Anonymous
02/25/2023 19:55
Subject: Re:What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.
You sound fun.
“Why breast milk is best”
Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby
"Fed is best" = Formula feeding. This is a better option than the child being neglected, abused or starved. It is not ideal, but sometimes the baby is in an unfortunate situation and the mother is unavailable to be a mother.
If the choice is between formula and breast milk, then for a normal healthy infant, in a functional healthy household, in a functional family, with a functional healthy mother - breast milk is best.
Oh no, you're missing the point entirely and you are the reason people feel the need to even say "fed is best."
My family is functional and healthy. I am functional and healthy. My baby was normal and healthy. But breastfeeding was a terrible experience. Because I was led to believe that, all else being what it was, I SHOULD have been able to nurse, I felt like a failure that it just wasn't working. Everything was fine, my baby just couldn't latch easily, I was in terrible pain, my supply was awful and none of the tips and tricks were working. Healthy mom, check. Healthy baby, check. Supportive family, check. It was emotionally harmful for me to hear "breast is best," when people told me to stick with it (stick with the screaming baby who can't be soothed by nursing combined with the pain? wtf?). If someone had told me "fed is best" back then, I wouldn't still be irritated by people like you 11 years later!
You are missing some major factors that go in to nurturing a baby. Thank God I started exclusively formula feeding by 9 weeks.
Or maybe you're being glib? But it's time for the pendulum to swing back to the middle. Fed is best. That's all.
Amen.
Anonymous
02/23/2023 22:00
Subject: Re:What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.
You sound fun.
“Why breast milk is best”
Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby
"Fed is best" = Formula feeding. This is a better option than the child being neglected, abused or starved. It is not ideal, but sometimes the baby is in an unfortunate situation and the mother is unavailable to be a mother.
If the choice is between formula and breast milk, then for a normal healthy infant, in a functional healthy household, in a functional family, with a functional healthy mother - breast milk is best.
Oh no, you're missing the point entirely and you are the reason people feel the need to even say "fed is best."
My family is functional and healthy. I am functional and healthy. My baby was normal and healthy. But breastfeeding was a terrible experience. Because I was led to believe that, all else being what it was, I SHOULD have been able to nurse, I felt like a failure that it just wasn't working. Everything was fine, my baby just couldn't latch easily, I was in terrible pain, my supply was awful and none of the tips and tricks were working. Healthy mom, check. Healthy baby, check. Supportive family, check. It was emotionally harmful for me to hear "breast is best," when people told me to stick with it (stick with the screaming baby who can't be soothed by nursing combined with the pain? wtf?). If someone had told me "fed is best" back then, I wouldn't still be irritated by people like you 11 years later!
You are missing some major factors that go in to nurturing a baby. Thank God I started exclusively formula feeding by 9 weeks.
Or maybe you're being glib? But it's time for the pendulum to swing back to the middle. Fed is best. That's all.
Absolutely. +1000
Anonymous
02/23/2023 21:53
Subject: What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?
why gastric bypass surgery is the best option for anyone 100 lbs overweight
Anonymous
02/23/2023 21:47
Subject: Re:What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.
You sound fun.
“Why breast milk is best”
Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby
"Fed is best" = Formula feeding. This is a better option than the child being neglected, abused or starved. It is not ideal, but sometimes the baby is in an unfortunate situation and the mother is unavailable to be a mother.
If the choice is between formula and breast milk, then for a normal healthy infant, in a functional healthy household, in a functional family, with a functional healthy mother - breast milk is best.
Oh no, you're missing the point entirely and you are the reason people feel the need to even say "fed is best."
My family is functional and healthy. I am functional and healthy. My baby was normal and healthy. But breastfeeding was a terrible experience. Because I was led to believe that, all else being what it was, I SHOULD have been able to nurse, I felt like a failure that it just wasn't working. Everything was fine, my baby just couldn't latch easily, I was in terrible pain, my supply was awful and none of the tips and tricks were working. Healthy mom, check. Healthy baby, check. Supportive family, check. It was emotionally harmful for me to hear "breast is best," when people told me to stick with it (stick with the screaming baby who can't be soothed by nursing combined with the pain? wtf?). If someone had told me "fed is best" back then, I wouldn't still be irritated by people like you 11 years later!
You are missing some major factors that go in to nurturing a baby. Thank God I started exclusively formula feeding by 9 weeks.
Or maybe you're being glib? But it's time for the pendulum to swing back to the middle. Fed is best. That's all.
Anonymous
02/23/2023 20:35
Subject: Re:What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.
You sound fun.
“Why breast milk is best”
Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby
"Fed is best" = Formula feeding. This is a better option than the child being neglected, abused or starved. It is not ideal, but sometimes the baby is in an unfortunate situation and the mother is unavailable to be a mother.
If the choice is between formula and breast milk, then for a normal healthy infant, in a functional healthy household, in a functional family, with a functional healthy mother - breast milk is best.
Anonymous
02/22/2023 14:31
Subject: What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?
Anonymous wrote:Why DH or I don’t wear our wedding rings on a daily basis.
Did anyone actually asked you? I've been married for 25 years and we never wear ours and no one ever asked me this question.
Anonymous
02/22/2023 14:08
Subject: What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?
Anonymous wrote:Efrica is NOT a country and it’s pronounced A-frica!!!
A-frica is not a country either. I'm sure people are tired of explaining that to you as well.
Anonymous
02/22/2023 13:52
Subject: What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?
Efrica is NOT a country and it’s pronounced A-frica!!!
Anonymous
02/22/2023 13:46
Subject: Re:What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:why my kids can't read menus in restaurants, have to stand so close to the TV, etc.
they all have a degenerative eye condition where they're losing their central vision. It sucks. And no one can see that they're actually disabled.
I feel you so much on this, even though I’m an adult. I may have the same genetic condition as your kids. I’m so sorry for them.
It is frustrating to explain to people that I can’t just treat my vision loss with glasses or Lasik. It is literally not correctable or treatable. I know people don’t understand, but it gets really old.
I just want to share my positive thoughts to this poster. Having to explain something like this to judgmental or nosey or people seems like an additional and totally unnecessary indignity for all of you.
Anonymous
02/22/2023 13:38
Subject: What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?
I am such and tired of having to explain dogs do not belong in swimming pools.
Anonymous
02/22/2023 13:34
Subject: What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:That not ALL people born in the deep south are racist and stupid.
I was born and raised in one of those states. I'm frequently in the position of being told an offensive joke, or my new favorite "I would never let my kid go to 'x' college" because of it's location. When this occurs, I like to remind them that no population is 100% homogeneous, that I'm from the place they are denigrating, and up until 5 seconds ago, they had a very high opinion of me.
Not ALL, but lots........and lots.
I'm from a southern state and saw relatively little racism. What I experienced once I moved to nova was shocking.
I also wanted to add I grew up in neighborhoods that were diverse. We shared churches, schools, etc. Every neighborhood I've lived in in nova has had little to no diversity.
Anonymous
02/22/2023 13:33
Subject: What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:That not ALL people born in the deep south are racist and stupid.
I was born and raised in one of those states. I'm frequently in the position of being told an offensive joke, or my new favorite "I would never let my kid go to 'x' college" because of it's location. When this occurs, I like to remind them that no population is 100% homogeneous, that I'm from the place they are denigrating, and up until 5 seconds ago, they had a very high opinion of me.
Not ALL, but lots........and lots.
I'm from a southern state and saw relatively little racism. What I experienced once I moved to nova was shocking.
Anonymous
02/22/2023 07:11
Subject: What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No, twins do not run in my family. If you want to know if we used IVF, just ask already.
I don't know why this question would be offensive! It is just idle chit chat and I do not care if you used IVF! Twins can run in families. I am getting to the point of not asking any questions.
That would be appreciated. Thank you.
Anonymous
02/22/2023 07:07
Subject: Re:What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?
That random college or private school rankings are just total BS!
Anonymous
02/22/2023 00:43
Subject: What's something that you get really sick and tired of having to explain to people?
Why DH or I don’t wear our wedding rings on a daily basis.