Anonymous
Post 11/23/2023 21:19     Subject: I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already
To the PP with codependent mother and sister: I had a somewhat similar situation where my mother (of all people) made sure my dad didn’t have any independent contact with me. Like, interrupting any phone convo, monitoring emails, all of that.
She died two years ago and my dad and I have a relationship again.
I am so sorry you are in this situation. There are people like my late mother and your sister , and I think they are just seriously mentally unwell.
This too shall pass.
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2023 21:17     Subject: I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Eight nightmare words: Pumpkin pie made with Splenda instead of sugar.


Fat free pie crust


Finger licking food preparers


Omg. I remember that thread.

Sooooooo gross.
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2023 21:15     Subject: Re:I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Tomorrow, I'm going to Mil's for Thanksgiving. Should I turn her toilet paper roll to go over? Every time she comes over, she flips the toilet rolls in my bathroom so that the paper is under rather than over. I thought maybe I'd flip her toilet paper over from under to over then start her laundry, since she likes to do mine so much. She'll be busy cooking anyway.


Do it!

Under is monstrous.


Plus she’s busy. Def hit the master bathroom.


Make sure to throw all her laundry in together on warm and dry on hot as mine does to me without asking.


What is it about doing other people's laundry when they didn't aak? We were already married adults staying with my husband's parents and went out to have dinner with friends. We came back and MIL had come into the guest room, gathered our laundry, washed and dried it in one big load.


Omg. I would never stay over again.
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2023 21:08     Subject: Re:I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tomorrow, I'm going to Mil's for Thanksgiving. Should I turn her toilet paper roll to go over? Every time she comes over, she flips the toilet rolls in my bathroom so that the paper is under rather than over. I thought maybe I'd flip her toilet paper over from under to over then start her laundry, since she likes to do mine so much. She'll be busy cooking anyway.


Do it!

Under is monstrous.


Plus she’s busy. Def hit the master bathroom.


Make sure to throw all her laundry in together on warm and dry on hot as mine does to me without asking.


What is it about doing other people's laundry when they didn't aak? We were already married adults staying with my husband's parents and went out to have dinner with friends. We came back and MIL had come into the guest room, gathered our laundry, washed and dried it in one big load.


I must make a confession here that I once did laudry at my relatives’ house to help them out.
I didn’t know at the time it was a crime.
I am not sure I should bring it up and apologize?
I haven’t done it in many many years
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2023 20:55     Subject: I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already
Anonymous wrote:My mother, sister, niece and nephew were scheduled to come and spend the night on Thursday with us. The kids are my kids only cousins and we never see them because my sister never makes them available. My mother also lives 1 mile from my sister and is totally enmeshed in their lives (picks the kids up from school regularly, babysits them, does all sorts of activities with them, etc..they see each other daily). Also my mother owns the house my sister lives in (just some background info).

My mother calls last night (Wednesday) and said she’s sorry but they won’t be making it because my sister thinks it’s too much for her kids to deal with having their cousins and sharing the attention of my mother. Her kids at 10 and 8, I have teens. My mother said it wouldn’t work for them after all and to have a Happy Thanksgiving. I asked my mother if she would come then by herself and she said no, she couldn’t leave my sister alone on Thanksgiving.

I hung up and cried.

You need to ask what you get out of having these people in your life.
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2023 20:28     Subject: I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already
Anonymous wrote:Eight nightmare words: Pumpkin pie made with Splenda instead of sugar.

Adding to this that the whipped cream also contained Splenda.
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2023 18:49     Subject: I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already
Anonymous wrote:My parents, who live locally, have a habit of being totally unhelpful for holidays. I have three young kids and always host them. They got back late last night from a three week vacation in Asia and said they're too tired to help today so they'll be over when it's time to eat. Leaving DH and I to cook a full thanksgiving meal for seven while taking care of three kids under four.

Well, I just realized my mom borrowed my roasting pan months ago and never returned it. So they now have to come over when we start cooking the turkey, four hours before dinner 😈


Very similar situation here, 3 kids under 6 and we’ve hosted the past 3 years (since my ILs moved to the area). They also just got back from vacation and didn’t offer to bring a thing.

TBH I don’t mind cooking and hosting as I do a pretty casual spread and like having the leftovers but I do think it’s kind of rude that we are the go to hosts for holidays and never get even a half hearted offer to help.
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2023 13:40     Subject: I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already
My parents, who live locally, have a habit of being totally unhelpful for holidays. I have three young kids and always host them. They got back late last night from a three week vacation in Asia and said they're too tired to help today so they'll be over when it's time to eat. Leaving DH and I to cook a full thanksgiving meal for seven while taking care of three kids under four.

Well, I just realized my mom borrowed my roasting pan months ago and never returned it. So they now have to come over when we start cooking the turkey, four hours before dinner 😈
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2023 11:58     Subject: I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already
Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty sure my family is pissed at me. We drove 7 hours and then left before seeing anyone because we found out one person has Covid and the others visited her while sick, unmasked. I like to think I’m not crazy Covid cautious but staying for days felt a bit risky too.

You did the right thing.
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2023 11:58     Subject: I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already
Anonymous wrote:My mother, sister, niece and nephew were scheduled to come and spend the night on Thursday with us. The kids are my kids only cousins and we never see them because my sister never makes them available. My mother also lives 1 mile from my sister and is totally enmeshed in their lives (picks the kids up from school regularly, babysits them, does all sorts of activities with them, etc..they see each other daily). Also my mother owns the house my sister lives in (just some background info).

My mother calls last night (Wednesday) and said she’s sorry but they won’t be making it because my sister thinks it’s too much for her kids to deal with having their cousins and sharing the attention of my mother. Her kids at 10 and 8, I have teens. My mother said it wouldn’t work for them after all and to have a Happy Thanksgiving. I asked my mother if she would come then by herself and she said no, she couldn’t leave my sister alone on Thanksgiving.

I hung up and cried.


WTF??? Horrible, narcissistic a-holes. I am SO sorry. This is not a petty vent. This is a legitimate horrifying vent.
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2023 11:57     Subject: I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Eight nightmare words: Pumpkin pie made with Splenda instead of sugar.


Fat free pie crust


Ewwwww!!!
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2023 11:54     Subject: I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My mother, sister, niece and nephew were scheduled to come and spend the night on Thursday with us. The kids are my kids only cousins and we never see them because my sister never makes them available. My mother also lives 1 mile from my sister and is totally enmeshed in their lives (picks the kids up from school regularly, babysits them, does all sorts of activities with them, etc..they see each other daily). Also my mother owns the house my sister lives in (just some background info).

My mother calls last night (Wednesday) and said she’s sorry but they won’t be making it because my sister thinks it’s too much for her kids to deal with having their cousins and sharing the attention of my mother. Her kids at 10 and 8, I have teens. My mother said it wouldn’t work for them after all and to have a Happy Thanksgiving. I asked my mother if she would come then by herself and she said no, she couldn’t leave my sister alone on Thanksgiving.

I hung up and cried.

That's not petty, that's heartbreaking.
Is your sister the golden child?


I am so sorry to hear this. It is most heartbreaking for our kids in these situations. It is that glimmer of hope our elderly parents will change that emerges on the holidays. Your mother is egregiously bad. It is not you. Hopefully you find some Happy Thanksgiving.
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2023 11:54     Subject: I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already
I’m pretty sure my family is pissed at me. We drove 7 hours and then left before seeing anyone because we found out one person has Covid and the others visited her while sick, unmasked. I like to think I’m not crazy Covid cautious but staying for days felt a bit risky too.
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2023 11:46     Subject: Re:I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already
Just my nuclear family at my parents’ beach house (my parents are in New England visiting my sister (who I don’t speak to) for the 5th time this year). My husband actually gets out of bed before me for the 5th time this year. I’m in bed. Looking forward to the fresh brewed coffee he has on, and he actually being the one to take his dog out. I head upstairs humming……to find him doing a jigsaw puzzle. Crying dog. No coffee.
Anonymous
Post 11/23/2023 11:13     Subject: I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already
Anonymous wrote:My mother, sister, niece and nephew were scheduled to come and spend the night on Thursday with us. The kids are my kids only cousins and we never see them because my sister never makes them available. My mother also lives 1 mile from my sister and is totally enmeshed in their lives (picks the kids up from school regularly, babysits them, does all sorts of activities with them, etc..they see each other daily). Also my mother owns the house my sister lives in (just some background info).

My mother calls last night (Wednesday) and said she’s sorry but they won’t be making it because my sister thinks it’s too much for her kids to deal with having their cousins and sharing the attention of my mother. Her kids at 10 and 8, I have teens. My mother said it wouldn’t work for them after all and to have a Happy Thanksgiving. I asked my mother if she would come then by herself and she said no, she couldn’t leave my sister alone on Thanksgiving.

I hung up and cried.

That's not petty, that's heartbreaking.
Is your sister the golden child?