literally can't think of another reason that she'd think OP is "sabotaging" her marriage just simply for existing. Thanks for finally giving a legit explanation, not sure why that was so hard for pps.

My gosh this site is full of such annoying people.

She’s be speed dialing lawyers, local besties and taking the kids to a resort to hunker down, or her parents house.

Not some woman far away whose husband posted something. Call the damn discloser if that’s really your priority, not getting some space from your std cheating spouse.

For all you know, she already knew. But she didn't prefer her private life aired for all to see. Maybe they've already had counseling and worked thru it. Now to bring it all up again is pretty low from some so-called friends.

It was already public.

How so?

If anyone other than crazy Dave and his whore knows it’s public

That's not what public means.