Anonymous wrote:As others have pointed out, a big part of the problem is that every kid's allergy situation is different. For OP's kid, it's fine just to keep the bambas off the playground, but another kid might be put in danger by a kid who just ate a peanut butter sandwich on the park bench. Or even at home for breakfast before getting to the playground. Many kids are fine with exposure as long as they themselves don't eat the nut product. And of course, there are many allergies out there besides nuts.

Trying to anticipate the needs of every hypothetical allergic kid who might be on the playground on a given day is not going to work. That said, if I knew a specific child in my neighborhood had a specific allergy I would be happy to do what I could to keep that child safe, and I would always be happy to put a food product away if asked by a parent.

Anonymous wrote:OP. You have to learn to be ruthless. As you can see, these people don’t care about your kid. They don’t care or she lives or dies. They only care about their child and their comfort.

So what do I do? Grab the snack and throw it out. I don’t care if I make an enemy out of every parent and nanny in the park. You will have to learn to aggressively put your child first because everyone around them won’t ever.

Let them be angry. My child’s right to life is more important than your kids snack.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. I have one child with anaphylactic allergies to peanuts and pistachios, and another without. We are always mindful to eat cleanly in public spaces so as not to pose a threat to others, or my own son.

It’s the plane that’s terrifying. Even with two Epipens. People eating nuts and no way for the plan to land in time.

Anaphylactic reactions to airborne peanut dust are non-existent. These reactions are rare and mild. (Seafood and wheat can be a different story.)

Hopefully this will at least help you feel less stressed on the plane.

Oh man - I had a lady eat a whole basket of shrimp in the window seat when I was on the aisle seat. I almost barfed.
Seafood is not acceptable for closed spaces with no opportunity to leave/ventilate.

LOL so now we are basically at no one should eat anything in public b/c it might sicken someone. and allergy folks wonder why they don't get sympathy!

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. I have one child with anaphylactic allergies to peanuts and pistachios, and another without. We are always mindful to eat cleanly in public spaces so as not to pose a threat to others, or my own son.

It’s the plane that’s terrifying. Even with two Epipens. People eating nuts and no way for the plan to land in time.

Anaphylactic reactions to airborne peanut dust are non-existent. These reactions are rare and mild. (Seafood and wheat can be a different story.)

Hopefully this will at least help you feel less stressed on the plane.

Oh man - I had a lady eat a whole basket of shrimp in the window seat when I was on the aisle seat. I almost barfed.
Seafood is not acceptable for closed spaces with no opportunity to leave/ventilate.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait until your child gets to elementary school, high school, college and the work world. Are you going to tell your child’s roommates they can’t eat almonds?

Actually yes. We only will be able to send her to peanut free schools. In college she will have to request a peanut free roommate unless she grows out of it. And we’re working on it.

These don’t exist. Maybe preschools.

Good luck.

Yes, they do?!

My DD's public elementary school was 100% peanut free due to kids with severe allergies. We received numerous notices prior to the start of every school year to remind us/inform new parents. They sent lists of alternative nut butters that were approved instead. There was even an open house event that had samples of different nut butters so kids could try alternatives.

My kids school is supposed to be nut free and there are kids there every day with nuts in their lunchboxes!!! My own kid will only eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwich so we just tell him it’s sunflower seed butter and not to share it with other kids! The nut free allergy kids I know are smart and don’t eat anything from other kids.

I also have a kid who will only eat peanut butter sandwiches for lunch. We tried various meats and other good sources of protein, but for a kid with severe feeding issues that require OT, everything else is just too damn difficult for my kid to eat in the very very short lunch period. Nut allergy parents assume every kid can just eat something else and be fine and that only their kids have special snowflake problems. I really wish I had more empathy for nut allergy parents, but I have been dealing with my kid's neurological and feeding issues for too long and I am f'ing exhausted! Nut allergy kids are not my problem. I have enough problems.

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This is obviously a troll post, but the idea that everyone must care about other people's children as much as they care about their own is so stupid. There is absolutely nothing selfish about a parent working themselves to exhaustion to meet their own child's needs and not having anything left over to accommodate some **hypothetical** stranger's child's needs. Do you go around whispering and never whistling because there exist children with sensory issues who react badly to certain loud noises? Do you forego deodorant and perfume because there exist children with sensitivity to fragrances? If not, you too are a selfish pig.

+1 what about my nephew who is autistic and can’t come to the playground because of the loud noise screaming kids make? Should we expect all kids at the playground to speak quietly and never scream? Why are parents so selfish and can’t teach their kids not to scream at the playground?

OP, my kids don’t eat nuts or similar products. They actually never eat at the playground unless there is a birthday party. I would be 100% happy to do whatever your child need if you ask me, but I don’t have the mental space to start considering the various needs of all the different kids/people out there when I have my own 3 kids’ needs, my job, my family to think about. Where do you people find the time to start considering all the possible people’s needs out there?

Screaming won’t make your son DIE. Stupid false equivalence.

*nephew

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Anonymous wrote:I agree. I have one child with anaphylactic allergies to peanuts and pistachios, and another without. We are always mindful to eat cleanly in public spaces so as not to pose a threat to others, or my own son.

It’s the plane that’s terrifying. Even with two Epipens. People eating nuts and no way for the plan to land in time.

Anaphylactic reactions to airborne peanut dust are non-existent. These reactions are rare and mild. (Seafood and wheat can be a different story.)

Hopefully this will at least help you feel less stressed on the plane.

Anonymous wrote:I agree. I have one child with anaphylactic allergies to peanuts and pistachios, and another without. We are always mindful to eat cleanly in public spaces so as not to pose a threat to others, or my own son.

It’s the plane that’s terrifying. Even with two Epipens. People eating nuts and no way for the plan to land in time.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait until your child gets to elementary school, high school, college and the work world. Are you going to tell your child’s roommates they can’t eat almonds?

Actually yes. We only will be able to send her to peanut free schools. In college she will have to request a peanut free roommate unless she grows out of it. And we’re working on it.

These don’t exist. Maybe preschools.

Good luck.

Yes, they do?!

My DD's public elementary school was 100% peanut free due to kids with severe allergies. We received numerous notices prior to the start of every school year to remind us/inform new parents. They sent lists of alternative nut butters that were approved instead. There was even an open house event that had samples of different nut butters so kids could try alternatives.

My kids school is supposed to be nut free and there are kids there every day with nuts in their lunchboxes!!! My own kid will only eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwich so we just tell him it’s sunflower seed butter and not to share it with other kids! The nut free allergy kids I know are smart and don’t eat anything from other kids.

I also have a kid who will only eat peanut butter sandwiches for lunch. We tried various meats and other good sources of protein, but for a kid with severe feeding issues that require OT, everything else is just too damn difficult for my kid to eat in the very very short lunch period. Nut allergy parents assume every kid can just eat something else and be fine and that only their kids have special snowflake problems. I really wish I had more empathy for nut allergy parents, but I have been dealing with my kid's neurological and feeding issues for too long and I am f'ing exhausted! Nut allergy kids are not my problem. I have enough problems.

Selfish pig

This is obviously a troll post, but the idea that everyone must care about other people's children as much as they care about their own is so stupid. There is absolutely nothing selfish about a parent working themselves to exhaustion to meet their own child's needs and not having anything left over to accommodate some **hypothetical** stranger's child's needs. Do you go around whispering and never whistling because there exist children with sensory issues who react badly to certain loud noises? Do you forego deodorant and perfume because there exist children with sensitivity to fragrances? If not, you too are a selfish pig.

+1 what about my nephew who is autistic and can’t come to the playground because of the loud noise screaming kids make? Should we expect all kids at the playground to speak quietly and never scream? Why are parents so selfish and can’t teach their kids not to scream at the playground?

OP, my kids don’t eat nuts or similar products. They actually never eat at the playground unless there is a birthday party. I would be 100% happy to do whatever your child need if you ask me, but I don’t have the mental space to start considering the various needs of all the different kids/people out there when I have my own 3 kids’ needs, my job, my family to think about. Where do you people find the time to start considering all the possible people’s needs out there?

I am a parent of a high functioning autistic son who doesn't/can't/won't eat a huge variety of foods and least of all protein, except -- drumroll -- nuts. The number one reason why I do not care about "allergy moms" and their obnoxious "allergy mom" subculture of shaming everyone is that "allergy moms" do not care about me or my son or any other child outside the "allergy mom" bubble. Their kids are fully capable of learning the behaviors necessary to keep themselves alive. Many autistic kids cannot learn to eat other foods to keep themselves alive because their brains don't work right. That's why many of them on the high-functioning end are underweight.

Also the poster on the early pages who pointed out that nut allergies is a "rich kid" disease is 100% correct. If you keep your home overly clean and sanitized when your baby is young (because you are rich and have a maid, for instance) then your child won't get enough exposure to pathogens and allergens, and then they'll be at a much much higher risk of developing allergies later. Good going allergy mom, you created the problem yourself.